by Hibo Nura and Cabdi Cali Baalwacaan Jamaal-11 I believe that song was in the riwaayad/majaajilo named Hablooy hadmaad guursaneysaan I've heard bits of it but never actually watched the whole thing, if you know where I can get hold of the old riwaayads' such as the one above and Beenay waa run please let me know. thanks

Socrates. lol no 'am not a SSM, laakiin dimentionka hadaan kuu soo tuuro aan duqana dhinac u tuuro what can you guarantee me.? bilaa aan cidla isku tuuraa

Reer Canada, Ameenah's trip wouldn't be complete without the introduction of..... You guys are addicted to it, damn you got me addicted to it and I am not even a regular coffee drinker,(could murder a cuppa anytime thou) but mention Tim Hortons and 'am like :eek: :eek: French Vanilla... hhhhmmm Have safe trip sis, and a safe return...

Originally posted by MIZZ-UNIQUE: if i was a single mother i would be offended .......man y'll are being rude ..show a little compasion..dont just say it bluntly ..keep a little of those feeling u seem to be expressing on the inside. Mizz-Unique, There is nothing worse than a hypocrite walalo. Our brothers are just expressing their thoughts and if that means being bate then so be it, besides most single mothers know that is some Somali men’s' way of thinking when it comes to this issue... Originally posted by MIZZ-UNIQUE: shayma...u go girl lol Mizz are you insinuating that I am a single mother?

flying-still iyo Gediid.. wali ma is daba socotaan sidii awr iyo nirigteen.. From thread to thread till..SOL do us part....do carry on, speaking of Carry on you guys remind me of "The Carry on" films with your flirty ways...

Socrates: lol, what can I say. We all have our weird and wonderful determining factors. Nageye: It’s refreshing to hear a Somali brother say that his decision to proceed with the relationship will not be influenced by the fact that she’s a SSM. Good on you bro. Originally posted by Bokero: If we as men are confident in ourselves then no reason why it shouldnt work. I couldn’t agree with your more. Confidence, determination and commitment plays a major role in this situation.

Originally posted by BARWAAQO: That's terrible. I feel sorry for u sis...but I think it might be worse to be stuck in traffic in this heat. At least the tube is fast....however suffocating. Central line...lol, I bet u is deaf as well! Yaa, maxaa tiri bal kusoo celi..lol... seriously thou, that 20 mins journey feels like a lifetime and I would rather be stuck in my car, turn the windows up and press the A/C button... maansha'allah but then I'll be spending another hour trying to find a parking space that doesn't cost an arm and a leg....ohhh well :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Athena: I had the misfortune of having to travel by tube.. OH GOD! Its suffocating down there! Avoid it Nomads - at any cost. Try doing that mon-fri rush hours on one of the most busiest tube (cenral line). :mad: :mad:

You see that's where we differ...plagiarism is a big deal to me . Ciao

Lakkad: You obviously misunderstood my point. The whole reason I posted this was to raise awareness and those who commit plagiarism sooner or later they will be found out. I didn't say Somalis were incapable of writing such piece, unlike the way you discredited the whole Pakistani nation. Brother believe it or not there are gifted people amongst every race.

Originally posted by Lakkad: Shayma-waa dhib badan tahay ma is tidhi? Mayee isma odhan. Wax iga dhib yari aniga ma jiro, markaa taas xagaa ku dhaaf. Originally posted by Lakkad: Are u a PAKI horta? Anakaa wax aragnay Ta labaad, I am not a Pakistani, nor have I ever been to Pakistan. If I said, putting people down on the basis of their ethnic background waa sharaf daro. Does that make me a “Paki”? Walee waa yaab :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Lakkad: Shayma, Whats Ur POINT? My point is GIVE CREDIT to where it’s due and save yourself the humiliation. :rolleyes: Originally posted by Lakkad: Are YOU saying SUDI plagiarised the Material from the PAKI? How sure Are U?-Do u know Her?(is sudi even a GIRLS name?-i know sudis to be dudes!) I don’t remember give it a gender. But if you analyze both documents (rather than skimming through) you’ll clearly see who the originator is. Originally posted by Lakkad: Personally i dont see a PAKI putting all those words without an Accent or some kinda err-its just too well written for a PAKI, on the othr hand, i see a somali writing better! Again, give credit to where it’s due and stop being so arrogant and racist. Pakistani’s are known to be smarter than you average Somali.

