Maxaatiri, I can bet my bottom penny that every single of those said friends has at one point or another felt something towards you. If you want, baal adigu try this; Tell them if you've started to see them in a different way recently and wondered if it was just you, I will bet you coffee and cake that each one will have a confession about when he had a little crush on you, even if it is before they got to know you well and realised you are better at him in football or is ego took a fall. OR you at one point thought he was cute, fit, intelligent or worthy somesort of investment but at the time he was madly in love with something or someone, who you though he needs to grow up a little or something just was not right.

No adgia ayan kula yaabey, if the story was about a Tuulo I have family in, I would not be here arguing about how to spell the damn tuulo's name or who she was sold to, I would be on the phone to Shike Isxaaq trying to find out what can be done to make sure it does not spread or come back to tell you all that the story is fake. Adigu midnaab maad saminin. :rolleyes:

:eek: :eek: Cadubilah min shidaan raajiim, tuuf tuuf fatixa aan ku aqrin Maxaatiri, jiraad allah ha ka biyo. Men and women can never be JUST friends. Stop telling yourself lies and jokes. Maba dhici karato, regardless of if he is married or your with someone, forget about it if you are both single. You can however be social hello’s, bye, hi, how is the family, see ya type of friends anything more than one 15min call a month and running into them for 2mins once every three months is hazards.

Shame on all of you. Look at you all fighting about which tuulo the kid is from or what admin she lived under, who brought her and who sold her and to whom. I am more interesting in IF the story being reported is true, if it is, what are we as Somalis, as individual families doing to make sure our kids do not end up in the nasty market like the Asian and Easten European kids. Today it maybe Qardo, tomorrow it could be anywhere else because in Somali context including Somaliland, the only protection is family unit. Considering we are a post war society we are going to have lots of children without parents or anyone to look out for them, particularly those from tiny clans or huge clans- not to mention the minority clans who get abused anyway.

^^I'm not a puzzle or jigsaw that needs to be put together, what do you mean figure me out? People can be around you for years without knowing anything of significant, after all we pick who and how much of yourself you want to reveal and at which point. It is not strange to look at a man or women from a distance and think of them as a potential wife or husband, and getting to know them for that purpose. It is not likely that you date someone just for the sake of it or because you find them attractive, and then it dawns on you 5months later, OH maybe, just maybe they will make a good husband/wife!. It is a very western phenomena to be surprised that the man you dated has proposed. What exactly where you expecting and why would it surprise you I don't know. :confused: If you are telling me that we have reached the same standard as a community, i.e. dating for the sake of dating or because of boredom or lonely and just to get to know them, and then falling in love and then OH my GOD, shid I can't believe I want to marry this dude/ dudette, then I'm wa libaax and a half. So assuming you know they are only talking to you for marriage purposes, it is simple enough to expect them to get to the point and tell me on day one if they are looking for someone to tie to the kitchen door or 10kids or 4 wives by the time he is 40, these things means we do not need to waste our time together.

Sex therapist does not help control your natural urges, she can take you off drugs, but the one I work with only see patients who want a helping hand. Maxaatiri: waxan ku idi yes dude happiness is good in short term. And Farah, Abdis and Mohammeds do not lose all personalities, naga walaan, xaad ku affutah, that they jump to marriage on the first date (that is not a bad thing btw, maxaad date ka tagesia if it is not to shop for marriage, I no nonsense people who cut to chase and lay all the cards on table first 5min, those sneak people who hang around for months till you forget they were even a man, and then propose out the blue and you jump back a mile shouting "WHAT, WHEN, HOW... did you work this out" is the ones I don't like.

Ohh for the love of god stop worrying about marriage. The world is full of guys dying to get married. When and if you're ever ready pick the least annoying one. The reason things about this small issue can appear major is because sadly our society is so taken with this issue that nothing else seems important in life apart fro worrying, thinking about and worrying some more about this one issue. If you never marry would it be so bad? Really? I'm sure you will find someone you find interesting for a while at least when you want girls so don't use too much energy worrying or thinking about something u ve no control over. Matx: you know now your pm will be full

That is one long one, and some parts were mean. I did not even know people can write mean stuff on these things. Can you imagine reading that about your father, I would kill the *^? who wrote such stuff. CL, I don't know, it would just freak me out to think of something for so long; for example two nights ago I watched "fallen" the movie, when Denzel Washington is fighting with a Jiin that refuses to die! Since then I've been freaking/ jumpy. For example this morning after Fajar I was sitting on my prayer mat, and I felt a shiver/coldness suddenly, automatically I thought of Jinns and started read/ making dua against them and seeking Allah's protection. I keep thinking back to that freak movie and now each time it freaks me out a little. I can’t imagine what it would be like to focus on death so much. I once got hooked on signs of the day of Judgment, the dijaal and went into a different world all together, for ages my only interest was different perspectives on this, prediction, signs, what has passed, forerunners. It got so obsessive I have to bring myself out of that world and stop obsessing about shadows and seeing different means for everything. I guess I imagine you are a bit like that about death.

