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  1. Wooow what amatch? Guys Barca are definitely going to win something this season. Real Madrid r on the decline now n there is no chance it will do much better than barca in their league and in Europe.

  2. Having read the negative manner in which Dads are portrayed amongst our Somali community, I came across this episode in some forum and I thought to myself hmmmmmm the somali dad isnt the only victim but looks like others are suffering too.....



    The Role of Dad


    In this day and age, men of all stripes should feel good about themselves. We are told that dads are contributing members to their family and society, but the culture today makes "Dad" look like a helpless boob who is unable to care for himself and others.


    Look at today's television commercials:


    Why is it that moms are the "choosy" ones in the family who are qualified to buy peanut butter? Is Dad not savvy enough to purchase something as simple as a jar of peanut butter?


    Then there are the ads for frozen dinners where Dad is pretending to whip up a gourmet feast for the family, but we find out that he is really nuking the meal in the microwave and even then, he is "just getting by".


    Apparently, it would seem to a cough syrup maker that "Dumb-Downed Dad" is not smart enough to administer the medication to his sick child, so it is "Dr. Mom" to the rescue. I suppose the makers of the medicine feel that "Dr. Dad" is too much of an elusive title for good ole Dumb-Downed Dad, who is only the master of the television remote and the grill. It seems that in these times, Dad is not really an expert in anything. Sure, the home improvement ads show might show Dad actually building a deck, but most of the time, it is an expert who is finishing the job that Dad could not handle on his own.


    After years of so-called liberation, we are still treated to litany of television promotions of mom cooking, cleaning, clipping coupons, commenting on diapers and making all of the important decisions while Dad revels in affectionately being the household buffoon.


    If a visitor from another planet came here to watch our television ads, they would assume that the father's role in the house is to sit on the family room recliner indulging in potato chips while watching football on his big screen television, while Mom is running around the kitchen multi-tasking--another character trait that so-called experts say that men do not possess.


    It is also the self-elected societal "liberators" of the '60s and '70s who are to blame for these negative "Dad stereotypes". In the '60s and '60s, bored, tired housewives came out of the kitchen and demanded equality. That was a great thing, but something funny happened on the way to women's empowerment. Phil Donahue, Gloria Steinem, Alan Alda, Betty Friedan and others made dads look like belching ****** who mistreated women for centuries. That tradition carried on well into the '80s and '90s as "Oprah", "Jerry Springer" and "Montel" carried the torch. While their intentions were noble, it did not make a dad's job any easier.


    But all of those who brought on the awareness of women's rights are not telling the story of the good dads out there. There are scores of proactive dads who are attentive to their spouses; feed and diaper their newborns; get involved in the local PTA; take the kids out to the movies and the park; cook and clean and so much more.


    Yes, I think products can be "Kids Tested, Dad Approved". Why not? We haven't even given the stay-at-home dads and single dads who are earning their stripes as good dads each day. Give Dad some credit. He's not a buffoon. Give him the feeling of competence

  3. Ever heard of the phrase opposites attract? Bad boys and good girls work well together at the beginning and then its downhill after. I believe the same applies to bad and good boys..infact I should say men n women here as this involves relationships..

  4. “One of the basic causes for all the trouble in the world today is that people talk too much and think too little. They act impulsively without thinking. I always try to think before I talk.â€..


    Debates generally are supposed to be about opinions and counter opinions based on what one feels is right or feels right to use. I couldn’t help myself when I responded to this thread as there a slight problem of miscommunication coupled with a whole lot of misunderstandings. To be or not to be is one line I used to here in one of the Romeo and Juliet plays but in this case it’s more like be or be thought of a lesser believer. Strangely enough scholars are just human beings and fatwa’s are made by different schools of thought. The Islamic religion is now under going a lot of changes and it is said that at some stage the Islamic religion will be divided into 72/3 (not sure) sects. So I would say that everyone has to question what human beings who are fallible in nature have to say or write. One can follow blindly what others write or question them, that’s why Allah gave us the brains to think and to seek knowledge.

    There is no difference of opinion amongst Muslim schools that the religion of Allah is Islam; that the only way to know Islam is through the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet SAW; and that the Book of Allah is what is known as the Quran, without any "addition" or "deletion". The difference is in the interpretation of some of the verses of the Quran; and in believing or not believing some of the sunnah as genuine; or in its interpretation.


    Why not let people differ about their answers to the great mysteries of the Islamic religion. Let each seek one's own way to the highest, to one's own sense of supreme loyalty in life, one's ideal of life. When we blindly follow what people adopt in a religion, a political system, a literary dogma, we become automatons. We cease to grow. First thing for any Muslim is to learn and we can only learn by questioning then perhaps get enlightened. For those who know, do what is right and never question people’s faith rather teach them what you think is right for no one has the right to question ones faith as long as it doesn’t interfere with your own ideals and beliefs. "He who learns, acts in accordance to what he learns, and teaches for the sake of Allah, is ranked in the Kingdom of Allah as 'a great man'. It shall be said, 'He learned for the sake of Allah, acted for the sake of Allah and taught for the sake of Allah.'" Learning especially religion is a life long affair and we must strive for a better understanding. For example this Eid I was a little surprised that some brothers prayed on Saturday and others on Sunday. I can’t conclude that because the days differed one or the other was not doing what is right and aren’t believers. I also have been to many mosques where you find different view points depending on the background of the people and what they were taught. Ultimately if they followed the teachings of the Prophet SAW and his Sunna then one wouldn’t go wrong. Having faith is to do right. It is to love, it is to serve, it is to think, it is to be humble and sometimes agree to disagree but not to force what you think is right down anyone’s throat. One is entitled to debate but I don’t think one is right to put down others for what he or she thinks is right.


    Ngonge it’s true that sometimes arguments that have neither head nor tail sometimes are counter productive and to question one faith or call him names for not agreeing can’t be right for only Allah can be the judge. We shouldn’t let what little we know and learn from others blind us. We would be better of understanding, analyzing and when we can give our own point of view. As we all know only Allah can judge not mere mortals.

  5. Not trying to stump you folks, just want to know the answer....will someone put this to bed and forget the ping pong. Abuse of words has been the great instrument of sophistry and chicanery, of party, faction, and division of society. Now will someone tell us if our religion caters for happenings like what happened to this guy. Personally we need to clarify whether in this case the man deserved to die or not and possibly mention where it is said that act is justifiable in our deen. Facts are ALLAH's arguments; we should be careful never to misunderstand or pervert them.

  6. The English team where absolutely crap last night. I dont see them going anywhere playing the way they are. I was an armchair spectator but they sure pissed me off bigtime. I couldnt believe they are the national team. Spain basically dominated and trully taught them a footballing lesson. Its time Sven went for the team lacks focus and forwardness and cant do anymore than they are capable of. Crap Crap Crap