I agree with all the brothers and sisters that have stressed that Islam should be the overriding factor. After all variety is the spice of life, so why not just go for someone because they are your soul-mate regardless of their ethnic origin? For obvious reasons, it's best if you both share the same religion. I wouldn't worry about the Somali race or any other race dying out as I'd guess the substantial majority do prefer to be with someone of their own race. I'm Indian and my boyfriend is Saudi, we've been together for 2 years and the cultural differences have never been a problem. If anything, it's a learning experience and I value that. Going back to the original post, I would say go for it if faith in Islam, love and mutual respect is there.

A warm welcome to you Rebel! I haven't been a member long but it's been a great experience so far. Lots of interesting like-minded young people, as well as a few freaks I reckon! Good Credit, I think her description is spot on, why does it seem as if you've taken offence? Presumably she is Somali by birth and now a canadian citizen??

grrr, sorry about the quote thing messing up!

[/QB] Moth_To_A_Flame You should have stayed with your other boyfriend because in the end you did end up having a long distance relationship. [/QB] Lol, not at all! The former one was a lovely guy, but I'm much happier with my current man! The old one was obsessed with football, and I can't stand it! The current one shares the same interests as me and the point is I'm prepared to have a long distance relationship with him because I think we have a future together!

Originally posted by Ducaqabe: Moth_To_A_Flame quote: Lol, it's a joke, A JOKE! Don't take it too seriously bro/sis! Words of advise, It may seem a simple joke to you but it is really not a joke. it's a BIG sin to make fun or joke about the creation of Allah. You need to make Towbah bro/sis. May Allah show us the guidance and lead us to it. If you know the Tafseer of the Qur'an, read Surah Towbah 63-66, Allah has talked about some of the Munaafiqiin who made fun of the prophet and his companion by saying they are fat and only good at eating. These munafiqiin claimed they made the comment while joking. Allah has revealed Quranic verses because of the danger it's to make fun of or question the religon or Allah. Oh, for goodness sake, this is ridiculous! Re-read the quote, is it true that man was made before woman, yes! Perhaps, women are the masterpiece, that was an opinion put forward by the person who wrote the joke, that's not me. There is nothing blasphemous in that quote at all, merely an opinion which is something that's not forbidden by Islam. Btw, do you make it your business to censure everyone who posts a joke by analysing the religious validity of it? :rolleyes: A joke is a joke, take it beyond that, and you're in dubious territory.

I broke up with my last boyfriend in the summer of 2002 when I was about to move to another city for uni. He was also about to leave for the US for 6 months. I couldn't face the idea of a long distance relationship so I ended it. Having said that, I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years and we're in different cities since he left uni... so I guess ironically I'm still having a kind of long distance thang! Trust me girls, it's great when you meet after a couple of weeks of having not seen each other! (I'll stop, i think I'm waffling!)

Nice one and also mostly true!

Besbaaso, have fun girl, I'll be doing the same as soon as these damn exams are over! :mad:

Aww, this is a mean post! Sometimes, women are genetically predisposed to gaining weight and it's not necessarily that they're eating too much. I would agree that it's the whole western ideal thing again...slightly fuller and happy rather than thin and miserable if you ask me! I have seen some somali girls who are incredibly pretty despite being more rounded. Guys prever curves anyway!

Lol, it's a joke, A JOKE! Don't take it too seriously bro/sis!

I think the poster speaks a load of bullshit, pardon moi french! He just sounds downright sexist and a little afraid of muslim women gaining their rightful place in society. I had a few Somali students at the college I used to attend. The girls were all intelligent and in touch with their religion too. (you can be both!) Whereas the Somali guys I knew seemed to just lurk in corners mumbling incoherently. Sorry for generalising brothers but I'm just trying to make the point that it's not necessarily the sisters whose conduct needs a rethink! :rolleyes:

What is the deal with that stuff that costs 100s of pounds? Creme de la mer?? Anyone tried it, any good? I think it's anti-ageing so since I'm 22, I wouldn't know!

Typical macho man married typical good-looking lady and after the wedding, he laid down the following rules: "I'll be home when I want, if I want and at what time I want-and I don't expect any hassle from you. I expect a great dinner to be on the table unless I tell you that I won't be home for dinner. I'll go hunting,fishing,boozing and card-playing when I want with my old buddies and don't you give me a hard time about it. Those are my rules. Any comments?" His new bride said, "No, that's fine with me. Just understand that there will be sex here at seven o'clock every night... whether you're here or not." ( SHE'S GOOD!) Marriage (Part II) Husband and wife had a bitter quarrel on the day of their 40th wedding anniversary! The husband yells, "When you die, I'm getting you a headstone that reads,'Here Lies My Wife - Cold As Ever.' "Yeah?" she replies. "When you die, I'm getting you a headstone that reads,"Here Lies My Husband Stiff At Last.'" (HE ASKED FOR IT!) Marriage (Part III) Husband (a doctor) and his wife are having a fight at the breakfast table. Husband gets up in a rage and says, "And you are no good in bed either," and storms out of the house. After sometime he realizes he was nasty and decides to make amends and rings her up. She comes to the phone after many rings, and the irritated husband says, "what took you so long to answer the phone?" She says, "I was in bed." "In bed this early, doing what?" "Getting a second opinion!" (YEP, HE HAD THAT COMING, TOO!) MARRIAGE (PART IV) A man has six children and is very proud of his achievement. He is so proud of himself, that he starts calling his wife," Mother of Six" in spite of her objections. One night, they go to a party. The man decides that it's time to go home and wants to find out if his wife is ready to leave as well. He shouts at the top of his voice, "Shall we go home 'Mother of six?" His wife, irritated by her husband's lack of discretion shouts right back,"Anytime you're ready, Father of Four." (RIGHT ON, LADY!) God may have created man before woman but there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece!

Ameenah,Sheherazade and Hibo, thanks for joining in! Your mask recipes are really making me hungry! I agree with vaseline too, I love the aloe vera green tub, smells really yummy as well as having lots of uses! I have another tip! If you suffer from dry damaged hair in the summer and get horrid split ends, try this... Blend together 1-2 bananas (depending on the length of your hair) mix in a tablespoon of honey and another of olive oil. Wash your hair once with water only and slather on this gunk as a miracle hair mask. Leave on for 15-20 minutes and then shampoo/condition and rinse. The nourishing natural oils should smooth the cuticles leaving a gorgeous healthy shine!!

That went down well.... Come on girls, it'll be fun!

Hi dear members, I thought it would be interesting to devise a little game. I apologise if something similar has been done before but it's just a little fun. (Will double up as light relief from revision for me too!) Ok, what you have to do is leave a little beauty tip and recommend one favourite beauty product that has worked wonders for you! Mine are as follows: TIP- If you find that your mascara is hard and flaky but shouldn't be as it's still new, then run it under a hot tap for about 30 seconds and voila , as good as new! PRODUCT- The one product I swear by and could not live without is High Beam by Benefit. I have good skin so don't use foundation, but using a tiny amount of this highlights my cheekbones and gives my complexion a gorgeous sheen! Quite pricey (£15) but lasts for ages! Looking forward to reading your tips girls so come on, get them in! (Brothers, if you have any, feel free to join in!)

You guys should go easy on the sister, she's new and doesn't know of every debate you've had! However, it's good to renew some issues from time to time as people's opinions do change. Halima sis, I completely see the validity of your argument. I think the main reason is sexism and the oppression of women which exists to a degree in all societies. We've come a long way in the west but there is still room for improvement! In today's day and age, we have no room for neanderthal ideals that a man should be free to "spread his seed" and a woman should stay in her allocated position or face prejudice. A man who sleeps around is indeed given "respect" by his peers whereas a woman is seen as a slut. Let's not forgett that our religion forbids sexual contact before marriage for both genders so give up the double standards!!! :rolleyes: If one does indulge, then it is their burden and responsibility to explain in the akhira , not that of others!

