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  1. If u do alot of volunteer work and did ur 40 hours community service here's a great scholarship to apply for...

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    hope u guys take an advantage of this

     

    And also u should register at studentawards.com u sign up and then u get alot of awards that u can apply to according to ur avagerage mark and all the things they ask u.......


  2. by Fareena Alam

     

    "As to those who reject Faith, It is the same to them Whether thou warn them Or do not warn them; They will not believe." The Holy Quran, 02:06 Al Baqarah

    Abdullah Yusuf Ali's commentary: Kufr, Kafara, Kafir, and derivative forms of the word, imply a deliberate rejection of Faith as opposed to a mistaken idea of Allah or faith, which is not consistent with an ernest desire to see the truth. Where there is sch desire, the Grace and Mercy of Allah gives guidance. But that guidance is not efficacious when it is deliberately rejected, and the possibility of rejection follows from the grant of free will. The consequence of the rejection is that spiritual faculties become dead or impervious to better influence.

     

    Be careful who you call Kafir because only Allah knows who is truly a rejector and who is merely a misguided person. It is not up to us to "sentence" a person to the Hellfire.

    We must always maintain courtesy, diplomacy and a never-dying zeal to convey the message to others no matter how discouraging or useless it may seem - don't give up on a non-muslim because most people are good people who simply need a break from the anti-Islamic propaganda around them.

     

    The Fastest Way to Leave Islam

     

    It is always safest to assume that a non-muslim has been misguided, misinformed and fed lies and misconceptions about Islam and Muslims - don't jump to calling him a Kafir. Remove the name-calling from your articles and websites - wouldn't you rather be safe than sorry - name-calling, especially wrongly branding someone as 'evil', 'kafr' and 'manifestation of satan' - GHEEBOT - could entail dire consequences for us on Judgement Day.

     

    Perhaps there is no faster way to leave Islam than by calling other Muslims "kafir" or "mushrik" without discrimination.

     

    About calling other Muslims "kafir," we read the following hadith: It is reported on the authority of Ibn `Umar that the Prophet (may peace and blessings be upon him) said: Any person who calls his brother: O Unbeliever! (then the truth of this label) would return to one of them. If it is true, (then it is) as he asserted, (but if it is not true), then it returns to him (and thus the person who made the accusation is an Unbeliever). [Muslim]

     

    Therefore, if you call other Muslims "kafir" or "mushrik" without discrimination, you could find that you have left Islam, according to the words of the Prophet (s.a.w.), in less than a second.

     

    Waste no time debating what a good Muslim should be. Be one!

     

    Guiding a Non-Muslim to Islam only possible by the Grace of God. Our job is to help others understand Islam - that is our basic duty. And only then inshallah, will non-muslims move in the direction of becoming one of us. We must remain positive, open-minded and generous in our efforts to convey the true message.

     

    You cannot encourage a non-muslim to be understanding and open-minded if you yourself are hot-tempered and hurling accusations at him/her. No non-muslim is going to respect you and it will certainly reflect badly on Islam if a Muslim, a representative of Islam, is narrow-minded.

     

    I pray to Allah that we develop patience and sincerity in our efforts to bring about more tolerance in this world. Remember....every human being, regardless of whether he/she is born to Muslim or Non-Muslim parents, is born innocent and pure...it is society that influences him/her to stray from Islam and just as a person can stray, he/she can revert back and YOU can help this process.

     

    We have a very important and sensitive role to play. We are the trusted Ummah of the Rasool, a servant of God...it has been made our duty and our obligation to pass on the pure, unadulterated truth - make honest and full use of this honourable task.


  3. I remember a story that was told to me....I think it went like this

     

    Prophet Muhamed (SAW) had a neighbour his neighbour was a Jew, he wasn't nice to prophet Muhamed *SAW* but the prophet didn't call him names and act rude to him.. He always said hello and stuff...But one day Prophet Muhamed didn't see the Jewish guy for a while and he wondered what happneded to him ( it's not like he was looking forward to hearing insults from him) But he felt obligated so see what was wrong with his neighbour.... He did and he realiezed that he was really sick... The Jewish neighbour was shocked, thinking to himself why would he visit me after all the things I've said. The guy ended up becoming muslim......The story might be messed up but it was something similar to what I wrote..

