Lol@ cambulada Dhaaf! After reading it for like an 1 hour(1 word per 5 mins ... it was qosol, walah my calool is hurting.

Nazra, I had the same problem, 2 times. The last guy was old, he was about the same age as the guy you described(33 years)...hence he was too old for me. But anyways, I finally managed to have him stop calling me several times a day and I didn't want to change my number. I talked to him, and told him to stop calling me and that I have no interest in him ...in a firm voice. If you talk to guys softly when you don't want them they'll think you are just trying to play hard to get. So, he finally leaved me alone.You have to confront them...if you keep running away, they'll never stop messing with you.

Modesty, are you saying that YOU are not judgemental? No. I haven't written that anywhere. I'm simply addressing the ills of what "I" see in our culture. Let me make it clear that I am not hating on my own culture, as I have SOMALI written on my somali forehead But, I guess that's life, you just have to address it, and move on because nothing will ever be perfect.I'm sure there are lots of "civilized" somalis all over the world.

Sky thanks for exposing yourself, and how bigotted you are. Hence you've proven my point that if you don't have their views...you are outcasted.Look, you have no right to tell us we aren't somali, we know we are somali, but that doesn't make any difference because we are people with our own personal views. You can disagree with my argument, but you don't have to tell me what I am or am not. Don't get personal

People in these societies don't have any choice but to conform to these norms. So, if they have the money they go for that plastic surgery. They apply all these cosmetic products they don't need. Muslim women aren't left unaffected either, look at most of the muslim girls, they often wear tight skirts with tight top, little burka or hijab with make-up. So, even if you are muslim, you can be affected by these "beauty norms". Muslim guys are affected too, because they look at women who fit this bill, or they are always running from girl to girl to find the "perfect one" but then realize their is no perfection...same with girls.

salaam, I just posted a reply about this(lol). But, on a serious note, I find the majority of somalis I come into contact with to be very judgemental. For example, if they see a girl wearing "modest" pants, they will give dirty looks, and I had many girls tell me this. Why? because it is considered a "unlady like" in our culture. I don't think a person should be judged for how they dress but their character as a person, because there are alot of girls who are clad in burkas that are vile and act "unislamic" to say the least. I am not against hijab here, don't get me wrong, I'm trying to make my point(i'm a hijab supporter:)) Secondly, if you hang out with people who are non-somalis they assume you don't like them. I personally like hanging out with non-somalis, and the majority of my "new crew" are non-somalis because I live around stuck up somalis that look unapproachable. Thirdly, if you speak english around them, even if you speaking with another individual, they start saying "speak somali"..I find that rude because I don't think anyone has the right to tell others what language to speak...especially if they aren't speaking with them.Also, aside from being judgemental, somalis don't smile...lol..didn't the prophet Muhammad(saw) say smiling to your muslim brethren is charity.Yet, non-muslims are always smiling, doing what we should be doing. Furthermore, somalis(by saying "somalis" I mean hard core ones straight off the bannana boat) don't say "thanks", if you do them a favor(especially the women)...they assume you are ****** , and they fooled you because they are more "clever" than you.Also, somalis are more nicer to foreigners than their own people...and why do they want to ask "what qabiil are you ?at the bus stop even though they don't know you. I know I made lots of generalizations, but the truth of the matter is these so-called generalizations are very visible in our community. I know culture has it's flaws, but it's always good to address them so that we (individually) can make some changes to improve our lot to become better human beings and muslims.

I don't understand why Somalis are hostile towards somalis who speak english to eachother. I speak english better than somali. Doesn't make me less of a person. I think the majority of people with those kind of views are people who are recent comers to the West that still have their rigid views of the world, and those who don't speak english at all. Even though I understand some somalis(new comers especially) might consider speaking english to be "ilbaxnimo", but at the same time I think we shouldn't be judgemental.Somalis are the most judgemental people on Earth, they always want you to conform to their norms, if not they make you an outcast. That is why I like being in the west because I can be who I am

Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem! Subhana'Allah. That made me sick to my stomach, and as I saw the toilet where the incidence happened my eyes filled with tears. Allah, gaalo mahaystaan imaan, wa worst than bahal. I pray to Allah for the family of this innocent boy to find this predator. As Somalis, we have to tell our children about predators, we have to tell them how to protect themselves. Why do they need to send kids to daycare, they should be with their children at home. Sending our children to the kafirs this is what we get, our children lose our culture, religion, and worst of all they get moldested, subhana'Allah. These are sick people, and I pray they get their punishment. I wouldn't trust my child with anyone, especially guys.

