*Blessed;870227 wrote: Lol aaliyah, hubaalka xageed ka keentay? Ma maxkabadaha ayaad la fadhiisatay or just repeating sheeko xaawaley? It's more pravalent in Europe because Somali mothers balwad qaad ayay barteen oo caruurtii ku dayaceen, exposing them to all sorts of risk. haa blessed maxkamadaha ayaan la fadhiistay social workerskana shekadooda ayaan gunta ka gaadhey LOL..just kidding. But, seriously sis I doubt those kids who are being taken from their family are being taken for the sole purpose of their safety. Waan huba galada inay rabaan umada muslimka ah in ay caruurta dalow ka tuuraan oo dhaqanka iyo diintaba ka fogeeyaan lacagna ku qataan haday rabaan. As for the Khat issue..islamuhuna ma cunaan? taas waa dhib. Qof qamri cabaya, sigaar buufinaya, ama khat cunaya ilmo ma korsan karo. Ilaahay dhibtaas intey haysato haka dul qaado.

Apophis, this world is a test. If God punished us for every mistake we did none of us would be here. Rather, we were given a mind to decide our actions and we will be accountable for the choices we make in the here-after.. Juxa, wow sis. That lady was probably insane. So did they take her kids to a foster family? I hope they ended up with a relative.

^ Neither do we know the full story of any of those single moms who lost their kids to the system so it wouldn't be wise to make judgement and go as far as saying they deserve to lose their kids. It is a given that if a mother neglects her child she shouldnt be a parent, but at the end of the day who can prove all these somali single moms are not fit to be a parent and that they neglected their kids? And, even if they did neglected their kids in some way. Those mothers are better than some foster family who doesn't share with that kid his/her culture, religion and way of life. That child will not benefit anything from going to a foster home "noloshii uun buu ka dhacaya".and those who are rushing to say oh we would have actually snatched the kids away from some particular moms..I am just wondering what are the alternative you have for them? labo wayeel oo cadcad in aad carurtaa u geesaan iyo eeygooda. Anyhow, ilaahay dhulkeeni ha nugu celiyo asago nabad ah. When people decide to make a decision to raise kids abroad they have to know the kind of things they can confront with..it is not as easy as it was back home. Ilaahay hano gargaaro.

Let me ask you this sisters..what's your take on that video that I posted where two hard working parents' kids were taken away or let me put it this way "snatched away"? where is that system that you ladies speak of? that system wasn't applied in this case althou i dont think this happens to families whose fathers are present for the most part but it does shed some light. And, I am not here to say that those single moms are fit to be a parent or are not for that matter. I wouldn't know. But, simply how do we know if that legal processes or that system was actually applied to them? especially when many of those single moms don't know much about the system itself? They don;t have the right tools to speak for themselves. Who are we to say they deserved to lose their kids. As for social workers I do agree that it is a respectable job. I have never said it wasn't.We are actually in need of many somali social workers so they can be the voice for their people especially the single moms. Laakin waxa hubaal ah social workers in ay caruurta somaliyeed ee marba gurgigooda ka kaxeenayaan ee gaalo kale gacanta u galinayaan inay wax ugu jirto. It is part of their job. Especially in europe, these type of stories seem to be more prevalent there.

Madaxweyneheeni hore shiekh Sharif shiekh ahmed iyo madaxweynaheena cusub hassan shiekh mohamud labaduba waxay jeediyeen khudbado dhaxalgal ah. Mashallah. Somalia nabad, midnimo iyo horumar ayaan u rajaynaya.

It is not always the case that a mother neglected her child. Many mothers don't even know the language of their adopted country and hardly adjusted to that culture. In many times it is simly misundertanding (wasn't maryan mursal just saying that her kids fought and the school thought it was her abusing her daughter and she didnt know dannish she had to get a translator)..Not to mention as maryan said the parenting method is different, what is consdiered abuse in qurbaha isn't seen in the same light back home. Tan kale galada badana waxay ka faideestaan reer kala daadsan oo runtii caruurtana uma daneenayaan ee caruur gurigooda laga kaxeeyo ay shaqo ka dhigteen oo horta dawlad lacag soma ku siiso waxan social worker isku sheega. Caruurteeni aya business laga digtey Anyways, there are also times where both parents are present and hard working and it is simply racism. Watch this clip althou im sure this isnt common it is usally single moms that find themselves in this situation.. One heart breaking video...

