Salaamz, What is the Hikmaah of these fatwas that u have with you, walaal? Postives -They will help people inshallah, to write out the salwat/tasleems and the salaams more often. Negatives -People are too lazy, and if I am not mistaken, if you make things too tough for the ummah, they will opt not to follow that thing. Example So, if I am writing a hadith or making reference to the Prophet (salallahu calihey wasilm) several times in a note say on SOL or in an essay and I can't write (S) or (S.A.W.) after I say Prophet Muhamed, then I am telling u this, I will think TWICE before I write something ISLAMIC. Its just too time consuming... -To write the entire Islamic greeting everytime, is also too time consuming and sometimes u're not in the mood to type all of it. So what happens then? Well, if I know something about myself, I'd say that I would stop saying the Islamic Greeting of (Asalumu...) and just say 'WASSUP r HI' to people that I would write to. Inshallah, the intentions might be good, but such harsh fatwas would do more harm then good, WAllahu Yacalim! Maybe the rule here is that if something changes the 'MEANING' of that word i.e. I'A-internet usuage for Inshallah or suppose u were talking to someone and u said the rasul and said (SAW)..THEN that would mean the Meaning of that WORD/SYMBOL has changed and that it is hard to recognize or associate with its original meaning. Fi Amanillah

Salaamz, The other night I was driving and was listening to the local college station, when the Topic of Spousal Abuse came up. Well this old man called in, I'd say he's 50+ and told this story about how one night him and his girlfriend got into a fight (I think that they live together )/heated debate. So his girlfriend made a comment like 'I know of a way to get you out of here' and proceeded into her room. 15mins later, her boyfriend who's an old man (50+) hears a knock on the door and lo and behold, its the cops. They arrest him and charge him. Well, he informs the cops that he has never touched his girlfriend or any women in his life. There were no marks on the girlfriend and no proof except for a statments from her. So they decide to charge the boyfriend and lock him up for the night and take him to court. Time for the trial comes up, and the girlfriend tells the judge that she wants the charges dropped. Well, the court says that, the charges can't be dropped and that it is out of her hands. Anyways to make things short, the laws say that in the case of spousal, family abuse reports, calls to the police etc., charges can not be Dropped, regradless if the Caller/"Victim" calls in or comes in to court to drop those charges. So the Male, who is usually the Accused, is Charged and Jailed and sentenced (at times) without Evidence. Accused of a crime wherein there is No Evidence. Its like calling u a Terrorist and arresting you cause someone said you had a bomb on you just cause the didn't like you :eek: So, I was just wondering of any nomads that have had any experiences with Domestic disputes and these TYPES OF CALLS. I'm not trying to be a 'Macho', 'Pig', 'Xaasid', 'Women Hater' etc. but you know in Somali families, alot of sistahs use this threat of calling the Police on either their Husband, Cousin, Brother or any male etc. that they get into an argument with and shout 'ABUSE, I have been Abused' to the Police, and before you know it, the children don't have a Father anymore in the house or there is no more the presence of a Male in the household. In anycase, please share your thoughts! Fi Amanillah

Ohhh, the IRONY in this Thread, Ya Allah! :rolleyes: Al-Nisaaa, we luv emmm All!

Darl Angel aka Malikul Mowit caafi walaalo, Angels don't have to be so 'DARK' Anyways, u know luv stories always sound better in remote lands, especially in the arab world cause u're dealing with time, space, families, traditions etc.

Salaamz, I wrote a few love stories in my life time, perhaps you might have heard of these titles published by such great companies like Harlequina, Randon Home, Del Krontes etc. Here are one of those titles 'Caraweloo and Jamaac-Aaruuski laabad' -This is the story of the love two people, from two different tribes, to different nations, to different times, brought together....brought together because of hardships and difficult circumstances....brought toghter..... one had it and the other needed it what could it be that brought them together? Read my book to find out, Just PM for the info.

