ONE OR TWO ON FEMINISTS

[Abtigiis]

One or Two on Feminists

 

Addis Ababa University female students organised a two-day discussion forum on the rights of girl students’ vis-à-vis male students; and specifically on the issue of ‘coffee-ceremonies' in its campuses in 1995. There is this culture where female students come into the dormitories of the boys and prepare ‘coffee’ while studying and doing assignments. Some girls said that because of the time it takes - (on average a typical Ethiopian Coffee ceremony will take 2-3 hours as it is obligatory to do the three rounds known as Abool, Tonna and Baraka) - they are distracted and the male are taking advantage of them. Some ascribed their weak academic performance to it. The forum discussion was intended to brainstorm on the issue, recommend solutions and strategise on common way of enforcing decisions to be passed.

 

But it became comical. The girls were divided; some came up and thanked the male students for organising such stress-reducing ceremonies. One after another, tall and graceful girls stood up in the meeting and heaped praise on the boys for being sensitive, and has even gone as far as saying that it is the boys who lose time trying to help the girls do their assignments in most cases. Few short and old-aged (more of woman than girl), challenged the assertion and tearfully called for ‘common front’ against male exploitation. It was quite clear from the meeting that positions on the issue largely depended, inter alia, on beauty, age, and height.

 

The meeting turned into a commotion with the Pro-Coffee ceremony girls (now a clear majority) accusing the grumpy ‘unwanted’ girls of jeopardising the ‘sisterly-brotherly’ relations between female and the male students. Undeterred by the resentful cries and sobbing of the ugly girls (who are the fore-runners of all feminist movements- as usual), the meeting passed a four point resolution:

 

• That the sacred coffee ceremony must be encouraged to flourish

• That those who lobbied against it are losers who used the issue to pursue their cases against boys who refused to call them for these sessions.

• That a committee of five girls led by Betty ( the prettiest girl in the campus) deliver an apology to the male students committee and to throw a party to erase any bad-feelings boys might have felt because of this uncalled for forum

• And finally to issue a condemnation of ‘ugly’ and ‘bitter’ girls who are overcompensating for the pain they feel inside-as the result of rejection by male- by sponsoring frivouls discussions under the guise of ‘women’s rights, equality and feminism’.

 

One male student commented when woman agree among themselves on how they see us, then let us sit and discuss what is amiss. As it looks now, we don’t need to defend ourselves.

 

A later investigation found out that apart from colleges, in work places and the real worls, there is a similar pattern in the composition of feminists. Divorced, spinsters, and those with bad love-life tend to occupy 85% of those who shout for ‘imaginary’ equality between men and female. As if the unique creations of each of us doesn’t warrant certain limitations in what each of us can do and can’t do!

[N.O.R.F]

^^I hope you've got a helmet at the ready

[Cara.]

My guess is you have to write 10 trashy and juvenile articles or stories for every 1 decent article or story. I suppose it's worth it, so carry on.

[Abtigiis]

^^^This will tell me who is who, at least! The unmistakable pattern!

[N.O.R.F]

^^Told you

[Abtigiis]

Hayeh, Cara kow dheh!

[Cara.]

Really Abtigiis, you're not going to get a raise out of me since you didn't even try for subtlety.

 

"Feminists are ugly and bitter, pretty girls are submissive and grateful, har har har". Very original and thought-provoking, that.

 

I just find it surprising that you spend so much time on this kind of "Bridget Jones' Diary"/"Sex and The City" stuff, doesn't it get as boring for you as it gets for the reader?

[Abtigiis]

At least i know pretty girls don't churn in rage about men!

 

The other criticism lacks substantive evidence! I talked about things that could be deemed 'what you described' on only two occassions.

[Paragon]

Ama Afeef hore lahoow, amba adkaysi dambe .

 

*Goes off to get his Bun iyo Qaloon

[Abtigiis]

Adkaysi is not in the issue. Afartan haweenka ah ee meesha looga caagay waa la iska celin! maxay yihiin???????

 

No bad feelings to anyone, but it is unacceptable how men feel so disempowered for fear of accusations of you are this and you are that!

 

The piture Cara painted is sad, but unfortunately true! Runty ma fantaa?? 80% of ultra-feminists are ugly, divorced, had bad love-life and so on!!Let us accept it and then move on!

 

that is not to say there are no issues in women rights; but that there should be no ready made solution to problems that essentially are different!

[Ms DD]

Qaloon? What on earth is that Mr P?

 

Why do men feel threatened by feminists?

[Cara.]

Real men aren't Ms DD.

[Paragon]

^Cara, as Abtigii is saying, 'real women' arent bothered about feminism, either? Something, eh?

 

MsDD, hello. Qaloon is popcorn in NFD lahjad .

 

Abtigiis, hal bacaad lagu lisay yeyan kaa noqon, adeer . But by all means, iska celi .

[Abtigiis]

Originally posted by Ms DD:

Why do men feel threatened by feminists? [/QB]

No one is threatned. But we are fed up of the whinnings of grumpy women. Real women are enjoying life and its sweets; not wandering in coffee shops talking about trivialities, and declaring slogans!

[Ms DD]

So the question is ..what is 'real' woman and man?

 

Qaloon: Will make a note in my little dictionary.

 

Abtigiis: Who is this 'we'? in the we are fed up sentence? you and who?