Don’t you know Ghanimo loves hairy men? And Somali man are not hairy enough sadly

Ps exchanging food in Ramadan and EID enough? Or should we start having tea with them by first initiating the first visit to out homes? Or is the act of exchanging food enough to satisfy thy shall love my neighbour principal?

Ghanimo then I have one thing to say to you since am one of those who never return a phone call, don’t ever change do continue calling million times you just never know you might save your friends life one day hell we need you even though we don’t let you know….…but waiting for a week before you choose to intervene do you think that’s bad? Or more important when should you intervene? I know there is a thin line between nosy neighbour and looking out for you, so where should we draw the line…. Since we are living in a society that values privacy what price are we paying in its maintenance?

Did I tell you that I leave with my sis….. Yes and my brother and sis-in law down the road who will notice my absence yes, and my mum and dad and bunch of sis-brothers whom am close to who ring me everyday to exchange the daily gossips! So thanks Ng I don’t need a dog yet, there costly and stinky not to mention haram Ghanimo, you die and no one notices it or mourns you that’s just a sad life lived don’t you think I would like to think there will be scores of people who turn up and mourn me and miss me so terrible and alhamdhulilah I have those people…. But I do understand its polite to say hello to my neighbour but I choose not to hell they are the same as me, as for the Islamic duty of visiting ones extended family maybe you guys are better people than me but I simply don’t have time or that’s what I tell myself 2days that’s all Saturday and Sunday how can you cramp all the things you have to do at the same time visit that cousin who gave birth, the other who is getting married, yes the aunt who wants help with filling an application etc? But take me out of the equation, as Dahl, stated its easy to fall in the reclusive trap especially in the west so can you balance your Islamic duty and your career/education/lifestyle? Is it easy said that done to give up your 2free days to go and visit the extended families/call them when you get back to work or are you finding your self more and more defining family the western way ie whatever my father and mother produced and you limit that Islamic duty to them only? Ghanimo you say you know your e neighbour and say hello, is that it or are you active ie will you notice there absence/ if there sick etc do you talk to them apart from hello do you have tea with them? I mean these are things I used to do back home, we use to go to my neighbours and exchange foods sometimes but hi enough with the questions for now can I get some answers or experiences or your take without throwing why don’t you… Ps since its ok not to return phone calls immediately these days from friends or family when is it ok for you to get worried and give them a visit?

I have just found out that a work colleague of mine died, she apparently bumped her head on Christmas eve went to the hospital and came back home and yesterday the neighbour noticed the TV was still on and they have not seen her… they called the police and found her body in there…I cant believe it are we so detached on each others lives that we don’t even notice when one of us dies? Don’t get me wrong living by myself is something I love and enjoy but these just shocked me to the core… what if? I know its easy to fall of from the communication bandwagon esp with some peopl due to your hectic life style, I also know it’s a growing trend now that people are not that bothered when someone does not reply back to a text or phone call for days but should we get worried? Especially if they leave by themselves should we go and see them? Ps do you even know your neighbour anymore? Do you talk to them? Are you involved in there life I mean enough to know when something is amiss? I am known for always saying I don’t want to talk to my neighbour I don’t know you and don’t want to I adopted the just because we leave near each other don’t mean we have to forge some sort of relations attitude now am just taken back…. p.s.s I was listening to the same thing today morning on BBC 94.9 on my way to work they were talking about the growing lonely people who die and have no one to mourn them or come to claim there bodies, is these part and parcel with modern life or living in a cosmopolitan city? Not long ago I was informed of a Somali young guy who moved to Canada lived with his girlfriend who was not Somali, he died after a car accident and since she did not know his family she buried him and the guys family who lived around the area didn’t even know until 3months down the line... The family were deprived of seeing there son buried according to deenta… it seems this is not a one off incident but emerging in different forms…. I hate nosy neighbours and relatives etc and employ different methods to avoid them at all cost, my hoyo even screams at me about these she always says don’t call me if you didn’t not even bother to visit or speak to my brother who lives in same city as you and I reply by saying I don’t have time am busy I even tell her don’t give my number out to them…. In haste to cut of contact from people who might be just looking out for us are we placing ourselves in danger? I know a lot of young Somalis these days do the same thing so What if it’s us? As for me well I think I will knock on my neighbour house today and say hello and happy New Year! Who knows if I form a relationship with them they just might notice if I don’t come out of my flat tomorrow morning….