     

     

    My point is if ur neighbour is sick and u have to go and see them and pray for them even though they're not muslim...how can not giving an organ to a person who might die be wrong...

    That was my perspective..

    Some reasearch ( 2 different views)

    http://www.themodernreligion.com/misc/hh/organ-transplant.html

     

    Is organ donation permissible?

    Answered by Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam, Darul Iftaa (Leicester, UK)

     

    The issue of organ transplant has been a matter of great debate and dispute among the great contemporary scholars from around the globe. It has been discussed in various fiqh seminars, and many short and detailed works have be compiled on the subject.

     

    The majority of the Indo/Pak scholars are of the view that organ transplant is not permissible, while, the Arab scholars and some scholars of the Indian subcontinent give its permission under certain conditions, (details of these conditions will be mentioned further along). No body has given a general unconditional permission for the transplantation of organs.

     

    It must be remarked here that this issue is contemporary and obviously it is impossible for us to find express rulings concerning it in the classical works. As such, the views of the contemporary scholars are based upon the general and broad guidelines of Shariah. It is obvious that this will result in difference of opinion, thus no one opinion should be condemned, as the intention of all the scholars is to please Allah, and live a life that is in accordance with Shariah.

     

     

    2) The view of permissibility

     

    The view of permissibility

     

    According to almost all of the major Arab scholars and also some contemporary Indo/Pak scholars, the transplantation and donation of human-organs would be permissible subject to certain conditions (which will be mentioned later). This view is based on the following grounds:

     

    a) The famous principles (qawa’id) of Islamic Jurisprudence based on the teachings of the Qur’an and Sunnah permit the use of unlawful things in cases of extreme need and necessity. In case of Necessity, certain prohibitions are waived, as when the life of a person is threatened the prohibition of eating carrion or drinking wine is suspended. Allah Most High says: “He (Allah) has only forbidden you dead meat, and blood, and the flesh of swine, and that on which any other name has been invoked besides that of Allah. But if one is forced by necessity, without wilful disobedience, nor transgressing due limits, then he is guiltless. For Allah is Most Forgiving and Most Merciful”. (Surah al-Baqarah, v. 173).

     

    The Qur’an also permits the utterance of disbelief (kufr) in order to save your life. Allah Most High says: “Anyone who, after accepting faith in Allah, utters unbelief, except under compulsion whilst his heart remaining firm in faith…” (Surah al-Nahl, V. 106).

     

    The principle of Fiqh, based on the above Qur’anic guidelines, states: “Necessity makes prohibition lawful” (See: Ibn Nujaym, al-Ashbah wa al-Naza’ir, P. 85 ).

     

    According to Imam Shafi’i (Allah have mercy on him), it is permissible for a person dying out of hunger to consume the meat of another human. (See: Ibn Qudama, al-Mugni, 9/335).

     

    Therefore, in cases of need and necessity, impure, unlawful and Haram things become permissible. When a person’s life is in danger and he is in dire need for transplantation, he is in such a situation, thus the transplantation of organs will be permissible.

     

    b) With regards to the aspect of human sanctity, there are two things that need to be taken into consideration.

     

    Firstly, it is true that a human body, whether dead or alive, is honoured and respected, but does the modern procedure violate this sanctity? Islam ordered us to honour a human body but did not prescribe any fixed methods for it. Disgracing a human body may change from one time to another and from one place to another.

     

    Thus, it could be said that the current procedure of organ transplantation is not considered dishonouring a human body. The surgery is performed in the most respectable way and it is not considered to be disrespectful. This is the reason why many highly respected people of the community regard donating of organs as a mark of merit, and they are not looked down upon.

     

    Secondly, there are cases where Shariah overlooks the sanctity that is attributed to the body, such as in the case of saving another human.

     

    It is stated in Tuhfat al-Fuqaha: “If a pregnant woman died and the child in her stomach is still alive, her stomach will be cut open in order to take the child out, for in there is saving the live of a human, thus the sanctity of a human body will be overlooked”. (Samarqandi, Tuhfat al-Fuqaha, 4/261 & Badai’i al-Sana’i).

     

    This is also based on the juristic principle: “If one is confronted with two evils, one should choose the lesser of the two” (al-Ashbah wa al-Naza’ir).

     

    c) As for a human not owning his body is concerned, Islam permits a human in certain situations to utilize his body. It is similar to the wealth which Allah Almighty has given a human, and he is permitted to utilize it (in a correct manner) and give it as a gift.

     

    If an individual is drowning or is in the midst of a burning flame, it is totally permissible to go and save him. Similarly, it will be permissible to donate your organ in order to save the life of a fellow human being.

     

    d) Almost all of the scholars give permission for the transfusion and donation of blood in cases of need and necessity (see below), then why is there a difference in the issue of organ transplant. The surgical procedure of transplantation ensures that one does not go thorough unnecessary mutilation of his body. It is similar to surgical treatment that is carried out on a living person for medication purposes.

     

    In view of the above (according to this group of scholars), it will be permissible to transplant and donate organs in order to save another person’s life. However, this is subject to certain terms and conditions.

     

    The international Islamic fiqh academy (Majma’ al-Fiqh al-Islami) which consists of a number of major scholars from around the globe researched this issue in February 1988, and after extensive research, issued the following verdicts:

     

    Note, that the resolutions of the Islamic fiqh academy have been published in Arabic and translated in a number of languages. Below is the original Arabic text and its translation in English:

     

     

    1) The view of impermissibility

     

    As mentioned earlier, the majority of the Indo/Pak scholars hold the view that organ transplantation can not be deemed permissible due to the harms and ill effects of it overcoming the potential benefits

     

    There view is based on the following grounds:

     

    a) The first and foremost is that Allah Almighty has honoured the human. Allah Most High says: “And verily we have honoured the children of Adam” (Surah al-Isra, V.70).

     

    As such, it is a well established principle of Shariah that all the organs of a human body, whether one is a Muslim or a non-Muslim, are sacred and must not be tampered with. To take benefit from any part of a human is unlawful (haram).

     

    Allah Almighty made humans the best of creations and created everything for their benefit. Allah Most High Says: “It is He, who has created for you all things that are on earth.” (Surah al-Baqarah, 2.29).

     

    Thus, it is permissible for a human to take benefit from every creation of Allah which includes animals (under certain conditions), plants and inanimate things. As such, it would be unreasonable to place humans in the same category of the above things by giving permission to use parts and derive benefit out of their body that necessitates cutting, chopping and amputating parts of the body. This is certainly unreasonable and unlawful on a human body.

     

    A very famous Hadith prevents the usage of human parts. Sayyida Asma bint Abi Bakr (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Allah’s curse is on a woman who wears false hair (of humans) or arranges it for others”. (Sahih Muslim, no. 2122).

     

    Imam Nawawi (Allah have mercy on him) writes in the explanation of this Hadith: “If human hair is used, then it is unlawful by consensus, whether it’s the hair of a man or woman, because of the general narrations that prohibit this. And also, it is unlawful to take benefit from the hair and all other organs of a human body due to its sanctity. The hair of a human along with all his body parts must be buried”. (Commentary of Sahih Muslim by Nawawi, p. 1600).

     

    The Jurists (fuqaha) have stated that in the case of extreme necessity and when there is no alternative available, even unlawful things, such as pork and alcohol, become permissible. However, even in such a situation, consuming or deriving benefit from a human body still remains unlawful.

     

    It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya: “If a person feared death due to hunger and another person said to him: “Cut my hand and consume it” or he said: “Cut a part of me and eat it”, it will be unlawful for him to do so. Similarly, it is impermissible for a desperate person to cut part of his own self and eat it”. (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/310).

     

    Allama Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him) explains: “Because the flesh of a human remains unlawful even in forceful situations”. (Radd al-Muhtar, 5/215)

     

    Imam Ibn Nujaym (Allah have mercy on him) states: “It is impermissible for the one who is dying out of hunger to consume the food of another person who is also dying out of hunger; neither will be permissible to consume any part of the other person’s body”. (al-Ashbah wa al-Naza’ir, p. 124).

     

    The Fuqaha have also stated that if one was compelled by force to kill another human, it will not be permissible, even if his own life was in danger. (See: al-Kasani, Bada’i al-Sana’i, 7/177 & Ibn Qudama, al-Mugni, 9/331).