I don't understand why shyness is treated like a disease. Everyone doesn't need to be outgoing and loud to be a good human being and become successful. I personally think people who talk frivolously are so superficial.In America, there is the saying "strongest survives", so in order to be seen as strong, one must act loud and social and step on everyone else like a ladder. Where is the compassion in this? Everyone in society doesn't have to be loud and outgoing, people come in different packages. I think shy people are really smart and deep. Being shy doesn't mean you can't achieve your goals and be successful. I know alot of people who beat themselves for not meeting societies expectation of what "normal" is. I think "normal" is crazy if you ask me. My point is, be who you are and if someone doesn't like you for that, they aren't important to begin with. I used to always worry about what people thought about me, I tried to mirror my life according to what the community expected from me, and I faced many disappointments because of it. I learned that people are complex, and to be happy with who you are you have to please yourself, and be happy with who you are without hurting other people in the process, since as muslims we must be considerate of others. If you're shy, good for you!

Asalaamu Alaykum...this is a funny article that discusses why Americans don't wash their **** after defecating, and one American man's discovery of cleanliness. Ain't it great to be muslim, at least we don't have feces stuck to our undergarments. ___________________________________________- America’s Unwashed Assholes: Those who eat, also shit. Up until about ten months ago, I knew of only one way to shit: the American Way. In the American Way of shitting, you sit on a toilet, defecate, and then wipe your *** clean with dry toilet paper. Very simple. However, there is one problem with this American Way: it does not work very well. Even after repeated wipings with fresh dry toilet paper, some of the fecal matter that passed thru the asshole remains sticking to the body. By following the American Way, one of the end results is dirty underwear. Over the years, I had heard the phrase dirty underwear said by others and also used in the media. Although I had never heard anyone say exactly what they meant by dirty underwear, I always understood it to be a reference to underpants with shit smears, since, after all, my own underpants after a shit typically had shit smears by the next day, becoming dirty underwear in need of washing. Searching the Internet for the phrase dirty underwear, I came across confirming statements including the following: … after 12 years of marriage one of my biggest challenges is getting the shit stains outta his underwear …[19] With middle age comes changes: both the mind and the body decline in various ways. I entered middle age about a month after my 41st birthday, undergoing the various bodily changes—such as a decrease in how much the bladder can empty—that are described in the medical literature. Also, in my first month of middle age, my former ability to do mental work about 70 hours per week—in my case, programming work—rapidly declined to about 40 hours per week (after I had experienced this mental-work decline, which has remained unchanged since then, I understood where the 40-hour work-week came from). Although for the most part the big middle-age changes that I experienced happened to me in that first month of middle age, there have been a few lesser changes that have happened in the last few years. One of these lesser changes was that I was apparently becoming intolerant to the leftover fecal matter that remained after wiping with dry toilet paper. In an effort to address this problem I searched the Internet and learned that the majority of the people in the world use water to clean their asses after shitting. In Europe, for example, the bidet is used for this purpose. For my problem I concluded that I needed to wash with water, like the majority of the people in the world were already doing. The problem for me was how to do this, since my own bathroom, like most bathrooms in America, does not have a bidet or its equivalent. While pondering this problem roughly ten months ago, I was about to sit on the toilet and take a shit when I had an idea: use the toilet-bowl water (for those who don’t know, the standard American toilet bowl, which one sits over when shitting, has a lot of water in it, which is replaced with fresh water each time one flushes the toilet). After briefly thinking about my idea I decided to try it: I shitted as usual, wiped off with toilet paper as usual, and flushed as usual; then I did something that I had never done before: I reached my hand down into the toilet-bowl water (I felt very strange doing this the first time), scooped water into my hand, raised it to my *** (specifically, the asshole and surrounding region), and used my fingers (primarily my index finger) to rub the area clean (repeatedly scooping more water as needed while doing this). When done, I flushed the toilet again, and then went to the sink and washed my hands as usual. After that first time I quickly settled on the procedure that I have been following since, which is the same as already described except with an added cleaning around a wider area after that second flush (this second flush and cleaning follows the initial flush and cleaning that focused primarily on the asshole and its immediate surrounding area).