Shaqsii. I am sure you know every divorce case does not have the same formula, although they head for the same destination the route each individual pursues depends on their unique situation. So, it would be pointless to try and determine the reason WHY it had come to this. Malaha waxaad is tiri wixii la qariyoba qudhun baa ku jira, markaa if she/she is divorced there must be something more than meets the eyes? :confused: One thing we must remember is that waa wax ilahy qorey, it doesn’t matter how hard they try. They might be the most caring, sharing kind and considerate people you have ever come across, but if they were destined to fall apart then it will happen sooner or later. And I agree a lot of brothers and sisters plunge into the marriage circle without seriously thinking about the long term effect. I would say Somalis in general need to re-examine their family values. Walaahi on a personal note i cannot say that i would give ssm a thought, i would have also thought that they would not give a spring chic like myself a chance. Shujui-1 Anything is possible brother. Jamaal-11. I would say you were just thinking out loud rather than being on the joking mode.

I agree, it's disrespectful to call another other their name whether it's nayaa or waryaa. But there's always one or two isn't there, kaasna qadaraxaalkiisa oo laa laaban ayaa loo dhiibaa, like this.... Waar naa naab yahow xaga naarta u jeedaa noocna ma tihide nacdal baa kugu taalee nayaa hana i odhan intaaney nasiib daro kugu dhicin oo ta kugu dhacda aad ka sheekeen. Then we'll see if he dares to call you nayaa next time.

Instinct-Poet Walaalo waa runta, inta aan afsomaliga akhrinkiisa iyo qoritaankiisa aqoon waa in la xaq dhowraa. Nin Waaban iyo Buumaaye Meeshan waxaa jira wax ikhitiyaar la idhaa, kow dhe. Qofkii doonaya in uu koofiyada af ingiriisiga xidho dee isagey jirtaa , laba dhe. Markaa haday adiga taasi ku diiqadeynayso dee adigaa dhibaato ku qaba, sadex dhe. Waa xagii Lakkade sanka nooga kaca sala calaa nabi..naqaskii baad nagu xidheene

Whether or not Nin-Yaaban's views are genuine is beside the point. You can lash out at him till you are blue in the face but the fact remains that there some Somali Men who still have this mentality. So, I am kind of glad that he is choosing matters that are controversial and thought-provoking to keep us all in check with reality when is comes to of our Somali Men. Gabadh-Yaaban

Nin Yaaban. Dhaqn dhaqan dhaqan taas aad nahaysaaye bal ii define garee dhaqan somaaligan aad sheegayso, because as far as I am concerned there is no such thing as “Dhaqan Somali”. As for being obedient, our Diin covers that and it says both men and woman should respect each other (it goes both ways). Batuulo: couldn't said it better myself sis. Opinionated I move to tell nin yaban to GO BACK TO SOMALIA. most certainly

abdikhadar: Firstly, Walalo you misunderstood me, when I said (It’s ugly they way Somali language conveys certain messages) I meant the way some people choose their words collectively when expressing their views on certain subjects. Especially, when they disapprove of something or someone. Secondly, you didn’t really answer my question, I know waa ikhtiyaar kooda laakin adigu what is your reason? qoslaaye: Again, you completely avoided the question. I didn’t ask for the reason why she got divorced; But what are the reason/s that she is not remarried, preferably to an unmarried Somali man. Shaqsii & illmatic: It’s understandable that you would prefer a woman with no “access baggage” but surely if she loves you and you love her, she makes you happy in more ways than one, why would you dismiss her just because she has kid or two?, why are you not making that sacrifice and take her for what she is or has. Surprisingly, you might even be happier in this marriage, than the one you’re seeking. To be honest, the main reason most marriages fail is because there is lack of communication between couple. I was reading an article called “Tips for a Better Husband and Wife Relationship” (which I posted in the Islam forum) and it says “Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work”. Which, I totally agree, if the partners are in partnership rather than being rivals their marriage would stand a better chance of success.

