Thanks everyone especially "gardheeraha" i'm refering to MMWA.... Ma'salaama

MMWA.............Damn! that was hilarious walaahi Thx. Medmand Brotha how can you not see! This is funny.....or perhaps afsoomaligaa jiiro jiiro kaaga jiro nooh?

I think it's Ok........However, your relationship with him, may destroy your brotha's and his bestfriends friendship! we girls are different if our brotha wants to date one of our Gf's we are ok with it in most cases(if the girl is good and all) but guy's don't like their Best buddy's Checking their sisters out...that is some kind a rule they have or something!.........so I've been told!! anyway...if he is alright then go for him(that is if your concidering marriage with him)but if you know he'll be your Next X-boyfriend..I think it's better if you don't get into any relationship with him...Imagine if you guy's break up, It will just kill your brotha's and his friendship!!.......so it's not really worthy to start something. Ma'salaama

Salaama all, Ayan plz listen to Buubto, medman and abdinur... Don't Quit School sis...you're still young! what is a year or two? The Choices you make today will hunt you forever!! Besides, What kind a job will you get as a high school drop-out?

Wow....Nice story walaahi!

Salaama all... sorry for the late reply... Of course Unix the wife Expects the same thing!! sis lulla I guess you're right about that..nobody is perfect! but we can all try our best at making each other happy....here is the how to make your WIFE's HAPPY!!...... How to make your wife happy !! (Part 1) --------------------------------------- The following is part ONE of a summary of the book "How to make your wife happy" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed. 1. Beautiful Reception After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you: * begin with a good greeting. * Start with Assalamau 'Aliaykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a du'aa for her as well. * Shake her hand and leave bad news for later! 2. Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations * Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones. * Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks. * Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands. * Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart, honey, saaliha, etc. 3. Friendliness and Recreation * Spend time talking together. * Spread to her goods news. * Remember your good memories together. 4. Games and Distractions * Joking around & having a sense of humor. * Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever. * Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment. * Avoiding prohibited (haram) things in your choices of entertainment. 5. Assistance in the Household * Doing what you as an individual can/like to do that helps out, especially if she is sick or tired. * The most important thing is making it obvious that he appreciates her hard work. 6. Consultation (Shurah) * Specifically in family matters. * Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you. * Studying her opinion carefully. * Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better. * Thanking her for helping him with her opinions. 7. Visiting Others * Choosing well raised people to build relations with. There is a great reward in visiting relatives and pious people. (Not in wasting time while visiting!) * Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits. * Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with. 8. Conduct During Travel * Offer a warm farewell and good advice. * Ask her to pray for him. * Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your absence. * Give her enough money for what she might need. * Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc.. * Return as soon as possible. * Bring her a gift! * Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night. * Take her with you if possible. 9. Financial Support * The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful). * He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand (hadeith). * He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him. 10. Smelling Good and Physical Beautification * Following the Sunnah in removing hair from the groin and underarms. * Always being clean and neat. * Put on perfume for her. 11. Intercourse * It is obligatory to do it habitually if you have no excuse (sickness, etc.) * Start with "Bismillah" and the authentic du'a. * Enter into her in the proper place only (not the anus). * Begin with foreplay including words of love. * Continue until you have satisfied her desire. * Relax and joke around afterwards. * Avoid intercourse during the monthly period because it haram * Do what you can to avoid damaging her level of Hiyaa (shyness and modesty) such as taking your clothes together instead of asking her to do it first while he is looking on. * Avoid positions during intercourse that may harm her such as putting pressure on her chest and blocking her breath, especially if you are heavy. * Choose suitable times for intercourse and be considerate as sometimes she maybe sick or exhausted. 12. Guarding Privacy * Avoid disclosing private information such as bedroom secrets, her personal problems and other private matters. 13. Aiding in the Obedience to Allah * Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiam-ul-Layl" (extra prayer done at night with long sujood and ruku'ua). * Teach her what you know of the Qur'an and its tafseer. * Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the prophet) in the morning and evening. * Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity sale. * Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so. 14. Showing Respect for her Family and Friends * Take her to visit her family and relatives, especially her parents. * Invite them to visit her and welcome them. * Give them presents on special occasions. * Help them when needed with money, effort, etc.. * Keep good relations with her family after her death if she dies first. Also in this case the husband is encouraged to follow the sunnah and keep giving what she used to give in her life to her friends and family. 15. (Islamic) Training & Admonition This includes * The basics of Islam * Her duties and rights * Reading and writing * Encouraging her to attend lessons and halaqahs * Islamic rules (ahkam) related to women * Buying Islamic books and tapes for the home library 16. Admirable Jealousy * Ensure she is wearing proper hijab before leaving house. * Restrict free mixing with non-mahram men. * Avoiding excess jealousy. Examples of this are: 1- Analyzing every word and sentence she says and overloading her speech by meanings that she did not mean 2- Preventing her from going out of the house when the reasons are just. 3- Preventing her from answering the phone. 4- etc. 17. Patience and Mildness * Problems are expected in every marriage so this is normal. What is wrong is excessive responses and magnifying problems until a marital breakdown. * Anger should be shown when she exceeds the boundaries of Allah SWT, by delaying prayers, backbiting, watching prohibited scenes on TV, etc.. * Forgive the mistakes she does to you (See item 18). * How can you best correct her mistakes? 1- First, implicit and explicit advice several times. 2- Then by turning your back to her in bed (displaying your feelings). Note that this does not include leaving the bedroom to another room, leaving the house to another place, or not talking with her. 3- The last solution is lightly hitting (when allowable) her. In this case, the hsuband should consider the following: - He should know that sunnah is to avoid beating as the Prophet PBUH never beat a woman or a servant. - He should do it only in extreme cases of disobedience, e.g. refusing intercourse without cause frequently, constantly not praying on time, leaving the house for long periods of time without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had been, etc.. - It should not be done except after having turned from her bed and discussing the matter with her as mentioned in Qur'an . - He should not hit her hard injuring her, or hit her on her face or on sensitive parts of her body. - He should avoid shaming her such as by hitting her with a shoe, etc. 18. Pardoning and Appropriate Censure * Accounting her only for larger mistakes. * Forgive mistakes done to him but account her for mistakes done in Allah's rights, e.g. delaying prayers, etc.. * Remember all the good she does whenever she makes a mistake. * Remember that all humans err so try to find excuses for her such as maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her commitment to Islam is growing. * Avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the food as the Prophet PBUH never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes the food, he eats and if he doesn't then he does not eat and does not comment. * Before declaring her to be in error, try other indirect approaches that are more subtle than direct accusations * Escape from using insults and words that may hurt her feelings. * When it becomes necessary to discuss a problem wait until you have privacy from others. * Waiting until the anger has subsided a bit can help to keep a control on your words.

