Lychee

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  1. Blessed: Wayahay waan ku fahmay.

     

    It is true, SOME parents do believe that sending them away is the solution, instead of tackling the issue earlier on. Or think of other means to help their child change.

     

    Aaliyah, waa runtaa.

     

     

    But in all honesty, if I raised my child properly, taught them etiquettes, educated them about their culture/religion, encouraged them with their school work, tried to communicate with them , show them love and affection whilst not forgetting to be slightly firm and STILL they screw up, waxaan ku odhan laha maalinta ay sidaas 18 ay gaadaan *There’s the door, use it. If you don’t want to live by my rules and work hard so you can be somebody, go do as you please* markaa they’ll either be somebody, oo waay baabi’i.

     

    Sometimes, marka ka daba carartid caruurtada, you only end up killing them with your kindness.

     

    Kids are too much, I sometimes wonder why people have them.


  2. It’s not always the parents fault; some parents are the most affectionate, kind-hearted, tolerant waalid anyone could dream of having, and still their children CHOOSE to run wild and be a nuisance. There’s only so much one can do, what do you suggest they do? Lock them in a basement?

     

    Those who Allah SWT chooses to misguide none can guide.

     

    Secondly, a lot of mothers raise their children single handily and struggle.

     

    Calaa kuli xaal, let’s not pass judgement, by implying bad parenting skills towards those parents who do decide to send their children away. Every parent has good intentions; I mean what waalid wants xumaan for their kids anyway?

     

    Taking the child to a whole new environment, away from old habits and bad people can SOMETIMES work, waxaay ku xidhantahay the individual.


  3. Perfection belongs to our creator ALONE.

     

    The women was created from a bent rib, if you try to straighten it, you will break it. So being with someone means excepting their flaws, being tolerant and trying to look pass those flaws.


  4. Aaliyah: Let me break it down to you AGIAN. My issue isn’t WITH men, it’s within me.(Of course a man is caught up in the picture. A marriage usually consist of a man and a women, doesn’t it? :rolleyes: )

     

    As I said before, your husband has a haqq over you, when you please your husband, you please your LORD. :

     

    So if I say I’m anxious about not meeting his demands, then that’s a matter of failure and how I perceive things. That's me worrying about my AKHIRA.


  5. Duke: Who said I'm looking? Somalisana wuxu. :confused:

     

    2+2=5 looool you made me laugh. Been ma sheegin, only Allah SWT knows what each of us conceals in our hearts, laakinse hadana qofka xun iyo dadka wanaagsan shaqo isku malaha. And secondly, if someone does appear to be a reputable person, then you could ask of him/her. Do your homework sorta thing.


  6. :eek: Ala maxaan farxay when I saw ‘lyrics’. I thought you found the song I was looking for.

     

    lol no worries Nunne, I'll search for the song on that website you provided. Mahadsanid.


  7. I’ve been looking for this Maryan Mursal song for such a long time and I still can’t seem to find it. :confused:

     

    The lyrics go something like this (please excuse my pitiable af Somali, it’s an attempt)

     

    Jacaylka, maxaan baxanaashay, maxaan ka ilashay baylah, maxaan balanti adkeeyay. OR something like that.

     

    Anyone know it, or even heard of it before?


  8. Aaliyah: lol hoorta, don't tell me you believe in finding 'the one'?

     

    Anyway, I suppose what I’m trying to say is, I’m anxious of not being a successful wife. Islam has enjoined upon the wife duties towards her husband and vice versa, and I guess me not meeting those demands is slightly daunting; bearing in mind your husband is either your entryway to Jannah or your gateway to jahanam.


  9. Aaliyah: lol @ 99%. That’s a little extreme.

     

    I believe there are plenty of respectable guys, who have all the good characteristics you could want in a person. And those are usually ku waha that are god fearing. So don’t give up all hope, not just yet anyway. smile.gif

     

    Oh and my commitment fears have nothing to do with finding ‘the one' or men in general. It’s more something personal that needs to be addressed within myself. I guess. :confused: