Let's Talk about Sex

[Ibtisam]

^you want more details of what they also said

[Khalaf]

IB, no sister I don't.

 

Isku xishood.

 

 

salaam and good luck on your essay.

[Nephissa]

Bal amuurtan eega!

 

Walaal, are you even old enough to discuss this?

[J.Lee]

^I'm not.

 

Meeshaan waa ku wareeray walaal, cajiib weeye walee, ilaa maantoodhan waxaan u qabay inay inantu step by step instructions raadinayso then I come to find all she just wants to do is talk about it.

 

What is there to talk about? What purpose would it serve? What are you exactly hoping to achieve by having such a banal (and I do use the word lightly) and repetitious topic?

[Zafir]

Woow woow, Layziegirl hang on a sec. Epidemic you say, how so? I says sis.

 

In the real world (or Somalis that live the west world) it’s actually the adults (by that I mean folks older then 22) that are more sexually active than teens or the “youth†as you put it. You and I both know few, if not more than few adults in our ages or even older who are getting sex or giving sex on the regular. If a concern be, we should be concerned about them not the youth.

 

You see, one out of five teen girls or boys is sexually active, in book that hardly calls for an alarm, the good youth out number the bad ones any given day. I view teens of today knowledgeable of what’s going on around the world, the struggles of life and morals issues and I applaud their parents for that, it helps the young make better judgment in their decision making. Now parents of today (especially from our race) tend to over protect their young ones, which sometimes lead to the youth to be rebellious. All rebellious kids aren’t necessarily having sex, or doing drugs when they run away, I believe in communicating with the youth and giving them the choice while being informed. And sometimes that’s what we forget to provide as parents who are extremely busy making ends meet.

 

 

Think about it? We all were young and stupidh and had friends who were like us, if not more stupidh. What was our reasoning for not having sex? Weren’t we pressured? Weren’t we tempted? Then why haven’t we done the damn deed?

 

Was it because we were afraid of our parents? Was it because we feared Allah? Or was it because it wasn’t the right thing to do?

 

Whatever the case may be, they will and won’t do it for their reasons

 

Ibtisam,

 

That statement couldn’t be any more further form the truth, Sex is pleasured by both genders, even if it’s for a minute and two seconds. But if it’s the cuddling, hugging, or pillow talk business you were talking about, it’s absolutely imperative that the apposite sex realize, men need their space in the bed, they fall asleep as soon as it’s done and they are plainly wired differently.

[Didi Kong]

Before we talk about sex, just answer this q, are you crazy, hrazy or neither!? Just kidding! I must have missed the purpose of why you want to talk about it can't be bothered to read everyone's replies....a little synopsis if you don't mind!

[Abaadir]

Gabadhu maxay tiri, Sex ha laga hadlaa!!!!! Action kuu ku fiican yahay geedkaas... hadal wax ma taro.

[Modesty]

ibtisam wrote

Sex is over rated.

As ludicrious said...they just ain't doing it right

[Gabar fiican]

First of all I want say I’m glad to find this forum.

 

Ok my question to you is should a parent talk to their teenagers about sex?

[Section6er]

You need to talk about it. Welcome to the real world its happening whether you like it or not your kids will be exposed to it so be smart and talk your kids.

Nuthing wrong with talking about it. Can someone please point out where in Islam it says its haram to discuss sexaulity in an infromational way.

[Gabar fiican]

I agree with you we defiantly have to talk to our kids about sex. they hear it @ school, see if you have a little sister or brother when they are on the phone try to listen their conversation they’re talking about sex.

 

Peace and love

[Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar]

Soomaali maxaa lagu dhahaa 'sex'? Galmo? Wasmo? So let's visualize hooyo gabadheeda u wacdineyso. "Hooyo, kaalay wasmo aan ka hadalno."

[Zafir]

^^Actually, Wasm0 means Fcuking, words no one should be using to communicate with their kids. Galm0/ Sex on the other hand are perfectly respectable words.

 

The pace kids are growing these days, I am considering giving mine in a power point presentation.

 

Abaadir, LooL let me ask you this then, does one loose it, if they don’t use it?

[Bess.]

these posts are breaking the GOLDEN RULES....

3 - Language: do not use

profanity, vulgarity or objectionable language.

 

8 - Pornography: no pornographic, sexually offensive, or sexually explicit talk will be tolerated. This includes suggestive images, graphics, and comments.

[Azmaya]

Bishy raises a good question: Walaal, are you even old enough to discuss this?

 

At what age is right to discuss sex with our children, the risks, pregnancy, diseases? Do Somali parents discuss with their children? Is there even a need to discuss, can this prevent it?

 

Zafir raises good points, everyone has their reasons for not doing the deed weather religious or what have you, and majority who are having sex in our community are in their 20s, the men you sluts!

 

But what about the future, not our generation but our children and the Somali children under 10 now who are in public schools? Children are getting worse, having sex as young as 12 or younger, couldn't this spill over to our community if it hasn't already?

 

In having open relationship with your child about sex, can this honestly make them stay abstinate? What if (big if I know but it can happen), the child says they are sexually active, and their going to do it anyway, need pills? What then?

 

 

I honestly believe Somali parents are not up to the challenge this society presents. Its time we wise up, if not then God help us I say.

 

 

Scarlet, the answers I hear walaalo are not for this pg site. Girlfriend talk and the boys we roll with ya know. My intention is to keep this educational if that is possible.