why Men and women can't be friends

[Aaliyyah]

Nuuune lol stop twisting it. He simply means a favorite coworker who cuts him some slack at work and who has a good sense of humor. A good neighbor would be that female who sometime makes him those home made muqmad or odkac as some call it or bakes cookies. All that out of neighborly love lool..Hmm I'm not sure what a favorite teammate is? Does he play sports lol..

[Chimera]

I know plenty of gorgeous sisters who consider me a genuine male friend, but there is something in a human body and a fully developed psyche called self-restraint, loyalty and the neutrality factor that one would for example feel for a good-looking sibling(i.e you would never see your own brother or sister in a sexual light), similarly as gorgeous as the aforementioned sisters are, something really dramatic would have to happen for me to cheat with any of them ( like an omen or a prophecy lol). If your single then there is a high chance you will naturally gravitate towards your other-gender friend, because you already love them and enjoy being around them which can result in the neutrality barrier breaking down, but if you are already in a relationship then its much easier to maintain friends with women, (in a healthy relationship the man and woman are supposed to be best friends in the first place) , unless ofcourse you have weak will-power in which case you will most likely cheat, but not all men have pathetic will-power, nor do all men cheat (those who do usually do it with strangers).

[Wadani]

^ ishaad ka riday. Kudos

[Showqi]

Aaliyyah, ma'aragtaa Nuune wixii aan sheegayey oo dhan meel kale ayuu ulla cararay... Jinniyadisii baa waxaas ku soo akhriyey baan u malaynayaa. Waryaa Nuune arintu waa siday Aaliyyah kuugu sheegtay ee sheekada ha iga qasin...

 

Aaliyyah;791626 wrote:

..Hmm I'm not sure what a favorite teammate is? Does he play sports lol..

Haa,,,,,,sportiga ayaan ciyaaraa. Aniga oo aan ku sii dheeraan ciyaarta aan ciyaaro mar mar ayaa raga iyo dumarka la'isku daraa.

[Somalina]

Chimera;791687 wrote:

I know plenty of gorgeous sisters who consider me a genuine male friend, but there is something in a human body and a fully developed psyche called self-restraint, loyalty and the neutrality factor that one would for example feel for a good-looking sibling(i.e you would never see your own brother or sister in a sexual light), similarly as gorgeous as the aforementioned sisters are, something really dramatic would have to happen for me to cheat with any of them ( like an omen or a prophecy lol). If your single then there is a high chance you will naturally gravitate towards your other-gender friend, because you already love them and enjoy being around them which can result in the neutrality barrier breaking down, but if you are already in a relationship then its much easier to maintain friends with women, (in a healthy relationship the man and woman are supposed to be best friends in the first place) , unless ofcourse you have weak will-power in which case you will most likely cheat, but not all men have pathetic will-power, nor do all men cheat (those who do usually do it with strangers).

[NGONGE]

No idea what others have said. But, obviously, the author of the thread has not seen the movie.

 

 

 

 

 

Harry: You realize of course that we could never be friends.

Sally: Why not?

Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.

Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.

Harry: No you don't.

Sally: Yes I do.

Harry: No you don't.

Sally: Yes I do.

Harry: You only think you do.

Sally: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?

Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.

Sally: They do not.

Harry: Do too.

Sally: They do not.

Harry: Do too.

Sally: How do you know?

Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.

Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?

Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail 'em too.

Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?

Harry: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.

Sally: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.

Harry: Guess not.

Sally: That's too bad. You were the only person that I knew in New York.

 

Harry: You know you just get to a certain point where you get tired of the whole thing.

Sally: What "whole thing"?

Harry: The whole life-of-a-single-guy thing. You meet someone, you have the safe lunch, you decide you like each other enough to move on to dinner. You go dancing, you do the white-man's over-bite, go back to her place, you have sex and the minute you're finished you know what goes through your mind? How long do I have to lie here and hold her before I can get up and go home. Is thirty seconds enough?

Sally: That's what you're thinking? Is that true?

Harry: Sure! All men think that. How long do you want to be held afterwards? All night, right? See there's your problem, somewhere between thirty seconds and all night is your problem.

Sally: I don't have a problem!

Harry: Yeah you do.

 

Harry: Would you like to have dinner? ...Just friends.

Sally: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.

Harry: When did I say that?

Sally: On the ride to New York.

Harry: No, no, no, no, I never said that... Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no, no, it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.

 

Jess: I don't understand this relationship.

Harry: What do you mean?

Jess: You enjoy being with her?

Harry: Yeah.

Jess: You find her attractive?

