Lauryn Hill is trully something....i love her music..... thanks Somealien...i was rapping and singing while i read the words...u shouldv'e seen me raisin my hands up to the atmosphere

Raxmah....I do enjoy awimming..you know i use to be on the swim team in my high school in Chicago...but i can't do it anymore..unless i have the pool to myself...i'm so shy, and especially since i've gained weight....**shreiks in horror at the thought** Girl, I heard after the age of 25, you gain 5 pounds for every year. ALLA, girl you trying to give me a heart attack as such a young age?!?! How much I hate any form of excercise Your preachin to the choir hon'... but i will TRY and give it a shot when this semester ends....i think im gonna sign up for an aerobics course....

I'm glad you had a wonderful time with your friends......if i was there i would have done the same for another muslim sister.....

I just got through reading this......it's interesting how this might go about...but i'm not sure how the polcies are with europeans(UK,Spain, etc)..but i know here in the U.S their policy is to not negotiate with terrorists....its their way or now way.....i bet you that they will definitely think about it...but as he said..the europeans are just doing this to appease the white house....and compromising with Osama, just seems out of the questions...but who knows......i was shocked and proud of Spain when right after the bombings in Madrid, they elected a whole dfferent government, and said that they would back out of the war... I'll see how this unfolds p.s. couldn't that just be one of his million brothers up there....

Working out?.....just some of the words in the english language that i hate once they are put together.... I remember the good old days when i just ate and ate like there was no tomorrow....and i didnt even have to worry about my weight b/c it never effected me...... oh well those adolescents days are over i guess.....i can't even have a whole cheesecake, or a whole medium pizza without having to worry about what it will do to my hips!.... I hate working out.....i dont like the treadmill b/c i find it so boring....i get off in ten minutes..i dont like the bike cause im not going anywhere....i cant lift weights...i hate doing sit-ups....i stop after ten.....the only thing i enjoy,and that doesn't really bore me is walking around..I can do that for hours...i use to do it a lot in Chicago...but i can't do it here b/c there are hardly any sidewalks....and the parks have all these thug wannabes...i feel uncomfortable when im there..... I think i need a workout buddy...maybe someone that willpush me...b/c my weight is botherin me now....i gained weight ever since i started college...i hate the person who told me about Freshman 15<---where u gain 15 lbs your freshman yr.....if i'dhave gained that much..i dont think id be complain that much..

the hijab, for some people is the first learning tool towards islam and others its their last/final one." I agree

Garab u brought up a good point abt the #3 women having class and modesty.... I'm still not sure whether i land in category 3 though Baashi....one big difference of me from #1&2 is that I dont wear the hijab...(god willing, i find myself there....insha'allah)... But one other difference from #3 is...mywardrobe doesn consist of clothes that reveal my body,and so forth... i just think that there must be something in btw 2 and 3....cause thats a big jump..... p.s or you know what better yet..maybe #2 should include women who dress modestly..but dont wear the hijab...the opposite of the hijab/urban wearing gals

LOL^^^^aww.....we all knew u had a backbone dear...you dont need to speak in somali to show us....but i like that...it was cute

I would like you to tell them why some men like their woman to stay home and do the house work while they go and make money? and why some men like to share the work with their wife? If their wives have some career to go after, they are more than happy to let her go and get her career I dont know why they do that....i do know that they exist...but you already said it yourself.. they’re many different men out their find the accurate one for you and guys they’re all kinds of women and I’m sure we could find the perfect one for us. P.S. WAAD MAHADSANTAHAY

Most of us are stuck in jobs that we don't like to make ends meets....The reason for that is priority I know and we covered this area......were not talking about: 1)a woman whose husband past/divorced/or is a deadbeat..... 2)a woman who has to work alongside her husband to make enough for the family.. --or anything else that falls along these lines My perception was(and thats what i discussed in my previous post) that we were talking of the women who already have husbands that can provide for them w/o her having to work rare to find someone who is doing there dream job YEAH...but life doesn't come with everything you want....( if it did, then we would have no complaints)women aren't always just going after the job just because it's their dream job.... 1.the vacation you men know what im talking about...work can stress you out right...and it just feels great to come home right?...well its like the opposite for women...its fulfillment enough just being away from the house ....{cause we all know we get that...its stressfull being a house wife..and just getting away..havin a project outside the house relieves that} 2.Socialization you guys remember those times during primary and secondary school...where u didn't just go to schoolto learn..but to see your friends?..I know I had that...my mom is an example of this...she loves her job only b/c of the people....women love this too...their job may be a b*t*h...but they cherish those lunch hrs where they get to talk to their co-workers about whatever...something they may not be able to get at home.. 3.their time to shine women posses more than just "the motherly and wifey" talent....we have an eye for fashion...we sure know how to use a screw driver,lol...you get what I mean... -->there are so many other factors for women wanting to have a career.. The career's you have in mind are not instantly achieved, they require a lot of time and a lot of committment. Specializing in any field means you sacrifice, it be the best you have to live and breath that career. This is where the compromising btw the husband and wife comes play....its up to them to see how this sort of scenario works out...i've said that priority wise,family comes first...its a problem if the career interferes with ur personal life....but its important to know that this isn't always a "given" with this sort of situation...there are men more than happy willing to work out something(help around,etc) so that his wife would be able to balance her career and family needs....and this isn'tsurprising considering that she would do the same for him any day.. Help me calculate a timeline to success. Lets same both the man and the woman are 20yrs old and have goals of becoming either Doctors or Lawyers or Engineers etc. Then they should aspire to whatever possible...if and when either one decides to start a family..then both should discuss it...weighin both the pros and cons and come up with a decision that is both rational and suits them both --->there isn't a notepad of notes on what to do,how to do it,and when.....we all have our own answers... 1)How long does it take to develop a career? i'm not sure howlong mines will take..however long it is written for me... 2)While one chases that career goal, I guess the other one has to work to pay the bills, right? if i have to sacrifice so that my husband pursues his career...then i will, ...and if he considers to work a little sumthin out so that i could...well then that would just be dandy 3)Who goes first? who knows...if allah says...we both might be able to....those ppl do exist you know? 4)How long do you wait before you have kids? i dunno who could even answer these questions...i have no idea when i will...hopefully,god willing..i would be able to as soon as possible 5)If you have kids early how do you care for them? just like how every other woman has cared for them.....its not like this sort of thing has never happened....women have done this for ages...and it wont stop just b/c we want more in life... Help me out here? I dont think u need help...like i said everyone has their own answers and sets their own goals....and u seem to have layed out what u want ages ago

LOL^^^^you didnt even bother to answer the most important question :rolleyes:

Haye Qac Qaac...she could tell you the same thing...just because you two dont have the same views...doesn't mean she should be censored....you know..i think the only time you can ever make a rational decision, is when you hear both sides of the story...and if you dont want to, then challenge the argument, but dont make it personal by suggesting that she should just withdraw from expressin herself because..."we know where u stand"...we know where u stand too...so how about you just stop telling us what you think?...itjust wouldnt be fair... anyways...I think underdog your just trying to say that a woman shouldn't put her career first when the option of marriage and children come to play..I agree...OR if she continues to be involved in her career, then she shouldnt neglect he roles as a wife and a mother when doing so..alright i agree with this too... but there is one problems here.....you will never understand a woman....The thing with you men is you guys think that the perfect "feminine" woman should only be motivated by love of husband and children....and that they wil be fullfilled once they accomplish this....its not like that...Bambina pointed this out " Do u guys think it's easy for women to stay at home all the time? Unlike you guys women are locked up in their homes running after kids , cooking and cleaning.If for u its cool to have a nice meal waitin for u when coming back from home ,for the woman it might have been a crazy day.A woman is not only a mum but a lady who needs to prove to herself and not to the world that she's capable of using other skills besides taking care of children and thats why she needs to work." Yes, women want to have a loving husband and care for their children...but we have other wants.....we want to own a business..we want to design clothes...we want to be computer engineers...we want to be a sports athlete..we want to work in the governemt... we want to be doctors/nurses/therapist/geographers....we want to ...make... a ..change...and this is a self-fulfillment being a wonderful mother and wife completes a part of me...but it's not the absolute...and you will never understand that...These women who dont have to have a job but continue to, do it because it makes them happy, it makes them feel better...yes it should be a second priority when it comes to family, but it would make us even happier if we could have a husband that respects this ambition to want to do what makes us happy...and tries to be a part of this ambition by helping us out with the house,and the caring for the kids...."love is expressed in actions and efforts" Why have we allowed feminists to stigmatize homemaking? Women would be more than happy to be homemakers if it received the recognition and appreciation that it deserves We would be even happier if men would accept the fact that self-fulfillment doesn't just get achieved once you are married and have children... you know..a lot of these women who were a part of this new feminist revolution didn't want to do away with men or children...we still want that...( and we can do it right) they just wanted to do away with the ideology that we are complete once we do this.. P.S. you know were talking about both ends of the spectrum here, but a lot of us put aside the woman who is involved in a career, and takes care of her husband and children as well....the double-shift...and these women have existed just as long as feminism has, but we rarely give them credit..these to me are the strongest of them all.. I am a femine woman...who will love her husband, and take good care of her children...and will also do whatever else i can and want to make the world a better place...insha'allah

