Salaam, I am a very thin sister but somewhere in the middle (lean) and my ayeeyo, hoyoo, habaryar and every other woman I come across in my life always tell me to ''stay that way forever''. Unfortunately some women choose not to procreate because of the threat of losing their figure. :rolleyes: And a lot of Somali women fall prey to the trap of not getting their figures back. Lakiin I think that's all due to the fact that they're too busy taking care of their kids and running errands which leaves no time for them to work out. As for negative body images within our community, I feel that as a woman I am pressured to be thin. It hasn't had any detrimental effects on me alhamdulilah (bulimia, anorexia nervosa, body dysmorphia) but I think there should be support groups for those out there that are too scared to talk about issues with their bodies that they are facing. It's cultural taboo within our community to not talk about the way we feel about ourselves etc and that's probably one of the reasons why we don't see Somali bulimics, anorexics, and obese Somalis. Salaam.

Originally posted by Ghanima: She wanted to give him the money, rather a Somali than anyone else. It reminds me, I was on the bus the other day reading a Islamic book. There was a Muslim brother sitting next to me reading the Quran ( I think he was Somali) anyway Auffur time came and we were still on the bus, so he gets out some dates ( a few in a little plastic bag) and breaks his fast, then he says to me; here break your fast, so I said no thank you, and he kept insisting. Then he offered me sweets, and I was so embarrassed because iskaa uu naastexanye his little dates, thinking miskeenga sooman and he just would not let it go, he kept saying "xaaram sister, you have to break your fast"! Afterwards I was thinking I should've just taken it and avoided the drama. I'm sure I change colours several times! lol Salaam, aw that is cute especially when he said ''xaraam sister''. Wallahi that made me smile. Mashallah.

Originally posted by LayZieGirl: quote:I am sure she knew that by complaining this case would go straight into the main news due to the anti islam stance the media already has against us all. What are you trying to say here? I know you are not putting the blame on the female patient. You are a female right? Here we are as minorities, as muslims demanding we get treated equally, and we have one of our own muslim fellow demanding that his female patients wear head scarf and we have a fellow muslim female aka poster is pointing the finger at the female. Another thing I want to know is who declared the female as a "non practicing muslim" did she say it herself? Did she confirm that she was indeed not practicing the religion? Was this all brought because the female doesn't wear the head scarf? I am a practicing muslim who doesn't wear the head scarf, not all my yrs in living in this world, not once have I have worn a head scarf, only time I cover myself up is during prayer(I am proud to be a muslim woman) and I am just as a good muslim as the next one, does that mean I wouldn't be allowed to go to this man's business establishment, because he felt that he should dictate how his patients present themselves to him? How dare he open a public office, a work place and demand anything, or as he calls it "requested", where did he get the nerve to do any such thing? We have a story on the front page of SOL about a maine resident, a somali female suing a hotel chain(I think its a chain) for mistreating her and not for allowing her to pray during work hours and for terminating her when she complained about it. Should her complaint be taken serious? Won't we ask that she get equal treatment, but then we have a business man such as the man in the article above, who employs females and males I presume, and is mistreating his patients , a paying customer at that, why would be her case be any different? Or the case of sheikh's who were not allowed to board an airline becasue they were seen praying, and as a thread.(for all we know the white man/woman were ignorant about prayer, maybe they just thought these men were ready for jihad and used their best judgement to refuse boarding for these muslim men ignorance was indeed an excuse at that time) I ask you all, Why even bother complaining to the white man about how unfairly they are treating us, whe we treat each other worse than the white man? PS:Poster, gabar baa tahay, therefore isku noqo and think about your earlier response please. Also, no one asked this dibi to give the service for free, waa xayawaan aqli laheen, imagine if all the head scarfing women came, even the non muslims(to wear one for the hell of getting a free service) because he made that statement and has to stick to it, how long will his business survive? In short you find fault in the Dentist trying to adhere to the tenants of Islaam and not the patient right? You could have said that instead of going off on a tangent. I'm not trying to come off as ''holier than thou'' when I say this but it's best to hide your sins (not wearing the headscraf). Saying that you do not wear it implies that you have no shame. Also, waa Ramadan why don't you calm down for once and stop insulting people yaa Allah. Every thread I go to you're there insulting someone. 'Skaa dhaaf waxas accudubillah, at least for the sake of Ramadan. Perhaps the way he went about giving Dawah was a bit sketchy but to me he came off as someone who really cared for another Muslim sister. Besides, aren't one of the reasons we are ordained to adhere to the Islamic dress code is to be about to tell ourselves from gaals? The only way he could tell she wasn't was by her name. I commend him for requesting her to don the headscarf. Some of you go bonkers at the mere NOTION of a brother asking you to cover yourself up. But why? I don't get it. It shows that he actually cares right? Cajiib walle. Chubacka, I totally agree.

Jazakallah kheyr, beautiful duahs subhanallah. ‘All praise is for Allaah who gave us life after having taken it from us and unto Him is the Resurrection.‘ The Prophet (S) said: ‘Whoever awakes at night and then says: [du‘a (a)] ‘None has the right to be worshipped except Allaah, alone without associate, to Him belongs sovereignty and praise and He is over all things wholly capable. How perfect Allaah is, and all praise is for Allaah, and none has the right to be worshipped except Allaah, Allaah is the greatest and there is no power nor might except with Allaah. The Most High, The Supreme. …and then supplicates: [du‘a (b)] ‘O my Lord forgive me.‘ …will be forgiven‘ Al-Waleed said, 'or he (S) said: ‘ and then asks, he will be answered. If he then performs ablution and prays, his prayer will be accepted‘.' ^^Duahs to say when waking up.

Originally posted by *BOB: May Allah s.w guide us all through the righteous path Insha Allah. Amiin, akh! Originally posted by Caano Geel: Khalaf, regardless, what business of yours is it any way? What do you mean? As a Muslim, it's encouraged to gain knowledge about the deen and discuss it with the Ummah. I don't get it akh, why shouldn't he care? :confused: Originally posted by LayZieGirl: quote:Hey Muslim Women Imam says you can MARRY your non-Muslim Lover Yariisoow, afkaaga needs to be bleached, waxa aad ku hadleysid majecleysan, "you can marry your non muslim lover" you are speaking to us as muslim women as thought we are *********oyin who keep non muslim lovers and now we are allowed to make it halal, hooraay. (you need to edit your title ASAP) Ukhti, you're taking it the wrong way. Calm down, it's Ramadan yaa gain some composure. Accudubillah! Very interesting article akhi.

Salaam, everyone has certain expectations from their family, friends, and other outside influences but they won't go through years of schooling just to become the career they wanted you to be. So do you and forget what everyone else is saying. Getting your degree in industrial design will be sweeter than one in engineering because you'll actually enjoy it.

Salaam, ah me thought as much! Very embarassing I must say, for a son to run away from his home for such bizarre reasons. They sell alcohol, and don't want him sporting a sunnah beard for fear of what the gaals will say.

Salaam, yep you're right akh instead of working on your outer psychical beauty you should work on your inner beauty first. Reminds me of girls who think putting on a khamar and/or abaya and skirt will all of a sudden make them a better person. You have to work on your adhaab, akhlaaq and how you carry yourself otherwise it's just a piece of cloth on your head. I'm getting carried away, anyway the whole point of this was to show that the outside is not always what you should be working on and your inner beauty shouldn't be left neglected (which I totally agree with).

DP

Salaam, the article is bland same old apparently radicalized and terroristic views of the young! Interesting though, how Atif left home because his Muslim parents didn't like his beard and he wanted them to cease from selling alcohol. Quite odd. :confused:

Originally posted by Azmaya: From the narration of Sa’eed ibn Jubayr who said: “Ibn Abbaas asked me: “Have you married yet?” I answered no, so he said: “Marry! For the best of this ummah are those with the most women.” Collected by Al-Bukhaaree in the book of Marriage, chapter: Plurality of Women [no. 5069]. Al-Haafidh said in Al-Fath [10/143]: “He restricted it to this ummah to exclude the likes of Sulaymaan (‘alayhi salaam), as indeed he had the most women as has preceded, and also his father Daawood, and there came At-Tabaraanee the narration of Ayyoob on the authority of Sa’eed ibn Jubayr from Ibn Abbaas; “Marry! For indeed the best of us was the one with the most women.” And it is said that the meaning of the best of the ummah of Muhammad is the one who has more women than the others from those who are equal to him in other than that in virtues. And what is apparent is that what was intended by the best is ‘the Prophet’, (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and by ummah, ‘his companions.’” He says later: “And it has come in Ash-Shafaa that the Arabs used to praise plurality of marriage from what it points to of manhood OMG Earth to Al-Mu'minah don't let them brainwash you darling , this is a sexist and fabricated used by sexist sheikhs to have multiple wives. *rolls eyes** DONT believe it huuno, theyll tell you men is head, woman should obey please, my mom told me back in somalia the so called sheikhs always skipped the verses that spoke of women rights and equality, and focused on verses about polygamy, and men being king of the house and for the girl to obey. Pleaaaaaaaaaaaaze. Salaama calaikum ukhti, just read the bottom it states that Arabs thought marrying a lot of women equalled manhood. Don't worry walal, lol I know my rights.

Originally posted by Azmaya: Al-Mu'minah break fasting ku teeh, its haram darling to have a$$ like breath. Girl use the mouth wash err day, okey. You will thank me for this good reminder. Lol ukhti you didn't think I was talking about myself, did you? I'm just trying to bring a little reasoning -- who knows, there might be a religious factor in it. Some people choose to not use toothpaste/mouthwash for fear of swallowing it and consequently breaking ones fast. Even though they could just use miswak. Lakin who knows? Just give them a few lil hints and try and be nice about it. Salaam, and afuur wanagsan!

Salaam, hey sometimes people can't help it. They don't brush their teeth or use mouthwash because they feel it may break their fast. 'ska dhaaf nooh.

Barakallahu feeki ukhti.

Biologically, they have hit puberity and as we all know-puberity is the turning point in one's life from childhood to adulthood. In the deen, once you become balagih, your sins become recorded and the grace period experies. Exactly what I was thinking akhi. If they feel they are ready they should go for it.

It's a beautiful language, mashallah!!!

Originally posted by Kool_Kat: ^^Why? Salaam, I just dislike I don't know why. It's so ''bland''. Maybe it's because I've been here too long. Yeah, that's it ukhti I've been here too long.

Donno about that, sounds a bit far fetched. I mean, meeting a person once and feeling like you've known them your whole life. You can't help who you have feelings for, but you can help if you act on those feelings. Some girls fall for bad boys and end up getting heartbroken whilst the rest of us are smart enough not to fall into traps like those. I believe that love is an ingredient for marriage, but it also grows more and more as you stay longer with your partner. Hope I was clear enuf. Salaam.

Salaam, r you serious akhi? :confused: As somebody mentioned before, there's no such thing as a temporary marriage in Islaam. Get married if it keeps you from engaging in Zina inshallah those who do so will be rewarded. From the narration of Sa’eed ibn Jubayr who said: “Ibn Abbaas asked me: “Have you married yet?” I answered no, so he said: “Marry! For the best of this ummah are those with the most women.” Collected by Al-Bukhaaree in the book of Marriage, chapter: Plurality of Women [no. 5069]. Al-Haafidh said in Al-Fath [10/143]: “He restricted it to this ummah to exclude the likes of Sulaymaan (‘alayhi salaam), as indeed he had the most women as has preceded, and also his father Daawood, and there came At-Tabaraanee the narration of Ayyoob on the authority of Sa’eed ibn Jubayr from Ibn Abbaas; “Marry! For indeed the best of us was the one with the most women.” And it is said that the meaning of the best of the ummah of Muhammad is the one who has more women than the others from those who are equal to him in other than that in virtues. And what is apparent is that what was intended by the best is ‘the Prophet’, (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and by ummah, ‘his companions.’” He says later: “And it has come in Ash-Shafaa that the Arabs used to praise plurality of marriage from what it points to of manhood.”

Stay away! As a sister in Islaam, I'm warning you sincerely from going to that city. Stay in the prairies akhi, I'm sure it's not that bad.

Originally posted by Kool_Kat: quote: Salaam that would be ideal, yes, but wallahi what attracts me most to brothers is their love for the deen. I don't care for looks, that is all rubbish. Give me a good personality, and someone who is constantly thinking of Allah anyday! Good post akhi, may Allah Azaawajaal reward you. Al-Mu'minah, all that is good...And it wouldn't hurt if he is easy on the eyes too, you know...Wax la fiirinkaro...Not wax laga ordaayo... [/qb]KKKKKKKKKKKK Ukhti you are too funny!

Seven-year hitch September 20, 2007 12:00am http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/stor...5006007,00.html A GERMAN politician has proposed a law making marriage contracts null and void after seven years, with the option to renew for those not feeling the proverbial itch. "I propose that marriages lapse after seven years,'' Gabriele Pauli told reporters in Munich, the capital of the largely Catholic southern state of Bavaria. "This would mean that one will only commit for a fixed period and will actively have to renew your vows if you still want to continue.'' Perhaps unsurprisingly, Ms Pauli, 50, has been divorced twice. "It means that, in future, people would in future enter marriages only on a time-limited basis, and would then actively say 'yes' to an extension," she added. She argued that, since a high proportion of marriages end in divorce and many people stay married only for fear of separation or for financial reasons, "perhaps one can live better outside marriage." Pauli conceded that "the fine points must still be cleared up" and said that "obviously, a lot stands against this." The 'seven-year-hitch' plan drew sharp criticism from party colleagues in Pope Benedict XVI's home region. The proposal is part of her manifesto as she prepares to contest the leadership of Bavaria's governing party, the ultra-conservative Christian Social Union (CSU), next week. Shortly after announciong her candidacy, Ms Pauli caused a stir by posing for magazine pictures as a dominatrix wearing long latex gloves.

Wsalaam, looks interesting jazakallah!

Salaam that would be ideal, yes, but wallahi what attracts me most to brothers is their love for the deen. I don't care for looks, that is all rubbish. Give me a good personality, and someone who is constantly thinking of Allah anyday! Good post akhi, may Allah Azaawajaal reward you.

Salaam I've been racially profiled because of my Islamic attire (abaya, hijab/niqab) and when authority figures purposely stop you it is a horrible feeling wallahi. Salaam.