     

    Imam al-Marghinani (Allah have mercy on him) states regarding the sanctity of a human: “It is unlawful to sell the hair of a human, as it is (unlawful) to take benefit out of it, for a human is honoured and sacred, and it is not permissible to disgrace any part of a human’s body”. (al-Hidaya 4.39)

     

    A human body is sacred even after his/her death. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Breaking the bone of a dead person is similar (in sin) to breaking the bone of a living person”. (Sunan Abu Dawud, Sunan Ibn Majah & Musnad Ahmad).

     

    The great Hanafi jurist and Hadith Imam, Abu Ja’far al-Tahawi (Allah have mercy on him) writes in the explanation of this Hadith: “The Hadith shows that the bone of a dead person has the same sanctity and honour as the bone of living person”. (Mushkil al-Athar).

     

    In another Hadith it is stated: “Harming a believer after his death is similar to harming him in his life”. (Musannaf of Ibn Abi Shayba).

     

    Also, the books of classical scholars are full with examples indicating the impermissibility of deriving benefit out of a human body due to it being honoured.

     

    In conclusion, the human body, dead or alive has great significance. It is honoured and sacred, and because of the sanctity that is attached to it, it will be unlawful to tamper with it, cut parts of it or dishonour it in any way.

     

    b) The cutting of and tampering with a human body amounts to mutilation and deformation of a divinely created body (muthla), which has clearly been prohibited in Shariah.

     

    Qatada (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) used to encourage giving in charity and prevent Muthla”. (Sahih al-Bukhari, 2/206)

     

    In another Hadith, the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “Abstain from Muthla”. (Sahih Muslim, 2/82).

     

    This is also supported by the verse of the Qur’an, where Allah Allah Almighty mentions the words of Shaytan, when he said: “I will mislead them and I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and to deface the (fair) nature created by Allah” (4: 119).

     

    To deface the fair nature created by Allah, both physically and spiritually, is what Shaytan likes and orders to practise.

     

    As far as the permissibility of blood transfusion in cases of need is concerned (See below, for the ruling on blood transfusion and donation, which was posted earlier), it does not necessitate the cutting of human parts or any surgical procedures on the body, rather it is drawn and transfused by means of injection, thus it is akin to human milk that is extracted without any surgical procedures.

     

    c) The human body and parts are not in our ownership in that we may fiddle with them as we desire. It is a trust (amanah) that has been given to us by Allah Almighty. As such, it will be impermissible for one to sell, give or donate any organs of his body. Islam has forbidden suicide for the same reason. There are many texts of the Qur’an and Sunnah that clearly determine this. Thus, it will be unlawful for one to give his organs to another.

     

    d) It is unlawful for an individual to inflict harm upon himself or others. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “It is unlawful to inflict harm upon your self and others, (la dharar wa la dhirar)”. (Mustadrak of al-Hakim)

     

    The famous principle states: “Harm can not be removed by a similar harm” (meaning, in order to remove harm from another individual, it is impermissible for one to harm himself)”. (Ibn Najaym, al-Ashbah, P. 123).

     

    Therefore, it will be impermissible for a living person to donate part of his body due to it being harmful for him.

     

    e) The principle of Islamic jurisprudence states: “When the evidences of prohibition conflict with the evidences of permissibility, preference is given to prohibition”. (Ibn Nujaym, al-Ashbah wa al-Naza’ir).

     

    In view of the above and other evidences, according to this group of scholars, it is unlawful to transplant organs, whether it be of a living person or a dead body, and whether there is a need or otherwise. In other words, there is no permissibility whatsoever for the transplantation or donation of organs.


  4. There are angels on our shoulders who right everything we do in this life....When we die our book is closed, So how can giving an organ after u die be kinda of not a good idea.... Your dead, ur in the grave and ur life is over u have to wait until judgmentday... Plus god is merciful, he wouldn't punish u for someone elses mistakes in life after giving away an organ to save them..

    WHy not save someones life so they can have a chance...I maybe wrong but....

     

    Also when ur alive and give someone an organ....It's a blessing, if the person who gets the organ is supposed to die, wouldn't they just die....everyone is gonna die and they have a way of dieing so if someone saves them it means their time has not come, because god has a plan and his plan always dominates all other.....

     

    Hope I didn't say wrong things....respond


  5. Well Pete

     

    Those are reasonable things...So here's my advice

     

    -Ground him, just cause he isn't ur kid doesn't mean u can't treat him like ur own child

     

    -Do what u would do with ur kid, he's no different...But what exactly would u do with ur kid if he was staying out late and breaking the rules of the house

     

    A) beat him ( wrong)

    B) Ground him ( right)

    B) yell and say harsh things ( wrong)

     

    But tell him why ur gounding him, not just go to ur room and ur grounded for this long...

     

    I am sure he didn't do this at his aunts house...Tell him that he needs to respect ur house rules....Explain to him the opportunity he has, he could be worst of with some group home

    were they take u and a group of people to store to buy u clothes (embarresing), telling when to eat, giving u permission to have a job)....

     

    ...but instead he has a kind family who is willing to take him in....I could go on and on but basically just sit him down and, speak with him...Dont bring the whole family into this discussion.....

     

    I would suggest that u ground him for 1 week no longer if he contines to miss-behave then take away something that u bought him that he really likes like a CD player, or whatever....

     

    If u think this is too extreme then I dont know what other option there is for u.

     

    Do u know or someone who is close to him like cousin, uncle, his mom...Let me know cause then u can do something else. Not aunt, I dont think he would want to talk to her...she gave him away..


  6. Well Pete

     

    Those are reasonable things...So here's my advice

     

    -Ground him, just cause he isn't ur kid doesn't mean u can't treat him like ur own child

     

    -Do what u would do with ur kid, he's no different...But what exactly would u do with ur kid if he was staying out late and breaking the rules of the house

     

    A) beat him ( wrong)

    B) Ground him ( right)

    B) yell and say harsh things ( wrong)

     

    But tell him why ur gounding him, not just go to ur room and ur grounded for this long...

     

    I am sure he didn't do this at his aunts house...Tell him that he needs to respect ur house rules....Explain to him the opportunity he has, he could be worst of with some group home

    were they take u and a group of people to store to buy u clothes (embarresing), telling when to eat, giving u permission to have a job)....

     

    ...but instead he has a kind family who is willing to take him in....I could go on and on but basically just sit him down and, speak with him...Dont bring the whole family into this discussion.....

     

    I would suggest that u ground him for 1 week no longer if he contines to miss-behave then take away something that u bought him that he really likes like a CD player, or whatever....

     

    If u think this is too extreme then I dont know what other option there is for u.

     

    Do u know or someone who is close to him like cousin, uncle, his mom...Let me know cause then u can do something else. Not aunt, I dont think he would want to talk to her...she gave him away..


  7. Well Pete

     

    Those are reasonable things...So here's my advice

     

    -Ground him, just cause he isn't ur kid doesn't mean u can't treat him like ur own child

     

    -Do what u would do with ur kid, he's no different...But what exactly would u do with ur kid if he was staying out late and breaking the rules of the house

     

    A) beat him ( wrong)

    B) Ground him ( right)

    B) yell and say harsh things ( wrong)

     

    But tell him why ur gounding him, not just go to ur room and ur grounded for this long...

     

    I am sure he didn't do this at his aunts house...Tell him that he needs to respect ur house rules....Explain to him the opportunity he has, he could be worst of with some group home

    were they take u and a group of people to store to buy u clothes (embarresing), telling when to eat, giving u permission to have a job)....

     

    ...but instead he has a kind family who is willing to take him in....I could go on and on but basically just sit him down and, speak with him...Dont bring the whole family into this discussion.....

     

    I would suggest that u ground him for 1 week no longer if he contines to miss-behave then take away something that u bought him that he really likes like a CD player, or whatever....

     

    If u think this is too extreme then I dont know what other option there is for u.

     

    Do u know or someone who is close to him like cousin, uncle, his mom...Let me know cause then u can do something else. Not aunt, I dont think he would want to talk to her...she gave him away..


  8. Well Pete

     

    Those are reasonable things...So here's my advice

     

    -Ground him, just cause he isn't ur kid doesn't mean u can't treat him like ur own child

     

    -Do what u would do with ur kid, he's no different...But what exactly would u do with ur kid if he was staying out late and breaking the rules of the house

     

    A) beat him ( wrong)

    B) Ground him ( right)

    B) yell and say harsh things ( wrong)

     

    But tell him why ur gounding him, not just go to ur room and ur grounded for this long...

