wow,I have never thought little babies can be tyrants.lol,It doesnt occur to me in that way. If you truly believe your baby is going to hinder you from your career,ambitions and most importantly your indepedence,the solution is simple,dont marry till you are 40 years old,Age doesnt matter sometimes and there is someone out there for you who loves you as person. These are guys out there who are into strong, mature,indepedent women.that is atleast how i visualise it.

Originally posted by Jacaylbaro: Mayee waxaan is idhi xataa hablaha comment gareeyay thread kiisa ayuu u haystaa inay doonayaan ,, waryaa he,waxaasi xageed ka soo guurisay?

Originally posted by Canjeex: Not a must, but if she knows how, it would be a bonus Are you being politically correct with women folks here?? ilahey inuu kugu salido mid take away kugu waasha miyaad rabtaa?? If she cant supersede my mothers cooking style,i dont see any reason i want to be with her.what is the point of marrying hadii qurigaada dab laga shideeynin??

Originally posted by Aaliyah416: lol@ adigu ma gabadh baa aheed I always assumed laychee to be a girl. Never crossed my mind otherwise. She sounds too girly.... anuu waxaan is idhi kan tuu egaba way ka dhaqaaqda...talow miyu gabanyahay mise wuu faruuranyahay mise wuu madowyahay...(I got that from qabyo n felt like saying it)..no offense intended. Just pure fun!!lol salaam marka hore,I am not offended by your ridiculous assumption,but you should know what a man`s true worth is not measured by his beauty. confidence is a key word here.calaakulli xaal,you wouldnt have said that if you saw my pic and i am not a big fan of exposing your self in a public forum marka dont challange me.lool Lychee waa maxey aflagaadadu? ma sidaas baa naga dhaxeeysay labadeena??

GG Thanks for you input,i will respond to you but right now i have a very limited time.

Chubaka I dont know where you get the idea that i greet complete strangers,maya,i have a phobia for that kind of behavior,the only way i come to know people is through friend or when i am invited to a party. It is below my standards to start chatting with a complete stanger,after all,you dont know what they have in store for you.

How do you see them especially those who take it too far,It is a big turn off for me gabdhaha buurka isa saara.I simply assume she isn't interested and move on with life,Thus losing my already little interest with the girl. I subtly tell the girl i am interested,if she can not genuinely understand that simple gesture then she is obviously dumb and not worth the chase. women for the love of God if i say hi it doesnt mean i am interested stop lying to your deluding your self.

oo ninka maxaa helay? war ninyahow ilahey talo saaro and face it like a man instead of ranting on a public forum.that is just my thoughts and sorry if i sound cynical.

Originally posted by Kamilah: canjeex mashallah that makes sense. But, am not sure abt when the child borns out of wedlock, why does it have to be named after the mom?? I mean the guy is to blame too..just a thought! salaam Yes,Both of them have committed zina and should be condemned ,How ever,since the guy has denied that he has fathered the child,there is no way oo loogu magac dari karo. There may be a case where the mother is promiscuous and has slept with many MEN and thus the the true father of the child can not be determined easily.I think the reason women are blamed if they carry a child out of wedlock is just a common sense.She is the one that gets knocked up and also has to undergo the pain of bringing a child into this world thus ayada oo dhibkaas dhan og ayey hadana sidaas sameeyay. Not all Men have the characteristics of Prophet Yusuf and it takes a lot of courage and iiman to say no to a woman in bed.

I agree with geeljire,If a child is carrying his mothers name,it may be implies he has no legitimate father .

castro No offence meant sxb,but i only converse with certain people here.and about your advice i simply decline it.Lets hope this will be the last time we engage.

Lucky wacel,lol,an overweight xalimo(due to excessive junk eating) cant stand againt a blonde swedish hottie with a green eyes.period

Chubaka Why camel na? riding comes to mind when i think of camel runtii? in lagu rarto maxaa ku faleesaa?