Look Ms. FF, you dont know the historyyyy behind this so I suggest u use some restairnnnn for once and quit babblinggg away.... As for Mr. Totti, don't u got some 'football' to watch??? In anycase, PEACE in the MIDDLE EAST!

OG GIRL, who is your GHOST WRITER??? :confused: Vanquish, Jazaka Allahy Khayrun walaal for the reminders and advices.

Salaamz, This was a very well written article, MashaAllah! JazakaAllah khayrun walaal, sheeko aad oo macaan bee aa axayad.

Salaamz Just at work on a friday afternoon, in the exciting month of November, thinking, imaging of being in a distant land, where money ain't a problem, no bickering, people waiting on me on hand and foot..... (Hold on a min. let me get my paint brush and start Painting for you this picture) This would be a my washroom For the place where in romance would bloom Are there any great SOL painterssss tooo like me who can Paint awayyyy pictures of places they would like to be and sleep at.....

^^^^^ It is because we have that thing in btwn 'you know what' that controlssss certain 'creatures ! Is it just me or do Somalia parents assume that a Student Loan is a 'Blessing' for their children; meaning that if a somali persues college/university education, most parents tell their kids to get a 'student loan' instead of helping to pay for their education.

Salaamz, Maybe we can all come together inshallah and have an SOL meet and 'Wrestle' oopps I meant 'Meet and Greet'.

Sounds to meeee like an INFERIORITYYY COMPLEXXX??? Why do u say this maaan? The reason being the author of this article makes contrasts and comparisons to a different set of values i.e. voting. career women, women directors, presidents etc. As men, it is time that we acknowledge the struggles of our sisters (both within and without our community), and it is even more important to recognize the privilege that we have enjoyed due to no real merit but simply because of our sex. OHHH PLZZZZZ! :rolleyes:

Why do somali people (men and women) can't agree on anything? We can, it just has to involve some baris, xalwoo and kuub shaax for the 'Agreement' to take place. Q--->Are u putting u're life on the linnnne if for a lunch u go to a chinese restaurant and they are offering you a full plate of chicken and rice for $3.75 and u take it and say 'Maaan, that was deeeliciousss :eek:

Originally posted by nuune: for me, the age-gap deosn't make any sense, I would rather prefer a 25-29 year old lady, I wouldn't go with if she is 17-22 or another word younger than me,BIG no, she must be exact age as me or older, see the contradiction!!! I don't know about "calaf", it can make u stay with 18 or 17 or 19, hell iam out Waryaa maxaa kaaxadelesaa saxib! :confused: :confused: :confused: On a side note, the other night I was buying some 'dinner' from the local somali 'hot spots' and near it is a halal meat store. I'm in my car and talking to the 'xalimo' parked next to me when she pops the question 'HOW old are'.....so I tell her my age..... and she tells me she's almost 30, so I'm like ok, we talk ..... Now the whole time I'm talking to her I'm remembering this SOL post and u know I said, let me give her a minute of my time.... When she was leaving she calls me ''WIILYAXOO' :mad: Oh u calling a boyyyy :mad: So I wanted to yell at her 'Islaanyaxoo... (the rest is pure curses and I won't say it on SOL :eek: ) Anyways, the point is ...... Qaaqaac is one geniousss

Originally posted by Femme_Fatale: Inandout why dont you make like ur nic and get out of here? Ohhh no she didn't say dat too you saxib!!! quote: Note: what is up with the flip-flopping? What is up with ragii acting like a couple of dhoocilyaal hilib laga dhafey? U do live up to your name FEMMMME FATALLLLLE OK thats it Ameenah move overrr, FF is the #1 Caaerwaalo, raaga SOL, iska ilalliya FF, ghaadu iyo caashu baan oo noqaanysaan! Anyways, We have enough Somali Cab/Taxi drivers in this world 'INANDOUT', so don't be offering 'Free Rides' without your 'CABBIE IS WORKING' SIGN ON Fi Amanillah

Originally posted by Gediid: ^^^^^^^^^ A true oxymoron, women and independence ^^^^ Gedid, you are a sexiessssst, male Pigggg!!

