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    I am just taking my time in trying to find the right things in life such as making my deen stronger, trying to find a descent house to buy, looking after my family and relatives. I am not a luuq luuq brother so I would definetly desire to get married within a year or two from now!. :D:D

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    I am happy sis because Islam has taught me to be humble and respectful to our fellow sisters!. Now about the diraac....Would you ever wear one outside?.

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    I am a true fan of you lucky. smile.gif Yes....I am a proud batchelor sis. Couldn't ask for anything more or anything less!. Its all in gods hands. Are u a batchelorette?. :confused:

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    She makes an unlikely martyr. But Ayaan Hirsi Ali, a 32-year-old Somali-born Muslim immigrant to the Netherlands, who took cleaning jobs while she studied Dutch, has been forced to flee her adopted country under threat of death. Now she is becoming known as a latter-day Salman Rushdie.

    Her crime is uncannily similar to the author of The Satanic Verses: she launched a stinging attack on Islam, a religion she herself has rejected, and in doing so earned the enduring hatred of the mullahs she targeted. The fact that the criticism came from a woman and one who had turned her back on Allah made her situation all the more precarious.

     

    Nor did she mince her words. A political adviser to the Dutch Labour Party, she savaged what she said was the cruelty and abuse meted out to many Muslim women living in Western societies - and she did so on national TV.

     

    Calling Islam a 'backward' religion, she claimed that orthodox Muslim men frequently indulge in domestic violence against women as well as incest and child abuse. To make matters worse, she added, such unacceptable behaviour is routinely covered up and never spoken about. And she launched a strong attack on the Netherlands' programme of multicultualism, which she said encouraged the isolation of Muslim women.

     

    She can't have known what effect those words would have, but in a post-11 September world and in a country which was still mourning the loss of Pim Fortuyn - a gay maverick anti-politician who despised Islam and openly said so - her words generated a political and cultural firestorm.

     

    Within days she had received several serious death threats - apparently from extremist Muslims - and was forced to go into hiding. Now she has fled the Netherlands, a refugee once again, hounded out of her adopted home by a torrent of messages of hate.

     

    The messages - which were anonymous and delivered over the phone - called her a traitor to Islam and a slut. Hate mail also appeared on the internet claiming she deserved to be knifed and shot. The police advised her to change address and questions were asked in parliament about whether or not she warranted bodyguards.

     

    At a time when the Netherlands' almost one-million-strong Muslim community (out of a total population of 16 million) felt itself vulnerable and subject to attack, her words seemed to some to play into the hands of those demanding a clampdown on immigration, and anti-Muslim sentiment.

     

    Uproar followed the first death threat, with one prominent news magazine claiming they were a fraud, a claim which Islamic lobby groups seized upon with delight but one which turned out to be baseless. More than 100 Dutch writers took out newspaper ads offering her their support.

     

    In an effort to distance themselves from the affair, 17 Muslim organisations signed a declaration condemning the death threats, but many Muslims felt betrayed by Hirsi Ali and took serious issue with her allegations. Her comments had, they said, opened up a rift in the Dutch Muslim community at a time when it needed to be more united than ever.

     

    The views of Ali Eddaudi, a Moroccan writer and cleric living in the Netherlands, were typical of many. He dismissed 'all the fuss' over a Muslim woman who 'pandered to the Dutch' and wanted, he said, to be a model immigrant.

     

    Fearing for her life, Hirsi Ali - by now dubbed the Dutch Salman Rushdie - remained in hiding until last month. But now she has gone one step further, decided that enough is enough and fled the country she sought sanctuary in 10 years earlier.

     

    Rumoured to be in the United States or the UK, she has also spoken out for the first time about why she felt the need to blow the whistle on 'the unacceptable side of Islam' and has turned her fire and her back on the same Dutch Labour Party she used to work for.

     

    'I had to speak up,' she told the New York Times yesterday from her hiding place 'because most spokesmen for Muslims... are men and they deny or belittle the enormous problems of Muslim women locked up in their Dutch homes.

     

    'I've made people so angry because I'm talking from the inside, from direct knowledge. It's seen as treason. I'm considered an apostate, and that's worse than an atheist.'

     

    She explained: 'Sexual abuse in the family causes the most pain because the trust is violated on all levels. The father or the uncle say nothing, nor do the mother and the sisters. It happens regularly - the incest, the beatings, the abortions. Girls commit suicide. But no one says anything. And social workers are sworn to professional secrecy.'

     

    However, her scorn is not reserved for orthodox Muslims alone. She also blames the Dutch Labour Party for the apparent failure of the country's immigration and integration policy.

     

    Although no longer in power, Labour has governed the country for long stretches and has, she says, pursued a damaging 'strategy of silence' when it comes to Islam and problems surrounding immigration in general.

     

    Branding the Labour Party's approach to multiculturalism 'soft', she argues that its tactic of promoting the preservation of Muslim identity by subsidising special schools and associations has backfired. The result, she says, is segregation and misery for Muslim women, who are left isolated and unprotected.

     

    'If the West wants to help modernise Islam, it should invest in women, because they educate the children.'

     

    Ton van Lierop, a political journalist, says: 'The feeling on the street is that it is ridiculous that a woman like this can't say what she wants. There is a feeling that Muslim women are oppressed by their men and people think it's a good thing that this woman has dared to stand up and say so.'

     

    Hirsi Ali's views carry all the more weight because they are perceived to come from someone who knows what she is talking about.

     

    Born in Mogadishu, Somalia, she underwent what she calls the 'cruel ritual' of female circumcision when she was five and for much of her youth was kept veiled and locked indoors.

     

    At 22, her father tried to force her to marry a distant cousin she had never met, but she managed to escape to the Netherlands where she obtained political asylum. It was while working as an interpreter for the Dutch immigration and social services that she discovered 'suffering on a terrible scale' among Muslim women in the Netherlands.

     

    The solution, she believes, is to use Dutch law to pursue more vigorously Muslim men who beat their wives and daughters, to stop teaching immigrants in their own language and to stop paying for the 700 Islamic clubs, most of which, she says, 'are run by deeply conservative men and perpetuate the segregation of women'.

     

    Hirsi Ali has refused to moderate her views in the face of the death threats and does not intend to hide away forever.

     

    'Either I stop my work, or I learn to live with the feeling that I'm not safe,' she said. 'I'm not stopping.'

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    I thought you hated Gediid but I apologize if I am wrong. Did you know that I am fond of sisters who speak up their mind. I wanted more responses from other sisters regarding this topic. Anway I am batchelor as u well know me from this virtual net!. Feel free to ask me any questions in the future sis! ;)

     

    Peace.

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    A lesbian couple was sentenced to death in Bossasso, Somalia, Feb. 19 for "exercising unnatural behavior," according to numerous reports by Somali and international media.

     

    The women reportedly were convicted under the Somali Criminal Punishment Law which is based on Islamic Sharia law.

     

    Bossasso is a port city in the autonomous northeast Puntland region where executions reportedly are usually by firing squad.

     

    The news reports said the unnamed women were arrested when one of them complained to police that the other refused to pay for her medical care after infecting her with a sexually transmitted disease.

     

    According to the BBC, hundreds of spectators cheered when the judge handed down the death sentences.

     

    Meanwhile, on Feb. 23, Puntland police denied that any of the reported events had occurred, one Somali newspaper reportedly printed a retraction, and the BBC said it had been unable to confirm its earlier reports.

     

    The United Nations' Integrated Regional Information Network responded to the retraction by saying it knows who the women are and where they are jailed.

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    Guys, a word of advice: Next time a beautiful stranger smiles at you, don't get your hopes up. Chances are, she's not even interested in you.

     

    A woman may appear to flirt with a man even if she isn't sexually attracted to him, according to a study by Karl Grammer of the Ludwig Boltzmann Institute of Urban Ethology in Vienna.

     

    The study, published in New Scientist, involved 45 pairs of strangers in their teens and early 20s who were videotaped through a one-way mirror. A researcher told participants they would be rating videos, then he excused himself to answer a phone call.

     

    What occurred during the researcher's 10-minute absence was telling, Grammer said.

     

    "The females use affirmative subliminal behavior to bring the male into a talking mode -- the more she nods, the more words the male produces," Grammer said. "This way the male reveals his tendencies."

     

    Because men deceive women to get sex, women use positive signals -- nodding, smiling, tossing their hair -- to reveal their true selves, Grammer said.

     

    The study found that although women always appeared to flirt at the beginning of the encounter, after a few minutes their actions began to reflect their true feelings toward the male.

     

    In fact, the only time that women appeared disinterested was when the man talked too much. Men, on the other hand, are much harder to read because they don't use as many nonverbal signals, Grammer said.

     

    But Jay Phelan, a UCLA evolutionary biologist and author of Mean Genes, came up with an alternative theory for the study's results.

     

    "The women may have been responding to the good symmetry in the men," he said.

     

    "Symmetry reflects some underlying genetic quality," Phelan said. "You may not be aware of it, but your genes are doing what's in their best interest."

     

    Women may also appear flirtatious to get on good terms with a stronger animal -- the male.

     

    "Anytime you're in an interaction where there's a dramatic difference in body size, you want to take whatever steps possible to make sure that the person is not a threat to you," Phelan said.

     

    But he agrees with Grammer that women hone their nonverbal cues because mating is riskier for them. When a woman gets pregnant, she's stuck caring for the offspring while the man is free to pollinate the next flower, so to speak.

     

    Animals do the same thing he added. For example, the female Western Grebe forces the male bird to perform an intricate dance for two weeks before settling down to nest.

     

    "If he's good at the dance it shows he's committed and she selects him," Phelan said. "The same is true in humans."

  25. Posted

    King. This is your bro, D.C_Male aka Mr.Millenium from the other net place we met. You should ask her why she doesnt want to commit!. Maybe she wants to finish her education or maybe she is still having doubts bro!. Keep asking her time and time again. Dont give up as she is testing you bro!. Play politics! ;) .