Chatting=Shataan

[Raage]

With the growing use of the Internet, we can see that there are many beneficial uses for the internet, but there is always the other side of the coin!

 

The most two negative uses of the Internet that acts as a drawback for any Muslim, is the surfing of sex sites and the chatting with non-muhriims. May be we as sisters we don’t find the sex sites interesting as men find them, and if I am talking about us who inshAllah are trying to be good Muslim women we don’t find those sites interesting at all!

 

 

But we are left with the second negative use that many of us can get involved with and this is chatting with non-mehrem. Some may say that there is no a clear cut proof that shows that chatting with non mehrem is something haram. Yes may be there is no clear-cut proof and this simply because chatting itself is something that was introduced lately. It was not there in the prophet’s time or in old days thus we should think logically and think about the Islamic point of view regarding this issue.

 

 

What may lead a girl to chat with a non Mahram may be summed up in two main reasons. The first possible reason is that she is forced to talk to him to finish up some work. This is mainly is seen among those who work on line most of the time. Well for those sisters I would like to say that there are some limitations for your chatting. For example, try to be straight and direct to the point. Don’t get into discussions involving personal issue. Call the non-mehrem brother so this prevents the shytan from coming in between. Try not to use smiles or any thing like so that may make the person ur chatting with think in a wrong way.

 

 

We then come to those who chat because they want to chat. Well I would like to say to those sisters that any thing that may lead to something haram is considered haram. For example, how many stories of chatting we heard about those girls and boys who start chatting and end up seeing each other or talking on the phone?? Thus, this chatting had lead them to something haram. Thus, the shytan used the chatting as a step or a way to the wrong, sinful act. And Allah (swt) says in the Quran: O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan.” [al-Noor 24:21

 

 

The shytan will not come to a Muslim girl and tell her “hay go out with this Guy!” no he is not ****** he knows that u will immediately refuse this, instead he will let u to reach to this inform of steps. So chatting could be the first step.

 

 

Some sisters many claim that they can control them selves and that no way they will leave themselves to reach to a hopeless case, for those I say that the son of Adam is weak, weaker that you can ever imagine, and if we are able to control some how our selves that this is with Allah’s mercy, and not because ur smart way of thinking or ur ability to control things. He can take from u this capability and leave you with your weak soul and your shytan. So lets ask Allah to strength our iman.

 

 

Some sisters may reach to what is called “love on the net.” This starts by steps! For example mrs. O starts to chat with mr Y and then they get to know each other and suddenly they realize that they understand each other and they have allot in common. Then they get used to chatting with each other, and the day that he is not online the girl gets depressed and feels that she can hardly sleep! And they then end up in what they call “love.” I am not underestimating things, and I am not saying that all of this is rubbish no, this happens and it happens in a serious way. For all those sisters who are going through this I advice them to fear Allah and be honest with your self. Do u really wana continue ur life chatting with some one who u don’t know if he will really come and propose to u? Or do u wana continue ur life imagining ur dream man from someone ur chatting with and u never saw! The best thing u can do is so freeze everything and to tell him that if he wants to marry u he comes and propose if he said I am not ready then freeze everything and when he is ready he can contact you. Or let some one to contact you, or may be it would be even better if he can contact ur father or brother.

 

 

If your chatting with a guy, and you have feelings for him and he has feelings for u than this is what we call a big sin, ur going into what is called girl/boy friend relation ship. The shytan may tell u “no no this is not a relation ur just chatting with him and this is okay. A relation is when u go out with him or u talk with him on the phone!” Well this is how the shytan always act, he rename and re change things for us. It was the shytan who said to Adam “shall I not tell u about a tree that if u eat it from it u will live for ever. This tree he called it “shagrat el khold.” In fact there was nothing called shagarat el khold” he just changed the name of the tree or made it up to make Adam eat from it. Thus it is one of the shytan’s way to let us fall in haram.

 

 

Fear Allah, and remember who ever leave something for Allah’s sake Allah reward him with what is better.

 

 

Do we really need to hear romantic words? Or do we wana get married and enter from the door that will be opened to us when we marry? Do we really wana waist our time in something that is useless and Allah will ask us about every second we live? Or we wana get married to rais mujahdeen? What we will say if the angel come to take our souls while we are doing something haram? Will u tell him plz wait??

 

 

Ask Allah for forgiveness, and stop chatting with any non mehrem, u may think it is hard but no it is not it the shytan who makes u feel this way. Try to stop, and pray allot and ask Allah for forgiveness and He will sure guide you and increase your iman.

 

 

Think twice we are living here to worship Allah. We are slaves and slaves do not have the right to do what ever they want.

 

 

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O Allah, guide me to good character, none guides to good character but You. O Allah, I seek refuge in you from bad character, deeds, and desires.

[bilan]

salaam

good point, but, and i heard from some sheikhs saying that chatting has the same rules as writting letters, or talking face-to face, as long as what the two parties are talking about is not haraam,but person has to be careful, i will try to find something, but if you have daleel then let me know, because i do not feel comfortable people saying this is haraam,without evidence, i mean if chatting is haraam, that means msn messenger is haraam too.what about if you if you see someone you know from opposite gender, @school, in neighborhood etc, what are we suppose to do, do not talk to them?

[Bambina]

Salam to all of you ,hey Raage , I posted a couple weeks ago a topic about whether chatting online was haram or not , some of the nomads replied it wasnt and some others said it was.But the point is Im still left with the same question.I believe chatting online is haram but if one of your relatives supervises what you do on the computer it might not be haram.

 

Raage ,you said that if a girl and a guy have feelings for each other its haram ,you're wrong Allah have created us in a way that we have feelings such as love. Love is not haram ,its just the way we should control our emotions that is important because without control we might end up sleeping with each other.And what is wrong , if you try to know each other on the net? Believe me sometimes you dont need to flirt with the guy in order to know him.

 

After all, just because you want to get married that doesnt mean you're going to jump on the first guy and ask him to marry you.And I believe also if a guy wants to marry,he wont propose without knowing the girl.If the two of you are serious about gettin' married then you should this time talk to your parents and let them meet the guy.And if you want to see the guy face-to-face,a mahram should be there to supervise you both.

 

In a certain way , you're right Raage sometimes its pointless to chat with thousands of guyz on the net,we can call them friends but sometimes we do flirt with "our friends" that is haram and we need to be careful.