U know what...i just want to thank the Silent sista who posted this and all the people who tookk part in it. I definaltly learned alot from the postings. To guard myself of al time from the dogs who out there. anywayz.....i loved it...really put prospective and reminder to me as woman! [ June 10, 2003, 05:18 PM: Message edited by: FirstLady ]

Wairdi, I will not disrespect my parents...i love them dearly. Thanx for the advice though...no matter if he is mr.right or wrong......the rigtht time will come when i get married,.....allah written it.....if he is the one i meant to be with..he will waite....till the time my parents say yes.....if not.....that's okay....family alwayz is here.....they know what is right, hopefully. I am sure, i will be heartbroken though even if it means giving up love of my life for the sake of my parents....right!

I would go as far to the soccer games...u know hot brothez come to the court...right ladies. If you like riwayad...there are brothers there too...just avoid..jams...they too kidesh... there u go....i would say....where ever i am....i ain't traveling for a nigga...he gotta come to me..it depends where i am at that time!

I agree with the sista,, the somali brothez definitely need to hit the gym. Please make sure you tug the tommies, get some six pack. Ya better stay away from sculping your legs...it might too skiny like chicken legs...lol Get some muscels where the ladies want...the arms...chest...then go find a mate..just kidding!

Hi nomads, I do agree with what you guys are saying, no i am not ready to elope with a brother and secretly get married. I was just thinking of the issue. Most parents want big wedding, i know mine do. Most brothers are just finishing there education so i know there wouldn't be alot of finances when but together,,,,so what happens..u are told not to get married because he can't provide me. We had this talks....they want a man who is straight, hard working,...with a job and can deffinatly take care of the BIG WEDDING. What if the man i want in the future...probably will take him almost five years to get the demands most parents..or my parents want...the big wedding cash expences....what if he can't waite..that long.....and ur parents wont have it anyway...can't ya still get married secretly....when u know ur parents definatly will disagree without big wedding and when u finish education. what do ya nomads think of this issue....

Wasup Nomads, All of us nomads have one common things, atleast most of us. Our families expect us to finish higher education, then get married. That goes for the sisters especially, so when we sisters start to date....it's either let the brothers hug and kiss you which leads to seriouse consenquence "sex" sometimes. So how do u avoid that when your family doesn't alow you to get married. What do you all think of secretly getting married, and then you and hubby can do watever while no one knows. Is it good idea to stay away from sin,,,,then in the future ya can get big weddings and he can come ask for your family. Is it safe? holla back!

Hi superman, First get to now her, like "hi" kinda way. Let her see you for two days then dispeare..that way she longs for you. Second, i definatly agree with underdog....get one of ur sista or close girl freind to be friends with....or her friend. Know who she is...like a job...search what you trying to get in to. Third, since you are super man you are not worried about this one......looking good when she is around...lol. I like th idea of reciting poem for her to show her how you feel.....i am proud of you. i like how you are finally liking a girl for who she is not what she displays. in the eys of ur nomads u aready won her bro..break a leg...allah is with you.....insha allah

When I am staple enough and have good partner. It's good idea to start having kids at age of 23years old...cuz i want to still look when my teens are in highschool. It's good to be financially stable when starting to having kids too!

Hey guys, I have read alot's of articles stating that Islam originated from the religion of the people who worshiped the moons. There is big controversy....alot of christians alwayz use that theory to try to degrade our religion. Did any of you heard of the stories they said..i will get and post for you guys to see. Just asking...more knoweldge is good. 1)Why do we have the half moon on our Masjids. What does it represent. I thought there should not be simples next to god. 2) Allah is everywhere so why is it really important to pray in the qibla. How important is that rock the people pray to anyway....dn't we suppose to worship allah not the rock. Dn't think i am stupid i am girl who really wanted to be more know more now because i opened my heart and eyes and ask questions. insha allah i will get that articles for ya to see..in the meantime answer my ques...thanx!

