Samafal Posted June 3, 2003 I found this article and thought I could share it with you. I hope you will find it useful and if not now may be you will find it useful some other time . HOW TO MAKE YOUR WIFE HAPPY 1- Beautiful Reception After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you: * Begin with a good greeting. * Start with Assalamau Aleykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and du'aa for her as well. * Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!. 2- Sweet speech and Enchanting Invitations * Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones. * Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks. * Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands. * Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart, honey, saaliha, etc. 3- Friendliness and Recreation * Spend time talking together. * Spread to her goods news. * Remember your good memories together. 4- Games and Distractions * Joking around & having a sense of humor. * Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever. * Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment. * Avoiding prohibited (haram) things in your choices of entertainment. 5- Assistance in the Household * Doing what you as an individual can / like to do that helps out, especially if she is sick or tired. * The most important thing is making it obvious that he appreciates her hard work. 6-Consultation (Shurah) * Specifically in family matters. * Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you. * Studying her opinion carefully. * Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better. * Thanking her for helping him with her opinions. 7-Visiting Others * Choosing well raised people to build relations with. There is a great reward in visiting relatives and pious people. (Not in wasting time while visiting!). * Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits. * Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with. 8-Conduct During Travel * Offer a warm farewell and good advice. * Ask her to pray for him. * Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your absence. * Give her enough money for what she might need. * Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, E-mail, letters, etc. * Return as soon as possible. * Bring her a gift! * Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night. * Take her with you if possible. 9-Financial Support * The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful) . * He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand (hadeith) . * He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him. 10-Smelling Good and Physical Beautification * Following the Sunnah in removing hair from the groin and underarms. * Always being clean and neat. * Put on perfume for her. 11-Intercourse * It is obligatory to do it habitually if you have no excuse (sickness, etc.) * Start with "Bismillah" and the authentic du'a. * Enter into her in the proper place only (not the anus). * Begin with foreplay including words of love. * Continue until you have satisfied her desire. * Relax and joke around afterwards. * Avoid intercourse during the monthly period because it haram. * Do what you can to avoid damaging her level of Hiyaa (shyness and modesty) such as taking your clothes together instead of asking her to do it first while he is looking on. * Avoid positions during intercourse that may harm her such as putting pressure in her chest and blocking her breath, especially if you are heavy. * Choose suitable times for intercourse and be considerate as sometimes she maybe sick or exhausted. 12-Guarding Privacy * Avoid disclosing private information such as bedroom secrets, her personal problems and other private matters. 13-Avoid in the Obedience to Allah * Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiam-ul-Layl" (extra prayer done at night with long sujood and ruku'ua) . * Teach her what you know of the Qur'an and its tafseer. * Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the prophet) in the morning and evening. * Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity sale. * Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so. 14-Showing Respect for her Family and Friends * Take her to visit her family and relatives, especially her parents. * Invite them to visit her and welcome them. * Give them presents on special occasions. * Help them when needed with money, effort, etc. * Keep good relations with her family after her death if she dies first. Also in this case the husband is encouraged to follow the sunnah and keep giving what she used to give in her life to her friends and family. 15-(Islamic) Training & Admonition This includes * The basics of Islam * Her duties and rights * Reading and writing Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Batuulo Posted June 3, 2003 A/c wr wb Maasha Allaah , Allaahu Akbar/ That's nice if you can do , the life w'll be sweet and honey , I'm proud of you bro for posting this topic, just try it don't waste your time to the star bucks and cafe's, donat's etc. , 1- Beautiful Reception. 2- Sweet speech and Enchanting Invitations * Spend time talking together. * Spread to her goods news. 5- Assistance in the Household * Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiam-ul-Layl" (extra prayer done at night with long sujood and ruku'ua) . ehm! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rudy-Diiriye Posted June 3, 2003 all i could come up was viagra! well! i guess homie u the man! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Samafal Posted June 4, 2003 Originally posted by rudy: all i could come up was viagra! well! i guess homie u the man! And what is Viagra to do with this? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Qac Qaac Posted June 5, 2003 Yacquub man thanks yo, even though i am not married right now, but thanks for the tips. i would try to use it. as a man it is very helpful man, thank u Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
silent-sistah Posted June 5, 2003 salaam! brothers,,,,do me a favour,,,,once u have done all that,,,,we would do the same and more,.,,, plz,,,create a list for what a sister should do for her husband to please him and Allah! salaam! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
