Salaamz, Just wanted to ask this question inshallah for the SOL nomads in here. I'm hearing alot of talk about how 'SOMALILAND' is the ONLY DEMOCRATIC state in AFRICA? So my question, does this make SOMALILAND the IDEAL STATE then in Africa? Is the IDEAL STATE a DEMOCRACTICE STATE? Is the Ideal country for Somalis a DEMOCRATIC Somliland??? Help me out inshallah..... Fi Amanillah

Originally posted by The Observer.: hello to the women of the future and the present. i was faced by this question today. i was crisply asked by a non-muslim guy, but a guy from an african background. and he said he is a writer, and one of his stories deals with this issue, how it deals with it i don't know, nor is it relevant to what am trying to ask here.me, by being to open-minded and thoughtful, having the ability to have a straighforward answer was hard. didn't know where to start, for the word 'believe' does not come into play on my answering the question. so, being a young muslim woman, having the life i have, the exposure to alot of different issues dealing with women. was in a bit speechless, interms of answering the straight answer of a yes i do, or no i don't. because this is a hard embedded question. religously it is allowed, and i respect that because there are reasons to a polygynous marriage, compared to if the dude was just a mere pervert, who couldn't keep his hands to himself sort of thing, and wants everylittle walking thing to be his(his wifey). so that was my explaination, in brief, but then the next one went, "so u don't mind being the second wife?" and the answer was short, No.(mind u this had nothing to do with those pickup line things-i know some peeps would be why is she talking to this freak, lol) As i said, the issue becomes, since am not in that place, it becomes hard to anticipate, for i never thought of such an idea. and so i wanted to see if there are other women out there who came across this issue,and hear their views; because i believe in our societies, there are a lot of divorces that are caused by the choice of a dude marrying another babe. o, and here is another one, if men are allowed to have 4 wives/then women also should be allowed to do that. this was a statement from the same guy. and what was my status on that? well, i don't believe that is right. eventhough thinking of marriage as an instituion, and all that, also being a male dominant, structured for man's benefit. i still think there is a difference between men and women, and what each of them is capable of doing. so again, i would like to hear what my sisters and brothers if interested have to say about these issues and ideas. Salaamz, You know a friend of mine was telling me earlier on tonight about a show that came on late last night and had on the panel a local muslim imam and a muslim sistah representing some National Islamic society of our region. In anycase, the sistah was on the ATTACK MODE against the IMAM and posed the same question ,"do you believe in polygamy?" Imam: YES National Sis: Do u know that it is Illegal in this country? So if u believe in Polygamy you are advocating to Violating the Laws of the LANDS. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: Proper response inshallah for you sistah is to say 'YES b/c Believing in God's COMMANDS means to OBEY his COMMANDS and as a MUSLIM the authority is to the WORD OF GOD/ALLAH above ALL ELSE' "so u don't mind being the second wife?" Well, whether I mind or dislike something doesn't NEGATE it meaning if for example you don't like eating Chicken, that doesn't make Chicken AWFUL tasting or DEADLY (This has nothing to do with the chicken that come from CHINA! ) now-DOES IT? And regardless, what GOD PERMITS you have no RIGHT to FORBID and as a MUSLIM I would be going against my RELIGION then if I forbid what ALLAH Permits. Also, my Religion is not Based on 'PERSONAL LIKES/DISLIKES' its based on the WORD OF GOD and following HIS COMMANDMENTS that are layed in the QURAN and through his Messenger (salallahu caliyhe wasilm) Now I would ask the person who asked you these questions-WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF YOUR QUESTIONNING? a) Is it to BELITTLE my FAITH/RELIGION and EXALT your Liberal Man Made Idealogies that have only existed in the last few hundred yrs.? b) Is it out of need to know b/c you are interested about the RELIGION? In otherwords, DON'T GET DEFENSIVE with people when they want to QUESTION you about your DEEN. Rather, go on the OFFENSIVE and inshallah show them your PRIDE for your DEEN, your LOVE for ALLAH and HIS RASUL (salallahu caliyhe wasilm).