Baby girl i am same boat. I lived hre in this westrnized country for almost nine years. I came when i was about 12years old. I use to pray all the time, wear hijab respectifully, don't listen music that much,read the quraan. After 3 years i relazid wearing pants, putting my hijab backwords, listining to music and missing my religion. Now, I am having hard time prayin my salats on time and when it comes to anything about the religion i am sooo lazzzy. I am not afraid anymore....when i use to pray all the time if i miss one and i couldn't sleep...now if i miss 2 weeks...sleeping is stll sweet...my heart shunned...i am not afraid of aqira...my faith is definatly sleped...It's like i turned to a rock. I don't know how to regain that nuur i use to have. May allah help my soal....i never went to the masjid probably 15 too much to say for all that 9 years.I don't read the quraan, don't know nothing about my religion. I am ashamed to say i am muslim...because i have turned my back on my religion ...watched soaps and music videos instead of reading the quraan and getting more knowlegde. U know what....i pray for me .....that allah saves me an girls like me who have the religion i there mind but never act on it to better there practice.....hence most of my friends..are not muslims...and the other once are worse when it comes to our rightoues diin. so....me an modesty need good way to turn our life around! any help or tips to get us on the right direction nomads?

YOU KNOW WHAT ......EVERYBODY CAN SEE WHEN A PERSON IS BEUTIFUL. BUT TO SOME EXTENT BEUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER. SOME PEOPLE MIGHT FIND BEUTY FROM A PERSON WHO IS ALL PACKED( OKAY LOOKING, GREAT PERSONLITY). SO I WOULD SAY...IT'S LIKE SONGS.....SOME SONGS WIN AWARDS BECAUSE THEY ARE GREAT ALLOT OF PEOPLE LOVE THE SONG.......WHILE SOME WON'T LIKE IT BECUSE IT DOESN'T APPEAL TO THEM OR THEY DON'T CONNECT WITH. BEUITY IS THE SAME WAY...THERE ARE TO BE CONECTION THAT BRINGS YOU CLOSER TO THAT PERSONS BEUTY. IF I YA DON'T UNDERSTAND ME SORRY..THIS IS THE ONLY WAY I CAN MAKE MYSELF UNDERSTAND IT...PHILOS...SPEAKING..AND THINKING DEEPER..LOL.!

Wzup ladies and fellez....... I was thinking about this one....what is one or few things you see people do that you hate...but really you do put don't relize it. I see some people who argue and tent to be loud....so...sometimes when i get frustrated with those people .i am loud when experessing my thoughts...cuz..they really piss me off...all i want them to do is to "SHUT UP".....hey atleat i am working out to change it and relize it. But being load..adds to more problems. Your turn guys...what is one thing ya relized that you but get irritated when people do!

Hi Guys, I like your self help article to the brotherz...MR.M. Well everyone is givin you probls on your well organized thoughts about what women want. One q bro...i am not trying to put you down. There are lot's articles that look almost like this on this virtues world of the net........sista nassra is ammazed on how you wrote this.......so did you...and is it your words and thoughts or ur findings? holla back!

Sis, when i want to change a brother is when i think it's good for him to get his lazy ass up and face the world. I think most girls think it's good to help the brother better himself and change him. When the trueth problems between two are created that way. I relized if the man wanted to help himself he could....let him be lazy bumb if he wants to .....i'll give him advice sure....give him help if he needs too...but hellllllllllllo no would i ever try to change him so he will be as good as denzel washigton...lol...beside....other girlz would be taking him right....lol.

