Alpha Blondy;984518 wrote: who said i was mad? i see you're developing an extroverted persona. this ''in-your-face-isms'', loudness and brashness wa laga ficanyahay, you know. LOOOL ruunta iska sheeg....you're really a pseudo-introvert and a sell out, somaha? ;p Introverted doesn't mean I'm not blunt and direct with people, dee. You're mistaking shyness for introversion, introverts can still be assertive and to the point

I love this poem

Alpha Blondy;984514 wrote: i can write disparagingly as well, ma garatay? you made me look like a middle aged man on the verge of being caught with child pornography, dee. WTF is up with that? i aint that bad eh?

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Alpha Blondy;984499 wrote: i hardly make eye-contact with folks. you'll probably never believe me when i say the real Al is a soft-spoken, polite and mildly engaging sort of person. not mention that i posses several further 'miskeen' traits. lakinse, i could probably kill someone without a moment's hesitation, if i had to, that is....dee. introverted folks are not nice. they are quite for a reason. you cannot trust them. i speak from experience when i say they are not daacad in their opinions, values, actions and the niceties they present to folks :p. lakinse, extroverted folks can't not be taken serious because of their consistent loudness, khiyaale and group-based activities. their behaviour is prone to unpredictability, inconsistency and mood swings. they probably couldn't survive on their own....also they are defined by folks. anyways, folks to have control their mouth and actions, somaha, dee? what do you think? I can confirm... Alpha mustered the e-courage to ask me out for dinner when he learned I was in Hargeisa again this summer, but when he picked me up and we settled down at a local Ethiopian spot, he couldn't even make eye contact or get a sentence out because he was so flustered. As an introvert myself, I panicked at his inability to carry conversation (two people can't be listeners, after all), so we finished our tibs in complete silence until I asked the waiter for the bill in my broken Amharic. Conveniently Alpha stepped out at that exact moment, having "left" his phone in the car, so I paid the bill and asked him to take me home. It was certainly one of the most awkward first dates I've ever had, but I gave him another chance later in the week when he begged me to hang out again via SOL PMs. As he opened up to me over time, he became more personable and easier to talk to, though I know much of that has to do with the sheer quantities of qat and shisha we were ingesting at his house. Who would have thought Alpha's garden is actually a real hobby of his? I even saw all the books and furniture he's collecting for his library and research centre. So beyond his trollish SOL exterior, Alpha is actually a smart, kind guy with a great sense of humour, ee sida ula soco. Alpha and I have been the best of friends ever since

Best of luck to Abdi Warsame during the election tomorrow, we're all rooting for him

SomaliPhilosopher;984483 wrote: Of course 16 is a child to you given your urban dweller status in West Philadelphia immigrated and raised squatting on uncle toms playground where you spend most of your days. 16 is a child when you define a 16 year old as a mily cirus idoler, cootie hungry vampire, "help me cook cereal" kid.. war how do you compare that to the 16 year old Somali girl who just built her family an aqal or the 16 year old hafiz leading tarawih. 16 is a child as defined by the West. But anyways the West knows best somaha mr.west phili? 16 is young even back home, regardless of their responsibilities in the household. I spent quite a bit of time around young women this summer when I was in kililka 5aad and I was struck by how similar they are to teenagers here personality wise, some even seemed younger to me. Still gossiping about each other, giggling and talking about boys, and I even saw three girls about that age gang up on and beat up another girl for making fun of their clothes. It was like watching Mean Girls There are also a host of complications linked to having children at that age, like obstetric fistula, which is a major problem associated with young marriage age in the Horn (in kililka 5aad, there were girls marrying at 13 and 14, and I even met a 16 year old on her second marriage). There are other problems related to marriage at such a young age as well, like education and economic security. But I think this is all a different topic altogether.

Looks great Alpha

Khayr;984466 wrote: Saff, What was the name of Sheldon's girlfriend in the show? You remind me of her but you fit on the more green and liberal spectrum. I don't think that people fit on any one side of the fence. Most people are average and have a slight dominance of personality type over another. I don't have a TV, but I googled "Sheldon's girlfriend" and found this :mad: I think I'm cooler lol

Khayr;984467 wrote: ^ Can we appropriately rapists people with a sexual interest too? Does anyone have a sexual interest? Leathers and whips anyone? lol Do you see my point? Using the word sexual interest instead of illness or criminal act, gives acknowledgement to pedos. That's what a paraphilia is, though -- an abnormal sexual interest, which is why the DSM classifies it as a disorder and not a sexual orientation (which this thread is incorrect about). The APA has nothing to do with the law, they are interested in psychology and understanding disordered thoughts and behaviours. And just because someone has this disorder doesn't necessarily mean it translates into behaviour, so not all pedophiles commit criminal acts.