Originally posted by sayfulaah-almasluul: quote:Originally posted by Khayr: Define by what you mean by PLURALISM???? thanx khayr for asking more defination of pluralism.what i mean by pluralims is flexiblity of a religione,system or cultures to have the tolarence for co-existance with all other cultures,systems and religinoes Salaamz, co-existance with all other cultures,systems and religinoes Does anynomad in here know of the origin of the word 'PLURAL'? Is there such a word in Arabic for the arabic speakers? Fi Amanillah

Salaamz, You're observation walaal is Not Bad. The reality is that we live in a 'Fast Food, Prayer on the GO, Drive Thru-Banks, On-line Book readings (I don't think that I been to the library since I finished school for research or to read something b/c of the Net!)' World were IMPATIENCE is the NORM and ENCOURAGED. Focus (Allah and the qiyamaa (our meeting with Him which we can't avoid (I haven't found a hadith or ayat saying that u'll be sent straight to Janna skipping that Meeting )through Quran, Sunnah and Shariah, and Balance-through the Sunnah, which is what Islam is based are not the PARADIGMS/IDEALS/OBJECTIVES anymore. So here on SOL, we are a reflection of: -Who we are? -What we are? -Where we are? -Why we are? -When we are? I just wanted to add one thing and that is that from my observation outside of the 'ISLAM' forum, most SOL members are actually HOSTILE to anything ISLAMIC unless they LIKE IT. To add, even in the ISLAM forum, the responses are very weak and not strong. So people are people and inshallah I've learnt to re-orient myself. Its a TABOO here on SOL to talk about ISLAM outside of the LIKED ZONES of friendliness i.e. Thanx brother, sister, I like what you said. If people don't like what you say, you are questioned and as to where your allegiance lies. As witnessed by the banning of some previous members which I thought were good for SOL b/c it re-oriented/re-directed them from mundane topics to people's views and CONVICTIONS. Fi Amanillah

Originally posted by Ameenah: [QB] I hate Somali men! :mad: I think that tey are Allah's worse creators, I can't stand to breath the same air as them Exactly what 'somali men' where you talking about when you made those 'Personal Attacks'??? :eek: :rolleyes: AMINAH, DEJA VU? Xasooso

Salaamz, As usual, the SUBJECT here on SOL is turned into the PERSONALITY and you can't seem to seperate the two. Originally posted by raula: Arguing for such things/issues that do not concern u are useless...and dambi..(Reflection):- Rasulka S.A.W. says: "man kana yu'uminuu bilaahi wal youmil akhira, falyaaqul khayran au liyasmuudh...."(qofka rumeysan Allah iyo maalinta Qiyaamada, ha ku hadlo kheyr ama ha iska aamuso.." Bottom line-Yasmin u summed up everything. If its not u, dont bother!! *Both hadiths are narrated by Tarmiidh and Bukhari respectively. "Now, in your first line, you said arguing about things that don't concern you are useless and dambi" Now question is what is defined as useless talk? If there are gay marriages in your country and if you talk about them, is that useless talk b/c that is not happening yet in the somali community or in your family. So is it useless to talk about that subject then b/c alot of muslims are concerned about it and how it will effect their children and families. What is defined as useless talk? Talking about who you love on SOL and who you would like to meet-is that useless talk? About Hadith 1, "min husna islaam mar'i tarkuhu mala yacnihi"(Qofka islaamka ah wanaaggisa waxaa ka mid ah inaanu faraha la gelin arrimo aanu shaqo ku laheyn) Now again, I don't remember the exact, word for word matn/content of this hadeeth but if I'm not mistaken the subject is about what is UNKNOWN and seeing to find out knowledge what Allah has kept hidden. But if Allah shows you something its not Hidden anymore. If by chance one day you have kids and they see a gay couple on the streets kissing, what will you tell your children if they are to ask you about what they saw? About Hadith #2, "man kana yu'uminuu bilaahi wal youmil akhira, falyaaqul khayran au liyasmuudh...."(qofka rumeysan Allah iyo maalinta Qiyaamada, ha ku hadlo kheyr ama ha iska aamuso.." Now the question is what is good talk in ISLAM walaal? Is it talk related to Allah, his rasul (salallahu caliyhe wasilm), the ahl al bayt, the companions, the ulama, the sharia? Well if that is the case, then that can be found in every discussion about every topic. You can relate Deen to anything and to any topic. So it depends on how you view GOOD TALK/Kalaam ul khayr. But I think it is a question of ADAB and what is the proper place and time to mention and discuss something. SOL being a forum for discussion is an appropriate place to discuss social matters that are of concern to nomads. No names or addresses are mentioned in my thread about individuals that have been involved in these marriages, so its not Slandering or Backbiting or being insidious (evil, wicked etc.) towards them. I enjoy talking and bringing up topics such as these as long as I am not being ridiculed and harassed. But then again, I guess it comes with the territory! Fi Amanillah

Originally posted by Ameenah: [QB] Forgive me Khayr, but walaal, I will not apologies because that is a blatant attack at an un-named nomad that UD was having the debate with. I suggest that you re-read your comment and assess it without getting all flustered with me. Okay? I'm not going to argue with you back and forth. Allah knows what my intentions as to when I begin writing something. Its strange how you 'DIG UP' on something that was 'bothering you' for weeks and try to 'Re-interpret' to fit your xaal for that day. Time will tell the story........ SOL Ladies-TRUE THUGZZZZZ Fi Amanillah

Why is it OVERLY DRAMATIC? Its a serious accusation, some nomads make character assassinations and its not considered as 'PERSONAL ATTACKS' but when a Male nomad says something you don't like you just come up and beat him like a bunch of a thugs. No wonder there are plenty of single mothers and most faraaxS are in the coffee shops :rolleyes: :rolleyes: cause its you ladies that are holding up the Buudh's and ready to leave your Dacaas marks on their faces. TRUE THUGSSS! :eek:

Originally posted by Ameenah: [QB] Kahyr, Tell me who the 'these ladies' in your quoted passage are? Who were you telling UD to stop wasting his time with? Do you see any names mentioned in that??? Reference to 'these ladies' by you to deduct and conclude and pronounce me of being GUILTY of PERSONAL ATTACKS is UNJUSTIFIEDDDD!!! This is not the first time you have gone out and turned a BLIND EYE on the SOL Ladies and pointed your Spray Gun on some of the SOL male nomads. Once again I deserve an Apology, Slander ain't an EASY WALK on the PARK. Fi Amanillah

Noticeeee to the Noticeeeey I didn't pick out any individuals name on this thread and get personal with them, SO DONT MISQUOTE ME and LABEL me as such. Thats SLANDERRRRRRRRRRRRR! :mad: :mad: :mad: and I don;t appreciate it. An apology is DUE!!! Question is, when you error can you show humility and apologize in PUBLIC and not Private??? Fi Amanillah

Salaamz, This is not about galaadan and what they do. Its about what a growing trend that is occuring in the somali community too. I know cause I came across such people and inshallah try to distance myself from them. Look, Laa qadra Allah (I hope that Allah doesn't will it) but suppose one of us nomads was "dating" someone and they got them pregnant. Would you rush off to marry them or Leave them and let them be (take care of the child) but not have anything else to do with your partner? It would come down to this- Your love for your Partner or Obeying Allah??? It ain't easy and most would chose the easier, right? Fi Amanillah

Salaamz, If you plan on writing a post about every Christian who gets pregnant before she's married, I suggest you get ready to devote your life to the task. In other words, this topic is pointlessly exhaustive and far off target. Yasmine, Question If you there was a whore house next to your house and your young cousins where to live with you, how would you feel? Would you just say to yourself MYOB? Do you think that it would effect your young cousins? Would you be more or less willing to invite people over, now that you have a whote house next door and the smell of marjuana is rampant at your door step b/c its coming from that whore house (who are u're new neighbours!) To say that things don't effect you and to live your life in isolation and in naivety is well just NAIVEEEEE! Christian or not, this phenomen of people getting married all of a sudden and having a child a few months later, wellll before the regular 9 months labour period is a GROWING TREND and YESSSSS, it does exist in the SOMALI COMMUNITY. Why the fact that I'm being to HUSH UP about it by other NOMANDS on here, is a reflection of that. I've done a little research Yasmine and I'm not going to argue with you. Yasmine v. Sophist and Mobb Deep

Salaamz, Just to clear up on a point here. The girl is Christian Kenyan. I know the person better then you think cause she was my co-worker and worked right beside me for months on. She got married and had a small 'quick wedding' in October 2003. She told me that she would save the Big Reception style wedding in the summer time or so, when her folks arrive. Before that, there was no sign of a marriage cause we would talk about it and I'd tell her straight that moving to canada with your boyfriend is not a good thing and marriage is the way to go before its too late. So it ain't an issue of mahr v. wedding reception. Its an issue of DECEPTION and trying to make something 'HALAL' when it is actually HARAM. I was posing this story cause we are in the 21st century wherein many people try to justify their 'LOVE' by ANY MEANS NECESSARY. The shariah is clear and HARSH about these matters when it comes to marrying someone you have had sexual intercourse with. Now, do u see this in the somali community too? P.S. About minding my own business, if Allah shows me a SIGN, I reflect upon it, inshallah. It is not an accident as to who you meet, when you meet, what you say to them and what you hear. In all things are the Ayat of Allah and are to reflect upon and make Dhikr ul ALLAH (rememberance of Allah). So when these things are happening inshallah I will reflect upon them. You know when Bill CLinton was getting a blowjob from his intern and he was married and the President of the U.S.A. Was that a question of MYOB? It was a reflection of the american society and how decayed it has become having the leader of that country engaging in such acts while married. So point is , its not a question of MYOB (Mind Your Own Business)when you are reflecting on things and as to where you stand on them. There are alot of nomads saying MYOB, I wonder why? Fi Amanillah

Salaamz nomads, hey I just wanted to ask you nomads something... Yesterday, on my way back from jummah salat, I was walking back to work and I bumped into some old co-workers of mine. Well one of the girls got married back in October and I find that she is going on maternity leave today and about to give birth in two weeks time. The baby looked ready from where I was standing, to come out and she gained a "FEW" pounds, she was skinny as a kenyan infact she was Kenyan. Anyways, so I'm walking back and I'm like "What the #####", SubhanAllah, what people try to cover up with deceiption and lies. Can you guess what I was thinking???? October 13, 2003 (wedding)-April 30, 2004 Thats 6 1/2 months right? Do doctors tell women that they will be in labour in 6 1/2 months???????? Help me out here nomads, am I right in what I'm thinking then??? Fi Amanillah

Salaamz, You know I was at the coffe job just across the street from my work just now and I saw this brother(black dude) and he was clean shaved, suit and tie, u know everything creased and crisp, black brief case on the right hand and cell phone on the left hand. Well for a minute, I felt like yelling out 'KWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAME' You know that boy reminds me alot of my style -Calm, cool and Collective but at the same time Assertive. Instilling confidence in my employees but always preparing for the worst case scenario and hoping, inshallah for the best outcome. When I was watching this last night, my heart was PUMPING, I was like do this one for MEEEEE brother and for all those brothers that didn't employed by the big accounting firms and finance companies like J.P. Morgan. Its funny how souls are though, cause as I watched it, I was watching people who were basically there worshipping their HAWA/ego/themselves and where fighting for their Akhira aka DUNYA. That was their "Purpose" and "GOAL" in life and Mr. Trump was offering them their "SAINTHOOD". I remember when I was in university and thinking to myself, the soul of a Mumin can't live like this, in this environment that breeds of Lying, Cheating, Stealing and whatever else that they can get away with. (Come down my throat all you want to, but I don't think that some of you have experienced it FIRST HAND, so I have a good idea of what I am talking about!) Anyways, my reflections are all ways different from some of you nomads and might be serious at times but Reality shows itself in everything that you come in to contact with and the signs of Allah are always around us, whether we choose to deny it or not. Fi Amanillah

