Xafsa

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  1. lol og-moti...you thought I was gonna tell people that I can expose my body huh? lol I;m glad you actually took the time to read the post or you would have thought I walked around half naked People here in the good old U.S of A say the same thing about white girls. There's this saying my mom uses.. dhilo isheedaa lagu dhabaa...so its all about presentation. On the other hand if you cover yourself just so that people don;t redicule you then you get nothing from it...its all about doing it for the sake of allah. peace and luv
  2. I gotta find this mac powder people are raving about...its that good? I've been trying to find the perfect powder for my face with no luck. I used to use victoria secrects pressed powder #7 but they stopped making that...so now i'm back at square one. Where can you find this mac powder? peace and luv Opinionated---what do you use to deep condition your hair?
  3. Wlc raxma, to our home away from home....Hope you enjoy your stay here. My name is flying-still AKA xafsa. peace and luv
  4. Originally posted by Tenacious_J: flying still props and more props that was trully entertaining to the heart and soul.. tempting the mind while keeping it formal.. i'm highlighting your nickname fo'real wun luv sis .. thanx for the smile on my face Hey there Ten J...glad I could make you smile peace and luv
  5. ^^^ I will rememerb that....I guess i'll see you there in about 6 months or so. peace and luv
  6. Entrepreneur...my rule is don't Discriminate regulate There are lot of sister and brothas that are seduced by western ideals. But like I said above its all about the potential of a person...nothing in life is Guaranteed .
  7. Some people actually think 29 is old? I'm 21yrs old any man between the ages of 25 and 35 is fair game. BEsides we have to keep in mind that men tend to mature much slower than women Xayaat walaahi you got the whole essence of finding a partner down pat. YOu don't have to be in love with the person when your marrying him....he has to have the potential...he has to have the qualities you look for in a man and if he does its only a matter of time before you fall in love. Thats all my views of coarse...
  8. Somali man recipe? In my eyes the only black man that counts is somali...so in other words this poem is about my fine mali brothas.
  9. Originally posted by Ladiif: Sxbayaal, maxaad u ilowdeen LAFOOLE iyo HANUUNIYE. and also Lafoole's song called RUUN but this lafoole's song is only for the Marwoyinka(married ones) don't run and sing for your girl friends. Thats one of my altime favorite songs...I just can't get enough og that song. HE talks about real things instead of fairytale feelings.
  10. Originally posted by raula: Jambo, It seems like Iam the only none-traditionally chosen major student..basically I went about designing my own major(in the academic field it called individualized studies)... My major is called Health and wellness w/a concentration in public health and a minor in african studies. Right now Iam actually doing research in the epidemiology department. Iam in my senior year undergrad. I plan to join School of public health, and do masters in Epidemiology-clinical research division. Then go on to PhD. and hopefully teach public health studies somewhere in Kenya,Somalia(hopefully)...lol..Insha-allah. Word of Advice(although not specified in the text previoulsly):....Good grades and completing all the requirements is not all there is to schooling....diversify your porfolio my dear bros and sistas....Get experience, participate in research projects, become a TA, ...basically get a hands on experience in your field or atleast be xposed to it("physically") b4 the completion of your undergrad years. I apologize for the long post..thx Kwaherini.. Thats exactly what I plan on doing my masters in...epidemiology!!! I hope to join the U of M team sometime next spring in the mean time i'm gonna take the GRE at the end of the summer insha alaah. My uncle works for the CDC and thats where I plan to get my head start...but eventually I want to use my skills to help my people. Raula girl holla at me and let me how things are going. peace and luv
  11. Muraad jazakallah that was a very profound khutbah given by the sheikh thank you so much for sharing that with us. Where has mujahid gone...does anyone know? salaam
  12. Originally posted by Batuulo: you go girl! nice one honey, love it too Thank you batuulo...i'm glad you liked them. peace and luv
  13. LEgend once again you have amazed us I'm interested to know how many times a week you said you wanted to go out. Me just once is enough...the outside world aint for me. But if they gave me a resturant all to myself and who ever I bring along then I would reconsider the once a week thing.(its all those people that take the excitment away from going out :mad: ) I would much rather stay home and watch a movie with a good friend/family or my hubby...cook some food and just chill. Anyways what about you guys what was your answer? Peace and luv
  14. I was gonna put this article in the islamic forum but since its about women and thier role in society through out time, I decided to post it here. YOur thoughts would be welcomed. Fair Ladies for the Altar By Khalid Baig It happened soon after Muslims conquered Egypt in 20 A.H. A delegation of the local Copts approached the governor Umro bin al-a'as, Radi-Allahu unhu, with a pressing matter. While life in Egypt depended upon the Nile, the river itself demanded an yearly human sacrifice. To satisfy this requirement, on the 12th night of June a virgin girl was dressed as a bride then thrown into the river. Otherwise the river would drop to a trickle. His response was immediate. The river would have to do without the human sacrifice. Islam destroys all superstitions and rites of Ignorance. Days passed. Then weeks. Then months. The river remained dry. Caught between a river that "demanded" human sacrifice, and the new rulers who would not permit it, the people prepared to migrate. Seeing this Umro bin al-a'as wrote to Khalifa Sayyidna Umar, Radi-Allahu unhu. "You did the right thing," Sayyidna Umar wrote back. "Islam does destroy all rituals of Ignorance. I am sending you a note. Drop it into the river." The note was a letter to the river. It read: "From the servant of Allah, Ameerul-Momineen Umar to the Nile of Egypt. If you were flowing of your own accord then you can stop flowing. But if it is Allah, the One, the Almighty, Who makes you flow, then we pray to Him that He should force you to start flowing again." And so it happened, writes historian Ibn Taghri Berdi in "An-Najum uz-zahira fi akhbar muluk Misr walqahira." (Vol. 1, p. 35). Governor Umro bin al-a'as dropped the letter into the river and the next morning the Nile had started flowing at its full level. Islam had liberated the women in Egypt from the tyranny of a terrible pagan practice. Human sacrifice in one form or another was common to all pagan societies. A very large number of these sacrifices involved women. They were thrown into rivers or lakes (to appease these vital sources of life), buried alive in the foundations of bridges (to make the bridge strong), or just offered as sacrifice to the gods for the protection of the community. The game London Bridge Is Broken Down, and the accompanying rhyme, preserve unmistakable traces of human sacrifice at the building of a bridge. The bridge has fallen down, and all rebuilding attempts will fail, whereupon follows -- with an apparent lack of connection -- the arrest of a woman prisoner. London Bridge has fallen down, fallen down, fallen down, Build it up with lime and stone ... Stone and lime would wash away ... Build it up with iron bars ... Iron bars would bend and break ... etc. etc. What has this poor prisoner done? ... Off to prison she must go. My fair lady! Ibn Battuta gives an account of the practice in pagan Maldive Islands. Every month a young virgin girl was dressed up then left overnight in a temple on the shore to appease a ginni. In the morning they would find the girl dead and violated. A Muslim visitor Abul Barkat Berberi learned about it from his host, an old woman whose only daughter had been drafted for the next sacrifice. Abul Barkat, who was a hafiz, offered to go in her place. In the temple he kept reciting the Qur'an all night. When they found him alive and well next morning, the news spread throughout the island and within a month the entire population had accepted Islam. The woman of another land had been liberated from the pagan tyranny. The record of Christianity is less clear. First, it endorsed the basic idea of human sacrifice by suggesting that Jesus had died on the Cross to atone for the sins of humanity. Second, it was content to merely change the pagan rites into more benign forms. The earlier offerings of human sacrifices of Saturnalia were replaced by offerings of Christmas gifts. Same with Halloween. Halloween started in Great Britain with the ancient Druid culture. The Druids believed that the witches, ghosts, and evil spirits walked on earth on the night of October 31. They would light huge bonfires to ward off these spirits. They would then go from door to door asking for treats. These "treats" were not candy. They were victims ---young virgins--- for human sacrifices. If the Druids received their "treat" they would leave a lighted jack-o'-lantern at that house as a sign that a sacrifice had been obtained there. That most of these symbols survive (and thrive) today reminds us that the post-Christian Western civilization remains at heart a pagan civilization, albeit a more polished one. The drastic rituals have been replaced but the crooked ideas behind them survive. What was the idea behind throwing a virgin into the Nile? That a woman must sacrifice her life for the economic prosperity of the society. In forcing the women outside the home and herding them into offices and factories, the Industrial Revolution preserved the same idea. In putting them on display to attract customers, the "Marketing Revolution" preserved the same idea. The women must sacrifice their lives, dignity, and security for the economic prosperity of the society. If it leaves them prey to an avalanche of advances and assaults, so be it. If it destroys the home and family life, so be it. The goddess of "economic progress" demands their sacrifice, and they must submit. Today the woman has been uprooted from her home, separated from her family, violated, left to tend for herself, and expected to be grateful for this "emancipation"! How can we explain what was going on with the Nile? Perhaps the answer lies in that when a people choose to reject Allah's clear Signs and Commands, then their own chosen path of destruction is made easy for them. "Those who reject Our Signs, We will lead them step by step to ruin while they know not." [Al-A'raf 7:182]. As the Nile remained dry, it was a test of the believers. Would they hold fast to the rejection of all pagan rites or would they waver in the face of an apparent calamity? The letter to the river was a marvelous act. It radiated unwavering faith in Allah and unremitting disdain for pagan beliefs and practices. Only such faith could free humanity from the cruelty of pagan Ignorance. The test continues. For the women today need to be liberated from the tyranny of modern paganism, just like they needed to be liberated from the tyranny of ancient paganism. http://205.214.65.161/women/human_sacrifice.shtml