Originally posted by Flamboyant: To be honest with you, I haven’t seen this influx of young, educated handsome Somali men going back home for wives as being suggested here, but what I have seen is the following types of men that have gone back for wives: 1. Older gentlemen that needed younger wives for personal satisfaction (we all know what that is..Uf..) 2. Men that have failed in their personal lives and needed wives that could resurrect them back to life (drunkards, drug/khad addicts, basically your average loser Farax) 3. Men that were relatively successful but had social anxieties and lacked self-confidence when it came to dating strong Somali women in their own peer groups and from similar background (Accentric, Nerdy types). In otherwords the men that are left for us sophosticated ladies here in the West, are the creme of the creme. So on a final note, I say good riddance to bad rubbish!!! Where do u live again???? WAKE UP AND SMELL THE SHAAXXXB]

Moti, cause they wanna compete 'THE XALIMO OF YESTERDAY, TODAY & TOMMORW MORNING (if u get lucky ) Question Why I gotta pay for parking in almost every were in my city? Damnnn the Mayor :mad:

Originally posted by Qac Qaac: what!!!, i think, a girl who passed 22, who still not married, damn... that's all i have to say.. don't get me wrong.. Bro, I luv the way u think Nin miir baadan iyo xikmaalex baa taxey!

Naayaadha, baaxaaa! Usersss baan taaxeen and 'Platinum Diggerssss' :mad: I ain't share my Beeroo/farms with anyone of you anymore. Talaaaq, Talaaq, and ........

Originally posted by Garab Tuujiye: Kheyr you made OG-Moti less sexist..lool..he jokes to be sexist but I think you are a realy sexist my good friend... Waryaaa saxib, sumaacadidee/My Rep., baan igaa boor boorineesa :eek and whats wrong with being 'Sexiliousss' anywayz

Salaamz, Just wanted to pose this question to some of you SOL nomads. When you are doing u're 'shukaansii', looking for a marriage partner ect. does age play a role at all? Do you have an age limit? I've got an age limit and you know everytime I 'loosen' up that age limit for a little 'maturity' lol, well I ask myself 'Why I didn't stick with my original plaaaan?' So NOMADS, if u got a age limit group thats IDEAL for you what is it? Fi Amanillah

Salaamz, Why go abroad for a 'broad' aka a Xalimo/Xaas? Pros - She will be Debt free , meaning she can stay home and be a housewife instead of running for the tube or bus in the morning with you. Lets face it, dumrakaaney qurboodha jooga, most of them who are 'intelligent' 'good' sistahs have a heavy Student Loan with them and that translates to them being more interested in becoming a 'Career Wife' and not a 'House Wife'. They are too worried about paying off their 'Debts' to stay home and take care of the home. However, a Xalimo from the East (Somalia/land, Khaleej or Asia etc.) most likely doesn't carry that 'debt' with her and can easily fit in as a Housewife. Pros A xaas/xalimoo from the East when u ask her 'goorigaa baan eexayneesa' aka you will be a Housewife, she won't have a problem with it. Infact, her role as a Wife is CLEAR to her. No Confusion (in most cases)! Compare that to a Xalimo from the West and ......... (This part I'll keep Silent about for my own safety! Cons -She might end up watching 'OPRAH' and leave the Faraax the next day after she gets her Citizenship (the Xalimo from the East) -Deen wise, her understanding of Deen would be just a 'Cultural One' but thats probably a minimal difference.... Fi Amanillah

Salaamad, Inaamadaanee baa muusibaa ku daacadey, Miskiinka hooyide's baan xaanoon aad oo xooga ku daacey. She was striken with a tumour and an ailmment which lead to her passing away during Ramadan. Inshallah, waan oo ducaanayaa Underdog, his family and his Mother inshallah, ilaahi aah oo naaxariisto. Ameen Inaa lilaahi waa ilyaani raajucuun

EID MUBRAAAAAK TO ALL THE SOL FAMILY Kaa daargaa xalwoo iyo bur iyo cake iyo macmaan waalba!