U.S. woman seeks plea bargain in faked abduction Ruse may have been prompted by fading romantic relationship MADISON, Wis. (AP) — A college student who staged her own disappearance last month will try to reach a plea agreement and avoid trial on charges she obstructed officers, her attorney said today. Audrey Seiler, 20, a University of Wisconsin-Madison sophomore from Rockford, Minn., faces up to nine months in jail and a $10,000 fine for each of two misdemeanor charges. Her attorney, Randy Hopper, appeared on her behalf Thursday in Dane County Circuit Court. Hopper said he will meet with District Attorney Brian Blanchard but would not elaborate what kind of agreement he would like to reach for Seiler. Seiler will remain free on a signature bond, Court Commissioner Todd Meurer said. Hopper said Seiler was home with her parents in Rockford, Minn. "She obviously is dealing with a lot of trauma related to this, she's going through a very difficult time. She's having both some emotional and some physical problems to deal with as you might expect somebody who's gone through something like this," Hopper said after appearing in court. Seiler disappeared from her off-campus apartment March 27 without her coat or purse. She was discovered curled in a fetal position in a marsh four days later, and told police that a man had abducted her at knifepoint. But police concluded Seiler made up the story after obtaining a store videotape that showed her buying the knife, duct tape, rope and cold medicine she claimed her abductor used to restrain her. Seiler confessed after she was confronted with the tape, according to authorities. "I set up everything. I'm just so messed up. I'm sorry," they quoted her as saying. But she later recanted the statement, insisting she had been abducted. The criminal complaint depicts Seiler as a young woman upset by a fading relationship with her boyfriend, Ryan Fisher. Friends said the two had been fighting, and Seiler's roommate, Heather Thue, told officers that Fisher did not pay as much attention to Seiler as she wanted. Seiler's mother told police her daughter had not been herself lately and was "extremely needy" of Fisher. Three days before she disappeared, her laptop was used to log onto Fisher's e-mail account and read exchanges "with romantic overtones" between him and another woman, according to the complaint. Hundreds of people from Madison and Seiler's hometown searched for her after she disappeared, and her claim about an armed man touched off a major manhunt that authorities said cost the police about $96,000. A message left at Seiler's home in Rockford, Minn., was not immediately returned. There was no answer at the campus telephone number for Fisher. Hopper said Seiler was home with her parents and receiving ``medical care and the care and support that she needs from her family.'' If she was smart and didn't buy all the material all at once, do you think that she would have pulled if off??? What do you think Nomads? This could be another way of raising funds for your tuition or building your dream house in Somaliland/Somalia, you know that villa that you always dreamed about. :rolleyes: INNOVATIVE or DUMB??? I think that she is BRILLLLLIANT-INNOVATIVE!!!

Salaamz, Well, well, well what do we have here. I can't believe my eyes, its our old friend Opi, and she's actually BUBBLY and trying to be Positive. Something ain't Right! Must be Spring, cause girl is talking about hitting the gym, feeling/looking good, joking with qaaqaac,people saying that she is treating them nice and all. Whats Up!!! Dare I ask the CAUSE of this TURNAROUND :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: -New "MAN" in your life girl (Oh sorry, I'm sounding sexiest! ) -Did the qaxooti's came after you and 'STEAL' your HEART? As for the GYM, women there is only 'ONE PART' in the man that needs to work out and that can't be done in the GYM (at least not with other people around ) But for you girls, every women needs to buy/have in her home a stairmaster or a treadmill-FOR YOURSELF OFFFFFCOURSE!!!!