     

    I am sure he didn't do this at his aunts house...Tell him that he needs to respect ur house rules....Explain to him the opportunity he has, he could be worst of with some group home

    were they take u and a group of people to store to buy u clothes (embarresing), telling when to eat, giving u permission to have a job)....

     

    ...but instead he has a kind family who is willing to take him in....I could go on and on but basically just sit him down and, speak with him...Dont bring the whole family into this discussion.....

     

    I would suggest that u ground him for 1 week no longer if he contines to miss-behave then take away something that u bought him that he really likes like a CD player, or whatever....

     

    If u think this is too extreme then I dont know what other option there is for u.

     

    Do u know or someone who is close to him like cousin, uncle, his mom...Let me know cause then u can do something else. Not aunt, I dont think he would want to talk to her...she gave him away..


  9. Hey there

     

    It's kind of u to actually have considered taking in a fosterchild not a lot of people can do that especially a kid from a different race......

     

    I only have one question what kinda rules are u setting for this kid.... cause if it's telling him to eat pork or clean everyones room's, then that's a different story.. :rolleyes:

     

     

    If not then Here's my respond to ur question

     

    I wonder how we can help him to understand the family rules we have and show us some respect

     

    The kid was living with his aunt before he came to u so don't treat him like he's just come from another swedish-german family.

     

    When u speak to him don't call him names or say urselfish like u described him on this forum. Speak to him kindly and generoulsy and don't demand him to do things.

     

    Do something generous like buy him a phone card to speak with his mom on the phone. cause he probably needs his mom more than anyone else. ( ur not trying to replace his family so let him keep his family).

     

    Make him a part of ur family not apart from ur family.

    ................................................

     

    hope that helps :D


  10. Hey there

     

    It's kind of u to actually have considered taking in a fosterchild not a lot of people can do that especially a kid from a different race......

     

    I only have one question what kinda rules are u setting for this kid.... cause if it's telling him to eat pork or clean everyones room's, then that's a different story.. :rolleyes:

     

     

    If not then Here's my respond to ur question

     

    I wonder how we can help him to understand the family rules we have and show us some respect

     

    The kid was living with his aunt before he came to u so don't treat him like he's just come from another swedish-german family.

     

    When u speak to him don't call him names or say urselfish like u described him on this forum. Speak to him kindly and generoulsy and don't demand him to do things.

     

    Do something generous like buy him a phone card to speak with his mom on the phone. cause he probably needs his mom more than anyone else. ( ur not trying to replace his family so let him keep his family).

     

    Make him a part of ur family not apart from ur family.

    ................................................

     

    hope that helps :D


  11. Hey there

     

    It's kind of u to actually have considered taking in a fosterchild not a lot of people can do that especially a kid from a different race......

     

    I only have one question what kinda rules are u setting for this kid.... cause if it's telling him to eat pork or clean everyones room's, then that's a different story.. :rolleyes:

     

     

    If not then Here's my respond to ur question

     

    I wonder how we can help him to understand the family rules we have and show us some respect

     

    The kid was living with his aunt before he came to u so don't treat him like he's just come from another swedish-german family.

     

    When u speak to him don't call him names or say urselfish like u described him on this forum. Speak to him kindly and generoulsy and don't demand him to do things.

     

    Do something generous like buy him a phone card to speak with his mom on the phone. cause he probably needs his mom more than anyone else. ( ur not trying to replace his family so let him keep his family).

     

    Make him a part of ur family not apart from ur family.

    ................................................

     

    hope that helps :D


  12. Hey there

     

    It's kind of u to actually have considered taking in a fosterchild not a lot of people can do that especially a kid from a different race......

     

    I only have one question what kinda rules are u setting for this kid.... cause if it's telling him to eat pork or clean everyones room's, then that's a different story.. :rolleyes:

     

     

    If not then Here's my respond to ur question

     

    I wonder how we can help him to understand the family rules we have and show us some respect

     

    The kid was living with his aunt before he came to u so don't treat him like he's just come from another swedish-german family.

     

    When u speak to him don't call him names or say urselfish like u described him on this forum. Speak to him kindly and generoulsy and don't demand him to do things.

     

    Do something generous like buy him a phone card to speak with his mom on the phone. cause he probably needs his mom more than anyone else. ( ur not trying to replace his family so let him keep his family).

