Haatu, thank you, please tell these Arabfied guys with the suspicious mind. P.s. But I have seen divorce resulting in very harmless and meaningless situations like her cousin came to see her in the house. Waali, I dont know what this world is coming to.

Their friend maba jooga. What you are basically saying is that old men can be trusted to stay around your family but your young friend cannot be. NOW that is ceeb. Wax lala saxibo maa tihiid- We will agree to disagree. I think waxaan wa overrated and it comes down to basic trust. Abu- in the Somali context they are hardly going to be alone sitting in a house- there are always at least 5 other running around- kids, relatives, friends, parents etc. Maybe he gets on with his friend wife- most Somalis have tons to discuss

North: HOW is it different?- they were his friends, not waiting for him but just hanging around his house, eating food and chatting. At least this one has an excuse- waiting for his friend. Or are you saying when you are OLD, it will be okay? I think you are being unreasonable- all those years hanging around Arabs and Hollywood has influenced you. :D I guess it is pointless to ask IF she can have HER friends (male) over unless you are sitting there with a stick P.s. I am well aware the religious ruling.

North and Apo: Really I am surprised. I think Somalis generally do not have any boundaries- particularly compared to the Arabs in gender relations. I find the none suspicious, laid back trust nature of Somalis wonderful. It always means there are no awkwardness or formalities in gender relations (unless it is politics or business). I think it undermines people that people are automatically suspicious and wicked about gender relations. Of course already there are lots of stories about affairs and nin naag lagal baxey by his friend so I expect this traditional open boards changing. Growing up, we always had people round the house, all my uncle seamen friends use to chill at the house even when my uncle was out of country and travelling. Many of them did not have families and my edo use to cook them food and endless tea I was forced to make.

^Lol so true. Ngonge- eer are you in the habit of visiting Married none Somali women and none married Somali women at home? All that aside and in any case you can visit her as a group or with your wife. I think the Arab in you is creepy. Somalis have no such problems- meeli walba wey iska taagan.

NGonge she is at home fighting the evil flu. Why have you guys not visited her to cheer her up instead anigu Hargeisa ca heesaya ii weydineysaan?? some friends!! Sayid how you doing. All is well alhumdulilah.

HEllo and SalamAlikum. Alhumdulilah. Life is always so strange! Haye what is new people?

Salahudin, then you have two options- stop working such long days, get a better job which you are comfortable in AND feed yourself. That is why you have two good hands and feet. Failing all that, get a maid- that would allow clean windows AND hot meal which you can demand, haadi kale kitchaad dhicaaga ka gal. Aaaliya :D lol Shinning windows, floors, fresh and clean but no food- bal ka sheeke. I told intaan ii shaqeysa the other day, cook less and clean more, even if it means missing out certain meals to make more time for cleaning.

Lol lol waali and nus, Im speechless. lol Aaaliya Canjeelo for lunch? I thought it was a breakfast thing> I hate the fact it is messy and all the walwalaaq and dacdac puts me off eating it let alone making it- lol Lol Che- will look for her, Haatu- it improved- can you imagine that! lol When ever I intend to cook, I end up cleaning for hours, outside windows, garden, windows, anything to avoid cooking., Cleaning I dont mind laakin. Fresh smell and clean.

Lol Che. That is the truth. For as long as I am working and earning, I expect to be fed! If and when I ever become a house wife, he will be eating take away food from plates, of course he will never know it is take away- aniga aya kareiye baan oodhan Lol : ugly people marry foreigners- then why baad uga dhaba caabadii!

I was thinking I dont even have the excuse for winter! lol unlucky I am. Thanks. ' loooool @ Che. Aaliya, we was upset I refused to live in India and hated it for the few months we were there laakin he got over it. Che, he speaks my Somali, did you expect me to teach him aaf xamari!? lol I dont cook, for him or anyone else.

I feel evil, kept laughing at how the people were diving!!! that is awful!!! lol

Aaliya when elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers- peace makers always get caught in the middle, from now on, dhiance ka raaca, aniga baa haada waa la ii so socoda, and I wont have time to reply after I recovery from my flu and stop wasting time back to work. yiiiks.