Harry: Yeah.

Jess: And you're not sleeping with her.

Harry: No.

Jess: You're afraid to let yourself be happy.

Harry: Why can't you give me credit for this? This is a big thing for me. I never had a relationship with a woman that didn't involve sex. I feel like I'm growing.

 

Harry: It's very freeing. I can say anything to her.

Jess: Are you saying you can say things to her you can't say to me?

Harry: Nah, it's just different. It's a whole new perspective. I get the woman's point of view on things. She tells me about the men she goes out with and I can talk to her about the women that I see.

Jess: You tell her about other women.

Harry: Yeah. Like the other night. I made love to this woman, and it was so incredible, I took her to a place that wasn't human, she actually meowed.

Jess: You made a woman meow?

Harry: Yeah. That's the point, I can say these things to her. And the great thing is, I don't have to lie because I'm not always thinking about how to get her into bed. I can just be myself.

Jess: You made a woman meow?

 

Harry: I think they have an OK time.

Sally: How do you know?

Harry: What do you mean how do I know? I know.

Sally: Because they...

Harry: Yes, because they...

Sally: And how do you know that they really...

Harry: What are you saying, that they fake orgasm?

Sally: It's possible.

Harry: Get outta here!

Sally: Why? Most women at one time or another have faked it.

Harry: Well they haven't faked it with me.

Sally: How do you know?

Harry: Because I know.

Sally: Oh, right, that's right, I forgot, you're a man.

Harry: What is that supposed to mean?

Sally: Nothing. It's just that all men are sure it never happened to them and that most women at one time or another have done it so you do the math.

Harry: You don't think that I could tell the difference?

Sally: No.

Harry: Get outta here.

[sally begins to fake an orgasm]

Harry: Are you OK?

[sally continues very audibly, attracting the attention of nearly every customer in the cafe. Afterwards, she returns to eating her dessert]

Older Woman Customer: [to waiter] I'll have what she's having.

[Somalina]

:D

[Blessed]

Well said, Chimera.

 

Aaliyah, you do raise some valid points with regards to Islamic ettiquette. However, I feel your definition of friendship is a little narrow. No one has time for constant phone sheeko and hanging out and really that's not what friends are all about, well not to everyone anyway.

[Che -Guevara]

NGONGE....that's second or third time using When Harry met Sally, the movie must illustrate alot of things for you.

[NGONGE]

^^ Well it's full of wisdom and deals with the subject here.

I have no female friends and never had. They're either little sisters, older sisters, cousins or ego boosting eye candy.

[Che -Guevara]

^You are wise man in that you know where you stand on the issue and don't self delude.

[Caano_Geel]

Gabadha aan la saaxiibayaa waa ta xaaskay-ga noqonaysa uun... Because dheh...waxa lala saaxiibi karaa uun mid fariida, oo hadal dabacsan, karti badan, dabeecaduna u siyaado tahay naxriis na leh, sidoo kale, la aamini karo, oo gaashaan kuu noqon karta, wakhtigu markuu kugu adkaado..aqoon wanaagsana leh xagga diinta iyo mid maadiyaba, hub-qaad wanaagsan, kaa qoslin karta, oo aragti durugsan,.oo halyey naagtii noqon karta!...intaas haddii laga helana waxay noqonaysaa ta aad waysada ku dhawranayso ama xaaskaaga.

 

Ta nacasta ahina saaxiibtinmo ma leh!! oo waad garanaysaa adba.

 

Markaa dumar lalama saaxiibi karo, fahamtu?

[Aaliyyah]

Lol blessed. Ok sis as long as who u consider to be a guy friend isn't someone you always talk to - I guess its ok.

Caano geel mashallah hadal murti leh baad so qortay adna

 

Salaam

[Narniah]

If you grow up with them, obviously it's easier to stay friends. But random guys always end up declaring their love somewhere along the way. Which defeats the purpose of the friendship. It's all about self restraint.

[5]

I had a racist Bengali friend. He just didn't like black girls. Luckily I didn't find short Bengali guys attractive either. We hanged out, skipped classes, catched films. Of course it's possible for guys and girls to be just friends.

 

Well, maybe old men like Ngoge can't see that...

 

EDIT: Having said that, I do have to agree to some extent that in most cases (not all!), it is true, guys and girls don't make good friends. Personally, I don't mind having male coworkers or acquaintances but I wouldn't be BFFs with a male any more at this age. And truth be told, I'd hate it if my future significant other had a close female friend who wasn't related to him.

 

Summa summarum, it's possible for men & women to be just friends but it's not very common.