Advice for Young Brides

[cynical lady]

It’s that time of the year again. Another friend about to join the institute of marriage aka prison and as the maid of honour I’m duty bound to engineer the usual stuff; unforgetful /embarrassing event plus the usual saucy gifts. And one of my favourite items to a soon to be bride is the article-mini-advice below. I can’t help myself but laugh every time I read it; hope you enjoy it as much as I.

 

INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE on the Conduct and Procedure of the Intimate and Personal Relationships of the Marriage State

for the Greater Spiritual Sanctity of this Blessed Sacrament and the Glory of God by

Ruth Smythers, beloved wife of The Reverend L.D. Smythers Pastor of the Arcadian Methodist

Church of the Eastern Regional Conference Published in the year of our Lord 1894

Spiritual Guidance Press New York City.

 

INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE

 

To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper upbringing, the wedding day is, ironically, both the happiest and most terrifying day of her life. On the positive side, there is the wedding itself, in which the bride is the central attraction in a beautiful and inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing a male to provide for all her needs for the rest of her life. On the negative side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride must pay the piper, so to speak, by facing for the first time the terrible experience of s.e.x.

 

At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth. Some young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity and pleasure! Beware such an attitude! A selfish and sensual husband can easily take advantage of such a bride. One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY. Otherwise what could have been a proper marriage could become an orgy of s.e.x.ual lust.

On the other hand, the bride's terror need not be extreme. While s.e.x. is at best revolting and at worse rather painful, it has to be endured, and has been by women since the beginning of time, and is compensated for by the monogamous home and by the children produced through it.

 

It is useless, in most cases, for the bride to prevail upon the groom to forego the sexual initiation. While the ideal husband would be one who would approach his bride only at her request and only for the purpose of begetting offspring, such nobility and unselfishness cannot be expected from the average man.

 

Most men, if not denied, would demand s.e.x. almost every day. The wise bride will permit a maximum of two brief s.e.x.ual experiences weekly during the first months of marriage. As time goes by she should make every effort to reduce this frequency.

 

Feigned illness, sleepiness, and headaches are among the wife's best friends in this matter. Arguments, nagging, scolding, and bickering also prove very effective, if used in the late evening about an hour before the husband would normally commence his seduction.

 

Clever wives are ever on the alert for new and better methods of denying and discouraging the amorous overtures of the husband. A good wife should expect to have reduced sexual contacts to once a week by the end of the first year of marriage and to once a month by the end of the fifth year of marriage.

 

By their tenth anniversary many wives have managed to complete their child bearing and have achieved the ultimate goal of terminating all s.e.x.ual contacts with the husband. By this time she can depend upon his love for the children and social pressures to hold the husband in the home.

 

Just as she should be ever alert to keep the quantity of sex as low as possible, the wise bride will pay equal attention to limiting the kind and degree of sexual contacts. Most men are by nature rather perverted, and if given half a chance, would engage in quite a variety of the most revolting practices. These practices include among others performing the normal act in abnormal positions; mouthing the female body; and offering their own vile bodies to be mouthed in turn.

 

Nudity, talking about s.e.x., reading stories about s.e.x., viewing photographs and drawings depicting or suggesting s.e.x. are the obnoxious habits the male is likely to acquire if permitted.

 

A wise bride will make it the goal never to allow her husband to see her unclothed body, and never allow him to display his unclothed body to her. s.e.x., when it cannot be prevented, should be practiced only in total darkness. Many women have found it useful to have thick cotton nightgowns for themselves and pajamas for their husbands. These should be donned in separate rooms. They need not be removed during the s.e.x. act. Thus, a minimum of flesh is exposed.

 

Once the bride has donned her gown and turned off all the lights, she should lie quietly upon the bed and await her groom. When he comes groping into the room she should make no sound to guide him in her direction, lest he take this as a sign of encouragement. She should let him grope in the dark. There is always the hope that he will stumble and incur some slight injury which she can use as an excuse to deny him sexual access.

 

When he finds her, the wife should lie as still as possible. Bodily motion on her part could be interpreted as sexual excitement by the optimistic husband.

 

If he attempts to kiss her on the lips she should turn her head slightly so that the kiss falls harmlessly on her cheek instead. If he attempts to kiss her hand, she should make a fist. If he lifts her gown and attempts to kiss her anyplace else she should quickly pull the gown back in place, spring from the bed, and announce that nature calls her to the toilet. This will generally dampen his desire to kiss in the forbidden territory.