Murano First of all welcome to SOL . I agree with you to an extent. A large number of SSM’s have the tendency of feeling sorry for themselves, thinking that there is no hope for them re-marrying so they think, why bother changing after all. But, I ask you even if she changes her scenery as you say and makes new friends it might benefit her in some ways, but eventually it will frustrate her even more, knowing that she is working hard, raising her kids and looking after herself, yet she’s still single. It's a No-win situation.

Taking a year out Originally posted by flying-still: ^^^^ you could take a break for a year...Most universities usually keep your application on file for a year...so if you've already been accepted then all you have to do is inform them that you wont actually maticulate for another year. It's vital to do that before taking a year out. Personally, taking a year out did me good and although it was hard getting back to studying, you’ll get the hang of it after the first 3 months. If you decide to take a year out make the most of it, it will be good idea to get a work experience in the field your studies are based so at the end of your studies you have the experience and the qualifications you need to get the desired job. Moving away from home to go Uni/College If are going away to Uni/College make sure you sort out your accommodation before you start, a lot of people leave it to the last minute and by then all the good apartment have been taken and you probably won’t find any decent people to share it with. Part time work If you have to work part time job, make sure it’s not one that is too stressful, don’t put your studies in jeopardy. Changing your Course If you decide to change your course make sure you do it early (within the first 3 weeks of enrolling) otherwise you will end up wasting a whole year. Those of you in the UK set up a Somali Students Society in your student Union. This will help you a great deal, there bound to be another Somali student in the year above who is studying in your field who can give you the help and advice you'll need. Good luck to you all...

Taking a year out Originally posted by flying-still: ^^^^ you could take a break for a year...Most universities usually keep your application on file for a year...so if you've already been accepted then all you have to do is inform them that you wont actually maticulate for another year. It's vital to do that before taking a year out. Personally, taking a year out did me good and although it was hard getting back to studying, you’ll get the hang of it after the first 3 months. If you decide to take a year out make the most of it, it will be good idea to get a work experience in the field your studies are based so at the end of your studies you have the experience and the qualifications you need to get the desired job. Moving away from home to go Uni/College If are going away to Uni/College make sure you sort out your accommodation before you start, a lot of people leave it to the last minute and by then all the good apartment have been taken and you probably won’t find any decent people to share it with. Part time work If you have to work part time job, make sure it’s not one that is too stressful, don’t put your studies in jeopardy. Changing your Course If you decide to change your course make sure you do it early (within the first 3 weeks of enrolling) otherwise you will end up wasting a whole year. Those of you in the UK set up a Somali Students Society in your student Union. This will help you a great deal, there bound to be another Somali student in the year above who is studying in your field who can give you the help and advice you'll need. Good luck to you all...

Originally posted by Ameenah: You have plenty of things to keep you preoccupied as you wait for the right brother to come along. You know, getting married is not simply having a wedding but making the biggest life ultering decision in your entire life. this person will be the one you will (Allah willing) spend the rest of your life with and most importnatly the father of your children, the person who'll you'll be sharing happiness, sadness with - and as the Messenger (saw) your husband is your aakhira and your jannah... you must make sure he is the right person. by the right person I don't mean, he has to be educated to a certain level or look a certain way, laakin he must be some1 you can live with, that shares the same outlook in life... please don't just marry the first dude thats asks, check him out first! In the mean time, make the most of your days as a single and free inan, you'll miss it. I think, you should focus in reaching happiness on your own and become comfortable in your own skin. In sha Allah, I hope Allah blesses you with a good husband. I couldn't said it better myself sister Ameenah. It's true marriage is not something you should rush into, there are plenty of things to consider as a lot sisters have mentioned above. Basalm there is nothing worse than making a decision and having to regret it straight after. Walaalo maxaa ka foolxun adigoo shalay guursady oo mantana Divorce ah, 26 is not old and you have plenty of time ahead of you but if you keep on focusing on marriage 24/7 you probably be disappointed, things happen when you least expect it, intaa ka hor enjoy your Bachelatte lifestyle.

