Ibtisam

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  1. Paragon for sure, As long as i know where the money is going Ngonge is it £40 per person, or family?? lool is it so bad ( after all the girls said no, you asking paragon ) haha lol,
  2. £40 :eek: :eek: Wow that is....loool..... even for Somaliland. Ngonge I did lots of work, in fact my boss told me how pleased he is with all my work! Just because you did no work! Old man try get use to my name Serenity you geek! I see work is slowing down, they let you use the net now! lol
  3. Lool Sheh, don't be so mean! loool Serenity enjoy your break
  4. ^^^I worry for you, you sure are freaky sis! lol lets say he is a serial cheat, how many is going to marry, pluz I do not think he is too worried about hala
  5. ^^^There are so many guys in the world, why would one have to fight for their "husband" :rolleyes: Should she put him on chains too, or chop off his bits :rolleyes:
  6. Serenity Originally posted by Castro: If you can answer these two questions, I'll sign up for your qabiil in a jiffy. If you continue the dance, I'll just have to stick with my lame qabiil. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Atheer, I dont care about qudbada aad meeshan ka jeedineysid or its finer details, but please, dont ever call my qabiil lame. YOu two share a clan: loooool, looool. I have to agree your clan is kind of erm very bad...I mean good!
  7. ^^^Loool^ Could you not come up with a better reason, here i thought you were smart! Munira: What will she achieve by getting into a fight, talking about double embarrassment, he cheated on her, now he is making her make a fool out of herself and publicly embarrass herself. Obviously he is not worth it, and he treats her like that because he knows he can. What is she going to do put him on a leash and beat up everyone women :rolleyes: She needs to face reality and move on in a different direction. Clearly he does not respect her or their marriage and that is not the other womens fault! As for you stay out of it, she will think you are trying to take him away too! But if she is a good friend,, keep hinting or tell her fully boxed (she'll stop talking to you now, but one day she will thank you!)
  8. Soul searching just makes me go around in circles, every time I think I have changed my mind and mentally progressed, I somehow always arrive right back in the same spot or similar ground, such waste of time. :rolleyes: I don't think that as your get older you search more, I think it is the other way around, because you know yourself that little bit more each day, so less things to ponder on and less things to search for after early 20s. By then you know which direction you are heading, you just need to figure out how to reach there!
  9. Zafir good on you! lying so and so's. Shameful people ( Not you clan, just clans in general ) lol Munira002, for sure, i could've done with few ££ to pay for uni, I don't remember them helping me :rolleyes: I'm sure when your dad dusted himself off marshallah, they wanted to know him and his kids again :rolleyes: ME, So you think controlki baan ii gooye? which makes no sense really. What did i mean, read between the lines. Fluulnamidaa iska that, and take a chance in life Even Ngonge is not as fullley as you, he might one day visit Burco
  10. David Cameron has spent the last week living with a Muslim family in Birmingham, following recent arrests and unrest in the communityAlthough it is a good step in the right direction Do you guys think he is sincere, if so is he not opening himself up for abuse and lobbying from pro Israel lobby, BNP, Gay rights, you name it! With Blair and Labour as unpopular as ever amongst Muslims, this is very much Cameron's opportunity. Anywa Below is a bit form his Blog Trying Something New I’m already rather fed up with the way that touring the country works in politics. You charge around having to meet deadlines imposed by the media and the Parliamentary timetable. An hour here an hour there (frequently half hour, in fact) with snatched conversations, half learning things but not getting to the bottom of a problem and often failing to gain a proper understanding of what’s going on. There’s too much of people telling you what they think you want to hear, and too often the boldest or loudest voices dominate, rather than the most considered and thoughtful. So I’ve decided to spend some proper time out of Westminster. For the last couple of days I have been in Balsall Heath in Birmingham, living in the house of a British Asian family. I’m staying with Abdullah who’s 37 and married to Shahida. They have three children: two girls and a boy, and I’ve also met many of the extended family who live in the area. Abdullah’s a great guy - born in Birmingham, he’s lived here all his life. Since leaving school at in 1985 he studied Business and Finance before he helped to run the family corner grocery shop. He’s steeped in marketing, trading and knows most of the local small business people in the neighbourhood. His main interests are TV, travelling, enjoying family life and good food. He's a Villa fan and enjoyed playing when he was younger. Yesterday was pretty busy. After going to Abdullah’s house to meet the family, we had a walk round the neighbourhood and chatted to some of the local shopkeepers and small business owners – you can see some of that in the films we'll be posting to Webcameron in the next 24 hours. Then we went to the local mosque, where I had a really fascinating (and in some respects extremely worrying) conversation with some of the elders. After spending some more time in the local shops (including trying my hand at serving customers – not a great success) we met up with some parents at the Balsall Heath Forum, an amazing community organisation led by the brilliant social entrepreneur Dick Atkinson, then on to dinner back at Abdullah’s house, before going out on patrol with Abdullah, who’s a community warden. We ended the day with a drink in the local pub. You can find out more about Dick Atkinson and the Balsall Heath Forum here, and read the speech I made a while back which talked about their work here. Some impressions of my first day. Yes it’s a cliché but people in this community work incredibly hard. The shopkeepers I spoke to (and worked with) yesterday tend to work 13 hour days, often 7 days a week. And far from the ever-onward march of the British Asian corner shop, they’ve been facing very tough competition. Abdullah and his family actually sold their