[20] The first time that I cleaned with water the result was so good and so immediate that there was no turning back. My problem was solved. And as a side-benefit I no longer had dirty underwear (it took me a few months before I realized that there was no reason to keep changing my underpants at the old rate). So, how many Americans use water, at least to some extent, to clean themselves after shitting? A recent new-product announcement by a major manufacturer of toilet paper provides some numbers: Research conducted by Kimberly-Clark shows that consumers agree that moist methods clean and freshen better than dry toilet paper alone. The results of a recent Kimberly-Clark survey showed that 63% of respondents have used a moist cleansing method after toileting and one out of four use a moist cleansing method on a daily basis. [An AP news article, New Toilet Paper To Be Introduced, by David Koenig, put it this way: The company surveyed 2,000 consumers and found that 63 percent of them occasionally used something wet—often a baby wipe or regular toilet paper sprinkled with water—after going to the toilet. About a quarter did it daily.] [21] Thus, it seems that the majority of Americans typically do not use any water to clean themselves after shitting. Once again Americans are peculiar when compared to the rest of the world. And once again the explanation is the concentration of wealth: America’s unwashed assholes contribute to the concentration of wealth in many ways, including: More toilet paper is sold, because without using water a lot of toilet paper is needed just to get partially clean. More laundry detergent is sold as underpants are washed more frequently to remove those shit stains. More associated cleaning and deodorizing products are sold as people try to compensate for the effects of having unremoved fecal matter on their bodies and clothing. Both the government schools and the American media are completely silent on this subject of using water to clean oneself after shitting. Thus, the widespread ignorance, including my own recent ignorance, on this subject. The reason that there is never any information about cleaning with water after shitting is because cleaning with water is free. In America, when something that is free and effective competes with alternative products that cost more, then either that free product is criminalized or it gets the silent treatment.

There is no muslim country. No country in the world is running things according to Islam. However, living among your muslim brethren is 100% better than living among kaffirs as sitting ducks. They have no love for you, they seek to convert your children and they hope to eradicate Islam. Ngonge...I think you fit the perfect example of "Uncle Tom" muslim, and you've been sucking the breasts of capitalism so long that you can't tell the difference between kufr and Islam.You said the "kufaar are nice people", how could you say that when they are torturing our brothers and sisters? Subhan'Allah! Allah subhana' wata3ala said: Allah (swt) said: "O you who believe, do not take the kafireen as awliyaa' instead of the Believers, do you wish to take Allah as a proof against you?" [Qur 4: 144]. They haven't helped us by bringing us to their lands...they are the ones who destroyed our lands.Do you think you can compete with a white man today? I don't think so.As muslims we must follow the concept of walaa wal baraa. To love and hate for the sake of Allah. We must have love (al-muwalaat) for the muslims. This means we must love: -To keep close to them - To befriend - To accompany - To help - To respect - To elevate - To have alliance with - To support for our muslim brethren! We must have al-baraa (hatred) for kufr, kufaar and shirk for the sake of Allah.We must distance ourselves from their kufr, we must not love them and love having them as company. However as Allah mentions in the Quran: "Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loves those who are just." [Qur 60: 8] This means even though we despise their taghoot filth we still must treat them justly (those who don't seek to harm us).

