^ I must be the only one who doesnt get the 'bun' joke Other than that... this male-bonding goin on here is unhealthy. Absolutely no male section after this! Akhas. I can already see what the competition for the tampon n butt firming topics will read like... :eek:

Castro, LoL. Sorry. Caqli-Ubaahne, Thanks for the offer..but I think I'll settle for the shelf.

^^ U two. Shaqo kale doonta. I'm very clear. :cool:

Ye of little faith Castro. I meant I see no problems with the practice. After all, am a Muslim and I cant deny something that is allowed by Allah. However I despise the misuse of it. For myself, it’s a completely different issue. I’ve actually never pondered it…except when I come across topics on SOL. I’ve not seen a polygamous relationship in my family too…and extended family… so its not an option I even consider

Its not necessarily a lie. Nur blvs its the lesser of the two evil/way out/a right choice (to be polygamous). Callypso.. Yeah.. I was thinking along the same lines. Its fascinating the many angles this subject has been approached. I gotta admit...I'm loving the creativity. And if Nur's case gets convincing, I'm sure we are all reasonable people and would agree on a suitable solution. Afterall, the end result of this discussion should be whats best. Polygamy isnt all crossed out in my books. With the right circumstances (religiously) fulfilled and the dignity of the parties involved preserved... I see no problems with it.

I think we've all been had people. This story contains no sufficient information to pass judgement. This must have been a test of how reactionary we are...and boy its true. *ashamed* p.s. I retract all previous statements (unless the assumption I made about the 1st wife not knowing is true..)

^^ I did say it was a choice to want instant divorce, noh? Perhaps you should re-read my reply. I was just informing you that ‘knowing what you man is upto’ is a natural right in a marriage…. Just like support and sex. . Polygamy is allowed in Islam, I cant just write it off blindly. We are talking about your rights dear. Your rights to be in a polygamous marriage. p.s. I wasn’t trying to mortify your diin. Really. Sorry if you took it so.

^^ There you go again with the encrypted 'enlightenment'. :rolleyes:

Duke...come closer, lemme whisper something in your ear... I've heard through the grapevine that wonderful things are gonna be happening on this site. Something very similar to your idea..not just history..but more . So be patient.

A contract which entitles me the right to know he wants to marry a second wife (before the consummation of the marriage). :eek: . WOL...and here I thought you knew the religion. You dont need a contract to entitle you to know what your husband is upto. If he is fraternizing behind your back, its called plain old dirty-double-crossing and there is no excuse for it. Love and trust hold a marriage and if you cant trust him to be truthful with his dealings without a contract, then the marriage is doomed from the get go. What you ladies need to have in ur contract is a clause that says in the event of a second marriage or cheating, you're granted instant divorce. Hence, if he does it behind you back...and doesnt tell you...you're literally divorced and he is sinning every sec he is with you. If this is too out there for you, just say you would expect a divorce if he married another...because, he could be honest with you and tell you and go ahead and refuse you a divorce which is the situation alot of women find themselves in.

Sorry there ^, but I just cant picture any self-respecting man going in there and pouring his heart out. I can only foresee the organ gringer and his monkeys giving 'khutbah' every now and then on how to accumulate four wives and keep them happy and that can be delivered in the Islam section as it is.

Originally posted by Muhammad: got any pictures of the coast? Check these out. North... stop bragging. We know ur always happy. We know you love it there. We know you're having the time of your life. We know the weather is perfect. :mad: Clearly, I'm green with envy... so xcuse me. p.s. please more.

LOL@u two above. Didnt know being called a man is a label. Right-0 humans...

^^ Why dont we just rename this section - Social and Gender Issues? I dont like it that all the 'romance n love' crap come under women anyway.

^^ No, the point isn’t about changing your character, its being aware of your circumstances. If you’re in the middle of a group of Liverpool fans, any prudent person would refrain from chanting man-u praise or pointing out that LP is a crap team. You risk being beaten up. However, in a forum for LP fans, one shouldn’t hold back from voicing their grievances against the LP team. What reason would they possibly have? (and don’t say forum peace). That’s how I understand NG’s point. I also agree with everything else NG said. I think that post should be added to the golden rules As far as the Nur drama goes… all the requests for apologies and admission of mistake were unnecessary. He should defend his point of view or else concede defeat (and even if he didn’t, it was quite clear he was fighting a loosing battle). The only thing disappointing to me is his indecency to actually address people. Don’t tell me you guys haven’t noticed he replies to only two sisters and occasionally DA to call her devil this n devil that.

A real life intellectual coward is an understandable thing; a cyber one is unfathomable! Lo0oL.

2. and for the Business section, Athena, I don't think the students section motivates enough members, specially the $-wise elders, to discuss the issues relating to Business and Finances, an Issue that is very important to the community. You’re right Muhamed. Another way would be to alter the name of the student section. That too could work. p.s. the only thing that makes the women’s section interesting is the imprudent utterances of the boys. I say no to expelling them and yes to whipping them in line. p.p.s. Isnt this a general topic? Why is it in the women’s section? Looks like Nur has camped here.

I welcome the Business Section. Infact, I beg for it to be added! As for the men's.... bah. Between Politics and sports, the only other topic important to men is women... and there is a women's section already. Edit, on 2nd thought, isnt the student section open for business discussions as well? I think what we need are topics and participants in the business arena... not a section.

Xaaji, this is hilarious. Keep it up.

I say its unacceptable. If his wife is so appalling, then why not do the decent thing and leave her alone? I guess he expects her to clean his shoes and look after his children while he shacks up with a floozy.

how we can help Faarax have is cake and eat it too Faarax is a lecherous coward and deserves no sympathy or help.

I am a married man to a great lady, a great family and healthy social circles, good job and stable life. Now, I am facing a difficult situation, I fell in love with another Haliimo , never felt this kind of love, I feel captivated, lost control of my mind, and because of the social circle we share, we see each other very often You ‘fell in love’ and proposed while being married to your 1st wife and she wasn’t made aware of the intention to look for another woman. Faarax, you’re a bare-faced liar and cheat. Hope ur wife cuts off the one organ that's 'fallen in love' when she finds out. And no...its not ur heart.

Girl, iska daaya Nur. He is by far the best on this forum. There are far too many maladroit charlatans to tackle than be concerned with Nur’s few stumbles. Its unfair to overlook all his years of good dacwa (speaking of which, if you enter the words ‘dacwa + islam + meaning' in google, the 1st hit you get is an article by Nur ( a good one) from SOL!! Ha ha), quality articles and simplifying complex Islamic issues for the rest of us. I admire Nur most of the time and hope he continues to write and spread the good message. I think the recent volley of negativity is slowing him down, especially coming from esteemed nomads. Yes, he should be humble enough and return to that thread and dispel the myths he was parading as sensible facts. If he chooses not to, let it be. There is no need to bring it up in every new discussion. He still reserves the right to praise who he wants and write on what he wants, even if you don’t agree or it isn’t to your ‘expectations’.

The interesting bit about this discussion is that the ‘put downs’ go both ways. Some have an issue with the overly articulate and excessive attention to vocabulary some people employ. While others have a problem with the lack of coherency in other posts. Still, I say each to his own. I’m sure most people come here to converse with like-minded people. They shouldn’t have to upgrade or downgrade for the sake of others.