Rahima

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  1. Che -Guevara;940296 wrote: ^Not yet successful navy but your insults towards of people of Puntland is noted. after reading the exchanges after the above- SOL is getting out of control.
  2. Jacpher;942143 wrote: If you're anti-qabiil, you might as well be anti-Somalia. Nothing is wrong with clan. Embrace qabiil waryaa, the sooner you do that the better. What destroyed Somalia is qabyaalad and jahli, not qabiil. It's qabiil that leads to death and destruction. Do Somalis know any other interpretation of qabiil? For our people qabiil is synonymous with qabyaalad- my qabiil is better than yours, i dislike/hate/distrust you because you belong to qabiil hebel, i will always support what i perceive to be my qabiil's interests over the national interest, my qabiil's little backwater tuulo is a buzzing metropolis that is better than your qabiil's little backwater tuulo, i support or oppose the somali government based on the qabiils of the president and prime minister, i will donate money to my qabiil mates back in tuulo x so that they can fight your qabiil for the use of the village well, people of my qabiil are better looking/smarter/wealthier than those of your qabiil and so on- you get the point. Just refer to the thread on the newly elected Kenyan foreign minister for evidence of the above. If a child is unable to play responsibly with a toy (in that they use to hurt other children), parents confiscate it. Qabiil needs to be confiscated/removed from Somalis.
  3. Suldaanka;941099 wrote: If you're really, really lucky, you'll be born a Queenslander and therefore inherent ownership of the nation's greatest rugby union and league teams, but have the freedom – if you can afford it - to live in Sydney, the world's most beautiful city despite what its citizens try to do and not do to it. He leaves Melbourne out and then dismisses AFL- that's the problem with people from further up, they have an inferiority complex when it comes to Melbourne. That aside, yay for the milestone....now to build the necessary infrastructure, our roads are becoming car parks, even on weekends.
  4. I must say that there are some things which scare me more than others and travelling without a mahram is one of them. I travel regularly for work and even though I'm usually back within the same day, i am constantly mindful of my state. I try to rationalise that if i had a really fast camel (as opposed to one that durdles), i could travel to my destination in a day and night.
  5. ^- exactly how it happens. I don't think many Somalis would say never again though- certainly not in my neck of the woods anyway. Four wheel drives and caruur are the new points of competition here.
  6. ^ Why wouldn't we be? Happy and normal that is- no words to describe the ensuing joy. Blessed- as part of my MPH, i undertook research which looked at the maternity care needs of Somali women in Australia and the results were alarming to say the least, especially with regards to the C-section rates amongst Somali women. Here in Oz they seem to lay the blame with FGM, interestingly though the rates were just as high with women aged 20-30- many of whom who grew up in Australia and therefore did not experience FGM.
  7. Bess- I guess we are all dictated to by our experiences. The thought of having another C-section was like death to me, yet you were driving 5 weeks later,lol. In saying that though alhamdullilah as we all have healthy children. Aaliyah- yes alhamdullilah i felt that that was the right decision for me and Allah answered my duas.
  8. Bess, I'm full of contradictions when it comes to birthing, on the one hand I'm opposed to a medicalised approach to it, on the other i am very pro-epidural. The main reason for this contradicting stance is because of my experience with my first birth. I was not offered any pain control bar some useless dose of pethidine which lasted all of a few minutes. I had a horrible consultant who lied to me about the progress of the birth so that she could convince me to have a c-section (she didn't realise that i could read the graphs myself) and her response to my initial objection to the c-section was "don't worry darling, you can have more children"- of course being Muslim and Somali that is my only concern. All of this was compounded by the unwritten hospital policy (i had colleagues who had previously worked there) of a birthing woman must not be in labour for more than 48 hours and i had already clocked 36 hours. My poor family was a wreck, especially my poor husband who was unsure of what to do, so eventually i reluctantly gave in. It took me a good year to recover from the c-section as i had an infection and subsequent pain which was excruciating at times. As a result of this experience i set out to achieve a home birth with my second pregnancy- my husband was not too happy about it but he understood alhamdullilah. I searched for months but all the midwives who were willing to take me on were booked at the time i was due- popular month apparently. The available midwives wouldn't touch me as my daughter was posterior and on the back of a 5kg baby and a family history of large babies (my siblings and i were all well over 4kgs) they deemed me as high risk- hence the hiring of the doula. I didn't want hand holding per se from the doula,lol, just someone who was familiar with and could navigate through the system well. I had only one instruction for her and despite the expense i felt it was the only way to ensure that i would get my VBAC- NO C-SECTION unless it becomes a matter of life or death. As i said earlier i ceased her services because my mother was very unhappy about it. Alhamdullilah come second birth i had the best trainee OB-GYN and qualified midwife a woman could ask for. They were beyond supportive of my goal and it all went perfectly. Six hours, well-controlled pain, healthy baby, quick recovery- Perfect.
