After the controversy of SOL sex files- or shall I call it the tear-gate scandal I have decided to retire from my life as a petty sex criminal. LOL In truth I’m a little disgruntled by the fact that I didn’t even get to be the leader of proper crime syndicate, or heavens forbid discuss anything truly scandalous.. But we shan’t dwell on it lest the men of this community come in here to lurk behind our curtains like the voyeurs they are to scratch themselves when our backs are turned, and then blame me for their self-inflicted excitement. I will not be blamed for the release of anyone’s sexual frustrations but my own! Hehehe- Now, I sense that a change in topic is in order and I was going to create one last night but after a long hard day I really didn’t have the energy for it. But today? I am here…. So what better topic that to discuss but happy, giddy Hindis? YAY! (Wiggles her shoulders and shakes her tassels in the air) and NO they are not attached to what you think they’re attached to you filthy minded people so get your minds out of the gutter! (Giggles) So…What is your favourite Bollywood song? By that I mean the one that makes you jump up and down with undisguised glee and happiness? I must confess I have many but Bole Chudiyan from the movie Khabie Kushi Kahbie Ghoom is probably the one that gets me dancing and giggling with girly happiness. Sing it with me people “Leja leja, soniyeey leja leja” (It means fly away with me my love) Yes I know I am a hopeless and disgusting romantic but hell how on earth can a gal like me resist? Especially when a young Hrithik Roshan just looks delicious enough to eat! God he looks so cute…(allows her mind to wander into a naughty fantasy involving her Hrithik, Sharukhan, a cup of warm Indian tea and two strawberry donuts) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iw_QpPtFi3E For those of you wondering who Hrithik Roshan is? Shame on you first and second he’s been dubbed the Michael Jackon of BollyWood and with moves like these it’s no wonder. He’s so flexible and jumpy a lady just cannot help but stare at his cheeky grin and flutter her lashes in want of his cute dimples. Oh just look at his cleft? So rugged so handsome, so hindi LOL-Thats right I'm not racist and generously love all kinds For a more poetically inspired and beautiful song I choose...Sajana- This song has seeped into my heart and has refused to let go. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WXFma8Rg2I This one is bitter sweet and corrupt in its guilty pleasure of a love denied. Yes I’m g@y and romantic get over it. LOL. It’s from the movie Devdas its called Maar daala (your love is killing me)- the video starts with some dude asking her to dance for him and she refuses until the one she loves Sharukh comes. He in turn loves another woman and thus her love goes unrequited http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WuhqwHnlAD0

^- Its kinda true I can't argue with that, though I liked just one of books alot. The rest? Were acceptable so tell us some books you like and who you find to be wonderful. Hayam- truth me told I really didn't like Bridget Jones diary much- I thought her a ninny. As for when Harry met Sally? Chauvinism at its best. LOL- I liked watching it but reading about such mundane occurrences? I'll pass..I like my books with adventure, buried treasure, stolen jewels, corruption and a few Colombian drug smugglers thrown into the mix. I'm a kid at heart. LOL

LMAO! First of all people I’d like to clear the air…why the hell am I being blamed for some kind of SOL sexual revolution when I haven’t actually even discussed sex out right? This thread though a little risqué was supposed to be a humorous way to giggle and laugh at a phenomenon (men weeping during sex) which believe it or not does actually exist. Like I said a group of my work colleagues were discussing the idea and I found it quite hilarious and thus decided to ask what the “women” thought of it. Operate word there being the “women”. Had I wanted to discuss this men I would have addressed them so but alas I like to keep it somewhat private. Any dudes who have found themselves in this place were warned prior to their entry not to come in. Booming hell how clearer can a lady get? Secondly if you all take the time to notice my friends SEX is not what was being discussed here, people are acting as if I asked what sort of sexual positions they favour or something. LOL Instead I chose to discuss tears (which occur as a result of sex) nothing truly sinister and what’s funny here is the notion of tears during a very peculiar time of er…how do I put this? Self-expression. Besides-Holy-moly shiekhads and sheik boys ask their imams far more revolting and scandalous questions then this light topic. Ie is Oral sex haram? If I please my husband by kissing his bottom will I go to jennah? Should I take belly dancing lessons to sexually entice and thus please my husband? Why is Anal not allowed-gross and disgusting they maybe yet it’s perfectly fine to ask these questions in the pursuit of knowledge. Laugh at the idea of a man shedding a few tears during copulation and we’re thrown into the pits of hell. LOL It’s a hypothetical question not alluding to anyone I know or will know, it really isn’t something to be feared too greatly. Come, come my people, let’s not go over-board dee. I understand that it maybe seen as a little naughty and understand that some people are respectable “Waa ceeb-nagadaa dee” folk. But come on..allow us to laugh at simple silliness when we see it. It’s a joke people. Take it for what it is. Nothing more nothing less. To A&T- He-lion indeed (lifts an amused brow) Why must continue to be a nuisance? I thought I'd asked you to keep quiet. Something tells me that your begging for a good-old fashion dacas in the face. ..Dont tempt me (waves her dacas in warning) Leave the ladies alone -liibaax-yahow nagaha-ka adag

Originally posted by Hayam: So I finally pickedup a Nora Roberts book...a two in one deal - Captivated and Enchanted...so far I am bit disappointed - She's no match for Sophia Kinesalla's books. Alaa your speaking about that woman who wrote confessions of a shop-oholic. I've come across her but I didn't read her books As for Nora Roberts, shes what I call mainstream acceptable-to pass the time books. Nothing to vexing in her books. She writes to many books to be excellent.Personally I am weary of authors who churn out books like their on an assembly line. Often About confessions of a shop-aholic is it any good? Sounds a like Cary Bradshaw teenager love fest. I maybe wrong.

^-LOL oh the energy I can not help but find your little raging amusing if not a little adorable, plus you purposefully misunderstand a simple enough topic directed exclusively at women. Why not rest on your laurels friend and cut back on the Jesus juice you've seem to have consumed? Usually I'd like nothing better then to indulge the bruised sensibilities of an overtly self-important feller but I must leave you at present. To conclude- all this foot stomping and harping is quite unseemly. Now behave young man and quiet down.

Scorpian- I’ll be honest if a man told me that he had only dated or had got to speak with 2 women he planned on marrying and he swore by this (No matter his geographical location) then I would have no reason not to believe him. I am not a mind reader my dear therefore I must take people at face value. What would be the point in being duplicitous or perhaps it’s not a matter of lying but a matter of shame or embarrassment at the number of people they’ve been chatting to. Either way we have nothing to do but to trust them unless we have evidence which suggests otherwise. Is it even a real issue with the number of people they’ve seen so long as its been through halal means Now what if I told you, that I’ve spent a remarkable portion of my life within the west and I have never been out on a “date” in the Western sense or Somali sense. Have I been out to all sorts of places with university friends, close relatives and colleagues of all sexes? Yes, were there romantic in content granted no. Its not impossible and in truth I think most people are like this including the Somali boys. They're not all romeos. LOL Perhaps I'm seeing things through rose tinted Victorian glasses who knows?

Originally posted by pssst: Ala Siren, True he raped her, and believe me there is no justifying a rape, but, BUT... He let her have all the revenge and fun she wanted against her childhood love, she behaved in a naive manner and drove him insane with jealous. He thought that she was a worldly woman when he took her to bed then almost died from the shame of it. Later her reputation was cleared and they lived happily ever after. Psst- LOL My dear sister never did I believe to live to see the day that the words yes it was rape, but and happily ever after appear together in a response. I mean no matter who spoiled and self-ishly she behaved and she had a right to she was blooming 18/17 when he first met her (and he 30 something) if a teenager doesn’t have the right to be foolish at heart juvenile in youth then what reprieves do the rest of us have? I mean just look at your response your trying to justify his insidious behaviour and thus rape with the idea that she drove him “insane with jealousy” and that he “let her” note the operative word “he let have revenge on her past love” which incidentally came across like an angel in comparison to the “hero” in this novel. As for the jealousy was he not a good 15 years her senior how in the lords graces can we justify rape of any kind? Was he not the experience world weary individual in this situation? He behaved like a brutish despicable thug and she an naïve imbecilic fool for accepting such treatment. Truly it was despicable walaalo and there cannot be any happily ever after here. What he did to her? Forgoing the sexual abuse but the mental and emotional torture this man put Whitney through was truly something to shudder over. This book was not a romance book but one of deep abuse and psychological torment. Its shouldn’t even be fit to lie on a book shelf, and I shudder and weep for fear that one day a daughter of mine will happen upon this book by chance and think it in the least bit romantic.

NGONGE-LOL Ah touché- but truly what overt piece of smut have you seen in C_L’s thread? The vagina monologue truly isn’t even in the least bit x rated as it sounds. Is it kind of funny and gross? Well you’d be inclined to think that being a man- because you place the vagina on a heavenly platter to which you’d not like it to fall. Thus your comfortable with the use of the word during set places of etiquette like “child brith” for example but a simple screaming out of the word "vagina" to the world and you cringe in shame. Kinda weird if you ask me. Or perhaps I am cold and unaffected by many things? Who knows..LOL Night I promise...no more from me

^- LOL And like I said, whose man enough to try it? People, people lets not get ahead of ourselves. (Runs off before she's strangled to death) Oh and thats my final say for nothing- Cawaale- A good day to you to sir (Bows and skips off to bed) C_L-Fly the flag for vaginas of all kinds my sister! LOL

^- LOL Dont even start on Ophelia at least she was strong enough to be herself. She was the only real character in the whole place. The others? Were carved right out of the many cliches that exist within historical romance. Not at all satisfactory (tisks and tuts her head) Ps Sabrina? Was a sissy, a likable one indeed but mousy and self-effacing. I hate those martyr type sissy heroines. Sabrina was one, those she was cute and likable I dare say. Cynical- And what point might that be?

ONGONE- And you, being a woman of course, would know exactly which situations warrant the precise utilization of the word? LOL Stop being so sensitive dee and let those with a vagina decide in which context to use it. (pours him a cup of tea and ushers him away) Its getting late people and my eyes are blood shot, I need my sleep as I have another long boring day tomorrow. Good night and god bless to all!

Remarkable, truly fascinating....now you must spread these ideas near and far so that our weeping brothers will not be cast from the bosom of their wives and beds.

^- LOL You speak Af Hindi also? I am impressed. Mere Jaan is a great substitute as any other. Though there's nothing wrong with the word Vagina. Its a piece of anatomy like a phalanges. Nothing to be feared of...as yet.

sheherazade - in truth I missed out on the Romance genre in my teens and only found out that such books existed about 2 years ago. As for its appeal? Well other than the escapism I was scandalized by the amount of saucy material and things I've read in these books. They've been real eye openers to say the least. Plus they're addictive though I hate 99% of them you find real gems every so often. Try one and tell me what you think...you wont believe the amount of history you learn from these books. I for example should be an expert on the french revolution and the etiquette thats required for living in amongst the aristocratic dwelling the ton. LOL- At least that the excuse I tell myself to justify the things I read. LOL Psst- you cannot be serious walaalo? Read my response to scorpion regarding Judth McNaught- because-Whitney my love was a hideous book. He raped the woman repeatedly and then dared to accuse her of cheating when she became pregnant with is evil spawn. To top it all off the heroine accepted this idiocy! And that horse whipping scene near the very beginning? HOGAAYAY! My blood raged with vexation. Chocolate-Honey- yep the historian is a great read, excellently written and literary fest for the eyes. As for self-help books like what? How to improve ones chi? and align ones karma? LOL

NGONE^-Naughty but nice eh? Sounds like someone’s been taking how to speak like “Santa” lessons. As for crucifying me? Just you try it candy pants. Ps People, the lady is obviously providing some much needed entertainment for the ladies theres no harm in it. In any case its the women section if we wish to discuss the plight that our vagina's face in the world then whats the harm? (Lord I haven't laughed this much in ages) hehe

Is that so? (Scratches her head) very intriguing indeed and it sounds somewhat plausible so by your calculations its the build up of these sex hormones which result in these kumbaya-my-lord hippy love-in tears?

Foolxumo- LOL, mayaa saxeeb adigu cashira kaa noo wad, waad igga reer magaal santahay. Aaliyah- LOL I love how your taking it so serious, I am greatly touched but such an earnest response but truly what if there was no insidious reasons for is uncontrolled emotions. Would you still be bothered? (giggles)- God am so lame. Ignore me I enjoy being a nuisance LOL

^- Perhaps you are? LOL I kid But I agree with you, let this silly man bring forth is empirical evidence or forever keep his lips shut. Now a days everyones a new age relationship expert. Just because a man has watched a few episode of sex in the city doesn't mean he knows how woman's minds work. Blooming busy-bodies the lot of them...tisk tisk

Hell yes we're ready, it is our section is it not? Let our vagina's speak I say of the suffering they endure day in day out! (Bangs her cup of tea on the table nearly burning the hell out of her own as it sloshes down her front- weeping silently-continues in a whispered rant) Vagina? Peach on says I, preach on! An inspired topic my cynical sister inspired!

Originally posted by AAliyah416: lol sheh you're one tough sister, carry on Haneefah I agree with you jazakaalah people draw the line as what's acceptable...... But, just to answer I find the whole scenario awkward, I would say he needs to c a therapist the man has some issuessss.....what a weirdo From Freudian perspective I would say the man had some tough childhood and he wasn't loved. So, this whole situation was overwhelming, in time he will adjust hahaha salaam LOL- Interesting take on Freud's theories. But what if he's perfectly well-adjusted as one individual can be? What then eh? Would you not dab his tears or rejoice in your womanly abilities to make him weep?

LOL@ that the responses. Excellent ladies keep them coming (giggles her heart out) I see we've all been busy in my absence eh? See what happens when one works late? Ah well better late than never.. LOL Cynical lady- such an astute evaluation, I like your blunt honesty, its quite refreshing and humorous but is it that you just can’t stand emotional people in general or weeping men in particular? Che- is that a lewd wink a proposition? (lifts and amused brow) Valenteenah- LOL –Ouch- Not the tree hugging type I take it then? Scorpian- LOOOOOOL- My god woman, not only have you answered my question with the seriousness its due but you’ve managed to even surpass my theoretic scenarios by implementing a few experiments yourself. Weldone indeed.... Psst, LOL@Sweat or tears-indeed who’d even know the difference in the heights of passion eh? I get ya (winks lewdly) Ms DD- I come from London- a cess pool of degradation and dissipation, plus a selfaware woman? I like that LOL- (High fives her) A&T -(Smiles) Judging from your extremely over excitable comments I think its safe to say that you’re more than a little antsy and are therefore simply looking for a way to air out these trapped feelings of sexual tension by being purposefully provocative and insolent all at the same time. Especially when there was no need for such behaviour in the first place. It’s the only reasonable explanation I have for such a shameless public display of sexual frustration masquerading as an impassioned and witty response. Might I deign to advise you that in future if you feel your gonads are near bursting its (god for seen) limits do squeeze them compassionately for the sake of all women please. Because this will not do. Besides unless your in possession of a set of ovaries a cervix and vagina I would appreciate it if you’d leave the answers to those who do have them. It would save you a lot of energy. Haneefah- LOL Fine, I shall behave. But its more the inappropriate tears that I’m laughing at and not the act of erhem…..copulation. Rudy- Dark glasses eh? Unfortunately Hollywood doesn’t always have the answer to all of life’s great mysteries. Nephissa- LOL@growl, bite, and scratch- you make them sound like forest dwellers. Perhaps they are? Hehehehe Goodir- LOL Ceeb, behave and be-gone from this place before our ovaries corrupt you any further than they have, run, while you still have some semblance of your virtue intact. I am kind today rejoice...now go (shoos him away) Psst- Fair response LOL sheherazade- YAY! Another let them weep lady Ku dhac! Nice to see that I’m not alone in my acceptance of sissy teared generosity. Oh and ignore the fellers, I can handle any horny boy who dares to venture into unknown waters...(winks) I appreciate you be my knight in shining amour though my lady (Gallantly kisses her on the back of the hand) Senerity- LOL I dare say that if the lack of marital coitus doesn’t impel him to change his ways nothing will. Good thinking… Fahima- LOL You never know, Somali dudes might actually have a sensitive side (they need only to have burning hot oil to be poured over their genitalia to instil a sense of masculine sensitivity) Chocolate Honey- LOL@Ninku Ma Hindi baa? Hell I wouldn’t mind one bit if he sang “Sajaan” to me in bed while he soaked my diric with tears. Nagwa- This tears before bedtime stories thing is not a phenonimone reserved only for our cadaan folks. Aprantaly it’s a universal thing. (giggles)….just don’t ask for statistic’s. Cadaan- Beenta iska daaf saxeeb. Ms DD – LOL you never know our skinny men may just surprise us with a bouquet drenched full of the tears of their affections. It’s best to always keep the faith (places and earnest hand on her heart)………..hehehe Resistance- That is a possibility. Paragon- I shall pretend to have read what you’ve written. LOL Foolxumo- LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL- I commend your honesty and strength of character to be one with your inner ‘masculine” susceptibility to all that is wonderous. In this case sex (tries to keep a straight face)