Maabruuk Walaal! Just to few things to note to make that Marriage Succuessful-Inshallah from a WISE MAN who said to his son: -Don't Become a YES MAN!!! Very, Very Important! With every YES, you bring down the House of 'MAN' my son, that was first built by ADAM. - Tell her that You'll come home whenever you want to (when she pesters you about how much time u spend outside of the house and wants to put u under House Arrest :eek: ) cause its with you "darling' that I rest my shoulders on and lay my head on your bosom at the end of the day. -Don't talk POLITICS to her and to add on-SPORTS. These are SACRED things to MEN, that WIFEY will never understand or Appreciate! -WATCHOUT for the Mother and Wifey FIGHTS. :eek: GET OUT THE HOUSE-QUICKKKKKKKK when u see that and run,runnnnnnnnn, keep runnnning until you get to the nearest COFFEE SHOP!

Salaamz, Lessons to be learnt my young faraaxs- daalin yaraadha, STOP WASTING YOUR TIME TRYING TO ARGUE WITH THESE LADIES You can't 'straighten a crooked Rib' or else the Rib will BREAK. UD, walaal u know what the reality is that Allah is showing you and trying to 'talk' about it ain't gonna do u any good. Let them BE what they WANT to be, for as the saying cause 'You Shall Reep what you Sew/Plant' Pimps never tell their "EMPLOYEES" the whole story about their 'Line' of work saxib, they tell them otherwise cause if they were to tell them 'every detail' about the 'Job' then they'd get scared and run awayyyyy.

Salaamz, waryaa Sophist, why did you erase you story about the restaurant incident involving your boy and that mixed mauratian girl. I was about to write it down, to use for my "RESEARCH PAPER" and you erased it. :mad: Saxib, please put it back on for a minute, I want to know if that line that your friend used is 'Multi-Lingual' and can be Effective cross International Borders and not just in England.

Originally posted by Darman: i wonder what the current situation in somalia should intale according to the dudes logic The Population is decreasing, we need to Increase fast and the women are becomed Displeased and Angry with the men. Could be a state of Emergency ANYTIME! So sometimes You gotta do for your Country what you wouldn't do for YOURESELF! 'IN THE TRENCHES' is where all the Negotiations are DONE. It's a good line though, can change it slightly to suite my needs. Ameenah/MsLondon, wa ilbaaxsaantaxey, Fariida! You got some Game! Talking about to 'suit my needs', I bet u were smiling when u typed that. :rolleyes: The Black Leather doesn't go well with your other outfits.

Salaamz, Many of the ancient Queens of Africa were warriors who were involved in the process of building states and nations to serve the needs of their societies. So reading from the examples given by this article, African Women and in general Muslim Women are preferred to be MANILY and can be VERY MASCULINE and this this is indeed a PRAISEWORTHY QUALITY. :confused: These are the qualities that are highlighted in this article. :rolleyes: you see my sistahs 'n brothas, muslim women have their place in history. we need to remember that the next time someone tries to say "oh, poor women, they are being oppressed" and sum 'ish like dat. Why should you care what they say unless you don't Believe in what you are FOLLOWING to be TRUE? Could this be an Inferiority Complex???