Hi guys, You know what i do agree with most of the ladies. Any guy who expect his lady to be vargin should abstain from sex. If that brother is having sex telling lie to the ladies he is with and think he be getting vargin girl...think again. I heard the saying allah finds good people to marry good people and bad people marry bad people..... So u probably marry someone like you. Ussr....so you saying you won't marry a girl unless you know how good she is. Well, how many relationships have great sex but doeeeeees that keep them together nooooooooo. How would you feel the girl who bought you amazing pleasur only in that sence but she is horrible in everything else even as a person. It's all about being mentally conected. Being fulfilled emotionally and physically follows it after marriage. Ussr....if u want to be fulfilled....in ur marriage...don't try the sweet before hand...but teach her the your wayz....after "hallal". Aright. Ladiiiiiiiiiies..pls.....i love ur knowledge and wisdom....keep ur legs tight...and all the smart brotherz....keep ur pants up!

I like your topic Libax. Although, i would say it goes both way. Guys get bored with the ladies too...it's not just the sista's. You men are the onces always cheating behind our back with different ladies from all over the states/provinces. So, in relationship it's good to keep the interest alive. You should not tell everything about you to ur man/women let them find out. Little bit of guessing (mistery) challeges them, keeps them wanting to find out more. If you both know everything about eachother what is left...you end up not conversating....lol. So, ladies..get the man allwayz guessing...aiight.... By the way.....your theory...if the man turns to a jerk...then probably a girl who had same scenario happen to her would be kinda "bi**ch" to the brothers right.

Babygirl the best way to fall out of love is just don't think about that person. Don't do anything that remind you of that person. Everytime you think of him compare him to monkey .. . Hang out with the crew at the movies, keep yourself busy. Talk to that cute guy you been wanting talk to. Go out more with the gals, and definatly avoid talking to that person. What mostly completes the process of falling out of love is moving forward with your life with other meaningful relationships! Tata.that is my 50Cents...

Hi Abdi, good q bro. I wish most of our brothers would be so kind to ask the ladies what they want. so, I would say at the begining of the relationship to be charmful but not look too needy, girls don't like when a guy turns to be needy like say " ilove u" I can't live without u". That is just turn off. It takes time to be in that level. So, i would say, call her when she needs you, don't live ur woman confused. Most importantly, you gotta figure it out if the feeling is mutual from her signs....damn some are hard to figure out though. Anyways love is something matter of the heart. When you both told each other how u feeling that is when the next level is ..........let the weddding begin. good luck treat ur lady like a queen...ur sista has spoken

So what is addictive relationships nomads?...read on. It is often very hard to end a love relationship even when you know it is bad for you. A "bad" relationship is not the kind that is going throught the usual periods of disagreements and disenchantment that are inevitable when two separate people come together. A bad relationship is one that invloves CONTINUAL FRUSTRATION; the relationship seems to have potential but that potential is always just out of reach. In fact, the attachement in such relationship is to someone who is "unattainable" in the sense that he or she is committed to someone else, doesn't want to committed relationship, or is incapable of one. Bad relationships are chronically lacking in what one or both parners need. Such relationships can destroy self-esteem or prevent those involved from moving on in their careers or personal lives. They are often fertile breeding grounds for loneliness, rage, and often on such different wavelenths that there is little common ground, little significant communiication and little enjoyment of each other. Remaining in bad relationships not only causes continual stress but MAY EVEN BE PYSICALY HARMFUL eg. physical abuse. Less obvious way, tension and constant stress drains energy and lower resistance to physcal illness. CONTINUING IN SUCH BAD RELATIONSHIPS CAN LEAD TO UNHEALTHY ESCAPES SUCH AS MAD MOODS, DRUGS AND CAN SOMETIMES LEAD TO SUICIDE. CONCLUSION: DESPITE THE PAIN OF THESE RELATIONSHIPS, MANY PRATCAL PEOPLE FIND THAT THEY ARE UNABLE TO LEAVE, EVEN THOUGH THEY KNOW THE RELATIONSHIP IS BAD FOR THEM. ONE PART OF WANTS OUT BUT A SEEMINGLY STRONGER PART REFUSES OR FEELS HELPLESS TO TAKE ANY ACTION. IT IS IN THIS SENSE THAT THE RELATIOHIPS ARE "ADDICTIVE." ----------------WHY AM I TELLING U GUYS THIS BECAUSE I AM IN THE SAME BOAT .....IF YOU GUYS HAVE ANY OTHER DEFINITION AAD TO IT!