Cynical lady-Ahh Julia Quin- I read the "duke who loved" me so sweet but I quite frankly I got tired of all those virgins getting deflowered by "rakes". The double standards still get on my nerves. I wouldn't have a problem with two puritans ending up together as I'd find that utterly endearing and so sweet not to mention fair. Ps -Johanna Lindsey- the book of hers I liked was "the heir" and that was solely because I loved Ophelia the spoiled, beautiful and utterly heartless youngwoman in the story. At least she kept it real and was true to herself. The rest of them were a bunch of mousy-goody-two-shoes. If your interested I have a real book for you. Say the word and its yours. LOL@the covers, I can imagine your mothers reaction but your fathers? Would have been embarrassingly classic. Scorpion- you guessed right! What did me in was it the length or the hugging the book to my chest thing? LOL Psst I sent it finally! Yay! Ismalura- LOL Welcome and come in. Feel free to share any book recommendations that you may have or any reviews with us. It will no doubt be greatly appreciated. I'm actually starting to feel a little guilty that I have alienated the boys and a few ladies in this? Perhaps we should make a general book thread for all? Watch this space.

After much soul searching I’ve decide to dash all to the wind and to actually make this risqué topic Now try to imagine this scenario… After a blissful night of halal marital coupling you roll off your hubby, rest your head in contentment on your pillow with a sly smile on your face only to find your cheeks and thus pillow wet with your hubbies sobbing tears of glory. By now you turn to him and his weeping turns into a full on tear-fest and your taken a back, a little disturbed and a very anxious to know what the matter is. You ask "what’s the matter darling? Has your mother died? Has the waraantee on the car ran out? have I (gulps) hurt you?” only to be met with quite sniffling “No, it’s nothing dear, its just… its just that it feel so good- you know the "BOOM, BOOM, BOOM I want you in my room" (aka sex) that I couldn’t help but cry. (sniffle) Now at this point several thoughts are running through your mind and these maybe a couple of those things… 1. What the beep kind of a weirdo have I married 2. Oh get a grip you blooming sissy your creeping me out 3. Tears eh? (followed by a grin and a mental Fonzie styled strut of your shoulders and flicking back of your hair) I must be real good Or... 4. Guess that means you’re not quite the dry eyed, cold hearted, bloody sucking, evil of a vampire my mother claimed you to be. Which one would you be closer to I wonder? LOL Now I know you must be thinking me mad asking such a question but honestly yesterday I was having the most weirdest discussion with my colleagues when this topic of men crying before during and after sex came up. Don’t ask how, but it did. I couldn’t stop laughing at the idea but it kinda got me thinking…. Would the idea of a man crying either during or after sex truly bother me? No really. Would I laugh in his face and have trouble keeping a straight face? Yes I would but I don’t think I’d have a problem with the sissy tears much … I mean If my love feels the need to express himself through the sensitively receptive salty tears of unabashed emotion, then like Shakespeare once said - if tears be the food of love “cry on” (Secretly continues to cackle) Now what I’d like to know is…would you ladies be so generous to drink in your husbands cries or would you kick him in the nuts and demand that he “man-up”? whatever that should entail. So what do you ladies think of dudes crying after before or during intercourse? I would also like to ask that we treat this topic with all the serious intellectual discussion that we can afford its not often such a gravely opportune gem of a topic is brought forth. So leave the school boy and girl giggles at the door please. (Tries to contain her cackles of witch like laughter) Ladies to cry or not to cry that is the question….Discuss

Scorpian- OMG LOL Guess what? I actually sent the email a long while ago and when I went back to check what was wrong I realized that I accidentally sent both you and Ibti's PM to the admins. I clicking on your profile and then click on the PM button at the bottom and not the pm button on the top right. Therefore the admin team are going to get some majorly funky and weird messages from me. LOL Ah well you live and learn. I've corrected it now and hopefully you'll receive my message apologies for the confusion I'm a little slow at times. I know as hard as that may be to believe LOL

LOL, Excellent bravo infact, bravo..you actually brought the sea to life. A very vivid picture you've painted and you truly have a way with words. Weldone and keep it up. (pats him on the pat)