LuCkY Posted August 19, 2003 Some Relationships Can Make You Sick Mixed Feelings in Relationships Raise Blood Pressure By Cherie Berkley, MS Reviewed By Michael Smith, MD on Tuesday, July 29, 2003 WebMD Medical News July 29, 2003 -- There may be some truth to the phrase "love can make you sick." A new study shows having relationships with people whom you have mixed feelings for can drive up your blood pressure "The conventional wisdom is that stress is bad for our health, and that personal relationships are good because social support helps us deal with our stress," says Julianne Holt-Lundstad, assistant professor of psychology at Brigham Young University, in a news release. "But some relationships can cause interpersonal stress, so we can't just lump all relationships together." Her study appears in the July issue of Health Psychology, a journal of the American Psychological Association. Researchers had 102 healthy people wear concealed blood pressure monitors for three days. The volunteers pressed a button about five minutes into every social interaction to record their blood pressure. In addition, they kept diaries of whom they interacted with each day and answered questions about their relationships. The findings showed that having mixed feelings raised blood pressure more than having outright feelings of hostility. Mixed Feelings Cause Higher Blood Pressure Than Hostility "When you're interacting with those you feel aversive or negative toward, these people are predictable and you will either avoid them or you can discount them because you know what to expect from them," Holt-Lunstad explains. "But for a person you feel both positive and negative toward, there could be hope and an expectation for something positive, and then when you don't get the support you wanted, this can be very distressing." There was another twist to the report. It shows that there are benefits to having close family relationships, even if a family member upsets you sometimes. Researchers say even when people have negative feelings toward family their blood pressures don't rise as much as when they have negative interactions with other people. This plays into the theory that people with strong family relationships live longer and have a better quality of life. Researchers even compared relationships on the job. They found work relationships were viewed more negatively than interaction with non-work relationships. Researchers say they hope their findings will help people make wiser choices in their relationships, making it possible for them to cut down on stress levels as a result. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mindstate Posted August 20, 2003 Lucky what kinda relationship do you prefer or how is your relationship? i know mine is sour and it makes my blood boil rather cool it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuCkY Posted August 20, 2003 Mindstate sour and bLood boiLing is not good. I prefer a reLationship that is straight forward none of that beating around the bush deaL. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mindstate Posted August 20, 2003 Lucky please lemme know when you find that kinda relationship aight sista? coz like you said i need to re-charge my batteries namean? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuCkY Posted August 20, 2003 Mindstate i wiLL be sure to Let you know. Yeah you shouLd do that-it couLd make a big difference. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
- diamond princess - Posted August 20, 2003 Lol. Interesting topic Lucky. I've been in a very up and down hill relationships with people. It never struck me as "hazerdous" for my health. Hmmmm.... .:peace n luv:. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mindstate Posted August 20, 2003 Originally posted by - diamond princess -: Lol. Interesting topic Lucky. I've been in a very up and down hill relationships with people. It never struck me as "hazerdous" for my health. Hmmmm.... Baby you need to holla at me as it clear that you need a change of inviroment na'mean?lol do you like spaghetti or rice?lol Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
- diamond princess - Posted August 21, 2003 Rice... Oh and can you add two piece chicken wings. Thanx .:peace n luv:. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A7LA-SHU Posted August 21, 2003 hmmm it is really interestin. i guess studies find something new everyday.. thanks lucky.. i'll remember this incase there is any mixed feelins.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuCkY Posted August 21, 2003 Diamond Princess i encounter many peopLe that are in the same situations-its not good at aLL. I try to avoid it at aLL costs.Now you know so good Luck. Mindstate what environment?You are in a simiLar situation...remember? :confused: I didnt know you can cook. Mag-girL teLL me about it.Youre weLcome. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Saalixa Posted August 22, 2003 OK LOVE IS IN THE AAAAAAAAAIIIIIIIRRRRRRRRR. aight, u guys seem to forget that there isnt a real love these days. GUys these days are neva true and so are girls. ppl just pretend to be in love. ppl that are in true love are very rare, and so lucky i do agree wit u. Love does make u sick, but iam sure when u find the right person, it will ease the pain. salamz......... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LuCkY Posted August 22, 2003 ^^^^^Speaking from personaL experience? :confused: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Business_Man Posted August 26, 2003 It is so true that some relationships can make you sick!. You worry what he/she is up to, who he/she is with, why he/she isnt returning your calls, and why he/she is not calling you as often as they used to!. The list is endless but I am sure you understand me by these few points above!. A relationship can make you sick if you dont trust your partner!. You think or know that he/she might be a player and you just wish that yuou could see his/her true colours!. You can achieve this by reading their brains psychologically!. Scour the internet and I am sure you will find alot of articles regarding people being sick coz of partners being unfaithful!. :mad: These above points are from personal experience!. Dont judge a book by its cover but by its content! :cool: . Set your standards higher to find the perfect mate and I am sure you will him/her with allahs help!. Peace. P.S Naag Laatabtey Maarabo! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Twisted-AYeeYo Posted August 26, 2003 Originally posted by Continental Batchelor: P.S Naag Laatabtey Maarabo! eewwwwwww ayeeyo macaan ..naag aan lataabtan hadaadan rabatid ... adiga hooyada uurkeeda saa oga soo baxday maa tahay i wonder why u guys like the virgin girls 'n most of u ya ain't virgin sup wit dat? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Business_Man Posted August 26, 2003 eewwwwwww ayeeyo macaan ..naag aan lataabtan hadaadan rabatid ... adiga hooyada uurkeeda saa oga soo baxday maa tahay LOOOL....How do you know I aint a virgin?. Dont judge a book by its cover!. Why complain....Are you a virgin? I only believe in halal intimacy through marriage sis!. Anything before that is not in my dictionary so I dont know why you got offended unless you are suggesting something personal that you would like to share with me. There is always my PM!!! Naagta Laguursiniin ow Lataabtey waa Player weyaan(personal experience), incaar haa kudaac thow. Niin halaal uhuraaba gabaad halaal somahaan?! P.S My swahili is better than somali so excuse my fish and chips mali spelling! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