Wazup people, I need your help. I am somali girl who fell over heels for for one particular somali guy so much that i gave myself to him. Our relationship was so new and now that he knows all about me I am afraid of loosing him. I know it was mistake for giving myself especailly he was my first. Now, he is acting really strange! Almost like he doesn't want to have serouse relationship just fooling around. Well he is the first person in my entire life i ever got so close to, i feel so much love for him at same time i don't want to push him away if i say it. I know he likes me too. There are so many girls before me who have given everything for him, how am how am i gonna prove to him i am different? How will i show him or let him know i want him for future? How will know make him realize....and most of all how could i save my heart from getting broken! thanx for reading.....pls only comments that don't hurt my feelings.....

Wazup people, I need your help. I am somali girl who fell over heels for for one particular somali guy so much that i gave myself to him. Our relationship was so new and now that he knows all about me I am afraid of loosing him. I know it was mistake for giving myself especailly he was my first. Now, he is acting really strange! Almost like he doesn't want to have serouse relationship just fooling around. Well he is the first person in my entire life i ever got so close to, i feel so much love for him at same time i don't want to push him away if i say it. I know he likes me too. There are so many girls before me who have given everything for him, how am how am i gonna prove to him i am different? How will i show him or let him know i want him for future? How will know make him realize....and most of all how could i save my heart from getting broken! thanx for reading.....pls only comments that don't hurt my feelings.....

Wazup people, I need your help. I am somali girl who fell over heels for for one particular somali guy so much that i gave myself to him. Our relationship was so new and now that he knows all about me I am afraid of loosing him. I know it was mistake for giving myself especailly he was my first. Now, he is acting really strange! Almost like he doesn't want to have serouse relationship just fooling around. Well he is the first person in my entire life i ever got so close to, i feel so much love for him at same time i don't want to push him away if i say it. I know he likes me too. There are so many girls before me who have given everything for him, how am how am i gonna prove to him i am different? How will i show him or let him know i want him for future? How will know make him realize....and most of all how could i save my heart from getting broken! thanx for reading.....pls only comments that don't hurt my feelings.....

Wazup people, I need your help. I am somali girl who fell over heels for for one particular somali guy so much that i gave myself to him. Our relationship was so new and now that he knows all about me I am afraid of loosing him. I know it was mistake for giving myself especailly he was my first. Now, he is acting really strange! Almost like he doesn't want to have serouse relationship just fooling around. Well he is the first person in my entire life i ever got so close to, i feel so much love for him at same time i don't want to push him away if i say it. I know he likes me too. There are so many girls before me who have given everything for him, how am how am i gonna prove to him i am different? How will i show him or let him know i want him for future? How will know make him realize....and most of all how could i save my heart from getting broken! thanx for reading.....pls only comments that don't hurt my feelings.....

Hi Daaqa, babygirl all i am gonna say is if the man is sweet to you and u think he is in deeply love what is wrong with that. Don't u like him? what do u want out of this realationship? Marriage?... a mean we are muslim and all rlationships can't be alwayz th answer! I hope u ask ur self these questions...all the time before starting a relationship...and remember..alwayz.....give 50% love....not more...because....our heartes are so fragile..and the guys can break it anytime they want!.......be strong....don't be confused..focuse in ur life how u gonna make it better.....don't dwell on relationship unless u know it's gonna be take me to ur parents....trust me...... aight...sis..hopefully i was help!

Da Beast, I am happy u feel that deeply about relationships. I am happy that there are brothers with that kinda love. Keep it that way, don't let the brothers who we dismissed change your mind on how to treat a lady. U know what i mean.....keep the love burning...i know i need some assurance......!