  15. This articel really gets you thinking about your actions. As you will come to see khalid BAig is one of my favorite muslim writers. Enjoy and let me know what you think. Virtue, Apparent and Real By Khalid Baig He was a contemporary but not a companion of the Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam. Seeing the Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, undoubtedly, would have been the greatest achievement of his life. For any believer no event could have been of greater emotional or spiritual value than a chance to see the last of the Messengers of Allah in person. To shake hands with him. To listen to him. To learn directly from him. But Owais Qarni's mother was old, blind, and disabled. He had to constantly take care of her and that responsibility did not permit him to take the trip from Yemen to Madinah. He missed the chance to become a companion --- the highest category of any group of believers. But his piety earned him the title of Khairut Tabiyeen or "the best of the generation following the companions," from the Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, himself. Later when he did visit Madinah, Sayyidna Umar, Radi-Allahu unhu, sought him and asked him to pray for him, explaining that he made the request for prayers because the Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, had advised him to do so. The story obviously tells us about the status of mothers in Islam and the virtue of serving one's parents. But there is even a bigger lesson here. Sometimes there is a fine line between apparent virtue and real virtue; between what we like to do and what we must do; between religion as hobby and religion as the serious business of obedience to Allah. This is a delicate issue because the conflict between duty and desire may be camouflaged by the apparent virtuosity of the deeds. To detect the difference and make the right choice requires balance, sensitivity, and wisdom---qualities that are central to Prophetic teachings. Jihad in the battlefield is a very important Islamic institution and the Qur'an and Hadith are full of merits of those who are willing to lay their lives to uphold Truth and fight falsehood. Yet there were occasions when the Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, sent back aspiring mujahids to their homes to take care of their old parents when the parents really needed them. For a mere general, the soldier who had demonstrated his devotion to the battle by overcoming his personal ties would have been even more valuable. Voluntary fasts and prayers, especially night prayers, are highly emphasized in Islam's system of worship as the means of attaining closeness to Allah. They have special blessings precisely because of their voluntary nature. Yet when some companions decided to fast everyday and pray all night, they were admonished. For a mere religious leader who was promoting these particular forms of worship, the more his followers indulged in these things, the better. In declaring Prophet Muhammad Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, as the most influential person in history, Michael Hart, in his famous book admits that he is the only person who has been equally successful in both religious as well as secular spheres. Actually not only did Prophet Muhammad, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, excel as the best human being and the best leader in all areas of life, he demonstrated and taught an unprecedented balance between conflicting real life requirements. There is simply no other example of that achievement in the entire history. What is more, he inculcated that wisdom in the companions and their followers. Anyone who looks at this aspect of Prophet's life with an open mind, will find himself declaring, "I bear witness that Muhammad (Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam) is Allah's servant and Messenger." There have been great warriors and there have been people with remarkable self-restraint, but where do we find an example like that of Syedna Ali Radi-Allahu unhu, who, in the heat of a fight left his opponent when the later spit at him in desperation. To the perplexed enemy he explained that he was fighting for the sake of Allah not for his ego. His commitment was not to the fight, it was to serving Allah. Consider a small incident from the life of great scholar, mujahid, sufi, and jurist, Abdullah ibn Mubarak. Among his many virtues is that he was fond of performing Hajj regularly and even paid the expenses of all the members of his Hajj group. During one such trip he saw that at a stopover, the people of another caravan threw a dead chicken in the trash. Moments later a little girl emerged from a nearby house, and rushed home with that dead bird. Curious, Abdullah ibn Mubarak followed her. He found that the girl lived with her widowed mother and they had no source of income. They had been starving for days. Seeing this he gave all the money he had for the Hajj trip to the poor family and returned home. The Hajj being voluntary was a personal passion. It meant a lot and he had already undertaken a big part of the difficult journey. But when faced with the need of a destitute family, he immediately knew what he had to do. His commitment was not to the Hajj trip, it was to serving Allah. Today as individuals and groups we seem to be lacking that perspective. We have heard that something is good but we do not know its limits nor do we realize how it fits in the big picture. Examples abound. Some of us have heard that leaving home to invite people to the religion is a great act. It indeed is. But if one's own family needs him and leaving it alone will expose it to dangers then it is not. In those cases it would be "performing a hobby and not doing a duty," says Justice Mufti Taqi Usmani. A group learns that we need to establish an Islamic state. Another realizes that we need to restore Khilafah. Both are right. But then they put these goals to the exclusion of everything else and develop elaborate philosophies to justify that distortion. In north America in some places Muslims have built big empty mosques when what the community really needed was a full time Islamic school. But million dollar mosques as status symbols become pet projects in ways that a school cannot. In the best case we are wasting resources by having the wrong priorities. In the worst case we are putting a religious cover on our own desires, without even realizing it. In each case the solution begins with a critical self-examination. It would help to occasionally ask ourselves what would we do if we were in place of Owais Qarni? Or Abdullah ibn Mubarak? Taken From: http://www.albalagh.net/food_for_thought/balance.shtml
  16. Originally posted by Princess_Sexy: I cant live without guidance or a sense of direction......i'm headed on the right path...but i still need some guidance/direction from my family, friends, guys , and of course the holy quran.... I feel you princess....TO me thats the most important thing inthis life.....You have to stay focused on what your real purpose on this earth is. SOmetimes life has a way of getting in the way...the trick is being able to work for this world and the next with out loosing your focus on either one. Thats why its always good to be around people that can help you in attaining your goals...such friends,family, and always your partner. peace and luv
  17. Thank you for sharing that with us jidaawy...walaah I'm speechless right now. Insha alaah my plan is to go visit sometime next year. And I hope ti live in close proximity to the holy city someday insha alaah....and raise my kids in the land of the prophet of allah. salaam
  18. Originally posted by Shyhem: LOooooooooooOL I guess no man was hurt by having two girls fights over him, 'bout the ego thing i think my ego is the size of continental USA hence the need for me to have a sista with an azz the size of Alaska My hunger is like that of a heavyweight fighter,risking a knockout just to satisfy me! [/QB] Honesty!!...thats admirable. I like a man with an ego A sistah with an AZZ the size of alaska? thats it?...come on now why are you selling yourself short? Aim higher...or in this case bigger
  19. I wanna have as many kids as allah will give me..no number is too small or too large. But I have always wanted 8 kids...it just seems to be a well rounded number. I have this friend and everytime I metion the number of kids I want, she gets this shocked look on her face... and she says " girl do you know what that will do to your body? you know your not gonna look this good after that many kids" Of course what she fails to realize is that i'm somali and after I get married I will become very laxed when it comes to my body so its no big deal beides our men like it when their women are big and soft...am i right?
  20. xayaat....girl I love what you said about your mom...My mom raised me all by herself too and although I;ve decided not to marry the guy my mom picked out for me( long story...I said no mainly 'cause I knew the guy and I knew things about him my mom didn't) ...I still think she has my best intentions at heart. And from the sounds of it you got yourself a man...so I wish you all the luck in the world in your new life and husband. peace and luv
  21. Darman...some how I dought that been maa leysku sheegaa? you know she loves you too Naah I'm just messin' with you... About what you did to that other girl...what goes around comes around so you better get ready 'cause that pain you've trying to run away from?....its coming to get you...so hold on to something. peace and luv
  22. Dabeast...waa u gaftay your cousin...it wasn't him trust me.
  23. Originally posted by DA_BEAST: no wonder Clown is smiling coz he got himself the Jewel of the Crown in you Xafsa..... i wish you guys all the best and i mean it. Thank you so much dabeast.....you know I feel the same way about your cousin. Pyro--next time you wann confuse us pleas don't forget to send us the memo...ok? We prefer you give us a heads up next time...that goes for the rest of you nomads too
  24. Originally posted by Shayma: As we get older, we grow tired of playing games. If he doesn't call when he says he will or turns up late - on the night you've arranged for him to meet your friends, it's tempting to dump him there and then. lol...thats me....If he doesn't call me back when he says he will...I start to think may be i'm just wasting my time....or maybe I should just fire him...and find me a replacement But seriously there is nothing wrong with being single...besides in my eyes if you aint married then your single. peace and luv
  25. alla hooyooy!!!! waryaa people in my office think I done lost my mind laughing so loud . Waraa Aplus waa nootaalaa...I thought you felt something the other night.... why you do me like that?