Forget the shades @ KK am sorry but the curtains ohh my the curtains….how could you expose those hideous things to the public ohh my those curtains are shameful.com……..waar stop talking about Snet and chav and clean that room first…. Ps your message is not worth commenting on!

Yaa ku dhalay? omg i cant stop lol @ that

high levels of apathy of somali community leaders and so-called intelligensia who claim to have all the answers and yet sit there and do nothing (members of SOL). Now that’s just hilarious

I have a suspicious felling that such is not the case…. mhh ohh well, as for the arrange business I shall reserve my comments for now

PS. Woman have always outnumbered men that could be one of the reasons why we need to accomodate one onother PS. Woman have always outnumbered men that could be one of the reasons why we need to accomodate one onother What do you mean by “accommodate one another?”

Jim don’t worry I am well aware of that….it fits me like a Cinderella shoe! Mhhh Dahi- wasonjo hawa itaji kutishwa zaidi tayari wana matatezo ya waswas Ps Jac that’s a ceeb word go and wash your mouth with detol yaroow!

"^No wonder you call yourself cynical lady." :rolleyes: your point is? ps Dah, mwenzako ana pega mdomo leo ehi Bob maliza basi hiyo stori

they are your brothers now alright thanks to the females in your family... its so easy to blame everything on the woman folks eh

Matatezo ya Africa haya! Corruption and greedy leaders, most of my family is now making way to the boarders this is madness yani siamini bado 250 people dead some killed with machetes, if these is not genocide in the making I don’t know what is… I just pray it dies out soon Ps Viking is there on holiday I hope him and his family are safe!

Could not agree more @ Blessed the numbers of Somali girls marrying outside is a small %, we should not approach this issue as a soaring new phenomenon in the community which seems to be the theme in Sol. Ps its also best to remember that somali woman outnumber somali man out there, in these case marrying non-somali becomes an option but in our community I see a growing second wife, 3rd wife than woman marrying outside….so is it worth to somali man bash? Don’t get me I sometimes relish in bashing them, but most of the problems are not exclusive to Somali man most of the woman suffer from the same problems even worse in some instances

You can say that again but my question is why?

Bloody hell, every thread in sol is Somali man this Somali man that? Why the dedication of threads? Ps it has become fashionable to somali man bash these days, threads are complaining about everything about somali man from there clothes-breath-table manners etc… am sure if this ill mannered men decide to find ajnabi girl who will appreciate there short-comings and marry them.. Scores of thread in sol will appear complaining how Somali men are selling out blah blah…. P.s.s I don’t think faith is the issue here, woman are not marrying out because of that, believe me Somali community has wadaad man in abundance. All those man walking around with don’t touch my shoes trousers, come on now surely that’s not the main issue?

Lol Ameen you 2 enjoy it

Today is the last day of 2007 I cant wait to send it off, roll on 6pm please….Happy New Year Folks

