case to legalize LUST

[macalimuu]

excerpts from Seleda

 

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So, last time I checked, I was faring well with the six out of the seven deadly sins. You know: pride, envy, avarice, gluttony, anger, covetousness. But without any surprise, the last one, lust, the one that guarantees a spot in a boiling pot somewhere in the nether regions of Satan's abode, is the one I have a major problem with. It is the one sin I succumb to and try to give myself over to completely. After all, what kind of a God puts the most deliciously gratifying thing in our face and expects us to follow complicated rules or strongly recommends that we not touch?

 

Reflecting back to when I reached the dawn of a new state of mind following a period in my life marked by confusion, I am glad now that I feel settled and have acquired a new sense of clarity about lust that I had not had before. Maybe glib on my part, but my reference to clarity may be construed as justification of my shortcomings and the shortcomings of society… as well as my attempt to quell the turmoil caused by contradictions and hypocrisies of the social order within my mind.

 

 

Actually, it is not just a justification but also an acceptance to obey my propensities endowed to me by Mother Nature. The shortcomings (no pun intended here), the contradictions, the restrictions, the social pressures, the taboos and the justifications are all part of the story of a repressed, horny Ethiopian apprentice of life, who went on a journey to differentiate between love and sex.

 

With that said, let me go back to the time just before the end of my troubled years. Back then I was a dejected fellow always contemplating the rights and wrongs of the world, always wondering why I feel what I feel for the opposite sex.

 

Then, all of a sudden, my long pondering came to an end with a realization that was profound… at least to me. I pulled the wool that was over my eyes and finally came to terms with infidelity and lust. They have always been part of humanity right there from the beginning of time, concealed and disguised in layers of religious edicts and fabricated social norms. Ok, it might not sound like an "eureka" moment, but I want you to understand that the simplicity in accepting lust and infidelity as natural entities is truly a liberating experience. So I urge you to become and an apostate for a moment and take a plunge with me and indulge the world.

 

Here we go…

 

Not unlike the framers of the US constitution who understood the importance of separation of church and state, it is very crucial to understand the separation of Love and Sex. The two must be considered two unique entities. In other words, emotions that come with relationships, love, etc… should be independent of the pleasures generated by intercourse. Everybody knows that love is long lasting and deep. It is the connection between individuals of the highest level. It is more of a spiritual joining that is beyond the physical world.

 

Sex, on the other hand, is nothing but the icing on the cake. It would be nice to have good sex with the one you love but there are numerous circumstances where love is sustained without sex. So why do people make sex such a freaking big deal????

 

Ok… calm down…

 

Now allow me to assume that sex is not a big deal… With that established, consider this scenario. Your most loved one was gulled by lust and had sex with another individual, who he/she does not love. What would be your response? Are you going be deranged by jealousy and go on a rampage or are you going to calm down, analyze the situation logically and forgive your mate full heartedly?

 

Yes, you'd be deranged. It's the common response considering that in moments like this, our thinking is clouded by emotions.

 

One thing to remember: decisions based on emotions have led many a fool to great depression, embarrassment or even a trip to the slammer, or, even worse, six feet under. But if one evolves beyond petty emotional BS, then sex is nothing but a source of pleasure. No more horrid than eating a Snickers candy bar.

 

Lust on many levels, is the opposite of love. It is like the beautiful fireworks in the night. You see the bright colored flashes rise up to the sky and explode, and then, just like it came so suddenly it disappears in the night. It doesn't last long, and you know if it did last longer it wouldn't be fun.

 

And that's why committed and married people have secret one-night stands and impromptu sex when the opportunity provides. But in the whole scheme of things, the feeling of love is most likely unaffected. It is all about the hit and run baby. For guys, it is a futile battle to restrain the third leg. It is known to have its own head which is usually more coercive than the one carried on our shoulders. Females, on the other hand, are more illusive with their physical manifestation of their emotion and therefore appear much better at restraint. However, I am not going to pretend to be an expert in female psychology or for that matter their physiology. So I am not going to get into it.

 

However, when it comes to the male species, how many of our fathers have cheated on our moms? Tell me how many of those bars in Addis are really brothels? How many of us met our half sibling at our father's funeral for the first time… the list goes on. That is how the story went since time immemorial, and it will persist long after we are gone. So no matter how much we sweep it under the rug, sexual infidelity will always exist.

 

It might be crazy, but I am advocating regression of the humane psyche back to our animal ancestors at least in terms of sex and start using our medulla oblongata more than our frontal lobs. For a change, be more like dogs… huh? Ok, that might be a little too extreme but we don't even have to go that far in the evolutionary scale. Just look at our recent ancestors… like our grandfathers. I am talking about the first half of the twentieth century people. Whats up with the CHn gered and wushima, and the generous spilling of zer, all at the timid consent of our grandmothers…

 

I know, I know with all the patriarchal system, women being powerless and all, but still… if you look at our society as a whole, it seems like they tolerated the basic undying human need to mate and understood the principle of the separation of Love and Sex. I mean are we losing our senses when we are becoming more "civilized", "westernized" and "individualized"? Are we becoming more inclined to be more physically possessive of others? What is going on?

 

Anyway, one thing I am sure of, for all you females out there, when you get into relationships I would say at least 99.9% of the men will at some point consider cheating on you. If your mate doesn't, then he probably belongs in a monastery or he is an absolute faker. So I say, instead of denying it in our society and our personal lives, we should embrace it and accept it as a truth.

 

When we realize Sex and Love are separate, we can move forward and add understanding to the whole mix. If love is truly the highest form of connection between two individuals then they should rise above extra-marital lusting and adultery. That is how true love is tested. That, of course, is assuming that there is some responsibility and that no one is bringing back any disease.

 

So accepting the fact that cheating is eminent in most relations, the thing to do is to stop fighting it and allow it to exist so it can easily be managed and regulated much like alcohol, drugs and prostitution.

 

Fighting against infidelity and lust is much like the U.S' war against drugs, it is futile no matter what restriction and measures the government, institutions and the society impose on its people. "

 

by W. L

[checkmate]

Even though this article is religiously preaching adultry,we have to keeping in mind that NO man is immune to lust, which is why i think our creater(S.W)gave us the privilege of having upto 4 wifes, So why commit adultry when there is "nikaax".

 

so lets discuss this article for what it is!!

 

Would you be able to live with yourself knowing that your wife/gf or husband/bf having sex with someone else?

 

In my case i would have to say HELL NO...

If the mother of my children is committing adultry behind my back,then so be it, it would be between her and her creater and besides what i don't know won't hurt me.

 

BUT

 

On the other hand, if i find out that she has been practising kamasutra behind my back, i would KILL HER and the DUDE that's screwing her.

 

asxantu

[From The Future]

This article is not for muslims. Please don't post stuff like this. It does not concern us

[Medley of extemporanea]

the title is interesting but it's too long.. please sum up your point in 3 prgrphs or less. there should be = access for those of us with ADD

[juba]

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same here