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  3. Posted

    Wadani;912801 wrote:
    Ur right Qansax, it's a risk either way. But here's the difference, you won't suffer from the same pangs of regret for investing in a family member who does u wrong as u would a so called friend. If u waste time or money on a family member and u recieve nuthing in return, u can rationalize it by telling urself u did it cuz it was fams.....but wat will u tell urself when a friendship u put a lot into goes awry through no fault of ur own?

    Isn't the hurt even worse with family, almost like the Shakespearean "et tu Brutus"? An "even you"? "I can't believe it" moment? Me thinks the knife goes deeper with family...

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    oba hiloowlow;912783 wrote:
    i have my days qansaxow somedays i flood the forum with my threads and some day im passive it depends on my mood.
    :D

    Wise words - looks like am going thru a "flood the forum" day! I have taken a cocktail of medicines and still can't sleep! Your name reminds me of a song "Oba Hiloowlow" - it is ringing in my head by I can't put my finger to it, just remember the chorus as similar to your name :cool: Almost like Sulfa's ow geedi shambow

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    Reeyo;912776 wrote:
    I am concur with Oba. Trust is too precious to give away.

     

    My friends have been the same since primary school. Everyone else just comes and goes.

    So you have core friends and those who - for lack of better words - pass by your deegaan with their camel caravans for watering and a place to crush for the night and it is bye in the morning?

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    Wadani;912769 wrote:
    Qansax walaalo, U r lucky to have two true friends, because that's more than most people have. Like urself I have many situational friends, but only 2 people who I can consider to be like my brothers. Maybe ur right about things changing in our generation, because most relationships nowadays seem superificial and transient. That's exactly y I keep my energies focused on cultivating solid bonds with my family members, because I know those will be forever till death do us part (unlike most freindships and marriages nowadays).

    Won't focusing your energies internally to family close out possible friendships that might blossom into something magical? Maybe am just a hopeless romantic?

     

    Besides, I've noticed family also don't always give you back your return on investments; I;ve had my fair share of investing in "family" and after all is done and dusted, it is "ciao, see you cousin, it's been nice knowing ya now that I've finished Uni thanks to your slaving away at odd hours paying my tuition".

  9. Posted

    Alpha Blondy;912765 wrote:
    can you provide some definitions please?

     

    what is this
    'Situational Friendships''
    and
    ''Transcendental Friendhiships''

     

    thx

     

    Al.

     

    "situational"=you are forced by circumstances, say you share an accommodation with someone (split the rent for a couple of years as you hassle) and in the process you become friends, but when that arrangement ends, you hardly stay in touch. Or you work at the same place and when one of you quits the job, that's it, the friendship also ends there.

     

    "transcendental"=true friends, circumstances change, but you are friends no matter what.

     

    Does that help?

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    Guys I'd like to hear your views on modern friendships.

     

    Life puts us in situations where we make many friends - I call this "situational friendships" e.g. you are in the same school, dugsi, neighborhood, shared accommodation as doobs, worked at the same place, etc. Somehow, they tend to fizzle out.

     

    Are there trues friendships that transcend time and space - what I am calling "transcendental friendships".

     

    Although I have made many many friends and still do, I can only count 2 people I can truly say fall in the second category.

     

    Is something changing in our society? I admired how my father revered - yes revered - his friends. He'd literally order us when on a journey to "break you journey and make sure you pay your respects to my friend Sheikh Bashir in such and such a town".

     

    Was that part of old-fashioned Somalinimo which we lost? What's happening to our society?

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    xabad;912741 wrote:
    I call BS on that. Bantus are the fairest.

    You are probably saying that tongue-in-cheek but there are actually very fair Bantus, especially in Southern Africa e.g. Botswana, Lesotho, I've seen really fair ones, and I mean entire ethnic groups...

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    Alpha Blondy;912628 wrote:
    i'm afraid the cat is already out of the bag, as it were LOL. i want to become caqil in the next year or so inshallah. my uncle is the beesha caqil already but he doesn't even have a mobile phone, doesn't have a car, doesn't wear the nice hats, macawises and expensive cumaamads the other caqils, cheif caqils, ugaas, garaads and suldans wear. i would like to replace him. he's a tribesman and i don't think he's up to the job in all honesty. i will call a large beesha meeting soon and will hopefully be selected as the new caqil. i want to revolutionise the outdated caqil system.

     

    here's what i have in mind:

     

    1. rent a big spacious majilis to gather my clan members together.

    2. ensure a consensus within the warring members of the clan.

    3. set up a datebase to gather information on the beesha.

    4. set up a trust fund whereby each beesha member pays up to $1 a month

    5. use the trust fund to help pay blood money, business start-ups schemes, university scholarships, health and medical care etc..

    6. have regular meetings with beesha members and ensure their grievances are addressed.

     

    Caqil Alfa ina Baloonde

    Don't forget nice boxers; many a clan elder sits under a qurac tree with macaawiis only and nothing underneath....ahem ahem...full display (disclosure), wink wink nudge nudge...

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    Alpha Blondy;912610 wrote:
    ^
    :D
    ,

     

    NO ONE is as genuine as Alpha ma istidhi sxb? i went home to somaliland to learn about my culture. i came, i saw, i conquered but not as i would've liked, you know. i expected to be welcomed as a hero returning from the diaspora but all i got was jealous sneers. LOL. i'm still here and still trying to learn more everyday despite all the obstacles i face. we need more people like me, you know.

    Keep it up. Someone shocked me the other day by revealing that some of my kinsmen disappeared into the SL genetic pool (we don't even share a border). A long story, but the short of it is that Somalis are so interconnected am gobsmacked every single day. One guy I know who wanted to run for political office in an area where he assumed he was one of the people who settle there was told "actually you are not one of us; your ancestors were cagdheer from such and such a place" - he is still reeling from the shock and dislocation....

  22. Posted

    Alpha Blondy;912607 wrote:
    ^ but i've been telling people my tripe for many years now. it's just a label and doesn't mean very much to me walahi. i'm alpha not some foolish tribesman. had i known it was the custom not to reveal your tripe then i've would've at least maintained some modesty. why didn't anyone tell me about this dearest showqi? i feel a little silly for revealing my cards too early, you know.

    No worries bro; I think people are fetishizing tribe, that's the problem,

  25. Posted

    What are you guys on about; arimaha kala saara. There is the Quran, its beauty and majesty and there is an individual's talent in reciting it beautifully.

     

    We aren't all gifted in the latter department. Some reciters do it so well they bring tears to your eyes and move even the hardest of hearts - others are, well, just your every day sheikh leading the prayer...