LOL..Darmen...My friend is a huge fan of 50 cent..and she goes on about how he looks soo fine, and all that...now, im not trying to rat my girl out, but i dont think she would have given him the time of day had he been your average joe...but anyways, you know its not good to say that someone is ugly....but i know neither Jay-Z nor 50 cent are my type.. and i wonder how much money they spent in their wedding. when u have all these ppl dying I agree... and the whole hottie thing, lol.....he's alright

i agree with your analogy, but i think you left out some things in yur observation 3. Minimally dressed body showing Resistors what about something in between number 2 and number 3?... I am neither number two or number one...but im not number three either?... how about those who dress modestly...but dont wear a scarf?...i just couldnt picture that with number three... So if a person drives his car with low gas for a long time, the car will stop, and likewise if we neglect our duties to Allah for a long time, our iimaan will cease to exist. I definitely agree with this...its like this thing i read about lying...it said something like: If you continue to lie...sooner or later you will be deemed a liar... and if you continue to tell the truth..sooner or later you will be deemed one who tells the truth.....i guess it becomes something u cant conrtol when they say this..

Be with the one you want to be with...don't go around thinkin you some playa, and in the end you get played yourself...plus thats just evil

Originally posted by garab tuujiye: :confused: I didn't know you felt that way sexy.... Sorey.. Oh, dont act like such a punk....where's your backbone....ma naag bad tahay?..lol I'm just kidding around Nomad..for all we know, it could mean something off the wall...and your just coninuin to call me this..whats wrong with you?

Exams are closer than ever , right now Im losing half of my hair , half of my patience , lol Same here.....and im only halfway to the top....imagine what im like in two weeks :eek: ....rogaine would be of no help now....i think i need to holla at whitney...let a homegurl spare a few wigs ..... nomad...i think i got a better name then Pei pei....how bout Princess_ Baldy.....hey, lookon the bright side, short haircuts are in now...

Princess PeiPei Didn't watch the movie.....so what does it mean anyway? Guys aint nathing wrong with changing your nick. I think I need to change mine..lol.. I think you should, there is this bad image i have of you and your name....i sometimes frown or make an angry face even b4 i read your posts

that was interesting

I wouldn't mind any suggestions either

For all of your lives, may you find in each other the friend of your heart…the joy of your world…the love of your life AWWWW ..THAT WAS CUTE Anyways, i just got thru seein u at paltalk..so congratualtions on your engagement, and may you have a wonderful and blessed life...... p.s. you must have sung your way into her heart huh?

Happy B-Day tell me how it goes

this site is really bootleg....lol but i am back on now miz_unique

you know it took me forever to get this thing back on ( Lakkad helped me)...but what problems are u havin?

lol, Og_Girl tried to pass the torch on to me, but it didnt work...so im wondering if the room is still up and running, b/c im unable to find it right now..... sorry if i knocked ppl out, it was on accident