Oba waa ciidaad uu ham iyo dig leedhey caawaba, geeeed lost

lol lol Aaliya I meant way back in this thread while you was defending people right to choice and generalisations and dadko dhaan ka hoor safteen- in the context of what I said to Oba. NOT the maahmaa! lol lol jokes! lol. Thanks for the correction Nuune we dont speak Jiin speech aniga iya Aaliya. How do the Jins say it>

hehehe loool. Awliyo indeed! hehe but you are a jiin awliyo, as suppose to a human one! Wlc back

Oba: No, not at all. I can normal tell the members who are performing much like a peacock in search for mating partner- people act in extremist in the hope of attracting a partner here. So, certain behavior, insulting and bashing here makes perfect sense (proofing how Somali or religious one is compared to others etc- it is only fair those who the performs was put on for respond in kindness). With that said, Aaliya, dont take it personal, we are just in the way of the show, kinda blocking as it were. On a serious note I agree with you. I've heard both saying- I use to use the same one you write laakin people here keep correcting me to use the one I wrote. Oh well, you get the meaning. Nuune- I highly doubt it, but all those jiin kids is beyond a Somali qaalanjo.

Oh My God, white revert aa la isku heestey- Now you are on about marrying Jiins. 100% Somali Jiin nevertheless of course! Ninkii dhimaan waaya maxa aragtii kuu laaban!

HEy Nuune, xaagaad ka dhacadey!! I was randomly thinking the other day whatever happened to our project! lol Now I hear you are in some far places and all!. I hate Jimicisi-

Most proper Somalis waa xaraan some would say- their parents probably eloped in the miyi But then again what does anyone know about "real" Somali or not.

Lol This thread is mad! No need to insult each other- each to their own. " Waadigaanse labaati iyo luugah is la weye, meel saare lalamanyee, Liibaantaad addunyaad, ruuxna lasaan maye, maxaa lureey naftaadi" Marrying a foreigner does not first have to be WHITE or revert- there are lots of already-Muslim different races and secondly you can still have no wedding or big wedding depending on what you like as an individual. Lastly marrying a foreigner does not make you any less Somali. Imagine I married a Bangladeshi-Indian and live and work in Somaliland for the most part- who can claim to be more Somali than me Your marriage is WHAT you make of it. Anyone who decides what RACE they are going to marry BEFORE they meet the person is limiting their options. As for the original question on colours. I prefer no wedding, I'd rather be sitting at my house watching TV then posing uncomfortably on a stage bullied by old relatives. But the colour and style must fit your body- no point squeezing into a white dress and looking like a vera wang boat. P.s. On a different note- the mehr for a wedding I am going to in Hargeisa is 900g of gold- that is like $47,000. I asked the guy why, he said this is for show, laakin wey iga saamixi. Is that even normal!!?

Lol Poor Nuune!!! Like Malika the flu brought me here and sii fiican ayaan uu qosley. Malika thanks for digging it up! lol

^I live in SL now- C now means "3aa" so ama waa gloves or kloves but no longer 3loves. North: I get sick when I take a few days off and try to be lazy. It is punishment for being lazy I am sure. Anigo aan waxaba qaabi I woke up at 12, the other day and then stayed in bed watching the Big Bang Theory, wasting a whole 24hrs on nothingness. This must be my punishment. I had a flu through out my 4 week holiday. There must be a correlation between idle lazy and flu. How is family and Saudi? I saw on the news a preacher was order to pay blood money for raping and torturing his baby daughter to death- caku yaa akhas!

North it means forecast- been in many weather focused discussions? I have no idea where this notion that I dont eat comes from. I eat none stop! thanks anyway.

IT used to be that Somalis- regardless of WHERE in the Somali inhabited areas they come from or which Somali passport they carry are charged the same $10 entry fee. It makes no difference IF you are a Somalilander if you are carrying a foreign non Somali passport for your travel you pay $34 entry visa on your foreign passport and the same amount when leaving. Unless you have a multiple entry Visa or a residence (in which case you pay $14 each way). The bank is no longer based there, so no more exchanging anything. You pay in dollars or SL for your visa and go. The other proposed change in this legislation is for ALL passports other than Somaliland's passports to pay the foreign fees. So the various Somalia passports including the OLD Somalia passport and Djibouti will pay the same as the British, where as before just for being Somali they paid the same as Somalilanders. This $10 security handling fee, plus the $34 is still only $44 which is well in line with International Standards. I'm glad the exchange thing is gone though- although now you are forced to give the guys who carry your bags $ instead of your exchanged SL.