Fair enough sis, point taken!

Well, prayer is something I always do, not only around revision time so that's why I didn't put it in a something done to relieve stress! Nothing annoys me more than hypocritical people who only pray when they want something, it's so shallow! :rolleyes: (No offence intended to anyone here!) Thanks for your suggestions! Jogging around would probably stress me endless, I'll stick to that hill I think!

I was just wondering if fellow sisters (and brothers!) could share their ideas on ways to relieve exam stress. I have my finals looming in a few weeks and sometimes find it hard to concentrate and at other times I find it hard to switch off at the end of the day. Do you have any stress herbal remedies or other foods/exercise/anything which helps to make the process easier? If so, please do share! Mine are as listed below: 1) Peppermint tea to revive without caffeine 2) Camomile tea to relax 3) Taking regular breaks of around 20 mins after every 2 hours of revision 4) Relaxing classical music, Mozart or Debussy maybe, nothing too heavy. 5) A brisk walk up and down the hill near my house every day (as I'm not big on the gym!) 6) taking the time to have some human contact every day and trying not to lock myself in my room to study! 8) Having a realistic revision plan and trying to stick to it! 9) Treating myself with yummy dessert after dinner. (indian dessert, rassomalai is the best one! Other faves include Haagen Dazs pralines and cream and banoffee pie, but methinks this is another topic altogether!) 10) Lastly, keeping caffeine to a minimum and getting my requisite beauty sleep of 8 hours! Now, your turn....

Originally posted by Micheal Ital: u know what.. we are 150 strong now, see we can send a strong message by kidnaping one of them "Old G's", leak a video tape of him pleading for his life and then ultimatly beheading him on camera.. only then we will get the respect we desreve... My God, you are full of the ol' conspiracy theories now, aren't you?! :eek: Noobies, Oldies, whatever, let's just all "keep it real"! Lol, fellow Americans, is that still the right phrase to use??? :cool:

Lol, first "plasma alien" and now "noobie", will there be any end to the number of things I'll be called here? Well, thanks for the warning! I'll certainly watch my back too, us noobies have to stick together!

Thanks again for all the warm welcomes! I was born and brought up in England, my parents are originally from Calcutta, India. I would therefore class myself as a British Asian Muslim.

A funny forward I thought I'd share with you all... Boys take note..........lol 12 Things PMS Stands For: 1. Pass My Shotgun 2. Perpetual Munching Spree 3. Puffy Mid-Section 4. People Make me Sick 5. Provide Me with Sweets 6. Pardon My Sobbing 7. Pimples May Surface 8. Pass My Sweatpants 9. Pissy Mood Syndrome 10. Plainly; Men Suck 11. Pack My Stuff And my favorite one... 12. Potential Murder Suspect THE HORMONE WARNING: The Hormone Hostage knows that there are days in the month when all a man has to do is open his mouth and he takes his life in his own hands! This is a handy guide that should be as common as a driver's licence in the wallet of every husband, boyfriend, or significant other! DANGEROUS: What's for dinner? SAFER: Can I help you with dinner? SAFEST: Where would you like to go for dinner? ULTRASAFE: Have some chocolate DANGEROUS: Are you wearing that? SAFER: Wow, you look good in brown. SAFEST: WOW! Look at you! ULTRASAFE: Have some chocolate DANGEROUS: What are you so worked up about? SAFER: Could we be overreacting? SAFEST: Here'#### paycheque ULTRASAFE: Have some chocolate DANGEROUS: Should you be eating that? SAFER: You know, there are a lot of apples left. SAFEST: Can I get you a glass of juice with that? ULTRASAFE: Have some chocolate DANGEROUS: What did you do all day? SAFER: I hope you didn't over-do it today. SAFEST: I've always loved you in that robe! ULTRASAFE: Have some more chocolate.

Thanks brothers and sisters, I feel very welcome already! Psycho Sue, you're right about the "alien plasma" thing, I thought that was pretty confusing too!