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    Salams ALL

     

    Lol Rahma Che is my buddy. I used to say hi to Nuune too until his jinn stories…

     

    There is nothing wrong with wanting to be rich and being ambitious enough to want to be super rich. Money can be used in good ways. There is nothing to say humility & wealth cannot coexist.

     

    Juxa likes to spend her money where she can see it, hanging in her closet :-)

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    We had alcoholics back home too so I don’t what the fuss is about. Rehab and access to health professionals that help individuals with addictions is the way to go. If you had cancer you would see a doctor, alcoholism likewise is a disease. I don’t know if these services cost money in the US.

     

    MMA, I disagree, there is nothing wrong with seeking professional help. It may have started off as a few drinks that got out of control steadily. Can we not assume everyone has strong faith? An alcoholic person may often not see beyond the next drink to get them through that morning, afternoon, or evening let alone remember passages from the Quran or have a support group willing to deport them back home.

     

    Assuming an alcoholic can just stop with the snap of a finger is simialr to people who say 'why dont homeless people get a job and off the streets'?

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    Nuune, there is nothing wrong with a little selfishness and you paint a very bleak picture of parenthood.

     

    Ngonge I see, that’s just as stereotypical as saying all young mothers feed their toddlers chips and coke and let them be educated by the TV.

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    I’m not stereotyping young mothers but some of the best mothers I know started their families in their 30s, calm, collected, and enjoying motherhood with confidence; they make it look easy while providing the best experiences for their young ones.

     

    In any case it will happen when it is meant to and you should all know by now life is not a list or a plan we control.

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    Listen, I am sure there is a dua not asking for death but requesting to return to one's Lord while you have your strength and mind? My mum always says it, I 'll check with her.

     

    There are very fit 80 year olds. My grandad died at 80 but he looked more like a 60 year old. Very active and fit. Then you have 50 year olds falling apart. It is the suffering of old age one asks protection from.

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    Morning

     

    I am seriously regretting the hot chocolate this morning.

     

    Abu Salman it’s all well and good having a healthy lifestyle and I believe in quality living but who wants to live till they are 90? I want to go while I have my strength and mind so maybe some late nights and burgers are not the end.

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    Sighnomore, we should have no sympathy for low lives that go after married men, a home wrecker is a home wrecker. If we were for one second to even buy into this myth that there is a shortage of Somali men, there is no law stating one must end up with a Somali man? This is something self-imposed. Besides, the earth won’t stop spinning if one never marries and the sun will continue to rise and set.

     

    The way I see it since the first condition of polygamy is to treat the women equally we can safely assume many Somali men who engage in this practice may be sinners rather than sunnah followers.

     

    Chubacka totally agree. I feel sorry for the kids who always loose out.

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    What little research exists shows that there is a clear lack of communication and more than enough stereotyping on the part of midwives and healthcare professionals. But still, is it not too easy to say midwives and doctors are prejudiced and are all just helping Somali mothers along to the operating theatre…isnt it a mothers responsibility to educate herself about the system? Her options? Even if she has to use a translator?

     

    p.s. Faduma, there is a small study by Strauss et al, (2009) called ‘Somali women’s experience of childbirth in the UK: Perspectives from Somali health workers’. You can google it, it was done by a team at UCL.

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    I agree inferiority complex is pathetic but Somali women also tolerate a lot from Somali men that no human being should. Ultimately, I don’t think this is anything personal. We’re a minority and not all of us are going to end up with a Somali partner. That’s just reality and no one should take it personal or project it as self-hate.

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    lol@Underdog ok, I see your point. In big cities that might make some people uncomfortable.

     

    Che get some fresh air? Staying home days on end is awful.

     

    I am quiet bored, got 1 task to do in the next hour and a half then dashing home. Thought I would look in SOL, surprised at the qabilist undertones some sections have taken.