Originally posted by B: I think women like excitement. maybe that's why they always go for the bad boys. and they also want the good man after all excitement. you cant have it all. It is difficult to give excitement to a girl when you are studying hard to improve your future,laakinse,the good thing is as these women get old ,they become less attractive and less wanted while on the other hand,men become more desirable as they age,so all those men out there who experienced such thing,relax and you have gone a long way,take your time and enjoy life before you settle down with a woman who is worth enough to spend the rest of your life.keep searching and take your time again.

I want my 5 min of reading this garbage back!

Originally posted by Lychee: Four pages of utter twaddle. How men who aren’t virgins themselves yet have the impudence to have a chaste woman as a future wife high on their list makes me laugh. So much B.S You dont have to blame cadde if some dude tricked you into losing your virginity,i know virginity lost is a real transformation from girlhood to womanhood and if a wrong guy did that its your fault.

Hurrah womens day! lets celebrate the liberation of women and gender equality...oops,some one actually needs to crawl back to the kitchen and make some delicious sandwich!

LOOOOOOOL another thread about bashing men heh? interesting.

ALIYAH I highly doubt that somali single moms are that much higher! but i agree with you that we have the single mom syndrom in our community,Studies have shown that children from single parent families are more likely to go into Gangs,do drugs and end up in prison than those from a stable family.Ilahey naga koriyo dhibaatadaas. as for the Topic,It just depends on the invidual but it seems weird to marry a person within a month,you want this person to be with you for the rest of your life,you dont know what kind of crazy lifestyle he/she has been to(is he a khat addict? or is she a naag dabbo dhiibato ah?).these Questions must be Answered in order for the relationship to continue and prosper. you have to know the individual more deeper and make sure that both your views about deen,marriage and children are compatible.Reer xamarka ayaa wuxuu ku maahmaahaa (GEEDKII OROD LAGU KOREY,OROD AYAA LOOGA SOO DEGAA) which basically advises againt rushing into things. I would say 2 or 3 years is enough and that is a best option in order to avoid broken hearts. Most people especially women these days play 'dirty' to get married so dont be surprised marki waji aadan aqoon laguula soo baxo if you rush into marriage. I believe marriage is a Extremely Personal choice and you have complete control over it! Never Compromise on your choice.

Guys just be aware that smoking can hit you below the belt.

disaster Thanks God you have mentioned this word,They say the institution of marriage is one of the most primitive ones to exist in the world and great emphasis is put on the invidual to get married and raise a family,but for many their lives are put in danger or simply upside down because of this institution.The though of confining your self to one person who might become boring after a life is scary to me. I am more open to cooperation and co-habitation which is likely to succeed if is based on practical approaches rather on what society or our feelings dicatate.

Originally posted by Lychee: Zack: Who's JB, she/he maxuu yahay? Eng: lol me and you both. Maxaan samayna? May be we have the same perspective about life and marriage.

Well,If a woman wants to find a man who can easily be dominated then they should go for sissies! joking but are we assuming education makes women dominant? Why not matual understanding and cooperation.You know what the ARABS say in such situation (Ana Amiir wa anta Amiir faman yaquudul ximaar!) which literally translates into something like(I am the leader and you are also the leader who is going to unload the donkey!)

I have been accused of being commitment phobic multiple times. :confused:

This is where MOST men have this issue with a woman's decision. Why must they "MAKE SURE" for the 10th time she needs a divorce Dont you think you are generalizing? I dont have a problem if my girl decides to leave the house and asks for divorce,i will gladly give her papers.good riddance,i dont have to put up with her swinging moods and i will be free from her parasitic tendencies .ouch! I mean it is not worth to spend the rest of my life with a nagging woman. this might be a new chance for me to experience the joys of singlehood and get more experience with women and mostly importantly dig for younger ones!or i may start to do my masters which has been unluckily postponed by this nagging woman! Nowadays,marriage is over-rated and it is worth mentioning that Marriage doesnt mean you are guaranteed of happiness,bliss or simply felicitous life.You can lead a happy life with out the burdens of marriage. P.S I cant comprehend why someone would actually marry another wife with out informing his first wife? or with out her consent.I find it very disrespectful personally,At least tell her and if she agrees,go for it hadey diidana do it anyways.