Personally, I won't date/marry outside my race! it's just not my taste..However, If other people want to do it..Hey go for it! but let me remind you Caws jilaal waa lagama huraan!! You can relate with a Somali Person in So many Levels then you can ever do with a non-Somali. Ma'salaama

lol@Lst..... Buuhoodle? Lions attacking?..lol now that is Hilarious... Perhaps you're in a different buuhoodle then the one I came from?. Cia

Listen A/Qani Somalidu waxey tiraahdaa Af JOOGA LOOMA ADEEGO!... Who are you to defend Yusuf? let the brotha speak for himself!! 2ndly....I've the Right to speak my mind whether you like it or not! I don't like Foreigner in my country! and so do Most Somalis I know.. is that a Crime? "we are really making you something you really aren't". FYI.... I didn't ask your recognition!!! I never said I was the Defender of Islam nor Somalis... Just Cuz I aint kissing the foreigners A$$ don't make me a "judgemental" I knew Yusuf b4 anyone of ya and I know his reasons for wanting to "help somalis" Anyway.. He is free to do whatever he wants to do and as I told him earlier if he is doing this for the Love of islam and Somalis...then I encourage him to do so. But for the meantime..... Fight your own battles.. and Let others fight theirs!! Ma'salaama

Salaama All, Mucho Mucho gracias Admin!! This is what we needed...... Ma'salaama

Hibo I agree with you girl..... On the Issue of FGM... I'm against Fircooni 110%....... Suni as Ali said already is "is neither harmfull nor illegal"..... But even that I wouldn't Put my girls through it! I just don't have the Heart...... and Weris dirie.....I've nothing good nor bad to say about her!! Whatever she is we can see and Allah knows what is best and Most correct!! I don't wanna Danbi.. Ma'salaama

Salaama All, Samir, Unixguru and Miskiin Thanks all for your responses....... Unix... The hadith is Talking about The Muslim Ummah especially......Nabi Mahamed Aleyhi Salaatu Wa Salaama Said " The Jews were divided into seventy one (71) groups and the Christians were divided into seventy two (72) any my ummah (nation) will divide into seventy three (73), each of which would be in the Fire except one"...... So this clearly Indicates that the Muslim Ummah it'self will devide in the 73groups!! Btw i didn't know the “akhwaan” and “itihaad" where on the same caqiida? Thanks!! MMA.... Plz Do go into Details?

I agree with Mplskid...... also lets not Forget that Girls if they're not interested in you, most Don't have the Heart to tell you that way upfront so by taking your # They atleast accomplished the task of not hurting your feelings... when they don't call you, That is a 'Sign'that they're Not interested!! ... Better luck Next time. Ma'salaama Eid Mubarak and Happy new yr too Mplkid

Assalum-Aleikum Everyone....... Nabi Mohamed Aleyhi salaatu wa salaam Said "my ummah (nation) will divide into seventy three (73), each of which would be in the Fire except one"... He further said "O mankind, I am leaving two things with you, if you cling to them you will never go astray. The Book of Allah and my way of life. [Al-Hãkim and Al-Baihaqi]............ Now dayz I see a lot of Islamic Groups even among the Somalis who all Claim to be Right or in the Right path... So far I know the "Akhwaan" the "Xer" aka "Timo wayne" the "al-Itihaad al-Islamiya" "Shi'tes" "Sufis" "Nation of Islam" "Qutubis and Surooris" ...etc.....My Question is How can we tell the Righteous one's from the 72others? or the one's who are in the right path??...... Ma'salaama

Salaama all... Iilmaan Ninxoon is not really Ninxoon he is Ninwanaagsan and if the Brotha is here, he is welcomed! Lets not make this site Somalinet part#2... Plzzzz Ma'salaama

LST.... Somalidu waxaye ku maahmaahdaa "Nin Is faanshaye Waa Ri is nuugtaye"..... To the sista, I suggest that you maintain your believes and Culture...culturally, the guy has to ask you out if he is 'interested' in you. Just cuz it's the 21Century Don't mean you can do everything.... Let the MEN do what they Suppose to do..........

All out of Love Sista... I remember giving you the same advice b4... So here it's again...... If the guy cheated on you, then he DONT WANT you nor has any respect for you...... Sista, MOVE ON.........>>>

Assalamu Aleikum Everyone.... Admin I would Really Love to Help brotha Yusuf...., Sadly though, I've not been in Somalia over the last 13yrs. Especially that area he is asking for!! Sorry Yusuf.... I hope You get the answer to your Q's.... And Unix.......... Brotha, Excuse my language I think your the "weird" one here! Why bother to answer him, if you can't help?? Why all the Negativity when a simple answer can make all the difference!! Think about it Walaalo........ as they say, Af Daboolani waa Dahab! Ma'salaama

Hibo Dear.. DO YA THING! girlfriend... Don't Worry about what they has to say! to RMoss............ FREEDOM OF SPEECH Brotha .... Respect that! Ma'salaama and happy new years all........... LF

Salaama all and Happy new years! Brotha Yusuf... There you go, you said it "continuation of my dream " I think that is Exactly what it's nothing more!! So wake up, and Smell the Coffee......... Ma'salaama Lf

DDuck...... Jazaka Alaahu Khayrt brotha! IslamExposed......YOU'RE IGNORED!!

Salaama All, Correct me if I'm wrong Yusuf, weren't you the one who said.....and I quote " ....I want help them...........I would be Like a KING OR A PROPHET to them and in 5yrs they would decide to let me continue or overthrow me if I don't meet their Expectation".......???? Plus when I said they wouldn't accept you as Such cuz you're a Foreigner..you said and I quote again " I would marry a Somali woman" What I fell to say early on was that You can't and will Never ever Measure up to Muhamad(SAW)....You calim to be a GOOD MUSLIM yet here you're Comparing yourself with our prophet? Brotha W/out Trying to "hurt" your feeling, I think you should go back to that Islamic Institute and ask for Refund Apparently they didn't Teach you Islam! or Perhaps you didn't Learn it the way it Suppose to be!! "when somalia revives do you all think you would be accepted back? think about it. the people who suffered, do you think they would look at you all as Somalians?".....lol, Your funny, If I'm Not SOMALI which I'm 110%% What would they see me as? Brotha Yusuf, apparently you don't know NOTHING ABOUT SOMALIS!! If You're Doing this for the Sake Of Allah/Islam... then I think It's Good Idea and I encourage you to do so......However, I would Rather you go to AFGHAN OR PALASTINE since they're also "in Need" Of help......What I still don't Understand is Why you Want to go to Somalia and Help them? Somalis I can assure you sooner or Later Will Revive their ways and Help themselves w/out your Help .... Personally, I don't Believe you're doing this for the Love of Islam or Somalis... To me the Difference between you and the Power-hungry Warlords we have in Somalia... is ZERO difference!! You're Seeking power and So are they! Brotha Yusuf....Let the Truth Be Told!! Ma'salaama

Oblivion Good Point...... Anyway, Yusuf, you have one heck of a imagination!! No matter your Intention though, the fact remains that you're a FOREIGNER..and as I told you already we don't like 'em in Somalia... thirdly, your not Doing this for the Sake of ISLAM nor SOMALIS..you have your Own lil agenda going on, I suggest that you take this "Idea" else where...... You're just using Allah/Islam as an excuse. It says in the Quran ......And ALLAH knows best what they keep hidden in their hearts. 84:24 He is with you wheresoever you may be (57.5) Nothing is hidden from Allah, in the earth or in the heaven (3.6). Surely, thy Lord is on the watch (89.15). He knows the treachery of the eyes and that which the minds conceal (40.20)!! One piece of Advice... BE TRUE TO YOURSELF! Cuz you aint fooling me...... [This message has been edited by LadyFatima (edited 12-29-2001).]

Oh Unix I didn't think you could be bought that easily?

lol@Unix.............Oh C'mon give it a rest!! Yusuf...I'm just wondering Why Somalia? Why not Sudan or Afghanistan or Plastine or any where else on the Muslim World... Why Somalia? Ma'salaama