^^I'm strange, I like coffee and tea without sugar, I don't eat ice cream unless it is hot/ summer, don't eat brownies or any sauces of any kind, don't like icing on cakes. BUT cakes, nice plain yummy cakes, I just see a cake land on my plate. I plan my meals when I go out on how much cake I want to eat (order only a starter if the place does fab cakes, but main course if they don't do nice dessert)

^^I gave up on trying not to have sugar. Life is good with sugar. But I don't eat junk food anymore for four weeks. Was just planning my weekend of pizz, burgers and chicken sitting infornt of TV. Going to have a yummy weekend of all the things I liked.

10years :eek: that is a long time to be thinking about your send off. Surely this time could be used on something better :eek:

Cawaale, well you are still here so you might as well have some tea too

Hey C&H I aint seen u in a while, how is it going? Juxa, kaga taarah, he says I second that, then "hello people and Jumca wanagsan" Have you seen the contradiction baal.

^^Haa the good in Islamic terms, but saying he went to this university, got this award, made this much money, married this many and had that many. I don't know if that counts as talk about the good. I would've though something like, they built a mosque, adopted orphans, started charity foundation etc. But people dont write things like that? An Archive of obituary pages? Does it have people he knows in their?

^^^Why you have posted about 20 posts on here, have you had a sex changed and move to London?

This followed a report that Barack Obama had authorised an attack on Anwar al-Awlaki, a radical American imam, in Yemen. :eek: :eek: Wooho I did not know this, May Allah keep him safe. As for Mahmoud al-Mabhouh, May Allah have mercy on him and forgive him. I watched the CCTV posted by LSK in the other thread. I have a lot of things to say but nothing I can say without landing in hot water. So I'm bite my tongue for once.

Juxa, I do, it comes t my phone now like txt I can't avoid it CL Faheema is fine, she found a new entertainment for now.

I don't want an obituary. My family and friends would already know what or who I was, what is the use telling a bunch of strangers. It never made any sense to me. And if I am dead what does it matter anyway. Maybe if I went far far away from family and friends, then just to inform them of my death. All it would say is the date, full name and where I hid the left over money in codes. CL and Juxa, never crossed my mind, I guess I am not expecting to know anyone nor I'm a fan of anyone important enough to care for in the public. I always thought it was for rich people, celebrities with huge followings and people with no families. P.s. In Islam we are not suppose to chit chit about someone after their death of what they were or been or did. Not sure what the deal is on obituary pages if they dont have the purpose of informing.

^Is today angry sherban shabeel day?

beri feri qosal iyo jag jag @ sheh. Juxa, stop been lazy, we live around the corner from you and we not had a cake date for ages. I even lost weight, I don't know how much, but my clothes feel comfy.

^^yes it happens often Cara. So strange the things we take for granted here. Maybe I should move to France and start opening some PFC (perfect fired chicken) The hala version of KFC which is in every corner in the UK, there are 8 in my road, 4next to each other.

Oh my god :eek: , from now on my txt will say !hello heblayo, that way if anyone gets then by mistake they know it aint for them. Not that I want him to think I send such txt in those context anyway might have to do the whole story "hey you know for the wedding in June/ Nov/ Jan what ....." lool Hunk is very very funny and charming. Sheh alhumdulilah glad to hear you are not calling everyone Xalimo iyo farah anymore Juxa! of course and indeed

^^You need to come and get your books too, I carried it around with all day, it got a little wet in the rain. I dump them at Faheemas. I wont be fun if you cross over to the otherside- more like a nightmare

^^^LOoool Interesting how you remember certain things sheh! loool. Oh did I tell you we had out lunch date... or rather dates since Juxa! lool haha. Sure what phone do u have? Are you one of the four?

Sheh Lool, some are but others are M and Y, should be no where near each other. Waxan ku idi I am going to put a password on certain ppl now; Old people I aint see for years, married women and men if it is after 4pm and my Madressa macalin from the 70s cod codki. :eek: