Aisha your right. We should just be ourselves and not get caught in between the myths of becoming the perfect man. Im sure, the women will accept us for who we really are.... And Allah knows best

AAliyah dont you know that there are like a handful of issues in which brothers and sisters, men and women, process differenlty in their minds. (Thinking about it deeper, there are actually more issues than we can count lol). For example, Love....but since romance is the topic at hand...lets stick to it. Romance (Tone, brother...trust you probably know what romance is, but your romance is not up to Par with what sisters nowadays require and my proof for that is...LOOK ABOVE, my sister in Islam AAliyah has taken the time to post "all we need to know about the 21st Century Romance lol...thanks sis. Im sure a relationship with little to no romance can exsist, but BROTHERS its something we should try to AVOID if we are trying to keep away from high blood pressure lol. And Allah knows best P.S. AAliyah I understand you like your man to take the lead, but they say, "behind every strong man is even a stronger woman" so in that case, dont be afraid to take the first step.

Assalam alaikum Cambarro sis, the more you read the theological aspects of men, the more you'll lose yourself lol. I, myself...being the brother I am, can’t possibly speak for any man except myself, so how than can a poem (or a joke lol) generalize man into those categories? I think, among the problems is women (sisters) nowadays, are more difficult to figure out than...umm...umm...lets say, a Shakespeare riddle from like the 17th century (and those are tough) lol. And Allah knows best

By the way Tone, I forgot to tell you that you (and the rest of us brothers) need to become more romantic (not like Usher or Tyrese romantic, but just "a faraax romance") if we want to succeed with these sisters than we need to bring out our skills (HA romance, more like a date at Subway lool). AAliyah reading one of your other posts, you said...you have skills in match making, so why than are you asking Tone what is next? Dont you know the next step? And Allah knows best

AAliyah sis, Tone has stepped up to the plate and has presented himself as a Man determined. Now sister, respond to him and say, " boi,long halaqs on the beach, thanks brother but Im looking for a Man who knows a womens worth, who can give me an experince from Junnah while still in dunya (spiritually speaking of course lol). And Allah knows best P.S. I know Im staring to sound like the Somali version of Hitch, but really...I aint lol

So I guess I better run and hide from the Devil, but than again...its never my way to run, specially from the DEVIL herslef, lol. Girl, I got all the Jonny Cash you need in your life and once again, Allah does know best. Pujah, good looking out in my absence may Allah reward you. Devilangel, as for you desire in setting straight Faraax (and true say, I dont know how many faraaxs you set straight in your life...maybe one, cause everybody can claim at least one lol, just know that)...Im not your average faraax so... like opressed nations of the pass (and it seems like these sisters nowadays dont understand us, hard-working and sincere faraaxs....and its seems like we get blamed for everything that happens....so we are oppressed lool), I welcome the challenge. And Allah knows best

Talk about plenty of spelling mistakes lol. Shame on me...

Im on your radar?... Qouting my little brother last night when we dropped and broke the plae on the floor, "Im in real big trouble, hooyo (in this case YOU) is gonna get me" lool But I know you are an extrememly busy person and thus, wont be able to keep track of me. Plus we playing on the same team (you know the team called Islam) and the back of the jersy reads the same (you know, Muslims) so lets be nice to each other..wont we? And Allah knows best

All these comments are jokes. But far and beyond is the posts put up by Devilangle loool. I can always count on her posts to make me laugh. Fartun sis, even though most of these people don’t believe your story to be any truer than CNN reporting on events concerning Muslims, I have to take your word to be true. But than again, I don’t know any Somalia man who would admit that he is frightened off by an intelligent Somali Sister (which I still don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing). Patience is required on her side and as for you, unless you want Devilangle to have a field day with your future posts, change your screen name and tell us more stories, than again…I have a feeling Devilangle will still be able to find you on her radar screen, lool. And Allah knows best

Tone she’s asking you what you got to offer, now its your turn to step up to the plate and show her how deep your words can penetrate her heart, lol. The question is, what can you offer her, tell her you can offer her a long life of halaqs on the beach and a continues rise of her eman (pending Allah accepts her and causes her eman to rise). And Allah knows best

So you won’t marry unless it’s for love eh? But...is it a love of the individual or is it love for the sake of Allah? You if absolutely have to marry for love, than which love would you marry for? I think I know the answer, but I’m trying to assume fewer things in my life, lol. And Allah knows best.

Sorry about the copied posts....something is wrong with the computer...but I understand what your saying...and May Allah grant you all that you seek (halal of course, lol) in this world and in the hereafter And Allah knows best

Sorry about the copied posts...Something is wrong with the computer. Anyways I understand what your saying about Mr. Right and so I'll ask Allah to grant you all that you seek from Him who owns the Great Bounty. And Allah knows best

So you won’t marry unless it’s for love eh? But...is it a love of the individual or is it love for the sake of Allah? You if absolutely have to marry for love, than which love would you marry for? I think I know the answer, but I’m trying to assume fewer things in my life, lol. And Allah knows best.

So you won’t marry unless it’s for love eh? But...is it a love of the individual or is it love for the sake of Allah? You if absolutely have to marry for love, than which love would you marry for? I think I know the answer, but I’m trying to assume fewer things in my life, lol. And Allah knows best.