ANYWHO..This reminda me of the time when I was on the train, and this guy got on the stop after mines and sat next to me. From the corner of my eyes, I could see him looking at me,( on and off, i think iwould have been even more freaked out if he just stared with out even looking away). So it was about a few stops later that he tapped my shoulders,( deep down inside I was like, why!?..why can't he just leave me alone, I'm no t going to give hima chance) He must have seen the look on my face, because when i turned to look at him, he put said " Look, i just wanted to know if you could wake me up when we reach this stop...and just a bit of advice, not evry guy who opens his mouth to say something to you wants to holla"....I felt to embarrassed, but I'm glad i got that reality check... Princess Sexy-Maaca sankur caliyk! You got SERVED!!! Dhumarkeena caajib baa taxeen! No wonder why we fell from Heaven and are stuck here! Best Season/Days/Times to catch you Ladies: -New Yrs eve -Eid Day -Valentines Day -And when a guy is talking to your girl and no one is paying attention to you! Oh, come on you know how ya'll use the faamiliga ma la joogta line to find out if the sister is married or not! Then they come out and ask you where, you work, what you when your not working, if you like shaah or coffee..nambarku waa maxay.. intee lagaa helaa! All this within ten mins ...waar kir ... bal wakhti dhaafis baad tahee waxay ilko tirisku? Ammenah, so what u're implying is that men should become 'STALKERS' and wait for you at the Library were u usually sit at, or at the bus stop or the coffee shop, all so that after a few months, after the poor boy worked hard on your for a few months, to get that magic 'Yes' from you. Now why would any poor guy do that in an age and places were there are MORE WOMEN then MEN? :confused: :confused: :confused: DND, my shoe size? naa caayib caaliyk what kind of talk is that from such a sweet and innocent child like you. By the way X-quizit, why don't u cool off and let Underdog take u out for coffee or to the lake It will be a memorable time all for next to no money cause UD is a PIMP like dat.

Family paying for $30M win Media harassing relatives, winner's brother contends Should have `up and moved' Sobeski kin says PETER SMALL STAFF REPORTER Even though winning a lottery is almost everyone's dream, for the extended family of the $30 million man it's become a nightmare, his brother says. The furor over the surfacing of two former wives and a woman claiming to be still married to Raymond Sobeski has forced his parents to go into hiding and his siblings to lie low, said his brother, Larry Sobeski. "Probably the best thing we could have done is everybody just up and moved," he said from his home west of Brantford. Raymond Sobeski kept his $30 million secret for almost a year until he appeared at a Lotto Super 7 news conference last Thursday to claim Canada's largest single lottery jackpot. He also said he was single. Since then, reporters have been banging on the door of the family farm in the rural community of Harley and taking pictures of the house. Locals are stopped on the street and asked what they think, and false stories have appeared saying he's behind on child support for his two children, 12 and 13, Sobeski said. "All of a sudden the family name is being smashed on TV," he said. "My parents are good people, real good people and they don't need this." Sobeski said he doesn't know where his brother is vacationing, though he's been in touch. Meanwhile, a Woodstock mother of four continues to insist she is legally married to the lottery winner. Nynna Ionson said she is confused about why he kept her in the dark about the ticket. "Thirty million dollars and me. Why wouldn't you want both?" (I can think of a few reason why! ) Court documents surfaced last week showing Sobeski had been twice married, divorced at least once, and had two children. Ionson met Sobeski Dec. 10, 1994, and they eloped exactly four years later, she said. She said she is finding it hard to reconcile her feelings with Sobeski's decision to sit on a lottery ticket while she was struggling. "I believe he loves me, but I'm confused why he'd let me suffer for an entire year," she said. "I can't believe he did it. It's been the worst year of my life." She said Sobeski gave her separation papers more than a year ago and she received, but didn't sign, divorce papers in January. She also said their relationship has continued. Meanwhile, Sobeski's second wife and the mother of his two children, Sherry Sobeski, was away from her Bobcaygeon home to dodge the media, said paralegal Paula Markus. I think that somewhere down the line, we are related, I'm sure of it and no one can tell me I'm not. Sobeskiiiiii, remember grandpa Adam! I just want to get to know my 'brother' again, won't ask for 'MUCH'-lol

Bambina, waan ku feerinaya Ishedey baa ka xeshey 'I like the way you move girl'