     

    Make him a part of ur family not apart from ur family.

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    hope that helps :D


  13. Hey everyone

     

    Its been a while since I posted anything......Actually it hasnèt been that long...I posted something about 2pac and some one got on my case...no need to mention names am sure it could be found out.......

     

    ANyways all I wanna say is........DId all the interesting people ditch this place......I actually use to like this place a little and came here often but since I became a nomad its changed..........Maybe the admins are being to hard on people........all people post about are non-sense no offence just speaking the truth....... hope I didnt offend anyone..........


  14. SeNsHuAl_sHaAdIa

     

    Belly dancing are u serious anyone can do that....... I know the big trick to it......just shake ur legs and ur belly will shake.. Shake ur legs but dont pick them up. try it urselfs

     

     

    but niko is not my think I would say 3/10........


  15. This is Somali topic........They are Somalians....

     

    They just dont consider themselves somali.....?

     

    What's that suppose to mean "lets just stick to somali topics"....... We're not talking about Chinese people so, it is a somali topic.


  16. Is this for married people or are u killing the minds of young kids......keep her by urside she's not married to ya, she'll end up ditching u either way dont follow OG's footsteps.....Did u just mention kissing too.......Gee u're really lost.......U should be posting this in another form where people are allowed having g/f and b/f cause muslims aint..........Do u people really actually kiss lol........... :eek: ........I think I've said enough


  17. WHat is their to think of them, they consider themselves not somalian and call somalians hamarawiyes and they bleach themselves change how god made their skin and some are full of jelousy and some are just nice and kind hearted..........And they hate somalians even though they are somalians........

     

    Their just like any other somalians full or tribilisim and hatred for their own people...

     

    I think I added some positive aspects in their....... :rolleyes:


  18. why do u people love to drag ur self down with other...Most somali people aren't that wrecked and dont have AIds/HIV but people from other races unless their muslim cause most converts are more religious than born muslims in some ways.....The point is that they have more people who are like that and if somali's weren't all scattered around the world they wouldn't have as many Aid/HIv affected people.....

     

    The mojority is worth mentioning rather then the minority so chill ax.......Ur replies shouldn't be so harsh, u shouldn't be looking forward to mentioning somali's with AIds/Hiv's ,pray for them rather then say how come u aint mentioning SOmali's we all know but it's more likely that u gonna get it from someone who aint somali and doesn't have a religion that says they cant.....

     

    Most muslims or somali's dont have xxx except a few and u shouldn't want to ashame them but rather be caring for ur muslim people.....

     

    Love what u love for ur self for others...If ur healthy and everything dont hate on other cause they made the biggest mistake of their lives, god is their to judg them they dont need u to judge them too...

     

    But in this world am sure everyone's gotta check their spouse and have them tested......


  19. U didn't burst my bubble and that aint news to me.....

     

    Be worried about the Judgment day, gee I am sure we all are....No need to tell us to.....

     

    First of all I posted this topic cause I heard he is coming back as muslim..... 2pac aint no satan....What's ur problem u cant wish anyone to burn in hell, that musta been shaytan talking throw u lol...and u think that I should be posting about judgment day..... Plus for u information I did....and if u never cared to look at it that's ur problem......

     

    ANd he aint dead.........if u dont know this dude which seems pretty clear calling him a satan and dead kafear he never considered himself christian get ur facts straight........

     

    ANd dont tell me what I can and cant post cause am a nomad and u aint no admin there for can post anything I like......weather it be a kafar or not, and for u information their is such thing as converting to islam.....


  20. U didn't burst my bubble and that aint news to me.....

     

    Be worried about the Judgment day, gee I am sure we all are....No need to tell us to.....

     

    First of all I posted this topic cause I heard he is coming back as muslim..... 2pac aint no satan....What's ur problem u cant wish anyone to burn in hell, that musta been shaytan talking throw u lol...and u think that I should be posting about judgment day..... Plus for u information I did....and if u never cared to look at it that's ur problem......

     

    ANd he aint dead.........if u dont know this dude which seems pretty clear calling him a satan and dead kafear he never considered himself christian get ur facts straight........

     

    ANd dont tell me what I can and cant post cause am a nomad and u aint no admin there for can post anything I like......weather it be a kafar or not, and for u information their is such thing as converting to islam.....