So you won’t marry unless it’s for love eh? But...is it a love of the individual or is it love for the sake of Allah? You if absolutely have to marry for love, than which love would you marry for? I think I know the answer, but I’m trying to assume fewer things in my life, lol. And Allah knows best.

So you won’t marry unless it’s for love eh? But...is it a love of the individual or is it love for the sake of Allah? You if absolutely have to marry for love, than which love would you marry for? I think I know the answer, but I’m trying to assume fewer things in my life, lol. And Allah knows best.

So we agree...LOVE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT? lol Who defines a good family? Well we can always check the "Somali Yellow Pages" under the category of families; maybe we can find something that will direct us to what a good family is. True say, I think...as the next generation of Somali people, we need to put this whole concept of tribes behind us. Even if our parents are attached to this belief, we shouldn’t be surprised with that; rather...we should look them in the eye and say..."you know, this tribe thing that got Somali’s all emotional and everything, I don’t believe in that". And if hooyo is into that whole tribe thing, than take a few steps back before saying that or else....lol And Allah knows best

Assalam alaikum AAliyah, I got a question sister. Lets say you are madly in love (and some would say, love...HA, what’s love got ta do with it..lol) but lets say you are in love, like Ike and Tina (before all that aggressive stuff occurred) and we take your advice and move away from our families. What if the "love" that we thought was strong is in fact weak? What does the sister do than? Run back to that same family that she ran away from in the first place? I think...real love begins when you actual marry the person and share something special with them. Anything before that is considered an "attachment" to the person (well at least that’s the conclusion I've come up with). So lets take our families advice (unless of course its but justified ,ie..tribes, etc) and I’m sure the rate of divorces will decrease in our community, Inshallah. And Allah knows best

Assalam alaikum I wonder...is the whole issue of divorce more of a concern for the sisters rather than the men? I only ask because it seems like in our culture, women that are divorced find it more difficult to remarry (obliviously, not all women that fall in this category...but generally speaking) than the brothers And Allah knows best

Assalam Your right, more and more young people are getting hitched (alhamdulilah) and at the same time, experiencing divorce. I think among the many causes is a lack of patience on both sides. People have this weird illusion that marriage is all good times but when the hard times hit, well...he looks at her and she looks at him and they both look at the phone…reach for it and call hooyo and papa to solve their in-house problem. Hopefully we will find eman in our hearts to soldier out the rough moments and that eman can only be obtained through obedience and commitment to Allah, The Most High. And Allah knows best

Assalam In regards to the limited sources that are available about this topic, I found that every now and than, a person may come across a hadeeth in which some aspect of the soul or death is mentioned, and if we (as seekers of knowledge) gather that information and put it aside (easier said than done) we may find, in due time, the amount of resources to be more than we assumed. At least that’s what I found, after reading Abu Bilal Mustafa’s book about the soul and all the authentic proofs he provided. The actual book I own that covers this topic in detail is called “Mysterious of the Soul”, I assume kitab Ar-Rooh to be a different book? I remember when I purchased my book, I walked into the book store determined to get a book that covers the different stages of the soul, when…the owner of the book store approached me and asked if I’m was ready to read about a matter that many fear (I guess he was talking about death). So he directed me towards the above mentioned book, when I got a hold of the book and started to read briefly about the author, than it hit me. He (the author) dedicated much of his time to learn and research about the journey of the soul, when I realized that he has experienced the same journey he has written about (since he passed away in 1989, may Allah have mercy on him and his family). So the question that’s stuck in my head is…why are so many believers of Allah scared of death? (I only ask this because the kafirs that I go to school with aren’t scared of death and when I ask a Muslim he is). Do you have an answer on why? Personally, I’ve just completed a lecture by Imam Al-Anwar Awalki about Akhira (the junnah part of the series) and after that lecture death doesn’t seem that bad, lool (that’s of course if my abode is junnah, inshallah). I enjoy Bilal Phillips work specially his books (unfortunately, I haven’t had the chance to read as much as I would have liked, but it’s a matter, Im trying to find the time for) but inshallah I will look into the lecture about the soul after death. And Allah knows best

Its funny how Dundas square looks nice at night...cause when I pass through it during the day, its just like any other square that you can think of. Libaax, you actually think its the best square in the world? Maybe in Canada. To be honest, I dont think it stands a chance against Times Square in New York. Or maybe there is like this under-ground square somewhere in the world which we dont hear about...maybe even in India lool. And Allah knows best

loool Im thinking...well...Im hoping some sisters like to share (even if its as small as a piece of cake). Thinking about it....Im gonna be sharing a whole life with her, the least she could do before I commit myself to her is break me off a piece of cake lool. DOnt you think thats fair...a piece of cake for a life time...than again, there is something funny about that trade.

Now Born Branica, where did you ever get this impression that beauty draws brothers to drop and rush her to the nearest shiek to perform the Mahr? I wonder why he would rush? Any ideas,lol? Anyways…I, from what I know (from those fellas that are married told me) the only way to know that she is the one…is by determining three things. 1) She doesn’t nag you (because, if shes nagging you now, what about after the mahr…or should I say, after the smoke of the first 16 months clears, what is she gonna do to you than? 2) She looks out for you (both in this life and in the hereafter) 3) And third and most importantly (as they say) she offers you the last piece of the cake (it’s a sign that she cares) So that’s what Ive been told…personally…it would be nice if she can pass the first stage if you know what I mean lol… And Allah knows best