Bismillahi Ar-Rahmani Ar-Rahim All praises are due to Allah alone. We praise Him, we seek His help and His forgiveness. All this lovey dovey stuff is making me blush. Oh my my my True love is when you love Allaah and the Propht, pbuh, more than anything else. Then and only then shall the soul be content. I remember listening to a lecture titled : love and marriage: rethinking romance in Islaam The sheikh mention that one of our past sheikhs dedicated one of his book to his wife. He stated: "I am in awe of you, not because you have any power over me, but because the beloved fills the eyes of the one who loves her". Subhan Allaah. If that aint love, I dont know what is. Inshaa Allaah I will fall in luv with my husband and stay in luv wit him, that is if Allaah decrees me to marry. O Allah softens our hearts. Dear reader say amin.

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Bismillahi Ar-Rahmani Ar-Rahim All praises are due to Allaah alone. He praise Him, we seek His help and His forgiveness. I don't know the answer to your question. But I do know this: Nationalism is a very very dangerous thing. Like you said, we are one umma under one religion. Furthermore, Allaah states that He does not change the condition of a ppl unless they change themselves. We must come back to Allaah in sincerity and in repentance before anything can be accomplished. Patience is key to success. We must also look at why we want our own homeland. Is it so we can claim a piece of the land pie? Or is it so we can establish a nation based on the laws of Allaah? If I have stated anything incorrect it is from my self and the shaytan. If I have stated anything good, it is from Allaah alone, the Most High. O Allaah accept this from me. Dear reader please say amin.

Bismillahi Ar-Rahmani Ar-Rahim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him , we seek His help and His forgiveness. I do not long for Arab Palestine. My heart is for Muslim Palestine. May Allaah make the plight of our brothers and sisters a means for them to enter Jannah with. May Allaah grant the muslims victory. Amin Amin Amin. Ya Aziz, ya Hakim.

Bismillahi Ar-Rahmani Ar-Rahim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and His forgivenss. I would like to say Jazakumullaa Khairan to Mujahid and Petite. You both eloquently spoke the truth. I would like to elaborate: Jealously is natural. It's an indicator of how much you care/love something. If I saw my husband chatting to a woman that wasn't mahram, I would be jealous. But there are limits to it. When the Prophet pbuh offered marriage to Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her, she replied that she was a jealous woman. The Prophet,pbuh, made du'a for her. For myself I would allow my husband to marry another wife because he would be helping another muslim complete half their deen. Of course I would be jealous but everything is a test. Allaah loves those who are patient. O Allaah make me of those who are patient. If I have stated anything incorrect it is from myself and the shaytaan. If I have stated anything good, it is only from Allah, the Most High. O Allaah accept this from me. Dear reader please say amin.

