^Hello, J. Yaa kumaagay? Nice read, NG. I wish my train of thought was as smooth as yours, I'm so scatty that I sometimes feel like shaking my my brain into order.

wyre;684377 wrote: I thought It was boqorka codka Oo ah? Ma what's his name.. 'sawt bilaa suura'? Anigu Cumar oo qaadayaan ku arkay.

Maxay sameenayaan hadaad ku tidhaahdid maan helin sms-ka, miyaa lagu celin. Gardaro. Hadaan nafta u baqayo aniguu dhankaa kamaan dhamaadeen. Hadii kale buurahaan tiigsan lahaa. Illahay ha idiin sahlo. Anagu roob baan u ducaysaneynaa.. Aduunyo xaal badanaa.

Juxa, to be fair yaduba ma dhaanto. I doubt he broke in to survey the house. Wa isu qalmaan ee ha la israaciyee iska daa.

^LOL. Abtigiis;684073 wrote: Maanigaa la ii qarinayaa waa Faarax iiman la'. Imman la' is a realy a different issue. Looking for new pasture when the old is overgrazed is a natural instinct of living organisms. That is not iimaan li'i; it is called cosobsi. LOL.. Miyaa la ii qarinayaa, ku yeh. Maxaa la yidhi, 'dhagar qabe, dhulkaa u dhaqdhaqaaqa'. Anywa, iska cosbso. Siddii la ogaa ayaad calaacal ku danbayn ood odhan 'ceeb uun baa iga raacday'...

You're in Jeddah? Maad Makkah / Madinah iska aadid ama buuraha Sawdah iyo Abha soo kortid. I like it markuu roobku bato and they have to close schools. :cool:

That wasn't Af Somaali juxa, see camal adi? Afra xaaslehu hanoo danbeeyo, I want to know about the wasaq, ma la feedhay mise inantii waa la raaciyay?

^Hey Juxa, Gurigaanu ku cusbayn. LOL. Doqon. Waa runta, Juxa. Faaraxyada inta imaanka la way badan yihiin.

I wouldn't be surprised, Abtigiis. Laakin haday saa noqoto qofta faduul baa markii horeba kuu gaysay.

Haduu dookheeda noqdo waa in ay imaansataa maaha. Torress qudhiisu waxba isku mahayo, he looks like a little girl LOL. Juxa ma aragtaa, sidooda ayuu na mooday in aan one tunnel vision haysano. Acuudu bilaah min maskax rag :D

Sanad waliba hoodiyo, hawl iyo dhibaatiyo wuxuu hadimo leeyahay aa laga helaayo hadhow lagu xasuustaa. Kii noo hagaagee, noqo loo hanwaynyahay. *The Legendery Dhuule.

It's funny how the term 'terrorist' gets thrown about these days. Who writes this rubbish anyway?

... but does SOL love you? Welcome, girl. Hope you've got your brave errm. hijaab on, you'll need it..

Good points, Aaliyah but a degree doesn't get you ready for a marriage (I'm not going to let this go.. LOL). I think growing up in a big Somali family teaches you a lot about patience, sharing, patience, running a house, patience, rasing kids and patience. All I am saying is.. One shoes does not fit all, in my own family us girls got married at different ages and stages in our lives, these external factors don't determin the quality or longevity of marriages, personality is the biggest factor. All these obstacles are just ideas people throw about because they're bored, married folks just get on with it. Also, for every divorced couple, Aaliyah and there are just as many who remain in healthy marriages, stop focusing only on the negatives, sis. Anyway, aniga hadal iga dhamaa ee Illahay waxaan idiinka baryayaa mustaqbal khayr iyo xarago leh.. 5, LOL@ learn the real odour of your spouse.

Aaliyah, A 17 year old is not what I personally had in mind, we're now told 24 is too young to get wed? I understand the need for caution for someone as young as 17 but lets not generalise all 17 year olds, some people really are blessed with hikmah from a young age. 5, Who says couples must have children straight away? These days people tend to wait a few years before having kids, there's more to marriage than kids. If instead of dating, a couple married, they would get know each other probably and their union would also be blessed? Having said that, I don't for a minute believe that motherhood limits a woman in anyway, even if we do spend some time in the kitchen! I went to university with so many mothers and they did just as well as everyone else, in fact they seemed far more determined than the rest of us. Most successful female enterprenuers are women who started to think out of the box because they became mothers. There are so so many women who went through school and on to do great things as mothers. I personally grew up with the 'can have it all' story all around me, with my sister, cousins, neighbours teachers as living inspiration, it's has never been an issue of choosing one over the other, impossible is nothing. You just need to find the right balance and as Nugul said, a supportive man and you always have your family too..

I forgive you Abtigiis, it takes a big man to apologies.

This is more common than you think, Nugul. Don't beat yourself up about it. I don't think you'll get all of your questions answered here so try to go to a Masjid and talk to the imaam. Read Tafsiir of the Quran- you can find this online @ tafsiir.com or there are even lectures on youtube. Go to more talks and read about subjects you have questions on. Hang with some practising Muslims. Here is a brother currently active in the field of teaching others about the Quran who faced the issues that you're facing now and he details how he returned to Eman.

I disagree, Aaliyah but it' all right. I love the assumtions you made about that girl and her family. Her mother herself got married young and is an educated professional. They are a family who live Islam completely. Masha Allah. p.s I' not saying people should get married young. They shouldn't be put off which is very common these days..

Waa runtaa but I don't mean they should be pressured, far from it. It's very important for the person to be ready and I don't think readiness is age dependent. I know older coupls who got divorced within months for the stupidest of reasons. It is one thing to say, I don't want to be married or be in a relationship yet and another to say, I have to do x, y and z first. If you can do x, y and z and be married than why waste your time? I've seen so many youngsters who are ready to get married but are discouraged out of it because of the demands on them to study and fulfill an endless list of obligations (the 20K wedding for example) and this if we're honest and realistic usually leads to xaraam. A sister I know married her daughter before she went off to university in another country. People were questioning her sanity. But the girl was obviously ready because she brought the guy, it would've been wrong for the parents to refuse. The big wedding demands are rediculous and unislamic and tend to make marriage difficult also without adding any substance to it. I find it ironic that it's harder for one to get married in the Muslim communities..

Allah Yarxamuh.

That would be nice, sis. Let's stay in touch, Insha Allah. Jacaylbaro;683036 wrote: Opportunities in Somalia bay ku odhanayaan hadana Somaliland bay war ka rabaan ,,,,,, how could I help markaa dee ,,, Of course there is an area map but should send u in private or through kaad garanayso ,,,, lol ,,,,, Don't wana Shabab fanatics to use it ,, haha LOL. Waan yaabay, kuwa uu google ii soo gufay waa useless, maxaa la is ilaalinayaa. My contact na xaafada reer hebel buu igala bixi waayay. I've a very specific question, so I'll PM you. Teeda kale, maxaad isla xawaasheneysaa. Marka kaleba SL xayasiis aan laguu dirsan waadiga soo dejiya.

LOL. Waxaan u malaynayaa in ay 5 Somalia u socoto. Laakin anigu Shankaroon meel aan ahayn uma socdo. Haye I need the Geography of Hargaisa. Is there an area map online somewhere?

Not, necessarily. The beautiful thing about Somalia is that there's scope for development and opportunities in every field. Perhaps you can embark on a personal creative project in addition to whatever you manage to find yourself in. You'll get plenty of free time over there, the pace is slower and a day ends up feeling like a week. Alhamdulilah, Ive got an encouraging reply back from an organisation I wanted to volounteer with the other day. I'm so excited. Good luck on your search too, hon.

Oh, a compliment. I'm a sucker for those. So, err. Completely out of curiosity, how much are you offering?

Bashiir;682930 wrote: I hope lynchee is lynchee. A 23 kala xidhan. Waxba haiga qorin, mine is an old wives tale.. They do resemble each other in their manner of writing and topic themes but then aniga dar meeshan jooga ayaan paranoia ka qaaday. BTW.. Have ever had a lychee fruit? It's very interesting, I tell ya. (True story and completely off topic). I agree with Chimera, I a lot of sisters / brothers make the mistake of treating life as a serious of sequential events and shut off the idea of getting married till they check off a long list of things in their to do list. Meanwhile facoodu way is guursanayaan and then we get the never ending complaint of 'no good faarax and xaliimo' – which is an exaggeration in itself but I digress.. At the end of the day having a degree, masters, a career or being well traveled aren't necessary ingredients for marriage. It's compatible personalities, shared vissions, respect and love which sustain a marriage. You can marry young, study, climb the career ladder, travel and develop together. Our lives aren't made up of neat compartments of experiences and how boring would it be if it was? Don't get me wrong, it is absolutely fine, if you feel that YOU are not ready for marriage or don't even want to get married and surely there's calaf. However, there's a pervasive notion of life ending with marriage in the young (and some adults) of our community and it is a fictitious one. We're blessed with free will, so this life is ultimately what you make it..