Somali Single Mothers It was not until recently that I realised most Somali (unmarried) men would go out of their way and avoid marrying a Somali divorced/single mother. Though, itÂ’s a subconscious thing and they may not realise that they are doing it, but a lot of brothers run a mile as soon as they find out the woman has been married before. (as if to say she is some kind of nymphomaniac). Walahi, it saddens me to see our men alienate our woman on the basis of her marital status. On the other hand, if you reverse the situation you would see no problem, a divorced man has no trouble marrying an unmarried woman. But, when it comes to a divorced/single mother they make a song and dance about it. *maxaad ku falaysaa mid lasoo furay adiga oo helaya mid yar oo shabaab ah* (ItÂ’s ugly they way Somali language conveys certain messages) So, my fellow male Nomads what are your main reason/s for not marrying a Somali divorce/single mother? (Aside from qadar and calaf) Sisters feel free to share your thoughts.

For the married or soon to be married nomad, here's some tips on perfecting your marriage. p.s. If every somali couple were following these steps, walahi our divorce rates would be alot lower. Marriage: Tips for a Better Husband and Wife Relationship =========== By Ibrahim Bowers Although many Muslims may right now be in failing marriages and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage. Examples of Negative Relationship of Husband & Wife Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family. Marriage In The Eyes of Allah It is very sad that this relationship which Allah (SWT) has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be. Allah (SWT) described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: '. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation). Do not be a Tyrant Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278® Transmitted by Tirmidhi). Be Partners in the Decision Making Process. Follow the principle of 'Shura," and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them. Never be Emotionally Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet (SAWS) never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: 'How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?" Be Careful of Your Words Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation. Show Affection Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving. Be Your Spouse's Friend Show interest in your mate's life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other's lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class. Show Appreciation Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband." (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don't take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated. Work Together in the House The Prophet (SAWS) is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn't feel that they are. Communication is Important Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs. Forget Past Problems Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved. Live Simply Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The 'rizq" is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life. Give Your Spouse Time Alone If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin. Admit Your Mistakes When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other. Physical Relationship is Important Be available to your mate sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand." Have Meals Together Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet (SAWS) did not complain about food that was put before him. Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn't like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate's physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse. Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times --- when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them. Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner. By Ibrahim Bowers (submitted by a subscriber, source uncertain)

OG. girl , I'll second that. It says 'Don't get yourself in a state. If you think you'll be rejected, you probably will be! For some reason I fall into that trap everytime, even if I was almost certain that he was interested, I just couldn't go through with it. So what if we are old fashioned lol

Ladies, how many times have you heard lame and pathetic chat up lines??? More than times than you can remember right… Well, I have come across just the thing today that might be of some use to the brothers and sisters (brave ones) who wish to take the plunge. The perfect opening 'line' should provoke a positive response and get them interested. If it gets you both talking - without causing offence - you've got a result, because going up to a stranger and starting a conversation is nerve-wracking, but it's all about having a positive attitude. 'Don't get yourself in a state. If you think you'll be rejected, you probably will be! The three things to remember are that it doesn't matter if they say no, this is just a bit of fun; that you're not looking for a relationship, but looking to make friends; and that if you keep telling yourself how fantastic you are, others will start to think it too.' lool There is no guaranteed success every time with these winning lines, but at least they'll have your dignity intact at the end. Sure-fire winners 'Do you have the time?' One of the oldest tricks in the book, but a winner if only because it opens a dialogue between you and your intended. Of course, trying the time thang while you're wearing a watch is a bit of a giveaway, but if you can brazen it out, then you could be on to something good. 'I've lost my phone number. Can I have yours?' Guaranteed to raise a smile - and probably a conversation into the bargain. This one requires a little bit of confidence, a big grin and a set of raised eyebrows. 'I'm ugly, I don't deny it - but surely you can kiss me out of pity?' Funny, cheeky, and if delivered with a winning smile, guaranteed to get a laugh - and possibly more than just a peck on the cheek! Or try these - if you dare! • 'Do you believe in love at first sight? Can I walk by again then?' • 'Is that a ladder in your tights, or a stairway to heaven?' • 'It's hot in here... no wait, it's just you!' • 'I've lost my bed... can I sleep in yours?' • 'Can I flirt with you? I need the practise, you see...' • 'What winks and makes love like a tiger?' (Then wink and walk away...) • 'Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?' Definite no-no's If you're not very confident at making that first move, don't despair - your line could never be as bad as this little selection... 'If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?' The classic 'cringer' - even though it's often quoted in chat-up line 'collections', this one's the perfect example of what not to say: it'll get them laughing, but at you, not with you. 'You're so hot, when I look at you I get a tan' Not even a practised flirt could get away with this one: a combination of ingratiating smarm and repellent overconfidence. It might make you smile, but more likely you'd also be reaching for your coat and heading for the door. •'You must be feeling tired, because you've been running through my dreams all night' So cheesy it hurts, not even bags of confidence could make this one sound convincing. Try only if you can cope with outright rejection! If you thought those were bad, try this selection for size: • 'Do you come here often?' • 'You're so beautiful, I can't believe God didn't keep you for himself.' • 'If water was beauty, you'd be an ocean.' • 'Grab your jacket, you've pulled...' • 'I'm easy - are you?' • 'You should be arrested! It must be illegal to look that good.' • 'You and me are like angels with only one wing. If we come close together, we can fly back to heaven...' • 'Your father must have been a thief, because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes.' • 'I like your style, I like your class - but most of all I like your ass!' By Niamh Bugler

I believe the Afro-American man is still not free, atleast not entirely, and to be free, they have get their acts together, use the brain cells and engage mental game!! I couldn't agree with you more brother Latiif Metaphorically speaking “They can’t read” meaning that reading triggers your brains cells in ways that allows you to be more conscious of your surroundings. (Depending on what you reading of ‘course). So, if they are bussy with competing with one other and using I quote "IGNORANCE, GREED, and SELFISHNESS" as methods containment amongs each other, then reading is the last thing on their mind. Soomalidaa ku maah maahda "ey is cunaysaa waraabo iskama celiso" Buppie class that looks down on their people or aids them in a condescending manner. True..maybe this is a "wake up call" opinionated Are you saying that there is no Truth to this letter? surely not...

Ohhh Bless....

loooool. Da Beast ... Aint you the charming one....intaad itiraadid lixdan jir baa u eekahay, hadana is dabaqabatee...Or should I count myself lucky because Da Beast has spoken..

First of all let me just say nobody is PERFECT. However, markay arintu heer guur gaadho (husband and wife) then is whole different ball game. If you follow the guidelines for a pious wife, (which I plan to when the time comes, insha allah) then this question should be immaterial.

On top of my head here are few I can recall... *Abeensada farta loo taagaa fanaxay u boodaa. *Fardo la isku hayo maxaa la isaga faani *Maroodigu takarta kutaal ma arkee ta kakale kutaal ayuu arkaa *Beentaada hore runtaada danbe ayay beeneysaa Also the ones below | v

Somalis and the subject of “love”. Waa awr iyo nirig teed, ma kala hadhaan. Jacyl Somali way ku dooday, way ka heestay,way ka gabyeen haday doonaan way ku riyoodeen laakiin waxa ku dhaqmaa way yaryahiin. I can assure you every Somali has his/her own definition of “love”. Mine, for instance is that love develops with time e.g. marriage, intaa ka hor waa xiiso iyo niyad.

Legend of Zu you freaked me out.. I repeated the steps twice using 2 different numbers at the begining and it turned out with the same result :confused: , Impressive indeed.

This article has probably more in common with middle-age white woman than a young Somali sister. Nevertheless, it has some justifiable reasons that some of us can relate to. You’re right ladies; there is nothing wrong with being single as long as you are content. So, let your guards down, no need to get all defensive. This is just another column writer’s point of view.

illmatic I think is Safi Abdi I assumed the hint was the title from one of her books, which it turned out to be Although, this is the first time I am hearing of her.