  9. ^ Couldn't of have said it better my friend. I'm sick of this Somali women bashing phenomena on SOL- perhaps the boys need to band together and initiate strategies to transform into RAG and whilst you are all at it bakhaylnimada iska dhaafa- gacan furan is very attractive because it means he values you more than hoarding the dough. This does not apply to the brothers who don't have the means, just the ones whose wallets are so full it makes them lop sided and they still refuse to share
  10. Hi Bess, I too don't see anything specifically private about your questions so here goes: 1. They tried to impose a birth plan on me but i opted out- coming from a health background also i felt as though they only serve the purpose of lessening any anxiety. 2. I saw both an OB-GYN and Midwife with both my pregnancies, tried a doula with the second pregnancy but ditched her because hooyo thought it was a waste of money. 3. Never had a scheduled C-section- had an emergency C-section with my son as he was almost 5 kgs. My daughter alhamdullilah was a normal delivery. 4. Was anti epidural initially but have now converted to the pro epidural camp lol. 5. Didn't have time for classes, not to mention because of my professional background i felt as though i already knew it all (what they would teach in the classes anyway). 6. Yep, for 16 months with my son and almost a year with my daughter.
  11. Wadani;934620 wrote: And that's precisely the problem. A lot of young woman hate being Somali and everything associated with it as a result of the civil war and the condition of Somalis in the qurbaha. And this. Wadani you must be pulling our legs right?
  12. Juxa;934584 wrote: Another women bashing sheeko Sometimes I wonder dadkaan meesha ay ka yimadeen. Decent families value marriage of their girls and encourage them not to value lacag and iyagaaba caawiya the new family. I can believe some ladies want lacag badan which is her god given right but please dhaqanka ha ceebeyn. If you don't want to pay just say NO and move on. Let her marry monkey if she wants maxaa kaga galay? I am too old for this Sh!t. Naga daaya Exactly what i was thinking Juxa. Have you also noticed that they pay something for us (here let me offer a kitaab to buy her)- the insults are flying all over the place.
  13. Coofle;932335 wrote: Born , bred, Raised and educated in Somalia... Don't misjudge faaraxs, There is a lot of good faarax out there... inta wanaagsan dumarkooda qarsada si aan looga qashqashaadin kkk.. My myself Never believed in Love...I was like waa Kacsiga wadnaha iwm...But Karma is a ***** ... the definition of love is somewhat different from what you hear of in Songs/stories..to me love is seeing your spouse waking up and even angry and just smiling and saying inside...allaha ii daayo ... I know there are a lot of good faaraxs out there- married to one myself . I was just trying to make a point about the stark difference between you and some of the other faaraxs who have posted above.
  14. [quote=Coofle;932326 WADANI...duxdu hadalku waxay tahay....Find someone you can understand, garawsi iyo garasho leh.....and don't forget LOVE...people who say love doesn't exist lie...Love will take you far in a relationship..Love is beautiful,,Waan kuugu duceeyay inaar So sweet- Coofle are you fully Somali?
  15. Che -Guevara;932331 wrote: It would be nice to put some SOL clan warriors in a cage with Ismael or better yet put them there with each other till one comes alive. Or they wipe each other out. The clip is frightening- this isn't sport.
  16. oba hiloowlow;930415 wrote: Makka Al Mukaramma Hotel Saw these on fb and i've decided that i have got to see it in person to believe that they are of a building in Somalia.
  17. Note to self: next business venture MUST NOT (UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE) involve licensing or direct compliance from government departments. Good evening folks, alhamdullilah i have survived- NG thanks for the dua.
  18. NGONGE;928526 wrote: ^^ Dee he said he knows the kid. Morning convicts. Hope all is well in your world (apart from random stabbings). By the way, Oz, you should have said an Aussie stabbed another Aussie. Dadka ha kala saarin yaan lago musaafirin warya. Bugger off.....I missed that . I've had a very stressful three days so i dhaaf balees. Oz- No i don't. Sad that he would take a life.
  19. ^ I realise the name sounds Somali but has it been confirmed? Are the others also Somali? I feel like Melbourne is getting worse- used to walk down that road on my way home from work.
  20. ^My mistake, i thought that at least appearance wise he was Somali.
  21. N.O.R.F;926303 wrote: If it was in the ME he would take his cigaal and cimaamad off and hit the dogs with it Bad idea- wouldn't want the bold patch exposed. Anyway what i found most interesting is that they would mistake NG as a dog owner- they obviously don't know that somalis have a complicated relationship with the canine kind. Good evening all.