Tallaabo;984445 wrote: Is it that white dude? It's not SP, he's a joker Not the white dude either... this guy is Somali. White people understand that proposing out of the blue and professing your love for someone is psycho lol

Khayr, how can you define what a pedophile is without using the term "sexual interest"? I don't see how that validates anything about their thoughts or behaviours, it's simply description. Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar;984406 wrote: Muslim ayaan ahay, gaal ma'ihi. Toban iyo lix jir, to me, waa adult qaangaartay waliba goosweyn. Why stop at '18' as an adult? Why not 21, as they make it in order to buy qamriga iyo sigaarka in many places. Qaangaarnimo kuma xirno da' ee waa camal. A 17-year-old wuu ka caqli badnaan karaa a 21-year-old, wuuna ka akhlaaq wanaagsanaan karaa. Same with a 15-year-old ka xishmad iyo edeb wanaagsanaato mid 23 jir ah. MMA that may well be true, but I was talking about the laws here in wadamada galbeed. "Muslim ayaan ahay" won't work if you find yourself on trial in Canada for statutory rape for your relationship with a 16 year old girl lol.

lol Haatu I'm fine, I'm young and I'm enjoying not being committed to anyone right now. I mean I woke up this morning in my own apartment, sleeping diagonally in my queen sized bed dee, I'm not giving that up anytime soon Marriage isn't on my radar and likely won't be for years, and I've always thought it would be something I'll consider when things progress to that with the right person, not something randomly put on the table by a guy friend who gave me no indication he even had feelings until now lol. SomaliPhilosopher;984433 wrote: ^^war saffy why are you exposing me like that on the web!!! I'm a bit embarrassed now Sorry SP but I gave you an unambiguous no, texting me about your insomnia and how thinking about me is keeping you up will not change my mind

*Ibtisam;984413 wrote: According to this quiz I am Ambivert but considering I actually have a severe dislike for interactions with other people I've always though of myself as an introvert. It is not that I can't do it, I can and I do, I just find it boring and draining. If it was not for work, I wouldnt see or talk to other people outside of immediate family and friends. lol Haha I liked what she said in the talk about how no one is complely introverted or extroverted, so maybe you're more in between than you think. I was a shy, quiet kid but as an adult I'm no longer shy and I've developed some extrovert attributes too. But at the end of the day, I still prefer my alone time and doing things on my own, and I find people exhausting lol.

Alpha Blondy;984419 wrote: listen wisely. congrats. lol why are you congratulating me, I'm not even considering it. And I'm annoyed now because he thinks my opinion will change and he won't move on and let me be, I woke up to some strange texts this morning.

I got a marriage proposal tonight. It was an awkward and unexpected conversation

I picked up her book recently, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. Good read, and it's helped me understand a lot about myself Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Here's a short quiz if you're not sure.

Miskiin-Macruuf-Aqiyaar;984384 wrote: Who can be labelled as a 'pedophile' in Reer Galbeedka horta? If 30-year-old man marries a 16-year-old adult girl, he will be called 'pedophile' miyaa? 18+ is a legal adult, 16 is a child. Marriage is a bit of a grey area, but an adult man can marry a 16 year old with her consent as well as that of her parents/legal guardians, though laws vary by state/province/country. Pedophiles tend to be sexually attracted to prepubescent children (age 12 and under), not teenagers who have hit puberty and physically look more like adults. Depending on the age of consent in a country (it's age 16 in Canada), a 30 year old who has sex with a teenager could be charged with statutory rape and considered a sex offender. In some cases an 18 year old who has sex with his 15-turning 16 year old girlfriend can also be charged with statutory rape, even though they both may be in high school. So one can be a sex offender (peeing in public can put you on the sex offender list, among other things), without being a pedophile. And not all pedophiles are sex offenders, since not all of them put their thoughts into action. That's what the new DSM is differentiating between I believe (pedophilia vs. pedophilic disorder), not the incorrect article posted above that says the APA considers pedophilia a sexual orientation.

Alpha Blondy;984369 wrote: corporate sponsorships ruin these sorts of events. will you last place medal be sprinkled with Swarovski crystals? I hope so

Haatu;984330 wrote: It's called maariin. It's a browness that isn't dark, nor is it light. It was one of the 33(?) traits in a women Somalis termed beautiful. Maariin is a bit darker than that, I think, unless the meaning has changed. I.M Lewis writes about how the nomads in the North preferred a "reddish" tinged brown. What are the other traits? I know dark gums is one

Marksman;984299 wrote: Since when has being lighter skinned been equated with being beautiful in Somalia though? I thought being dark skinned has always been beautiful in Somalia. Strange. That's a good question, I've wondered the same thing myself. From what I understand, neither dark skin nor light skin was seen as desirable, it was a medium colour that Somalis have historically considered most beautiful. Skin lightening is quite recent, so I'd also be interested to learn when whiteness became something to aspire to. Kudos to the authors of the study for looking into this dangerous practice.

^^ yes but there are other spinoffs too, like 1 guy 1 jar and the like :eek: So tomorrow they open up the random draw for the Nike Women's half-marathon in DC at the end of April... should I enter? There's no guarantee my name will be drawn, but if it is, I'll have to do it. It's a race I've wanted to do for a while and it would make a nice end of semester trip for me for that weekend. I'm a little intimidated because I haven't done a race since 2011, but then again I have more than enough time to train (but winter running in New England ). Anddd the finisher medals are TIFFANY NECKLACES!

Haatu;984293 wrote: Someone told me to watch it. I never thought people could do such a thing. And for that to be the thing you die of, SMH. I need a good bottle and a young hungarian to make me forget this now I was about to say "not before you watch ___, ___ and ___," but I'll let you keep your appetite/vision/etc

Haatu;984280 wrote: I'm scarred for life nacalad ha ku dhacdee. Alpha, let me ruin your night. Have u heard of this vid kids watch nowadays? 2 guys and 1 horse. Old video but disturbing yes, he died after that too. There's a movie about it called Zoo. Why were you watching it Haatu? :mad: