Blessed & Juxa, indeed - didnt know how to respond, I usually smile alot so automatic the face smiled. Yeah, the Swahilis have a say for almost all situations in life..lol Carafaat 29+ isnt a child eeh haa iska digiin a 12yr old teenager, kuwa 40+ are only 11 yrs older than you. As for AIDS/HIV is and was indeed known in the era of the 40+'s, a reality which still is.

Carafat -That isnt funny. Your showing immaturity, waxaa kuu degtee 40+ - baal naga xishood hee orood meelahasi kuu soo ciyar.

Blessed sis, I would never advice a woman or a man to live with a cheater, if one suspects there is something instead of barbarintaa jebabkisa iyo telephonkisa isaga laa weydiya - hadhuu naa inkiroo - walle maliin uun baa cebtisaa soo bixii, as the swahili say 'za mwizi arubaini - a thief has forty days. Just last week a collegue, informs me she is having an affair - after 25yrs with her childhood sweetheart she now wants to see what the world has to offer. I didnt know how to respond, I just sat there grinning. Now why did I grin...moojii, do I subconciously in agreement with her? Hmmm. Lord have mercy..lol

^Indeed. Yep, I have seen old men whom married a second or third wife to only come back to the first wife, when life had taught him a lesson or two. A&T, I have seen obsessive wifes, kuu oo wali isku ridheen for the sake of checking and following up the where about of hubby - koleyba hadhuu niin raboo inuu wax sameyoo it makes no difference if he tells you he is at work or he is at masjid - those could easily be decoys. War qof tuug aah mawayeeyoo sii wax uu xadoo - marka why stress myself with checking up on him every minute. Honestly, there is no way one can stop someone from cheating if they want, by being on the watch all the time is a tiresome business..

Blessed Sis, what it means is, dont obeserve a person too much - sometimes its really good to be ignorant, live in bliss believing roses are red ,violets are blue and hubby is God sent. So I agree with Juxa, no need to barbar his pocket or his phone or his laptop.. The swahilis, believe the husband is yours once he is indoors, he is any ones when he is out and about..Loool.

^Warya Ngonge - maxaa kaa taqaniid reer Galmudug? Maa biskotii baa wax uu yahay baad iistiri? yaah! Sorry, didn't get the gist of your sarcasm in your post - marka waan iska tageya..lol

"shaki iyo wiswis baad dadka ku beertaa, marka waa inlaga salgaaro waxa kaa dhigey belo-sheeg/hoog/sheeg!"..Lool, he got you thinking huh?..Loooooool Sometimes in marriage ignorance is bliss - swahiligu wexee yiradaan 'hadaa chicken [free range ones] uu sii firsatiid, chicken weiliga madaan cuunii leheyn [pheww! thats long winded translation] - in other words, if one obeserves a chicken feeding, they will not eat chicken - waad aragteen what the little creatures eat, all sorts.

^War waa kuu sidee, how will they have the exagurated sense of pride if they dont know they originally came from where Adam&Hawa lived..Loool.

^He is typical dee, maxaad laa yabtee?..Lol So Sayid, it means you havent been doing justice to Qardho at home - how could you have negleted your responsibility??? The kids should have known where the world began and ended - Qardho...Lol a good morning to you too.

^You my dear is a wise one..masha'allah. I soo, agree that the nurturing of the relationship should not end just because one is married to the other - it should be continued through out.

nuune;831953 wrote: If she does that in front of her husband, he will erotically label or call her to be heekaleey from the past, yaa ku barey waxan would be his first reaction, and yaad ku niikin jirtey ama u niikin jirtey would be his main question. Only a Somali would think that - other cultures prepare their young ladies for the life of marriage which includes the 'intimate' aspect of it. Your comment reminds me of many stories I have heard, of girls actually being divorced just because they showed interest in that department..yaaah??..Lol

Wyre - they confuse their culture/tradition to Islam - mabaa jiirto 'erotic dance' in Islamic way of life, now it doesnt mean one cant dance erotically for her husband..

^Bless! If you want to pretend to be a South African maa Axmed Musse Dahir baa isku dibiii leheed ama you would take a Zulu name of Celekwazi?..Lol. Qandalawi, waa kuu sidhee.

^And they have done so in droves!...The officials should have asked them to 'aftiirsoo' - then again miid Somali oo lawyerka uu shaqeeya would have made money from distributing all the 'aftiriis'..lol Moonlight, indeed.

^I agree, so where is the petition to sue his ***?

^Yaah? By the way, Somalidu miyee ilaaween marke dulkaasii soo mareyeen ee basaboraha dulkasii soo qaateen to be able to reach the western shores iyo lands? Ama waxaad shegeysiin there were direct flights from every tuulo in Somalia to wherever laa joogo - Somalida basaboroo Tansaniyaa iyo Kenya ama Uganda siitaa aa soo duule - marka maxaa laa yabeysaan marka aad aragtaan dadkale isku shegeyaa something else..lol

Nice, very nice. Abu - I hear life in Djibouti is expensive, if one is to visit as a holiday destination, what is your experience?

Aye! dont mess with Somalis has always been how some of us survived in diaspora - the Swahilis with their xoog wexee kaa baqaan jiireen the skinny faraxs for their 'organised revenge tactics and dont mess with my sisters/ brother attitude' - no one dare touch nor speak to us - marka indeed, dont mess with the Somalis..lol

Lol@chopping iyo redeeming useless iyo jilibka is all too much work - maxaa baa laa isku dalineyaa ninkasii oo kale..its bye bye! hit the road jack...and hello handsome to the next...he he

Lol - so when I see Somali men fussing over their children on a Saturday shopping trip is just all an act huh?..lol

^Good, let her and them out of your mind. Have a nice and blessed day yaa all! am out - to slave for the day..lol

^Very late tsk tsk..

^Looooooooooooooooooooooool - poor thing, perhaps she has never had to earn a living , mexee kaa ogtahay why waad sii socootaa..lool, so blant they can be..lol sorry for laughing at you ...Juxa

mac mac@ Juxa - ii waraan abaaye?

^Sabax kheyr Jac - a good morning?