 

If the husband attempts to seduce her with lascivious talk, the wise wife will suddenly remember some trivial non-sexual question to ask him. Once he answers she should keep the conversation going, no matter how frivolous it may seem at the time.

 

Eventually, the husband will learn that if he insists on having s.e.x.ual contact, he must get on with it without amorous embellishment. The wise wife will allow him to pull the gown up no farther than the waist, and only permit him to open the front of his pajamas to thus make connection.

 

She will be absolutely silent or babble about her housework while his huffing and puffing away. Above all, she will lie perfectly still and never under any circumstances grunt or groan while the act is in progress. As soon as the husband has completed the act, the wise wife will start nagging him about various minor tasks she wishes him to perform on the morrow. Many men obtain a major portion of their s.e.x.ual satisfaction from the peaceful exhaustion immediately after the act is over. Thus the wife must insure that there is no peace in this period for him to enjoy. Otherwise, he might be encouraged to soon try for more.

 

One heartening factor for which the wife can be grateful is the fact that the husband's home, school, church, and social environment have been working together all through his life to instill in him a deep sense of guilt in regards to his sexual feelings, so that he comes to the marriage couch apologetically and filled with shame, already half cowed and subdued. The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit, later to annihilate completely her husband's desire for s.e.x.ual expression.

[Castro]

By their tenth anniversary many wives have managed to complete their child bearing and have achieved the ultimate goal of terminating all s.e.x.ual contacts with the husband. By this time she can depend upon his love for the children and social pressures to hold the husband in the home.

Positively priceless.

[Abaay Heylay]

Who the hell follows these ****** advices writen by some ****** white person, when you can just follow your mather's advices. Besides, we have the sunah of the propher s.a.w to follow, so no need to read some long boring article to get advice.

[The Zack]

^Did u even read it? This is supposed to be sarcastic advice. Now go and laugh.

[Castro]

Originally posted by Abaay Heylay:

Who the hell follows these ****** advices writen by some ****** white person, when you can just follow your mather's advices. Besides, we have the sunah of the propher s.a.w to follow, so no need to read some long boring article to get advice.

This has got be the post of the year.

[Som@li]

lol, so what did mother advice?

[chubacka]

Originally posted by cynical lady:

 

Once the bride has donned her gown and turned off all the lights, she should lie quietly upon the bed and await her groom. When he comes groping into the room she should make no sound to guide him in her direction, lest he take this as a sign of encouragement. She should let him grope in the dark. There is always the hope that he will stumble and incur some slight injury which she can use as an excuse to deny him sexual access.

hahahahaha. she should add pray feverently that he breaks both his legs.

 

thnks for the laugh so early in the morning!

[cynical lady]

U wlc@ Chu..

[-Serenity-]

Sounds like sound advice to me!

[Chocolate and Honey]

Just as she should be ever alert to keep the quantity of sex as low as possible, the wise bride will pay equal attention to limiting the kind and degree of sexual contacts. Most men are by nature rather perverted, and if given half a chance, would engage in quite a variety of the most revolting practices. These practices include among others performing the normal act in abnormal positions; mouthing the female body; and offering their own vile bodies to be mouthed in turn.

Sounds like something the Siren wrote

[Castro]

Originally posted by -Serenity-:

Sounds like sound advice to me!

Of course it does. Just don't run to mommy later crying "he cheated on me that ba$tard!" :rolleyes: For every woman that follows these advices, there's another who has never heard of them.

 

Can't have it both ways, atheer. Either put up (out? ) or shut up.

 

I don't believe any of the stuff I wrote above. I'm just making conversation dee.

[cynical lady]

@ I don't believe any of the stuff I wrote above. I'm just making conversation dee

[-Serenity-]

You obviously didnt pay attention to the last bit.

 

I'm getting me a wadaad who promises no more wives!

 

Fool proof.

 

One heartening factor for which the wife can be grateful is the fact that the husband's home, school, church, and social environment have been working together all through his life to instill in him a deep sense of guilt in regards to his sexual feelings, so that he comes to the marriage couch apologetically and filled with shame, already half cowed and subdued. The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit, later to annihilate completely her husband's desire for s.e.x.ual expression.

[Cara.]

Castro, isn't it understood that a mistress in these situations is expected? As long as the affair is discreet, the mistress is not ambitious, and the husband does not shame the young bride by parading his bit on the side to high society, I'm sure Lady Smythers would advice her readers that there's nothing to worry about.

 

But god help him if he tries to acknowledge any illegitimate children

[Buuxo]

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