Jacpher;869964 wrote: Children #1, Dogs #2, Women #3, Men #4, rag maxaa helay. :D Inta badan Raga so jeeda ee shaqadooda iyo xilkooda kaso baxa waxan agtooda kama shaqeeyaan. Kii maqan ee war hayn ayaa lugu dhaha caruur baa number one dumar baa number 3 adaa number 4. Waa meshuu qofwalba is dhigo.

In north America the kids are not placed with families who have the same culture. Are you telling me in the UK they take kids from somali families and take them to another somali family?..From what I heard here the mothers usually lose in touch with their kids and have no clue who the kids are placed under (highly unlikely they are muslims let alone somalis) As for solving this issue, I think we need more parenting classes. Like Maryan mursal suggested although her suggestion was that the foster families should have some parenting skills..I think the real parents need classes so they can provide better life for their kids. Especially the fathers and like she pointed out whatever worked back home doesn't work here. (althou I dont really believe the whole exaggerated sweet talking your kids) but at least you should be friendly and set some rules. Balance it out. Last but not least, the family that has a strong hard working father usually wont find themselves in such situation. So there is no need for foster caregivers, simply give the parents the right skills to do their job better. A caregiver will never replace a mother..it's a given.

I have heard of few similar stories. I can't imagine a worse thing that can happen to a parent than their precious child being snatched away from them. Qurbo iyo dhibtiisi. My heart goes out to all the families that find themselves in such circumstance. Ilaahow u gargaar. P.s inkasto aan ku racsanahay in abaha qayila iyo hoyada ilmaheeda dayacasa istahishu in caruurteeda laga qaado waxaad ogataan in ilmahaas gaalo lo geenayo waxkasta ka darantahay. Odeygaas qayilmaya iyo hoyada wax dayacasa ama kala dadsan wax uga fiican ma jiro.Tan kale markay leedahay ta logeenayo shahado ha haysato..shahada maxay tari? marka ilmahas dhaqan iyo diinba laga halaabinayo. Ilaahay hano sahlo.

Blue you are absolutely right abt coconut oil I have always loved that oil. Castor oil is another great oil. Thanks for your input abt the coconut milk I will definitely try it As for your hair structure changing is it possible that you relaxed it in the past.If thats the case shave your hair you might get your real texture back. PS it is true that sunlight helps with hair growth as a hijabi I doubt my hair gets much of it

I was actually planning to go to sallys. I wanted to get magnetic rollers and giovani (sp)leave in conditioner. I'll add these two to my list. Thanks narniah

Mma you are generalizing walal I am sure what Somali sisters demand from the reverts or Somalis would vary depending on the financial situation of that guy in question and the girl's personal choice. I'm sure it has nothing to do with him being a revert or somali. Just the same way many Somalis get angry when some girls insult their Somali brothers it wouldn't be fair to see all revers in the same light know that I'm in no way encouraging one to marry nonsomali. You can even see my posts as far back as five years ago pointing out that I prefer my Somali men. I'm merely saying let's be fair and respect people's choices. Somalis have been living abroad for more than 20 years their values are bound to change although as Somalis it is really gradual not that many Somalis be it men or women marry outside their ethnicity. Ilama aha sheeko sa usi ridan I'm typing from my cell I hope that editing thingy didn't edit my words.Sometimes that auto edit changes my words completely lol

madaxweyne mudane Hassan has abt a month from the election to announce his PM. You will just have to wait and see

I am sure Oba meant well when he said that. Laakin xoga way ka yara qaldantay...cadaanka qudhooda shouldn't be seen as "hit and run" as he puts it. Women should be respected regardless of their race, ethnicity. You should treat them all as you would love your sister to be treated. After all those ladies are someone's daughters, sister etc I am also glad that you Oba think highly of your somali sisters. That's great. I hope gabadhaha somaliyeed inay ogadaan qimahooda yaguna. Diinta iyo dhaqankuba waa na sharfay. Blessed, waa runta gob deserves gob. Good women are for good men and vice versa. Sida quraankuba sheegay. Qofki wanaagsan ilaahay ma dayacayo.

Che -Guevara;869261 wrote: Marriage is an institution that has outlived its usefulness. lool@todoba.....do people write essays on their todobo experience? What does that even mean?? an institution that has outlived its usefulness? care to elaborate on that?..

Ms MoOns;868112 wrote: Jazak'Allahu khairan everyone, with all the advices, really appreciate it I can now officially say that I'm a married woman, alhamdulilah. Todobada waa ka soo baxay, survived that with nobody getting hurt lool @Garnaqsi: We've known each other for 2 years prior getting married @Raula: Ofcourse my family knew about it. LOL Mashallah sis good to know everything worked out. so did you have a party? I think somalis have a party 7 days after their wedding (not that it is necessary but I guess for somalis it means something ).. P.s Hambalyo marlabaad. Cimri dheer iyo farxad ku nolaada.

lol@biyo-biyeeso oo bisinka uqabo. In other words, for sure you can't go wrong with revert but Somali man...dee dani meel ku dhigtay You took the question to the next level. Ragga xaa dhulka loogu jiidi? LOL@dani meel ku dhigtey. Seriously, anyone can go wrong on a revert or a somali guy. It all boils down to that person. But, for some like myself it is easier to stick to your ethnicity especially if you are cultured. For others they don't put such a emphasis on culture especially when they were not exposed to their culture, language etc..and they see themselves married to other races (I seen girls go i dont even speak somali so who cares if he doesnt). Kudos to them for their choice. The somali community simply needs to be more accepting to them. That way maybe many of them would stop justifying their actions and just say "this is my dookh simple".

Shiekh Sharif si wanaagsan ayuu maalinti dhoweed ee doorasahda u hadlay. Waa nin mudan in lugu daydo. Wuu mahadsanyahay. Madaxwaynaha cusubna mudan Hassan Shiekh mohamud guul ayaan u rajaynaya nin wanaagsan ayuu ila egyahay oo kaso baxaya xilka la saaray. Hambalyo marlabaad.

well put Taleex. People from Khaatumo are more united than ever. All the isimo of khaatumo unanimously support their state. Khaatumo State of somalia guul badan ayeey bilo gudaheed kusoo hoyatay, inta wax ka badana waan ka filanan mustaqbalka. Guul inshallah. Umad walbana waxaan kla talin laha intaada ka adkow oo ku joog. In la isku xad gudbo waa qalad.

Keep that beautiful Somali flag waving. Mashallah. Waa laga baxaya duruufaha lugu jiro. Guul Khaatumo iyo Somalia Thank you Akhadar for the post.

Xaaji Xunjuf;868940 wrote: Who is he? If you haven't heard of him. Dr Hashi is from Khaatumo State of Somalia particularly my hometown laascaanod.

^ LOL.@ magnifier. Miskiinka Khaatumo bay kaga dhagtay.

From all the videos that I watched there was never anything that warranted that I do research on him. But, insha'allah I will ask around. I will also note that even if he does say at times things that are unislamic we can still heed to the good things that he preaches - and the rest leave it to Allah swt.

oba hiloowlow;869065 wrote: Aliyyah that man is extreme walahi he is creating divisions among the Muslims plus he once said kaffirs are less than animals the man is extreme yuu ku maarin habaabin I am yet to see anything that he says that's extreme in anyway. But, if he does say things that are against our islamic teachings then inshallah I would pay more attention before I heed to his words. But, so far he seems to be an amazing daa'i