Is it your fault you're single? So you’re single – and you don’t want to be. It seems there are very few good men out there, and on those rare occasions when you do think you’ve met Mr Right, he turns out to be Mr Not-Quite (or Mr Absolutely-Not). But maybe, just maybe, the main reason you’re still single lies with you. Whether it’s down to image, attitude, tactics – or a mixture of all three – perhaps there’s a certain aspect of your singleton style that needs changing in order to turn things around. So settle down, take a deep breath and ask yourself these questions… Am I too fussy? As we get older, we grow tired of playing games. If he doesn't call when he says he will or turns up late - on the night you've arranged for him to meet your friends, it's tempting to dump him there and then. But if you expect 100 per cent from every new man, and don't give him the chance to show he's not so bad after all, there's always the chance you could be missing out on your best-ever relationship. 'Nobody's perfect - and there's no such thing as the perfect mate,' says relationships expert Gladeana McMahon, Fellow of the Association for Coaching. 'Some women find it hard to differentiate between those qualities that are essential to them - such as kindness, humour ect- and those that are preferable, but fairly easy to live without. The 80/20 rule is a good one to follow: if you can get 80 per cent of what you want in life, you're doing really well; but you need to learn there will always be 20 per cent where you're unlikely to be fully satisfied.' It's also important that you don't make snap judgements about a man's personality, based on first impressions. Even if he's wearing a naff tank-top or starts telling you how much he misses the Queen Mother, don't naturally assume that he's not the man for you. 'Because people have so little to go on when they first meet, they tend to amplify the few clues available,' says Louise Raggett. 'Women are more likely than men to project these assumptions into the future and make spur-of-the-moment decisions about whether or not they could live with certain imagined "traits" for the rest of their lives. If you find you're doing this, poke yourself with a fork! It could be impairing your judgement more than the anything!' Am I sending out the wrong signals? When you’re younger, you don’t have to try hard to communicate that you’re single and ‘available’ – simply because the majority of people you meet are in the same boat. But as you reach your late twenties, more people are attached, so if you see someone you fancy for the first time in a bar (Riwaayad for the somalis), at the office or at the bus stop, you need to put in a little more work. ‘If you want to let a man know you’re interested in him, it’s your body language that counts,’ says image consultant Ceril Campbell. 'Look straight into his eyes when he talks to you, perhaps fiddle with your hair and - if you're really going in for the kill - mimic his behaviour in subtle little ways. Also, never cross your arms in front of your body: men prefer open body language - but, obviously, stop short of opening your legs!' So what should you wear in order to send out the message that you're 'available' - without looking desperate? The first rule, according to Ceril, is not to overdo the sex-kitten look. ‘Most men want to look at sexy, scantily dressed women – but they don't want to go out with them,’ she says. 'Everyone has something sexy about them, but there's no need to overdo it: the trick is to be elegant and pretty, rather than in-your-face tarty.' By the same token, however, it's important that you don't just fade into the background. 'Steer clear of neutral colours - other than black and white - and anything that matches your skin tone,' Ceril continues. 'If you want to be noticed, beiges, fawns and taupes are all big no-nos. But you can liven up a neutral outfit for the office by adding a splash of colour with a pink or turquoise top, or a bright scarf.' Am I still obsessed with my ex? If you've recently come out of a long-term relationship, it's natural for your ex-partner to be lurking in your thoughts whenever you date - or think about dating - someone else. But if all you talk about is how you've been hurt in the past - or you expect every man to treat you badly just because your ex did - any new relationship is never going to get off the starting block. 'Of course, past relationships can impact on current ones,' says life coach Gladeana McMahon, Fellow of the Association for Coaching. 'If your last partner left you for another woman, or you didn't see the end coming, you may be more clingy and vigilant next time. 'But it's important to remember that each new partner is a new person, so you need to find out how he operates. If he's tended to play the field, there's no reason to think he won't while he's with you - but if he's had a series of committed relationships, he's likely to be more serious about you. It's important to learn from the past, but not live with it.' Louise Raggett says: 'Look on each relationship as a learning experience - however painful, wonderful or exciting it was, think about what it told you about you and what you do and don't need from a partner. You can then work out what behaviours and choices have served you well in the past, and take them forward into the next relationship. Likewise, you can dump anything that's held you back.' Am I too busy? Bridget Jones star Renée Zellweger once told an interviewer when asked about her apparently non-existent lovelife: 'I'm not single - I'm busy.' And it's true that with our hectic modern lifestyles - juggling work, friends and family - many of us think that we just don't have time to look for Mr Right. In fact, up to three million singletons say they're too busy for love, according to a recent survey. But if you're not happy about being single, you simply have to find the time. 'We live in a fast society - fast food, fast relationships, instant decisions,' says life coach Gladeana McMahon, Fellow of the Association for Coaching. 'However, you only get to know someone over time and with a little effort.' 'Nowadays, lots of women put off finding a partner while they concentrate on their careers,' says Louise Raggett, love coach for udate.com. 'Then when they're in their thirties and do feel ready to meet someone new, they just haven't got the time to trawl pubs and clubs looking for their ideal partner.' OK, so how do you find the time? Well, savvy singletons are increasingly taking short cuts such as speed-dating and online services. 'Women turn to online dating for a number of reasons,' explains Louise. 'Men have to woo you with more than a free drink, they can't stare at your chest while you're talking - and you can be forward and flirtatious with less reservation than you might do in person. With a bit of intelligent window-shopping, you can find out a lot more about someone in a few seconds than you can all evening in a crowded pub - so it's a great time-saver.' Am I too shy? It's one thing to spot someone you fancy - but quite another to pluck up the courage to let him know. But if shyness alone is stopping you from making a move, it's time to bite the bullet and be a little braver. 'Ask yourself what's the worst that could happen and whether you could live with it,' says Louise Raggett, love coach for udate.com. 'Most fears are unfounded: usually guys will just be flattered, even if they aren't interested - and if you're not embarrassed, he won't be either.' Right, so what do you say to him - assuming that, 'Do you come here often?' doesn't really cut the mustard? 'Actually, it doesn't matter what your opening line is,' Louise insists. 'Most men know that whatever you say is just an excuse to start a conversation - and that's fine. In fact, a clever remark can sometimes be off-putting. If he's interested, he'll take the bait - and if he's not, it doesn't matter anyway. So pick someone you like and say anything.' But what if you want to make a move on someone you already know quite well? 'Find topics you know he's interested in - music, films, ect- and talk about these,' advises life coach Gladeana McMahon, Fellow of the Association for Coaching. 'You could then suggest that speaking to him about it has made you realise how much you miss the activity, and suggest that the two of you see a film/go to a club/whatever soon. If you just weave the suggestion into the conversation, even if he says "no", it's unlikely to be devastating: most people will let others down gently.' Hmmm, well I can positively say I am guilty of at least 1 of above analysis,“Too Fussy”. and according to the article that spells disaster, oh well :rolleyes: Sisters, feel free to express your opinions.