Recently there have been a lot of discussions about Somali marriages and its failure. Whether is due to lack of commitment and family values, it’s problem that will keep on re-accruing as long as we keep taking marriage lightly. There is a lack of preparation prior to marriage; most Somalis just jump into the marriage boat like it’s a new trend, without realizing that this might be the most life changing decision that will ever have to make in their entire life. I don’t know about you, but that is a little scary and I wouldn’t want to regret this for the rest of my life. There are many things you should consider when looking for the ideal husband/wife. Rather than marrying one for beauty, money or how intellectual he or she is, ask yourself… Why am I getting married ( Because all of my friends are' or my “biological clock†is ticking are not a legitimate reasons )& What am I looking for in a spouse? if only Somali marriage conform to the objectives and the goal of marriage in Islam, ‘am sure there would be a decrease in divorce. “Marriage is the deepest of bonds which Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) ties between one soul and another, so that they may enjoy peace, tranquility, stability and permitted pleasures. The wife is a source of refuge, security and rest for her husband in a marital home that is filled with sincere love and compassionate mercy. The truly-guided Muslim woman is the best one to understand this lofty meaning and to translate it into a pleasant and cheerful reality.†( And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts] . . .) (Qur’an 30:21) Source

Originally posted by Qa'Qa': agree with u bro Shyma. Bro?? Take a look at the avator AGAIN plz. Jaariyada weelka dhaqeysa ma arkeysid? Now that is a disrespect to my profession..lol

Kaafi They used it as excuse to justify their actions. If anything is to be blame, is Lack of knowledge in Diin.

I thought this was part of our SUNNA! Did I read that right??... Kaafi.. Which part of FGM is "Sunna" the part the woman gets tortured or is it the part where she suffers throughout her life span?

Ameenah. I must say this is a very interesting article… (Like the picture) Thanks for sharing it with us…but what took you so long?? lol..kidding Back in Somalia, the commitment to marriage was so strong that divorce was practically unheard of. But migrants to Europe found that the new culture meant that they faced rigorous challenges. Marriage became less valuable. I couldn’t agree with it more, true statement. From the time Marriage becomes “less valuable” to a married couple, then you’re looking at disaster. As to who was to blame, women or men, interviewees split on gender lines: 70% of the women blamed men’s failure to adapt to the new environment; 74% of the men blamed either the host culture, or the women for adapting to it. Pointing the finger, it’s a same old story. Although the article was semi-true, I don’t agree with her, she’s exaggerating a lot. Most Somali men (those who were raised back in Somalia) have had a different lifestyle ever since they could remember and you can’t expect to change them over night… Come on lets be realistic Somali men are hard headed and if they had it easy back home then it’s they way they were brought up. I am not saying that is a good thing but you have to understand that it’s hard for those who was raised in Somalia to be able to adapt to this so called “western lifestyle” as easily as the woman. You can lead a horse to a water but you can't force it to drink. Wallahi, sometimes waan la yaabaa dumarka waxaa soo kale ku hadla, yes be feminist if you must, be very much outspoken / opinionated and be heard, but whatever you do don’t loose your values and fundamentals and most of all your religion, idolizing kufaars aakhiro waxba kaama tarayo ee diintaada ku noqo if you want guidance in any aspect of life. Personally I don’t mind if he doesn’t know how to cook, clean or do the ironing, as long as he is considerate and willing to help when he can and able to, then there is no problem. However, if he is no good for nothing lazy type qaadholic saqbadhle then is all about showing him where the exit is, marriage is a partnership, not sole trader?

I was born in Hargeisa and lived there for about 8 and half years and then the war broke out. :mad: So, I went from Hargeisa to Dulcad (lived on caano Nido and dry wheat for couple of months) to Dire Dawa (had enough canjeero to last me a life time) to Djibouti (too hot to do anything but drink Fanta and eat bagio all day) to Paris (transit) to London (hmmm…still trying to figure out). Now that’s what I call a True Qaxooti

Lucky. I am not “exploiting” anyone they did that themselves the minute they copied and pasted, but you’re right we don’t know who the real culprit is so we shouldn’t judge. illmatic. Of course, it could happen, 2 people can write identical statement word for word or couldn’t they… .

If I had a Shilling every time Nin-Yaaban used the word Dhaqan , I would have been a Shillionaire by now.. It's amazing how he does it, even if the topic has nothing to do with dhaqan you can bet your life he would squeeze it in there otherwise he can't function, he needs his daily Dose of dhaqan. Ceebtiis maahee waa caadadiis, markaa you'll soon get immune to it. As for the topic in question. :confused: :confused:

Has it come to this? I was searching through Google looking for an author of a book called “'Lions Don't Need to Roar'” and by chance (probably 1 in a million) I had stumbled across these two websites. At first I thought it was the same person then I looked at the flag and the caption “Proud of being Pakistani”. I thought.. :confused: :confused: This isn’t the first time I came across this, infact right here (SOL) in the poetry section I have seen a lot of poems being posted and people are claiming it as their own even though the same poem is posted in www.poety.com by the original author. So, I ask you, could this be too much of a coincidence or just plain plagiarism. You decide… web page 1 web page 2