Sum1notSomali

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  1. I am actually not indian, but nice assumptions. Anyways the only thing I know about Somali people is what they tell me. The lady in question is a self proclaimed expert on Somali culture, she told me this is common among her people. The emotion packed responses of some leads me to believe are differences are few between our cultures. Let me state this again this is what she said. When in a multicultural relationship and on person plays the culture card it is best to be fully informed before you respond to this malignant problem.
  2. Lol @ the responses Nothing wrong with a woman and man divorcing, I clearly indicated that I was talking about the trashy type of divorcee. A woman who is a divorcee is not even someone who I would not marry. I would marry a divorced woman but for a woman with kids to divorce for a non abuse issue ( something other than negligence, physical abuse, or emotional abuse) seems unfair to the kids. From the posts here it must be unusual for women to talk about such issues and that is great! Must be a few bad apples. Seriously folks take a chill pill, I only know what Somali people tell me about their community, the bedroom chat was told to me by a Somali ... Lol this is 21st women will do all the things outline by one of the repliers. Seriously chill people
  3. Lol @ the responses Nothing wrong with a woman and man divorcing, I clearly indicated that I was talking about the trashy type of divorcee. A woman who is a divorcee is not even someone who I would not marry. I would marry a divorced woman but for a woman with kids to divorce for a non abuse issue ( something other than negligence, physical abuse, or emotional abuse) seems unfair to the kids. From the posts here it must be unusual for women to talk about such issues and that is great! Must be a few bad apples. Seriously folks take a chill pill, I only know what Somali people tell me about their community, the bedroom chat was told to me by a Somali ... Lol this is 21st women will do all the things outline by one of the repliers. Seriously chill people
  4. First off I would like to apologize if I offend anyone. I have encountered a Somali lady who I am trying to figure out. I don't want to really discuss the details of our relationship but the intention is marriage on both our parts. What seems to bother me is her portrayal of Somali woman's culture. But first let me list some casual observations I have made ... 1. Divorced woman (the ones who go around bath mouthing their exe's bedroom performance), bad girls, and the clubbing married gal all seem to attend Somali engagements and attempt to intermingle with more innocent girls. In my culture such women are pariahs and do not mingle with anyone. 2. Divorce is extremely common and occurs over non abuse issues even when children are present. Now the things she has told me that have made me uncomfortable ... 1. That Somali women brag about their husbands size immediately after the wedding (I am not insecure on this issue, however as a Muslim bedroom talk being shared with strangers is highly offensive even disgusting). 2. Her married friends have made comments such as the only reason I am married is for S*X, if it was not for that I would rather just stay in my parents home ... (again this is something shameful to declare, for a man to regulated to being just a sex object is offensive). Please enlighten me, is this typical of Somali culture? Do women really not care for true love? The idea that a woman would marry primarily for sex is scary to any man who gives forethought, it seems to be a recipe for promiscuity. And to any blinded patriot to the Somali community, do not seek to attack me as being insecure, I am completely secure, however like anyone who doesn't want to be married for money, I do not want to be married for my little friend, I want to be loved for me and I want to know how typical this mentality is among Somali ladies.