This is just a wild guess but could it be Waris Dirie the former Somalian supermodel ? She's the only one I can think of who recently published her book.

Somali proverbs are the best I have come across, yet they fail to acknowledge its significance. Here is a maah maah in Somali that says “ey is cunaysaa waraabe iskama celiso”. Bal maxaa isku keen diray hadaynu Somaali nahay?. Do we get some kind of “great satisfaction” just because we disrespect a fellow Somali?

Lets us not allow pessimistic views deter our efforts of getting the desired job. Yes, it’s hard these days and there are a lot of skilled people out there who got the experience and the required degree. However, that doesn’t mean you haven’t got a chance. You do, and all you need is a little more determination. The worse thing you can do is give up, even if you have to do voluntary work for a short period to get some experience in your field, getting your foot in the door is all you need. I am a recent graduate myself and after few months of my graduation I got my desired job (alxamdulilah). So, I am sure you can too. All the Best

Knowing Somalis, they probably came up with those names after they encountered different types of Somali Woman. Particularly with the names below Qorraxo: Kolay siday qoraxda u taagnayd ayaan taa magacaa lagu dhajiyey Raagsan: Marka sariibada loo diro way raagi jirtay, saa la idhi naa tani waa raagsan Raaxo: Ala raaxo jecelaa, mise wax kalay u jeedeen? Saluugla: Waa mid aan waxba saluugin Subkan: Dhalaal keedi badnaaba ayaa la idhi naa tani talow ma subagay isla dhacdaa? Taliso: Wax uun u tali baa la idhi ragna ha ahaa tee Timiro: Rabadaan iyo rabadaan la’aan timir afka kamay qaadi jirin Udgoon: Uunsigii aduunka ayey habeen iyo maalin hoos istaagi jirtay Warla: War ba waa laga waayey Wiilo: too much of a tomboy Xalwo: ala intee la idhi xalwada iska kala daa Yuusa: the name says it all

illmatic. I know there can't be that many Somali female writers, but I think a hint is needed. Like what subject does she specialize?