shop, which was a key feature of life in Balsall Heath, some years ago. They showed me with great pride the newspaper cuttings about their shop, and talked about how it was much more than just a shop – more of a community centre, really. Now supermarkets are getting more savvy at stocking ethnic food, life is getting even tougher for small local shops here. Another cliché is the strength of the extended family, but it really is so powerfully true. Abdullah and family see more of their aunts, uncles and cousins in a week than I see of mine in a year. Mum lives at home, rather than – as is the case in so many ethnically British families – elsewhere and alone. Whether sitting in the Karachi Café, with its cross-cultural menu of southern fried chicken, kebabs and baltis, or having dinner with the family and friends at Abdullah’s home, or in the Balsall Heath Forum itself, a lot of the conversation is around the twin issues of cohesion – put simply, how do we live together - and the current threat of terrorism and how we should tackle it. Let’s do terrorism first. It’s hard to over-emphasise the importance of language. I know it sounds like a side issue, but it isn’t. We are just not getting this right. Every time the BBC or a politician talks about “Islamist terrorists” they are doing immense harm (and yes I am sure I have done this too, despite trying hard to get this right.) Think of Northern Ireland – “IRA terrorist” was fine because it marked them out as part of a terrorist group, Catholic terrorists would have been a disaster. Yet that is the equivalent of what we are doing now.. When they hear and see this kind of language, Muslims simply think – “they mean us.” Of course it’s impossible every single time to say “terrorists who are following a perverted strain of the true religion of Islam” but if we’re going to use shorthand we have got to do better. Together with the issue about language, the other recurrent theme is the way the media handle these issues. The leaks about the arrests surrounding the alleged plot to capture and behead a British soldier did a lot of damage in the community here. And the perceived lack of balance in reporting the Muslim community comes up again and again. And it was boys at the supermarket check-out talking to me about these things, not activists from the MCB. But there’s another side to this. Even accepting the point about language and the need for the media to think and act responsibly, do these conversations show that there is a problem amongst the Muslim community of accepting what has happened with 7/7 and other plots? Put simply is there an issue of denial? In some parts of the community, yes. In the mosque and elsewhere I got the familiar depressing questions about who was really responsible for 9/11 and even 7/7. Dig a bit deeper and it all comes out. “CIA plot…Jews told to leave the twin towers” - even when it comes to 7/7 “how do we know the suicide bomber videos are real and not fakes?” Even if this is a view held by 5 or 10 per cent of British muslims - and I suspect it is at least that – this is a real problem which we have all got to get to grips with. That said there is plenty of gritty realism too. There is a justifiable anger amongst British muslims of Pakistani origin that so many radicalising preachers come from abroad – Syria, Egypt and Jordan – and yet so little has been done to deal with them. The effect of all this on cohesion is depressing. One young businessman told me that it had set back progress by at least a decade. Another said that he felt constantly under suspicion and much less a welcome and normal part of British life than before. But after a group of us had discussed these difficult issues over dinner, it was really striking that many of them came up to me individually and pointed out that in fact they as a community don’t talk about these things enough – that usually when they get together, the conversation’s just about the normal everyday things, football and so on, and that actually it’s really important for muslims to talk about these issues more. The two things that have struck me most? The first is the centrality of education in all this. By far the most depressing meeting I had yesterday was listening to the dedicated and hard-working school governors talk about what was going on in their local secondary school. That any school is only getting 15 per cent of 16 year olds through 5 good GCSE is deeply depressing and totally unacceptable. They blamed a culture in the school which accepted low aspirations, as if kids in poorer areas somehow couldn’t be expected to do well. That is a disgusting attitude, and we’ve got to drive it right out of our education system. If ever there was a case for zero tolerance this is it Wherever such low standards and bad attitudes persist, schools should be taken over or closed, period. My final thought yesterday was that integration is a two way street. Yes we can ask minority ethnic communities to work at integrating with British society as a whole, but we have to recognise that it won’t happen unless there’s something attractive to integrate into. Time after time I heard people here talking about the uncivilised behaviour and values that they see all around them. As I’ve said before, we can’t just bully people into being more British, we’ve got to inspire them. And frankly, there are many aspects of our society today which are hardly inspiring – the drinking, the drug-taking, the rudeness and incivility, the lack of consideration for others, anti-social behaviour…we’ve got a serious fight on our hands to build a responsible society that is the kind of society people admire and want to be part of. I know we can do it because most people in this country, like the people I’ve met here, are decent, hard-working and committed to their communities. We’ve got to much more to make sure that those are the values that win out. Spelling mistake David That should read, "We’ve got to do much more to make sure that those are the values that win out"
  11. ^^^Lool^^I cannot believe i have not seen this ad before, or the terms. lool. I guess i should start wathcing TV. looool, it cracked me up. lool. Sis like Lynx (the smell) it wears off after a while dee, I don't think most people are content with bam chicka wow wow forever. In this world everyone sees to be searching soemthing they not find Yaah uu sheeka it does not get better than short lasting bam chicka wow wow ( no bun intended)
  12. bam-chicka-wow-wow??? what is that dear?
  13. ^^^lool^^ I fit few: 2. Freelancers 3. Gradual Personality Changes 4. Won't Plan Ahead 5. Keeps You Away From Their Circle 6. Tardy :eek: Its all good, I don't believe in phobes,....unless it is snakes or closed places. Good to know i don't have any of the four types of commitment phobes, I just have the symptoms! lol
  14. ^^what is fariinkii? Hang on let me get this right: You are from Hargeysa, People in your clan tent to shoot others from bigger clans, so you are afraid that people may kill you. Well well, look what we have here! Maybe you should tell your clan to stop shooting other people, pay all the blod money they own and then kick back. BAsicly clan haabar qaaba baad kaa yimiid who have killed many people and now you want to hide from your responsibility! No wonder you want to get ride of Qabil! lol Haadaan kuu faahmi p.s. I'm not saying you should pay for the crimes that you clan committed byt the way!
  15. ^^^YOu had a case??^^ Are you sure dear?? If intergrate means become a qabilist, no thanks :rolleyes: Waax fiicaan baan daadka luug yeera! p.s. I noticed you did not answer my question
  16. Xanthus; I can never take seriously a lady involving herself in man's world. Right, of course Sir, Now why did I not think of that! How they live is part of "man's world" :rolleyes: More than half of the population according to you cannot have say over how they live :rolleyes: Maarkii hooraa luug khaatah iitaalka. Waaliida biiyo isskaak meed baa once la yiri, now I know what they meant!
  17. ^^^Can you write in English next time, my clan speak differently No seriously it takes forever to read somali And what is Gaxay?? I've lived all my life in an area where I am a minority, and wherever I go in Somalia or any other country I will always be a minority. There are many minority clans, and they are not as paranoid as the bigger clans and they go up down the country in peace without anyone troubling them. One cannot look like they are from particular clan, so unless I specify where or what I am, qabill iimaa soo doonaayo. I have a question for you, you claim to be from H town, so if your clan lives there you should feel right at home as they will be there to protect you, (according to your logic) what is with all your fear, take a holiday. As for me and my family clan has never bothered us, it has not done anything for us, and it ha snot hindered us either. I’m not saying that there is no problem, because there is, especially in Somalia and mainly amongst the men, but what I am saying is that it is not as deeply rooted as people think.
  18. Thusly, the whole thing of Somalinimo is becoming an alien to them--it is something that has nothing to do with their triangle. lol this made me laugh!, hayee, I guess everyone but the triangle has embraced "Somalinimo" and honored it damn that tear away Triangle! :rolleyes: Soomalinimo is what holds us together come again? who or what do you see that it is still being held together by "Somalinimo"?? if this fails then we shall all go back to what we know best and that Qabyaaladism. What do you mean if & go back to?? Somali's never left qabyaalad, and soomalinimo failed before it even took off. News flash Try again sugar, way off mark!
  19. Ibtisam

    My dialemma

    ^^^Lord have mercy^^^
  20. Real talk here sxbyall reality on da ground in Somalia........what has my qabil done for me u ask? In Somalia it has given me a name, and a home to belong to. Ahhh lets see, I go to Abuwaak I am told that is not the land of my fathers. I go to Hergaysa I am told that is not the land of my fathers, I go to Mogdisho I am told that is not the land of my fathers, I arrive in Galkaacyo and welcomed as the son of my fathers. Hayee taasad keent after all, So much of Muslim, unity etc. Let me give you a tip, I think I told "ME" the same thing: If you don't write our clan on your forehead, then no one cares and no one will know, and hence all doors open for you, and you will be welcomed wherever you go- As long as you treat people as "people" rather units/ clans. By the way where do you meet this clan police who go around telling you that it is not the land of your father?? In general I think the old mentality that only your clan can protect you is out dated , I know none of my friends will sale me out ( I doubt they even know my clan) in their home towns, and they will protect me because I am Xanthus, same way they will protect their own. So everyone baac haaisku xiiridin go out and mix with people. I think women are less qabilist, with the exception of Ebyan in this case
  21. lool Zenobia Val Nice pictures, I take it you are enjoying yourself then? It looks clean and fresh compared to London
  22. ^^^Lool^ For a guy you sure gossip a lot!, Watch this rumor spread like wildfires, soon AUB will be back under a different dirac. Edit: Girls I think he is trying to say he missed you guys or Maybe Please come back!
  23. ^^I'm too old for that era, it came after me but the computer got a bit excited, it had nothing to do with me I think it like my new flag lol