Blessed sweety let me draw your attention to what sue said “So why is it that more than often the Somali community tends to call models like Hawa Ahmed, Iman and Waris ugly because they flaunt their skin? Nor is the debate about “I thought the debate was more about her being so skinny and lacking femininity due to her boyish looks? Am fundamental believer in freedom of speech so do rock on but please do read the question before you jump eeh! As for this “your well aware of the size zero debate and the feminist argument that the industry is trying to make women more like men.” Walahi you’re cracking me up Do tell what does the hijabi woman represent? Am in intrigued by the by just because one wears hijab does not mean you cant see her skinny jeans or behind for the matter so do clarify what your referring to when you say there physical features can be seen? Furthermore stop universalising the hijabi claim, yes you choose to look sexy or sensual for your man and cover up but so would another exercise her own freedom of choice to do otherwise and choose to parade what her mama gave her, that’s her choice but who are you to say due to her choice she is ugly or unattractive? And how a woman should be viewed ultimately rest on the individual woman my dear so don’t go on imposing your prejudice on what you regard beautiful just because the other does not share your view or modesty which in itself is tainted I believe Also please you and I both know there some fake hijabis out there that don’t like wearing hijabs especially in Arab/Somali communities for reasons that vary from forced to, I wont get a husband, to that’s the norm… so don’t paint a glory picture for me about sensuality, where was sensuality when the full jalbabi girl opted to strip dance Somali chart rooms please girl “The concepts that the modelling industry is generally built upon to be generally degrading to women. It's glorified prostitution that pushes unhealthy and perverse views of female sexuality. That is ugly!” The statement does not deserve a reply but laughter at the author of it so I shall laugh because it’s truly funny to me anyway, because at the opening line you called me ignorant and now I can’t help but laugh ahh the irony

Today I burnt my hand whilst straightening my hair and now I have an ugly scar staring at me Dam it all

More often than not it’s when your wearing hijaab that you become a sexual object am sorry that to me defeats the notion that hijab makes you beautiful in a halal way, are you saying when one is not wearing hijab they are beautiful in a haraam way? Even in your own words (dabshiid) there BAD, I mean who are you to pass judgement, when did religion leap from a private matter to public crusade especially against unhijabi woman, how many mahadaro I have seen that makes a point in attacking this woman …..my darling sue this reverse psychology especially in our society has penetrated to its own foundation, people deem woman who don’t wear hijabs =sinful, ugly some even go as far as to call them names that I care not to mention…the so called models if they were not stunners on their own right am sure they would not have been as successful as they have become? By stating that this models are not in good health as most hijabis are am sorry that’s just ignorant, I have seen plenty of hijabis who wear the full Ninja to hide there growing overweight issue and god only knows when last they used deodorant, so these girls are skinny does that mean there anorexia? Rich as they are am sure they can afford the gym, nutritionist and since there body is there livelihood they are duty bound to maintain it so how can we assume that they fall short to the hijabis just because there not fat enough? This is all bulshidh, why the comparison between the two I never understand, most importantly a hijabi in skinny jeans and small top and non-hijabi the prior is regarded more beautiful just because she is wearing hijab ohh the hypocrisy Ps why is it in our community hijab defines the person who wears it as good and the one not as bad in all aspect of their lives? It does not matter whether the non-hijabi is a good person has never done anything to warrant her to be called lose or anything, but due to her choice she is deemed so, while the other yes she wears the hijab but she might be committing all sorts of sins under the sun but that piece of material acts as defence? This is bulshidh

Who are the prettiest? What kind of guys do girls prefer? How to give your husband to another woman due to Somali man deficit? Obedient wife? What turns you off on man? London Somali girls? This is clear cry for help, so Please Mr moderator or who ever in charge open a section dedicated to the guurdoon and the early hatchers, so they can bombard it with this kind of threads and not subject us to this…. Bloody hell every section is SOL is being overtaken with this bulshid topics and the poor attempt by the author to hide his/her intentions behind the thread... Why when it’s so obvious... I truly don’t understand. Ps Tukale don’t worry am sure the UK girls will not cry or mourn your departure or your friends and most of UK solers neither knew nor had any knowledge of your existence let alone your departure so you see it matters not…so why don’t you be a good boy and grow up and stop plastering this kinds of foolish topics…

I intend to leave at 12 and not come back that will be my lunch break I guess…. Ps is anyone else doing anything tomorrow for Christmas?