Bismillahi Ar-Rahmani Ar-Rahim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and His forgiveness. I find this a thoroughly fascinating topic. Jazak Allaahu Khair Naasir for posing your question. Here's my spin on it: Marriage or educated: which comes first. It all depends on what you think an education is. Many ppl have degrees but aren't educated. Since when does college equate education? A person doesn't need to go to college or university in order to be educated ex. Malcolm X, may Allaah have mercy on him. College or university teaches a person a trade ex. medicine, engineering etc. There are many ignorant ppl wit degrees walking around. So then what is an education? Let's look at the lives of those pious muslims of the past. The muslims of the past began their education by learning their deen. Who'da thought? After the memorization of the quran by the age of 10 or so, i'm not exagerrating, they'd learn a trade. Physics, Chemistry these are arabic words and these sciences were studied and composed by the muslims in the 7-10 century while Europe was still looming in the dark ages. You'll be surprised with what muslims brought to the scientific world. Hence, true education is knowledge what brings the person closer to his Lord. Does that mean professions in medicine, law, history etc are meaningless? OF COURSE NOT. The better the muslim, the better the doctor, lawyer or historian etc. Ok. Enough about that. What about women you ask? Let me clarify something for everyone. In fact I want everyone to read the next sentence out loud. Heaven is under the mother's feet. What is the status of that mother if heaven is UNDER her feet? Alhamdulillah, I am a woman. To be "just" a mother is the most honourable position a woman can be ever given. But... but... you say: Woman are more than mothers. Women are more than house wives. Of course, the role of the woman is diverse but first and foremost she is a mother. Aisha , may Allaah be pleased with her, was in her time the equivalent of a modern day doctor. Also many of the male sahabah came to her to learn and for her to answer their questions pertaining to Islam. How about the somali woman then? Exactly why is she uneducated? The somali woman has 2 problems, lack of education in her deen and for her dunya. I find lack of knowledge of the deen is the bigger problem because not only will the repercussions be seen in this life but also in the next. An uneducated woman means uneducated children. Big disaster. Also, we as Muslims suffer from an inferiority complex. If the non-muslims have a lot of money or are living so-called "wonderful" lives, than I ask why is suicide and depression rampant in this society. Our measure of success is different from the non-muslims'. Everything that we do, be it motherhood or neurology, we have to do it with the intention of pleasing our Lord. So what can we do? First and foremost we need to get out of the mentality that if your married young that's the end of your hopes and dreams. Success does not mean working 9-5, it means using your time for your benefit in this life and the next. I know many many many sisters that are married and are in their schools. I also know many many sisters that have put their work on the back burner to raise their kids. You can also stipulate in your marriage contract that you want to continue your studies and have the option of work. I want to leave you with this: It's not how much you make but how you spend it. Like wise, it's not what you learn but how you use your education. We obviously know that the life style of the non-muslims isn't working for them so why should we imiate a nation that is doomed unless they come back to Allaah. Furthermore the idea or even the mere connotation that Islaam in particular is against the advancement of woman is ludicrous. First martyr in Islaam, a woman. Person who learnt most ahadeeth, a woman. First person to accept the call of our beloved Prophet,pbuh, a woman. I would like to apologize for the length of this post. I would also like to apologize for not directly answering your question naasir. If I have stated anything incorrect, it is from myself and the shaytaan. If I have stated anything good, it is only from Allaah. O Allaah I ask you to accept this from me. Dear reader please say Amin.

Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahiim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and forgiveness. Amin. Mashaa Tabarak Allaah, great article sis

Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahiim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and forgiveness. Amin Amin Amin

Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahiim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and forgiveness. Jazak Allaahu Khair for your du'as Buubto and Mujahid. May Allaah make it easy for us in this life and the next.

Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahiim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and forgiveness. Aight, So check it. Many of our young bros and sistas dont wanna get married young these days. Why is that? Cuz sadly enough we are following the ways of the people here which is: to wait till your 30 to marry someone who'll you'll only divorce in the end. For some reason marriage equates to death in this society. You aint free if your married. My q is are you free when you aren't? Of course not. There are so many sides to this argument, I will just speak about the sexual aspect. Think about it. We are not allowed as muslims to engage in relationships outside of marriage even if it's just a "friend" thing becuase Allaah, out of His wisdom, gave us certain instincts. If you have seen a fine person of the opposite sex, you know what I'm talking about. Alhamdulillah, Allaah has not forbidden sex. He just regulated it like sleep and food. Over indulgence aint allowed when it comes to sleep and food. Likewise, sex is also regulated. Certain sexual acts aren't allowed, such as homosexuality , sodomy and while the woman is menstruating. Furthermore, if the time of salaat came in, you are not suppose to be knocking boots. So there you are, full of hormones and to top it off you're living in North America which should be renamed "The Fitna Pit". Now if you can't go around sleepying wit whomever you chose. Who do you call? Dont say ghostbusters. Your spouse of course! Plus, Allaah rewards you everytime you have relations with your spouse. What a sweet deal. You get to satisfy yourself and please Allaah at the same time. All praises are due to Ar-Rahman. My dear and respected brothers and sisters take heed to the advice of our beloved and noble Prophet(pbuh): Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 4: Narrated 'Abdullah: We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." If I have stated anything incorrect it is from myself and shaytaan. If I have stated anything good is it only from Allaah. O Allaah I ask you to accept this from me. Dear reader, please say amin.

Bismillah Ar-Rahmani Ar-Rahiim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and His forgiveness. Masha Allah. To what Buubto said: Amin Amin Amin.

Bismillahi Ar-Rahmani Ar-Rahiim All praises are due to Allaah. We praise Him, we seek His help and His forgiveness. Ladies and Gents, I think Sisters and Brothers sound better...don't u ageee?... I was listening to a very good lecture that some of you kind souls may have come across. It's called Purification of the soul by way of du'a by Dawud Adib. Go to islamway.com if you want to hear it. It's under Audio Lectures. To proceed: There is a way or shall I say a sunnah to making du'a: The Prophet (pbuh) used to face the Qiblah (the direction of which we pray) while making du'a. It is better, but by no means necessary, to have your wudu (ablution) while making du'a. The Prophet (pbuh) began his du'a by asking for himself then for others. The Prophet (pbuh) used to raise his hands while making du'a. The Prophet (pbuh) used to repeat a du'a 3 times. The Sahabah and the Tabi'een (the next generation after the sahabah), may Allaah be pleased with them, used to make du'a for their brothers/sisters (we're not talking of only blood relations here) while their bro/sis were not present so that their du'a would get answered because the angels say "ameen and may you get that also" every time you make du'a for your bro/sis when he/she is not present. The Prophet (pbuh) used to make du'a in his salaat in sujuud(when your face is on the floor) and just before he said tasleem (saying salaam while turning his head to each shoulder at the end of the prayer). There are certain times where Allaah is more apt to accepting the du'as of His slave: 1) Last third of the night 2) Between each adhaan (first call to prayer) and iqama (second call to prayer) 3) When it's raining..even if it's a little 4) On Fridays between Asr and Maghrib There are certain people Allaah is more apt to accept their du'a: 1) The person being oppressed 2) The traveller 3) The mother Prerequisite: Your du'a will not be answered if you ask for something haraam such as "O Allaah make it easy for me to find a girlfriend"....do not do that. Ways that Allaah will answer your du'a: He, the Almighty, the All Wise, will answer your du'a in three ways: 1) He may give you what you ask for in the dunya (this world). 2) He may instead prevent a harm that was to befall you. 3) He may provide you with something good in akhira (the hereafter) This is a huge topic that may not be completely covered in one post so if anyone wants to elaborate feel free to do so. If I have stated anything incorrect it is from myself and shaytaan. If I have stated anything good is it only from Allaah. O Allaah I ask you to accept this from me. Dear reader, please say amin.

Bismillahi Ar Rahmani Ar Rahim All praises are due to Allah, we praise Him, we seek His help and His forgiveness. Alhamdulillah the brothers and the sisters answered your q very well mashaa Allaah. I would like to elaborate further. The term "he" when used in english is actually a very general term. That's why "he" can refer to "she" also in some cases. In Bukhari: Volume 8, Book 78, Number 621: Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "We (Muslims) are the last in the world, but will be foremost on the Day of Resurrection." Allah's Apostle also said, "By Allah, if anyone of you insists on fulfilling an oath by which he may harm his family, he commits a greater sin in Allah's sight than that of dissolving his oath and making expiation for it." Bukhari Volume 1, Book 2, Number 33: Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr: The Prophet said, "Whoever has the following four (characteristics) will be a pure hypocrite and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy unless and until he gives it up. 1. Whenever he is entrusted, he betrays. 2. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie. 3. Whenever he makes a covenant, he proves treacherous. 4. Whenever he quarrels, he behaves in a very imprudent, evil and insulting manner." Obviously the "he" used in both ahadeeth refers to both men and women. Furthermore, the belief that Allaah is a man goes against the belief of tawheed. The category of tawheed, Asma e Sifat (the names and attributes of Allaah), clearly indicate that there is nothing like Him. The phrase Subhan Allaah, means how exalted and free from any imperfection Allaah is. Man is imperfect. Allaah is perfect. If I have stated anything incorrect it is from myself and shaytaan, if I have stated anything good is it only from Allaah. O Allaah I ask you to accept this from me. Dear reader, please say amin.

Who is the source of this hadith? Gaalo don't pray and I don't see them suffering at least on earth. At least in this world, if you compare the gaal and the muslim and look at their quality of life, & level of comfort. The gaal has the better deal. And please don't nobody jump at me, I am just stating the fact.