Totally unislamic. You know the problem with "muslims" these days is they try to do everything to fit in and be accepted by non-muslims..and that is why muslims are humiliated everyday. They shouldn't say "a muslim woman" because she doesn't look like a muslim woman. Being muslim isn't saying you are, it's about acting like a muslim...not by name only. Subhan'Allah! They are trying to change islamic by attempting to lure muslim women to be more "free" a.k.a walk around naked around the hood. They can take there freedom and shove it where the sun don't shine!

One Palestinian said...the move will not make a difference because they're taking them from a smaller jail to a bigger jail where they can continue to oppress the native people of the land (a.k.a Palestinians). But, I really hope this at least helps the Palestinian people in a good way.Allahu Calam.

Rendevous, I was in a hurry when I typed that question, and I did go to the above link. I was wondering actually if loose fitting pants were prohibited actually...b/c skirts are hard in the winter I think.

Salaamu alaykum, My attitude has changed recently. I became more quieter, and less social. My aunt told me few days ago, that I've changed. She suspects that someone might have put some type of "sorcery" on me. I do believe this exists. I have a few people that I think might do this to me. I'm kind of scared at the same time I feel paranoid about the whole situation especially when my aunt made me realize the changes that were happening to me. Is there any that of religious person I should consult with? Thanks.

Salaamu alaykum, May Allah grant him Jannah and his family and all the muslims , amiin. The first time I heard of this shiekh was this link I came across accidently, it was a debate between him and a priest. Masha'Allah, the way he was talking I instantingly took a likely to him. I heard he was sick. Again, may Allah take him to Jannah, he has worked for Islam and the ummah.

Salaamu Alaykum, I certainly disagree with Dr.Badawi. I don't think we should remove our hijabs for the kuffar, that means they have won. They want to destroy Islam, and the most visible thing is the hijab. We have to be strong in our religion,we must obey the laws of Allah. I don't fear no one but Allah, and during these times when the muslim ummah is going through hardships and trial, the only thing we can do is remain steadfast in Islam. Warrior of Light, I am so glad you shared that story. Ever since I started wearing hijab, I've been facing so many trials. I don't even look at them anymore, I've received dirty looks, sometimes others just say "hi" to me (which is ok, but kinda creepy,lol), but you know what, ever since I've been wearing my hijab I've developed so much confidence and strength, and I feel as though nothing but Allah can stop me in whatever I decide to do in my life. I always remember life is a test, and if I want Jannat Firdaws, I'm going to have to face all my tests and win, Insha'Allah. Brothers and Sisters, stay strong in Islam, sisters wear your hijab, pray 5 times a day. Have trust in Allah, and Allah will always protect you. With the protection of Allah, nothing can haraam you. Always know Allah is there with you, Allah knows what is in your heart, and Allah loves those who are obiedient and greatful to him. Allah bless us all...ameen.

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Thanks Haddad! I'll try that, and tell ya how it works out.

Salaamu alaykum and Hi, I want to download the Quran using my iPOD, but i don't know how to. Can someone e-mail me or tell me what to do. ANy nomads here know that? HELP!

Lexus fun topic. Ok, here goes: 1. Most guys like women who smell good, and obviously bathe 2. Most guys like girls who burp in front of them

The weddings off!! Brother is broke

I'm not trying to be a party pooper, but what does climbing a mountain accomplish? Instead of climbing mountains, maybe people should be helping starving families in Niger

Well, I've just discovered this topic is 6 years old, and I guess I wasted my "advicing", super!!

Salaam, I can't believe I missed this topic. Fartuun, never be ashamed or embarrassed to ask questions, that is how you learn. I would advice you to not kiss your "boyfriend" before you marry him. I might be older than you,and a bit "experienced" in life, but a guy you kiss will not most likely end up marrying you(that is if he is somali ).Secondly, kissing a man who is not married to you is haraam( that means it's forbidden), and you should always try to do things that please your creator Allah instead of pleasing boyfriends and whoever. Thirdly, if your "boyfriend" truly loves you, he would respect you by not lashing his tongue out at you Hope that helped.